"Where are we riding, and why do I got to die?!?"

These are the really important girl talk topics many women need to hear! There are so many women who sadly put up with toxic relationships

Struggle love is very real and it is awful, you give way too much energy to someone who does NOT deserve it/you !!!

Stop raising men who aren’t independent. Too many men out here looking for mommy 2.0. Grow up!

Adrienne is right. It all boils down to self-love & how much you love yourself. If you truly love yourself & hold yourself to the highest of standards, you won’t ever settle for someone who’s not treating you the way you deserve to be treated.

“Where we riding to and why I gotta die” 😂😂 by the way that rap lol 😩

I think a lot of women go for guys because they see potential and feel like they could fix them all the way.

The audience like "no biiish not me" 😂

If you're dating a man who can't get his life together, you need to ask yourself why you are still with him. Him not being able to get his life together is his problem, you dating him is yours.

Enjoy your own company I love that Adrienne!

I fall in love with peoples potential . that’s my issues .

These are women who have low self esteem and do not think they can do or deserve any better. Some women are also tied down with kids by the man because they were gullible enough to think having kids solidifies a relationship. Once you realize how much you are worth, you will not stand up for NONSENSE.

I recently got out of a relationship, because my ex was unemployed i would help him apply for jobs always i was emotionally exhausted, he would always complain about never spending time together while i busted my ass working always love yourself before others!!

I don’t mind being with someone who doesn’t have it together just yet, but I don’t want to be building every single man that I’m with. I need someone that can bring something to the table AT LEAST. For instance; hard worker, family oriented, career oriented, God fearing, knows how to budget money, is driven with motivation.... SOMETHING. These are things that I personally don’t want to have to force on someone.

I love how Loni is laughing at Addrienne's joke on the Ride or Die chick....lol....that was so cute. Loni have the cutest laugh ever 😊.

WOMEN WHO DEAL WITH STRUGGLE LOVE DOESN'T LOVE THEMSELVES ENOUGH TO KNOW THAT THEY DESERVE BETTER!!! I'VE BEEN THERE!!! I WOKE UP!!! I LEVELED UP!!! I DID A WHOLE 360 WITH MY LIFE AND INNER WOMAN!! NOW I'M HAPPILY SINGLE!! UNTIL JESUS SENDS THAT PERFECT FIT!!! LOVE YOURSELVES ENOUGH LADIES TO KNOW THAT YOU ARE THE PRIZE!!! HAVE SOME MORALS, STANDARDS AND SELF RESPECT!!! WE ALL GO THROUGH THINGS BUT BE THE PERSON WHO GROWS THROUGH THINGS!!! LOVE YOU GUYS!!! 😍😘💯

Nah fam.. no struggle love over here 🚫

There is a difference between loneliness and emptiness. Everyone should learn how to be ok with being alone. Learn yourself. Love yourself. Emptiness is what attracts bad things and bad relationships. Being with someone is not a prize for doing something right!! Embrace your singleness before you end up in some struggle love mess!

I dated several struggle guys. Not liars or cheaters, but had a lack of ambition or showed minimum interest in order to date me lazily. I realized that I do not ask more than I myself offer, and I deserve a great relationship, not mediocre. I would rather be single than deal with another struggle relationship.

Aw I think that people put up and stay in toxic relationships because of certain insecurities that they have. It really saddens me. Or even because of their relationship with their fathers, it really influences the way you choose your partner and what you put up with. I pray everyone finds healing from their insecurities I really do 🙏🏽💕💕💕

I honestly think there’s a difference between dating a man who you think has potential and dating a man who’s actually tried and REACHED his potential! Some guys are just wishful thinkers & manifest... but I go by a quote that says “ faith without work is dead “ so if he isn’t atleast trying to get his life right then he can’t be in your life and fulfill your needs but ladies also remember it’s not all about what you want... what can you contribute to the relationship as well !

Be what you're looking for. That's my compass when it comes to all my relationships. Give the energy your looking for, the patience, the understanding, the attention, the whatever. Or at least be a complement to those things. BUT when you aren't getting what you give, need or want for more than a phase/rough patch with an end/solution in sight, bow out. Idc if you're 15 years in, 8 months pregnant, about to head down the aisle or just got together, if something doesn't feel right and you've checked yourself first it usually isn't. Trust that instinct and their ACTIONS. No one is perfect or done growing and changing but do not allow anyone to drain you or use you to level up.

Why are you uploading this nowww Jamal. We need more vids/longer vids of Aden & Ariah from today

"He has commitment issues, but we love him through it." That's me. I'm grateful for the people who taught me it's possible to struggle love someone, but we need to learn how to self-evaluate and exercise self care before starting a romantic relationship.

I was raised by both my parents to NEVER get into a “struggle love” relationship. That’s the prime reason why I’m a hypergamist. Dating this way has never steered me wrong.

"Where we ridin' to & why I gotta die" yes Adrienne 😂😂😂

Grear points. Struggle love is two sided, some women can't get their stuff together too!

Love yourself enough to not be in a position that u end up in “struggle love”

The root cause is a lack of self love. But like Iyanla says: you must do your work. Co-dependency is dangerous.

What he said is so real and true, it is so important to have self worth. To know your value. Forget about all the movements out here these days and women's mantras...it is something to seriously think about. What are your standards? What will and won't you tolerate from a man and why? Being okay to wait for the right guy to come along but more importantly, recognizing him when he does.

I had to learn the hard way. I had to grow up or lose her forever. Love isn't enough.

Adrianne I applaud your comment on ladies need to enjoy themselves! If we can't appreciate us! Who will do it for us! Self worth, self love can make a whole lot of difference in one life!

Preach Adrienne. You'll never be happy in a relationship, if you aren't happy while being single. Plain and simple. Date yourself.

Adrienne killed this ... she irritate me sometimes but she did her thing on this segment

What I find curious is the person who continues to keep you in a situation or continually recreates a situation where you are constantly regressing, treading water or doing the same thing over and over so that your arguments look like a "Copy and Paste" from years and arguments from the past

I hear no lies... And the stuff that we put up with as women is not the same thing that man would put up with.

I'm not down for any type of struggle love. He's unemployed... NOPE, He's a beater, cheater, no thank you. Next

I would never. I would rather be alone than with a cheater and an abuser. My mother stayed with my dad for over 20 years. He cheated and verbally abused her. He use to call her dumb as a box of rocks. Now she is happily single. I have never seen her so happy.

Adrienne’s wise words will now be my motto when it comes to men! Love love love her.

The enjoying your own company is sooo true!!! I’m naturally an introvert but I do enjoy genuine fulfilling friendships/relationships. And my friends are always surprise that I’m still single at 21. Just cause I look pretty doesn’t mean the guy is going treat me right. I came to terms at 20 that if I don’t enjoy myself no one else will. I rather be single and happy than in a relationship and miserable. That’s why I don’t even waste my time getting into bs relationships just to say I have a BF. It’s okay to be alone. It’s nothing wrong with that ✨

This hit home for me.. these words was so warming for me i just had to replay it back im struggling threw this and wats more worst is that i keep it to myself and not show anyone my struggle so i dont get judged or hear wat i dont want to hear

WOW !! This 3 minute video is legit soon helpful and beneficial for every woman going through that struggle love. Awesome

I'm so blessed that I was confident enough to not look for love but to let it find me. And it did, so effortlessly. Of course relationships are not perfect but you gotta help each other out through the rough times and never give up if you love the person. But you gotta love yourself first!

Well its simple really. We all come from cultures were women have for centuries been conforming to please men because for years having a man was all for status or stability etc... So with that comes the idea that a woman needs a man. And that ideology can be dangerous because it means the woman is willing to do everything to keep a man even if it means risking her mental health. Women are waking up because gender roles arent as they used to be. Why do we still have to do this and do that, or why must we play the feminine, submissive wives or gilfirends in a society were men and women now both work and in a world were a lot of men are asking for so many stereotypical things in a woman but they dont want to fullfill thestereotypical role of a man

Struggle love is exhausting. That's why I've learned to enjoy my own company for almost two years now. I'm single on purpose.!

Wake up women! So very true, I love this discussion.

Love them for speaking about this I actually feel so much better now I used to think I was only dumb one going through it

I thank God because he knew it was best for me at this point of time in my life for me to not be in a relationship. For me to learn what it is that I like and what I deserve and what it's like to stand alone. I'm becoming better because of it.

I mean struggle love is hard when you are single but I’m not those types that need to date men cause I got no life, loving myself and choosing myself is the best way possible for me right now. 💗💗 Realest you guys.

Thank you guys for this very good topic.

I needed to hear this, thank u ladies

i agree with the ladies .. i struggled with this early this yr.. i only mved on when i started loving myself.. started thinking that i deserved better

You are not lonely if you enjoy your own company! Amen Sista! 🙏😇

Adrienne's ride or die comment had me rollin'!!!!

Adrienne on point 👌 Side note: I enjoy my own company all the time 😂

Y’all are preachingggggg

I just can't stop watching those girlssss love this show even when I disagree with some opinions.

needed this.

Great topic, needed discussion...

I really needed to hear this because I have been in a toxic relationship on and off for about 3 years now. I know this relationship is not good but yet I still stay😞. I have some work to do now that I have watched this video.

I really love this show! Totally hooked

I ain't riding and dying for no dude just to prove my loyalty to him

Love this convo!

I wish I heard this when I was younger. Ladies please listen and make smart decisions in life before with every decision you are creative a path for your life .

THIS WAS RIGHT ON TIME

This video put everything I was going through into words.

I just want to say that just like this men come in variations as Loni described so do the women. Educated, professional young and older it doesn’t discriminate. A woman can have it together like a boss in her career and when it comes to love relationships maybe not so much. I don’t think these women are weak I just think when women hit a rough patch in life sometimes outside of professional prowess or financial prowess that giving someone a chance can bring on the “love struggle.” It can happen to anyone! The guy doesn’t have to be a thug either he can be a corporate mogul or a president 👀.

Wow Im going thru a break up and was tempted to go back to my toxic partner.. im so happy i watched this. I deserve better.

True facts we need more info on this topic there are alot of men and women dealing with this issue

Well said ladies, thx.

Love this!

2:18 SIS IN THE FRONT WAS RE-THINKING HER CHOICESSS😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🗣🗣🗣💯💀 immm doneeee💀😂

Lord knows I’ve been through the struggle love. Lol neeeeever again bro.

That enjoy your own company thing is truth!

So true we get so caught up in their sweet talk

I love this segment!!

Omg my last relationship was struggle love , I learned , and never again !!!!

"Where we riding to and why I gotta DIE?!" 😂😂 Adrienne is so hilarious! But FOREAL THOUGH!!

Looking lovely ladies! I love the colors and the velvet! I have been in struggle love since I was old enough to be in love😢

Loni looks beautiful!!! Work it girl!❤️

Struggle love = the pursuit of the ''potential'' of a guy that you mistake as a man.

Preach Adrienne preach

Love you ladies!

I've been following him for forever!!!

this is an awesome subject that I'm so glad you ladies confronted. LOL Adrienne!...I Love what you said...'where are we ridin' to? and why I gotta die? LOL so great. I love to say the only man I ride or die for is JESUS! LOL

idc how much i like you, if you’re not financially stable, have your own place and are independent i’m not settling down with you.

Yas yas preach preach 👏🏽 I love those quotes love yourself and learn too enjoy your own company ima frame those quotes

I need that blouse Ade got on!

lol @ Adrienne "Where we riding to, and why I gotta die" hahahahahaha!

Remember, it's still considered struggle love even if he has a job, but not a JOB. If he pays the bills, doesn't ask you for money, but never does better or sets in place the tools for a future of two. You know, the ones that say, "Yea, I'd like to have a kid and be married with you one day.", but what he says and how he lives his life is unparalleled. These types get away with it even longer, they're the ones you might be living with for 5+ years, but never married yet. However, hopefully don't have kids yet, it would be easier for you to leave.

My misery does not need the company of a struggle love!

adrienne this is such a good look for you

Where’s Adrienne’s shirt from???!!!! 😍😍😍

I needed to here this

I believe this 100%

Been there done that!! Never again!

I agree tell them Adrian.

Loni I loveee all your lipstick.. bright but not loud😍😍

Thanks ladies

1:15 where we riding to and why i gotta die?! AHAHAHA had me loling