CREATING BOUNDARIES EXPLAINED | Creating Healthy Boundaries vs Defensive Boundaries

CREATING BOUNDARIES EXPLAINED | Creating Healthy Boundaries vs Defensive Boundaries | Wu Wei Wisdom

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Creating Boundaries: What are healthy boundaries? How do I create healthy boundaries? How do I communicate and hold my boundaries with others? We explain in this video! …👉 Work one-to-one with David: www.wuweiwisdom.com/therapies...
☯️ EPISODE # 43 of our Life Lessons teaching series
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• What is a personal boundary? Examples of personal boundaries.
• The difference between an emotionally healthy boundary and an emotionally defensive boundary.
• The impact of our childhood experiences and the Inner Child on our personal boundaries.
• How to create, communicate and hold your boundaries with others.
• Why other people may challenge your boundaries and what to do if this happens.
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@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

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@noelcasse8438 10 ай бұрын

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@TimeMustafa 8 ай бұрын

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@joanbradshaw9321 3 жыл бұрын

Each day I try to watch one of your life lesson videos for enlightenment, and each day the door begins to crack open a little more. Thank you for your patience in presenting this valuable information in a variety of ways that we can all begin to understand.

@kieranoconnor50 4 жыл бұрын

Wow... I can see more clearly now how it's not possible to have healthy and authentic boundaries without healthy and authentic core self beliefs. Fantastic video!!! Much appreciation!!!!

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks Kieran! We appreciate your support 🙏

@munkami 4 жыл бұрын

After years of lacking the skills to assert boundaries, 'valuing the flow' of Wu Wei makes absolute sense. The flow becomes the way, not what others do or say. Thank you for your wisdom

@nathalie5238 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for this video!! Boundaries have always been an issue for me, in fact I had no boundaries or I was scared of expressing boundaries and needs. Thanks to your channel and learnings I realize I had no boundaries cause I was scared to loose the attention/care or love from others... Scared of being left alone. This is coming from that core belief/lie that I am not good enough, not lovable 🙄 I start to change my core beliefs, it is hard working and convincing myself but I feel I am getting slowly there. I start to value myself 🥰 and putting boundaries. Now I put boundaries and value myself I do not expect others to reassure me. If they cannot respect my boundaries, that's OK! And I am OK to walk away, dough still respect them and not judging them. And what I also feel is by believing in myself and putting boundaries I feel more secured and calm in my body! I cannot thank you enough for your wisdom!!!

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Nathalie dp, Thanks for sharing your journey, it seems as though you are now beginning to find your Wu Wei balance, well done! Keep on working on those unbalanced, untrue beliefs, remember they are LIES! David

@kashmirilal1493 3 жыл бұрын

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@mathewburr2551 2 жыл бұрын

Very helpful and encouraging.Davids experiance along with his partner is an unbeatable combination.I am listening on a daily basis.The more i ENGAGE I can finally concentrate and absorb.No more behind bars.

@yvonnelesleybrigenshaw950 10 ай бұрын

As a child I was told that people were unkind to me because they loved me so much, so one reason for not having children on my own was that I didn't want to pass on those beliefs. I don't have those beliefs now thank goodness!

@WuWeiWisdom 10 ай бұрын

Hello, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Please check out our next LIVE online event. More details here: bit.ly/GTP-Live-Dec-2023. Kind regards, David.

@evian. 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Alex and David for this video. Once I’ve learnt what boundaries are I gained self worth.

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Awesome! Glad you enjoyed the video Evian :) x

@tobeytristan9534 10 ай бұрын

I like what you said, my boundaries are how I'm mirroring to others how I treat myself..❤

@WuWeiWisdom 10 ай бұрын

Yes!! Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Please check out our next LIVE online event. More details here: bit.ly/GTP-Live-Dec-2023 Kind regards, David.

@thegoodnessofyourart4725 4 жыл бұрын

I have been on time to work everyday this week! I had a friend ask me why? All I could think of was I am taking more emotional responsibility since doing my inner child work. I was finally true to myself about being on time and not to please others!

@elliepascoe5954 4 жыл бұрын

I must agree with the other viewers: one of your best Life Lessons. Watched this one again to make notes and start practicing today. Thanks, enjoy your vacation!

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks Ellie! x

@tobeytristan9534 10 ай бұрын

"I'm mirroring to people how I treat myself..."

@joeconti1219 6 ай бұрын

OMG.. wish I had listened to this a long time ago!! So true to well being!!

@WuWeiWisdom 6 ай бұрын

Hello Joe, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Kind regards, David.

@thegoodnessofyourart4725 4 жыл бұрын

My inner child was throwing a fit yesterday and I have been practicing letting go, manifesting and being authentic but finding your videos on a day where I was telling myself all the lies....changed something in me. I realized things like my finances or expectations for others are being run by my 8 year old child self. I immediately was able to set clear boundaries at home with love. I am done letting my inner child run my life. Thank you for all your work and contribution. David, I appreciate your firm and clear message and Alex you compliment David so well with your perspective.

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Annabelle, We are pleased that our videos have helped a little with your spiritual journey and growth. Remember your Inner Child is a little 8-year-old trying her best. Give her that kind, compassionate but firm guidance and education we share in the videos. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos we appreciate your support. Please subscribe to our KZfaq channel and don't forget to click the BELL icon. David

@chrismcdermid3603 3 жыл бұрын

Wow, thanks again for clarifying the difference between the dysfunctional view of boundaries and the consequences from living out of that belief system, and the Function Healthy way of setting up boundaries. (I was living wrongfully, now I know where I can correct) I can not Thank you enough!

@mandaelliottTV 4 жыл бұрын

Just found your videos. Love your dynamic. I understand the wisdom here. What happens when you’ve done this, the people refuse to stop disrespecting you, but you can’t leave. For example a volatile and hateful co-parent or mom you live with. These relationships are intertwined and not able to be walked away from. Thanks

@stefaniakonstantinidou981 2 жыл бұрын

Why can t you leave??? How old r u

@bernadettemeade7259 4 жыл бұрын

Wow wow wow....green light feelings watching this, massive Light bulb moment as all my life I have that wall up trying to protect/ control others so I don't get triggered emotionally! Oh wow this is AWESOME as David says 😀. Thank you so much for this Alex and David ❤️♥️ made lots of notes on flash cards!

@judithwallace2091 4 жыл бұрын

Awwww.. Sunday morning and Wu Wei...divine.

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching Judith! x

@carlasapp-lawson9455 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!!! You both are amazing and touching so many lives!

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Carla! xx

@tshwanedaynightrides173 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you David, for saying that you don't like the word boundaries. Because that word is misleading i agree. It causes people, including me, to think boundaries are a way to protect myself emotionally from redlight feelings. The right word is beliefs. So when someone does disrespect me, its not that they have broken my boundaries, but we just have conflicting beliefs. And so I just need to inform them of my beliefs. And the word boundaries almost suggests that I need to create them, but beliefs suggests that they are who I am, not separate from me. So when I share my beliefs, I am sharing who I am. The words you use are powerful. I love what you said as well Alex about not becoming emotional when you believe that your boundaries have been crossed, but remaining objective and addressing the action as opposed to the person. That already takes away half the dread of approaching someone. I had to do that to someone i had met for the first time a few days ago. Took him aside and we had a solid conversation where I just spoke of my beliefs and he spoke of his. He was defensive at first, but because I was sharing what I believed, he opened up after a while and we had an honest talk.

@wsmontesan 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for those videos. You're the best!

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for your support! We appreciate it :)

@sidharthchand8072 10 ай бұрын

Sometimes your boundaries may have to come up real quick. If your friend starts to go into drugs you’re gonna have to tell them I don’t want any part of that, let’s be phone friends.

@al10987 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you both so very much for another wonderful video, very insightful and educational. I believe that I have lived life out of obligation to others and look at others as more worthy and deserving than I and I don’t have to tell you that’s a lot of power to give away. This is how I have lived my life until serious break within myself that happened this past April. I believe I’ve lived my life terribly super-responsibly! What a blessing you two are, for so many. Peace always~

@BG-it5ol 4 жыл бұрын

This is very good. I work as an emergency response mental health nurse. I will try to incorporate some of these teachings, first looking at my own belief systems. You both do very value work. You both have very respectful interactions between eachother as well.

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing BG ... let us know how you get on with applying the teachings to yourself and at work :)

@kirstysewell367 4 жыл бұрын

I treat myself well. Some people may judge me because I'm quite shy with social anxiety. I am also very kind but does that mean people can treat me badly? NO! I put the same effort into people as they do me. I am good enough. I have done so much work on myself with help from you both. I was scared of losing people but why would I want peole who have no boundaries around me?

@dorinacevani8613 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Alex an David for the vidio. But the childhood trauma are very difficult to be passed. And for me feeling you are good enough are traumatic event for a child and as a result of this you may be passing the rest of you life telling yourself and other that you are good.

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Dorina, Thanks for your comments. As you will appreciate it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Therefore I can only comment in general terms. I am not sure what you mean by saying “childhood trauma are very difficult to be passed”? The Wu Wei Wisdom teaching is you can change and control your views and perceptions of childhood issues, experiences and acknowledge that you are awesome and came through those times. Remember, you are the creator of your emotions NOT the victim of them. You control your mind... your mind does NOT control you. Being "not good enough" is a thought and belief, NOT a feeling, it creates a Red Light Feelings, but you have to address those core beliefs to change the feelings. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ ? Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos we appreciate your support. Please subscribe to our KZfaq channel and don't forget to click the BELL icon. David

@taylorpresley9887 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you!!! Another great video!!! I have been in counseling off and on for almost 40 years and your insight and recommendations are the best I've heard. Thank you both so very much! I have been sharing your videos on FB.

@nehatyagi4 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much 🙏 I am learning something about me every day. Love your teachings and meditations. Gratitude

@charlesegbulefu7709 2 жыл бұрын

Boundaries are your belief system. I like that. Thank you to you both. We should all work on our beliefs

@runwiththewind3281 4 жыл бұрын

Happy good Sunday morning wu Wei wisdom.🌠

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Good morning to you also. Wishing you a peaceful day! x

@coleman6203 3 жыл бұрын

OMG I LOVE the message here! Thank you David and Alex! xx

@codilondon7105 4 жыл бұрын

You guys are awesome.. may GOD bless you .

@jak9934 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video. Boundaries as beliefs not protection is a great new reframe for me. I wondered if you have any videos around the wu wei approach to language- how to articulate our needs and boundaries- useful phrases etc. I often avoid as my attempts either don’t seem to ‘land’ or they are met with a combative response. Though I’m not responsible for the way another person reacts, I can be responsible for the words that I use.

@nancyreyes5219 2 жыл бұрын

I have learned so much about me from this team. Thank you 😊

@carolinecosentino968 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Alex and David. This is a great video. You have given me more insight into the difference between boundaries and beliefs. I will attempt to do the golden thread on this subject. :)

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

We're glad you enjoyed the video Caroline! x

@kiyalee4921 4 жыл бұрын

One of your best videos! Thank You

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks Kiya! We appreciate your support :) x

@littlelizzie5092 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you soo much. As always , an amazing video and teaching. Learning each week, putting the life lessons into practise. It all fits together like a puzzle, haha moments. The tough times , get easier each time, X x 🙏🏼💜💚

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Wonderful... thanks for sharing your progress Liz! x

@sallygoodman2502 3 жыл бұрын

Some amazing take away from that and awesome new ways to think about things. I often feel guilty for asking people to change the way they treat me if I've always allowed myself to be treated like that and I find behaviour patterns hard to change as I am such a creature of habit but I know making these changes and stopping believing these lies I tell myself is going to make such a difference to my own happiness thanks!

@WuWeiWisdom 3 жыл бұрын

Hi Sally Goodman, thanks for sharing your thoughts! We value your support. Alex + David x

@rajitakumar8811 3 жыл бұрын

lovely! new insight on boundaries

@deeagirdici-maher2483 4 жыл бұрын

Phew lockdown is sure bringing myself to me 😂 . Twice ysdy I saw my boundaries being tested, and felt the beliefs I've created round them. Now for the work to change thise beliefs. Big one for me. Thank you and happy easter. ❤❤❤

@selenefee7801 3 жыл бұрын

So amazing. i am priviledged to hear you guys. Thank you

@SaraAlaviIntuitiveTherapist 2 жыл бұрын

I clearly relate. Listening now!

@taylorpresley4604 3 жыл бұрын

Wow! Thank you! Both of you are so awesome!

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

Our pleasure! Kind regards, David.

@RinAsami1 4 жыл бұрын

This is one of my favorites so far I think. Then again, I probably feel that way about each new video. This one was extremely helpful as I felt I could fully relate to the situations Alex mentioned regarding the workplace. This will be one I'll watch a few times and keep in my Watch Again folder.

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for your support Rin... We noted your workplace issues and Alex had this in mind when producing the video :) x

@RinAsami1 4 жыл бұрын

@@WuWeiWisdom Thank you both so much!! Alex, I always appreciate your insight and can't say thank you enough!

@MohammedHussain-zp3jr 4 жыл бұрын

Another wonderful video .. Thank you Alex and David :)

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for your support Mohammed!

@GeoffDykes 4 жыл бұрын

"I can't live with you until you love me" a reaction to an attempt to discuss this topic openly and realistically.

@madiselbeato9806 10 ай бұрын

When I was a child my Mom use to say that my hair was ugly and my color of my skin was strange and ugly.

@WuWeiWisdom 10 ай бұрын

Hello, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Mom's have their own emotions issues. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Please check out our next LIVE online event. More details here: bit.ly/GTP-Live-Dec-2023. Kind regards, David.

@chilloften 2 жыл бұрын

Fantastic info! Wow.

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

@gypsymumma9015 4 жыл бұрын

My struggles...is not being the bad guy for taking care of myself..and dont like people assuming not putting in to the collective pot and helping everyone but I feel like I have put myself on the back burner especially when it comes to health ...😫

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Webzy Wongie, Thanks for your comments. Putting yourself on the back burner around health is NOT a feeling, it is a belief. It will create a Red Light Feelings. So, the important question is: why do you choose to do that? Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos we appreciate your support. Please subscribe to our KZfaq channel and don't forget to click the BELL icon. David

@yvonnelesleybrigenshaw950 7 ай бұрын

Thank you

@WuWeiWisdom 7 ай бұрын

You're welcome. Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.

@asty334 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video. Are there amber feelings, the way there are red or green feelings?

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Yes, absolutely. A sign of transition... :) x

@YourSonChico 2 жыл бұрын

How do we get into our flow? 🤔

@yohanessunjoko2837 3 жыл бұрын

We create our beliefs, we create our feeling...

@bindiyaarora4415 4 жыл бұрын

And what does it mean to be in your flow ...in very simple words.

@moulee7448 4 жыл бұрын

😭🙏🙏🙏thankyou!

@bindiyaarora4415 4 жыл бұрын

What does one do when someone who was extremely close to you for a few years suddenly decides to leave you without an explanation. Does not want to communicate, just walked away.

@Wonderish403 3 жыл бұрын

What if you kinda know when you should be speaking up, but you get red light feelings? It's an 'I'm not worthy' response from me. I Haye it. Intellectually I know I'm worthy, but I don't seem to be able to back it up. My subconscious isn't on board 😔

@kitstanwood 4 жыл бұрын

🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

@antonellamicheli1082 10 ай бұрын

Can this also be refered to health problems?Thanku!

@WuWeiWisdom 10 ай бұрын

Yes! Kind regards, David.

@sidharthchand8072 11 ай бұрын

Our parents said it to us, so we say it to ourselves we’re unlovable and fat or selfish

@seekingenlightenment2026 2 жыл бұрын

Hi David and Alexandra. I grew up with my father who from my early childhood always maintained a relationship with another woman while married to my mother. He even bore another child with one of them. My mother did not end the relationship with him, yet she argued and pleaded with him continuously to change. I am now in a three year relationship with a man who I value highly and who has been supportive and nurturing, but I have been asking him the whole while to change the way he positions his friendships with other women to help me accept their presence. He says he needs more trust from me. This issue has led to serial breakups and getting back together. Do I need to change or is there a need for cooperation between us?

@zion367 2 жыл бұрын

My childhood was the same, so i can relate to your emotions. Truthfully but perhaps painfully. No one of you has to change. Sometimes there is incapability. If you have a need for him to adjust his friendshipt that is perfectly fine and if he does not want to do that then this is his right. We need to seek for what feels right for us. For me personally if i would have a man he could have female friends, but i would prefer them to visit the both of us. From there it is easier to build trust. There would also be a difference if they were single or not and i would observe the way they would communicate their messages to eachother. Could be very well that this man has a fragile ego and seeks to boost it through contact with other woman. This would be a no go for me. My ex used to have this woman who always was calling him sweety and other things in their messages and although i knew her too at parties they discussed inappropriate topics. That was unacceptable for me. There was some insecurity within me as well, yet i still believe that my needs were valid and that they deserved to be honored by me.

@seekingenlightenment2026 2 жыл бұрын

@@zion367 Thank you Zion. These are essentially the same conclusions that I have reached. I care for him deeply, and have tried to adjust to go along and get along. Unfortunately, it's just not a good fit. And I agree with you on your point of validating and honoring your needs. I believe this entire experience has been intended to help me find that place of self-acceptance within. Thanks again.

@user-nu3rg8uq1e 2 ай бұрын

That's me 😢

@WuWeiWisdom 2 ай бұрын

Hi, It's okay to feel overwhelmed sometimes. Remember, recognising how you feel is the first step towards understanding and resolving deeper issues. You're not alone in this, and it's okay to seek support. If you think it might help, our Wu Wei Wisdom community is here for you to connect with others who may share similar experiences. You can find us at facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind Regards, David

@barbaramassey3787 4 жыл бұрын

Because the sage has stopped the three lies, the sage has no self doubt. Knowing where to stand, the sage erects no protections and lacks all triggers. Wuweiwisdom.....

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Truth 🙏 - thank you Barbara.

@barbaramassey3787 4 жыл бұрын

@@WuWeiWisdom Sometimes when David talks I see the foot of the animal clearly. Then other times I see the trunk of the animal. Then sometimes if I think hard....I see the elephant standing there in all its glory. Thank you, David.