Internal Conflict of the Dumper

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Coach Lee

Coach Lee

Күн бұрын

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In this insightful video titled "The Internal Conflict of the Dumper," Coach Lee dives deep into the emotional labyrinth that engulfs the one who initiates a breakup, particularly when the person they've parted ways with employs the no contact rule.
Often, when a relationship ends, the focus is primarily on the heartache and recovery of the person who has been left behind. However, the emotional journey of the dumper, a narrative less spoken about, holds layers of complexity and introspection that warrant understanding and empathy.
The no contact rule, a strategy where one completely cuts off communication with their ex-partner, is usually adopted to facilitate healing. While it serves as a means for the dumpee to regain strength and clarity, its impact on the dumper is often profound and multifaceted. This video explores the untold story of the dumper's psyche during this period - a journey from certainty to doubt, from relief to reflection.
We start by breaking down the initial emotional cocktail experienced by dumpers post-breakup: a mix of relief, guilt, freedom, and sometimes, loneliness. This phase is often overlooked, as the act of ending the relationship can be mistakenly equated with emotional detachment or readiness to move on. However, the implementation of the no contact rule by their ex-partner thrusts the dumper into a state of unexpected solitude, compelling them to confront their thoughts and feelings without the distraction of ongoing communication.
As the silence extends, the dumper begins to embark on a reflective journey. Coach Lee discusses how the absence of the dumpee not only amplifies the void left by the relationship but also serves as a mirror reflecting their own vulnerabilities, fears, and desires. This video sheds light on the mental and emotional process involved in re-evaluating the decision to break up. Was it a moment of clarity or a mistake propelled by temporary emotions? Did they truly understand the value of what they had, or did they let it slip away too hastily?
Through real-life stories, Coach Lee explores the complex dynamics of post-breakup growth, regret, and realization. The dumper's journey is not just about dealing with the end of a relationship but also about self-discovery, understanding the gravity of their choices, and the possibilities of personal transformation.
This comprehensive examination not only humanizes the dumper's experience but also offers valuable insights into the nature of breakups and the importance of the no contact rule as a tool for self-reflection and growth. Whether you're the dumper, the dumpee, or simply interested in the psychology of relationships, "The Internal Conflict of the Dumper" promises to enlighten, comfort, and inspire.
Join Coach Lee as he navigates the silent echoes of a breakup and uncover the untold narrative of the dumper's internal conflict. This video aims to bridge the gap of understanding and compassion, reminding us that in the realm of love and loss, every story deserves to be heard, and every emotion, acknowledged.
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@sohkaf6851
@sohkaf6851 Ай бұрын
At the beginning of last year, my ex left me and I started doing no contact. After 9 months she came back and texted me and talked to me just like nothing happened. Because of the good times that we had I treated her respectfully and after a few days I told her that our ways are separate now and I don't want to marry her. Those months of no contact was hard but great for thinking with logic. I realized that the woman that I want to be my wife has to has to have some kind of attributes that makes her not crossing my red lines. I wanted thank coach Lee and coach Ken for helping me passing those hard times.
@SliceofHeaven1984
@SliceofHeaven1984 Ай бұрын
Or won't leave you
@lazydaisy4453
@lazydaisy4453 Ай бұрын
It is almost six months since i was discarded.. I still love him ... he reached out once but that's that... I know he doesn't love me but I can't give up false hope... any advice would help
@Myrabug4444
@Myrabug4444 Ай бұрын
​@lazydaisy4453 I'm in the same boat its been 3 months for me and he says he isn't in love with me or attracted to me.its so hard
@Luna-mo4bp
@Luna-mo4bp Ай бұрын
@@lazydaisy4453NC rule is to prove resilience and strength of dealing with the breakup towards the dumpee. On top of that you need to further prove you are unfazed and better outside of the relationship, It's attractive. But from what I can tell, 6 months... one casual reach and how broken you seem with this comment... I say you need to practice grieving the breakup and move on. Accepting the loss and moving in is ironically the strongest you can seem. I hope you the best.
@sohkaf6851
@sohkaf6851 Ай бұрын
@@lazydaisy4453Actually, I advise you to give it up. Because when you give up on him, at the beginning it might be hard not to check on him but after you walk on a new path, eventually you're gonna love Yourself for making this decision and God for giving you a chance to be happy. I can understand you love him but what good is in loving someone that doesn't love you back? Your value is so much more than that.
@HaikesXO
@HaikesXO Ай бұрын
I’m a 31 year old man, I’ve had multiple serious relationships in my life, and I’m telling anyone who’s reading this to listen to this guy. He is spot on. The only thing I would add is, when you give in to an ex no matter how long goes by or how much resistance you give, it’s a risky decision. They will leave you again if you don’t change your dynamic in the relationship.
@johnnoe6791
@johnnoe6791 Ай бұрын
Yes, but they must change from that side as well or it won't work
@maxsheerin8219
@maxsheerin8219 Ай бұрын
​@@johnnoe6791 it's rare both people want to change at the same time. Usually one thinks they are not the problem. Flogging a dead donkey is a sure sign of madness.
@anthonychan1456
@anthonychan1456 Ай бұрын
It's difficult to let go someone you love, I was in a similar situation, my relationship of 3 years ended, but I couldn't just let he go I did all I could to get him back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring he back, his KZfaq channel @droman01
@Impaled_Onion-thatsmine
@Impaled_Onion-thatsmine Ай бұрын
Oh you don't like to hallucinate
@teem5945
@teem5945 Ай бұрын
Coach Lee is the boss. "Love should not be based on emotions"
@Gbb93
@Gbb93 Ай бұрын
Ultimately a loss of attraction is a result of a loss of respect as well. If you chase, then how can you expect someone to respect you? It shows you don’t respect yourself. Hold your head high in dignity and move on, even if you still love them.
@ifrahabi4834
@ifrahabi4834 Ай бұрын
This 100 % true. Respect yourself don’t beg anyone for love. When someone breaks your heart, don’t talk back or reason with them. Silent and disappearing is the best tool.
@galaxyrockstudio4813
@galaxyrockstudio4813 18 күн бұрын
Wow I just lost a gem of a girl, loyal, wanted kids, would do anything for me I was the mean one, always tested her love for me. She just couldn't take it after almost 1.5 years and ended it Do I wait? Because I truly was my fault. Long distance that is, we know absolutely everything about each other and pledged to marry She Said she would never leave and to hold her to that. Is she thinking about me? Idk what to do She knows I didn't mean to say what I said, I said I'm done and she thought that I was talking about the relationship and I said hmm yes. Well, I got what I didn't think would happen. Been 3 days of hell. Lost my life, my future, I literally have nothing. She was the one and it hurts knowing I messed it up because I was in a bad mood over what her friend asked her that got me defensive
@MrAaroncoulter
@MrAaroncoulter 2 күн бұрын
@@galaxyrockstudio4813did you get back with her?
@galaxyrockstudio4813
@galaxyrockstudio4813 2 күн бұрын
@@MrAaroncoulter she begged my friends to hear about me 8 days after the 28th of April So she added me back, and said she misses me and she's sorry for everything I said I'll be able to fully talk in an hour so we can call then. Talked to her and she basically wanted to say she's sorry but can't stay because I won't forgive her for what she did She was smoking 🍃 if you know. I said I forgive you 3 times and she still refused it so I left it at that and we went out separate ways I'm starting to realize how bad she actually was. Reading my last comment makes me cringe a bit. She was a 2/10 when I met her, if even that. She had a decent face imo I brought her up to a 3.5/4 out of 10 in that time. Helped her with so many things like family issues And she still left. She doesn't deserve me. Yes it hurts but if you go out there and look, you will find someone. It will be kinda hard but everything will work out
@galaxyrockstudio4813
@galaxyrockstudio4813 2 күн бұрын
@@MrAaroncoulter @MrAaroncoulter she begged my friends to hear about me 8 days after the 28th of April So she added me back, and said she misses me and she's sorry for everything I said I'll be able to fully talk in an hour so we can call then. Talked to her and she basically wanted to say she's sorry but can't stay because I won't forgive her for what she did She was smoking 🍃 if you know. I said I forgive you 3 times and she still refused it so I left it at that and we went out separate ways I'm starting to realize how bad she actually was. Reading my last comment makes me cringe a bit. She was a 2/10 when I met her, if even that. She had a decent face imo I brought her up to a 3.5/4 out of 10 in that time. Helped her with so many things like family issues And she still left. She doesn't deserve me. Yes it hurts but if you go out there and look, you will find someone. It will be kinda hard but everything will work out
@nicholasmoore6088
@nicholasmoore6088 Ай бұрын
I cannot believe this is me, but my ex just reached out after almost 3 months. She sent a very elaborate video holding up cards with messaged on them for me, we spoke. I was excited but kept it calm and spoke candidly. We’re going to meet up in our hometown on Sunday and go to church (I want to make it clear that our relationship will not be as it was before). I am in absolute disbelief, thank you so much Coach Lee. You’re the MAN!
@NPCHSN
@NPCHSN 4 күн бұрын
Don’t do it; you already know how it ends.
@navydc
@navydc Ай бұрын
Coach Lee saved my relationship! I went no contact after our second breakup for 3 weeks. I called her over a few days before her birthday to give her a goofy card. We talked things over and got back together. During those 3 weeks, I identified and fixed the issues on my side. When she returned, she noticed immediately. Coach Lee is right! She said she thought about me every day and prayed for me back daily. She went on 2 dates to try to move on and she was so hung up on me, she hated both dates, further wanting me back. GIVE THE GIRL THE BREAKUP! Don't chase. If you were good to them, they'll want you back.
@morpheus3190
@morpheus3190 Ай бұрын
I think the two big things that I learned from coach Lee are : “ you can only do what you can do” and that “ you don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you “. Simple but when you think about it, so true. You can’t try to influence or chase someone that doesn’t want to be with you and you can’t force your love on them. Best to go silent no matter how much it hurts. Stay strong fellow dumpees, your time will come and the tides will turn.
@noarainc5344
@noarainc5344 Ай бұрын
True words, my friend..
@Gbb93
@Gbb93 Ай бұрын
“Fellow dumpees” 😂😂
@anthonychan1456
@anthonychan1456 Ай бұрын
It's difficult to let go someone you love, I was in a similar situation, my relationship of 3 years ended, but I couldn't just let he go I did all I could to get him back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring he back, his KZfaq channel @droman01
@Kyle-MoneyProphet
@Kyle-MoneyProphet Ай бұрын
​I am trying my best. It is so tough, so tough.
@guywithahelmet9597
@guywithahelmet9597 Ай бұрын
She doesn’t care. 1 month of NC and I haven’t heard anything. She’s not gonna reach out so I’m slowly accepting it. Life goes on.
@jayday187
@jayday187 Ай бұрын
Try 9 and a half brother
@tyronekirk1006
@tyronekirk1006 Ай бұрын
Hang in there, nearly 2 years for me, it will get easier , i promise
@isaiahbarrett9451
@isaiahbarrett9451 Ай бұрын
Keep going trust me.
@bruht9921
@bruht9921 Ай бұрын
@@jayday187bro just move on that point
@hectorx1474
@hectorx1474 Ай бұрын
Max 90 Days then seek naturally the new companion. Never stay committed without trying new flavors after a curfew
@juliedorothy
@juliedorothy Ай бұрын
Hi Coach Lee. Finding you and this channel has been a gamechanger for me. I first found one of your articles that explained the mindset of the dumper & the dynamics in a breakup where one party is a dictator. It made such perfect sense, and it instantly made me feel better. I find that many resources (other coaches and online articles) say "You will get over him", "This too shall pass", but when you're in love with someone, you dont WANT to get over them, you don't want it to pass. You are grasping for hope; hope that they will come back. Because in this situation, they mean the world to you, and the thought of losing them feels like the sun will never rise again. So saying "You will get over it" means "You will be ok with never seeing the sun again" which is crazy. And what you do SO beautifully is comfort us with your pedagogical words, soft voice, straight logic, and calm energy. You explain to us that the breakup is due to a lack of attraction, and you MAKE US want to stay away to regain control, You make us realize what we are too blinded to see. And day by day, we regain our strength, and we find out that the journey is not about getting our ex back, it is about claiming our own energy, it's about being who we are meant to be. So by giving us hope that we will get our ex back, we actually get over them, little by little, because we start realizing our own worth. It's like "I see what you did there, Coach Lee, making me think I was hoping to get my ex back when really I was learning to love myself again". THANK YOU a thousand times. You're literally my hero
@caribooskidoo3997
@caribooskidoo3997 Ай бұрын
Great comment. Coach Lee tricks you into loving yourself the most!
@TmzRlol
@TmzRlol Ай бұрын
hey yall, i used to watch this guy RELIGOUSLY a few years ago. I want yall to know its painful for a WHILE but eventually this will all be funny to you like it is for me now. I now see she was INSANE and even though I havent dated since just cuz idc lmao but im very content now and you will be too!
@Grim88
@Grim88 Ай бұрын
Love is a decision. Love is a choice. Love is a pledge. 10000%. My separated wife dumped me because she was emotionally spiraling. Her parents went along with it and gave her all the support. They don't realize how much I was willing to put forth in this commitment called a marriage. I never wanted to give up. 8 months later we're still apart but no contact is helping me grow and learn about myself.
@sebastianlogonauta2316
@sebastianlogonauta2316 Ай бұрын
Stay hard my friend‼️
@anthonychan1456
@anthonychan1456 Ай бұрын
It's difficult to let go someone you love, I was in a similar situation, my relationship of 3 years ended, but I couldn't just let he go I did all I could to get him back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring he back, his KZfaq channel @droman01
@nathantrujillo471
@nathantrujillo471 Ай бұрын
Yeah move on
@goiptv4296
@goiptv4296 Ай бұрын
Look for someone better
@user-xv3zr4lm1j
@user-xv3zr4lm1j Ай бұрын
Loving someone is a choice a daily one at that. Totally agree with you. As for her parents; my ex’s mother blamed me for confronting him for not respecting my boundaries when it came to the females he worked with. From giving her a pet name to wanting to send her a bottle of wine then having coffee with her. His mother told me that I should never question a man, hence why her (still) husband had multiple affairs on her for her never questioning him. But yet I’m the bad guy. I had to accept that he will never do any wrong in her eyes and vice versa. Till this day she sends me messages wishing me well. It’s so odd. Not sure what to make of it except after he left me for confronting him, she’s been almost weekly texting me. I know it’ll come to an end when she can accept that we won’t get back together but I don’t know the purpose of her doing this.
@user-by4sd2jy2c
@user-by4sd2jy2c Ай бұрын
The most important thing to realize is that if a person thinks they have the leverage or value to practice inconsistency show them the repercussions and consequences of their actions. There is always someone better suited for you. They fumbled the bag. 😊❤🎉
@mht4908
@mht4908 Ай бұрын
I hope he doesn't regret his decision, because I'm now the happiest I've ever been. It's been 5 months since the breakup, and almost 3 months of no contact. I'm now trying things that I had on my bucket list, and I have a potential opportunity to apply for a job that pays really well. I wouldn't be able to consider going to that job if I stayed with him
@CiaobellaAmour
@CiaobellaAmour Ай бұрын
You're truly 1 of the best coaches out here in such a ridiculously saturated market. You keep it simple, logical & straight to the point
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee Ай бұрын
I’m so grateful for your message. It’s an honor to have such a thing said about me. Thank you.
@cvlavonou21caleb9
@cvlavonou21caleb9 Ай бұрын
​@@RealCoachLee I treated her nicely, respected her , I was overly available for her , she never lacked attention... Suddenly she said she wants to break up , that she's no longer attracted to me... Yes I had my boundaries, she had anger issues n emotional irritability as well... We had little back n forth were had always spoken to her calmly.. I really do like her, now I'm in no contact... What are the chances we will reach out..?
@alex_6911
@alex_6911 Ай бұрын
​@@RealCoachLeeYou are my hero Coach Lee!! Without you i wouldn't have had the best chances of getting my ex back but also, i wouldn't have had my sanity to begin with. I have a really anxious attachment style of behavior. Indeed by following what you've said, I'm actually impressed with how good im handling it...I never thought I'd be that strong. I was broken up with almost 3 months ago and she is a good person. We've been together for 3 years. Almost 3 months and still going strong!!I will never give in to my basic instincts! My hand will not tremble...I still feel lonely sometimes, but through your videos, i feel companionship. Most of the pain has subsided and it gives me peace knowing that I'm doing all i can and it's literally the best thing to give myself the best odds, knowing full well that i might even "lose" but I've made peace with that possibility and view things now from a more positive stance. Time will tell if she was right for me...
@GabbyF
@GabbyF Ай бұрын
You saved me! No contact is the best thing I have ever done ❤
@anthonychan1456
@anthonychan1456 Ай бұрын
It's difficult to let go someone you love, I was in a similar situation, my relationship of 3 years ended, but I couldn't just let he go I did all I could to get him back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring he back, his KZfaq channel @droman01
@davidallahgod3217
@davidallahgod3217 Ай бұрын
3 year relationship. Ex text guys behind my back. The last 6 months went toxic. Police called to final breakup. I went into No Contact forever and never contacted the ex in any shape, form or way and its been 3 years and I will continue no contact, ex has picture on WhatsApp with same sex, looks like ex went for same sex Any thoughts, or opinions, advice much appreciated, Thank you
@InfinityEscapeLounge
@InfinityEscapeLounge Ай бұрын
Coach, if I know I need to stop giving energy to the breakup and to help myself move on, doesn’t that mean at some point I need to ween myself off these videos? Your videos are the only thing that takes the edge off. I know NC doesn’t always work, and that it’s in my best interest to kill any hope so that I don’t prolong suffering. From an internet stranger with a broken heart, thankyou man. (Currently 2 weeks NC)
@sloanmagnum5009
@sloanmagnum5009 Ай бұрын
2 weeks is a short amount of time for no contact. Although, depending on how long you were together and the reason for the break, over coming the loss can take months. But yes, after awhile it could be a good idea to stop watching so many videos so that your mind can begin to focus on other things
@alexanderfinlayson3555
@alexanderfinlayson3555 Ай бұрын
2 weeks is not a long time. The videos help you deal with it over time. It's been 4 months..
@jayday187
@jayday187 Ай бұрын
I'm headed toward 10mo NC and you'll feel that way for a while. What I did was branch out to other coaches for alternative perspectives because what you should really focus on is facing the reality that they are gone and begin the actual rebuilding/healing process. Other coaches will say the exact same stuff, just worded differently. Once your brain itself can process the breakup, you'll be able to work on yourself and that's when you'll naturally decide to drop or keep watching these videos. Familiarize yourself with Coach Ken's Dark Limerence because that was one of the hardest parts for me at about 6-7 months. Now, I still watch them because A. I'm still in NC, but it's more to keep myself accountable, and B. When she wasn't here, he was.
@user-fy3jy2ee5l
@user-fy3jy2ee5l Ай бұрын
No contact is meant for you to work on yourself and rediscover urself not waiting for ur ex to contact you It may take years for ur ex to reach out so don't bother waiting it's time to move on
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee Ай бұрын
Good question. My videos are more to give you possibilities to consider. Some people keep watching my videos because they soothe them and they continue to learn about relationships. Mostly people feel better when they get to the point that they have talked about it quite a bit and need to stop.
@codyjones1098
@codyjones1098 Ай бұрын
As i read comment after 100's of comments, all thanking Coach Lee, I gotta join in an say! THANK YOU Coach LEE. You obviously have a GOD given GIFT!
@mosesfigueroaful
@mosesfigueroaful Ай бұрын
I always talk to people about you, sir. Whether it be if someone is in a relationship, broken up, or just plain single, your knowledge can help out on any situation when it comes to relationships. Thank you, Coach, for your expert help!
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee Ай бұрын
Thank you so much Moses! I’m grateful.
@anthonychan1456
@anthonychan1456 Ай бұрын
It's difficult to let go someone you love, I was in a similar situation, my relationship of 3 years ended, but I couldn't just let he go I did all I could to get him back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring he back, his KZfaq channel @droman01
@hsafranify
@hsafranify Ай бұрын
Yes Coach Lee is always on the spot! Give them a "nothing burger"!
@31Alden
@31Alden Ай бұрын
Love your calm, measured approach to relationships. Thank you, Coach Lee.
@anthonychan1456
@anthonychan1456 Ай бұрын
It's difficult to let go someone you love, I was in a similar situation, my relationship of 3 years ended, but I couldn't just let he go I did all I could to get him back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring he back, his KZfaq channel @droman01
@karlov13
@karlov13 Ай бұрын
Good morning Coach Lee! Amazing video🥰!
@julespowell4896
@julespowell4896 Ай бұрын
You popped up in my feed. I think you're awesome.
@peterehrhardt1282
@peterehrhardt1282 26 күн бұрын
Coach Lee, Thank you for all your videos and advice about breakups. After sending a few texts, to which she did not respond, I found your videos. They have been super helpful!! I stopped texting and “gave her the breakup she wanted”. 90 days later she reached out. Again, I followed your advice and responded positively but said I wanted to go slow. We have begun seeing each other regularly again. She has told me that after I stopped reaching out she started to get curious and finally began to miss me. Thank you for the great advice! PRE
@Walkerslator
@Walkerslator Ай бұрын
Exactly the video I need coach Lee you’re a lifesaver
@angryfurniture
@angryfurniture Ай бұрын
Back in 2019 I ran across this channel and watched a ton of videos: helped me with a breakup and she came running back. Covid 2020 in June she broke it off and I got the breakup kit and basically followed it to a T. Within days she kept asking about me and to see me. Got back together and moved in: today we are in the I need space break part. I decided to go back to these videos. And I did give some push back the last week to the break and space but I agreed and said okay. Now it’s time to watch these and remind myself of what to do. Whatever the outcome is if we get back together or not and move out it’s good for peace of mind.
@skincarerainbow4950
@skincarerainbow4950 Ай бұрын
Looks like she is taking you for granted, she knows every time she breaks up you will take her back. This time why don't change the format a bit.
@BruceJC75
@BruceJC75 Ай бұрын
If she gets the help she talked about getting and I improve myself in the ways I want to, and she comes back, we could have something really great! No contact is helping me way more than I thought it would.
@galaxyrockstudio4813
@galaxyrockstudio4813 18 күн бұрын
How's it been so far? Any contact from her yet? I literally got blocked on absolutely every social she had. She didn't have much friends so it's hard to see what she's up to
@BruceJC75
@BruceJC75 18 күн бұрын
@@galaxyrockstudio4813 just one text when she saw my house had flooded on Facebook asking how bad it was. Nothing after that. I texted her happy birthday and just a “thanks!” in reply. She’s highly avoidant. I highly doubt she’s coming back at this point. It’s almost been three months.
@scottdavies256
@scottdavies256 Ай бұрын
What I've learned is simple. Some women (unhealed, still paralyzed by attachment trauma) would rather hold onto their pride, move on and SETTLE for less especially if the next mate is a pushover and doesn't hold them accountable for their behavior.. it's just way easier than admitting their faults. Happened with my ex wife, and ex gf post-marriage. NC isn't the end all be all people, it worked for me multiple times actually... However, if there's no self awareness and real healing done and they don't do the healing work needed during NC, then you're just wasting your time with them.
@fabandtherice
@fabandtherice Ай бұрын
Haven‘t heard such facts in a while. That‘s exactly how I felt about my ex during everything surrounding the break up and post break up nc stage.
@galaxyrockstudio4813
@galaxyrockstudio4813 18 күн бұрын
Dude it hurts a lot more when I think about what I did, I was so mean. All my fault, she gave me chance after chance. What gets me is she has always said she wouldn't be with anyone else, even when she left yesterday morning, she said she loves me and won't be with anyone. Which seems like her but why leave if it's true love? 1.5 year long distance relationship gone because I wasn't in a good mood. God lord help me, help us all who realize what they've done
@thepaintedcupcake1578
@thepaintedcupcake1578 7 күн бұрын
Yeah, that's why Coach Lee talks about these as if the relationship was a pretty good one, because each case can differ.
@thepaintedcupcake1578
@thepaintedcupcake1578 7 күн бұрын
Sounds similar to a situation I have been through. I may relate to her feelings and might be able to give you some insight, if so. Sorry you're hurting so much, but it may turn around for you both.
@user-hs7zg1ho1p
@user-hs7zg1ho1p Ай бұрын
I appreciated your video. Thank you Coach Lee
@user-pi5sj4eu8z
@user-pi5sj4eu8z Ай бұрын
Love you coach. You're keeping me sane in this tough situation.
@airajeanmadrid
@airajeanmadrid Ай бұрын
Hey Coach Lee 🙂 Thanks for the advise ❤
@janetstraw191
@janetstraw191 Ай бұрын
Wow Coach Lee - as the ‘dumper’ - you are REALLY good at this!!
@alholbertlim1154
@alholbertlim1154 Ай бұрын
Thank you. Love is a pledge. A decision not based on flitting emotions. It must be a disipline. If you love someone you must be patient. Control oneself. Mind over matter. You are right sir. Thank you. ❤🙏
@anthonychan1456
@anthonychan1456 Ай бұрын
It's difficult to let go someone you love, I was in a similar situation, my relationship of 3 years ended, but I couldn't just let he go I did all I could to get him back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring he back, his KZfaq channel @droman01
@bajiraokulkarni603
@bajiraokulkarni603 Ай бұрын
Coach Lee you are absolutely right sir..
@tianhanwang2541
@tianhanwang2541 Ай бұрын
Thank you, coach. Would love to hear some more success or inspiring stories if possible. Love your work. I’ve been doing NC and it worked for self healing and feeling normal again, but it wasn’t always a linear process. It will be helpful to tell us some self healing stages and what to do when there are days that you just feel like in hell.
@soniadetert1733
@soniadetert1733 Ай бұрын
NC works! Believe me! Thank you couch Lee🙏
@southbank1973
@southbank1973 Ай бұрын
I wish i knew the existence of this channel before I blew everything up... Anyways, will help in the future Thank you for the insights on emotions, so hard to understand
@kaylarose3833
@kaylarose3833 Ай бұрын
The best coach out there
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee Ай бұрын
I’m honored by your kind words. Thank you.
@mexicarspotter
@mexicarspotter 21 күн бұрын
I apreciate you reminding that emotions are chemical changes in the brain 🧠🧬
@christinewairimu75
@christinewairimu75 Ай бұрын
Mine started acting out of character and I felt him being so cold towards me. I decided to break up with him and he accepted only to discover that he was cheating on me for about a month with another lady. Finding this out broke my heart to pieces. He found out that I'm really hurting and he came back I guess out of sympathy but was still hiding the other lady from me. Just two days ago we had a nasty fight and we have since blocked each other. The pain is real😭 oh the betrayal. Please someone give me some comforting words coz I'm crushing.
@Rocky76549
@Rocky76549 Ай бұрын
Accept the pain and go through it … no matter how tough it is … but also take some time hitting the gym … it will help u release dopamine… and stay near to God …Peace ✌️
@yuxinghuanglin5400
@yuxinghuanglin5400 Ай бұрын
He is not a good man for you. Think about this, do you really want to be treated this way for the rest of your life? If you had a daughter being treated that way, would you want her to stay with the guy? He’s definitely not a right person and the breakup is a bless for you.
@swiftnofio
@swiftnofio Ай бұрын
You are reacting out of pride. Your ego is taking control. You agreed on the breakup before knowing he was cheating on you. Consider this: if it wasn't because of the betrayal, would you still want him so badly?
@phil692
@phil692 Ай бұрын
Trust no contact, work on yourself. It will work out in your favor.
@grantmcpherson6172
@grantmcpherson6172 27 күн бұрын
You don't want to be with someone who dosnt choose you, he chose another woman. Respect youself and you deserve so much better than that. He is not the one. Be strong hun
@zabellarouge5090
@zabellarouge5090 Ай бұрын
My ex messaged me two days after he broke up w me saying sorry and I deserved more than what he said when he broke up with me I deserve the sun and stars and someone that loves me the way I love. We were together for 4 months but I've known him for years. So when he messaged me two days after the break up he said sorry but he can't give me what I need and he's not wanting a relationship. That i deserve more than he wants to or is ready to give. He cares about me and misses me right now and so on but still doesn't want me. I didn't reply. He treated me like a business deal when he ended it and wanted me to say that it's ok. We were very close like great friends too and shared a ton about our past and our lives. Should I have responded to the message that he sent two days after he dumped me? I'm torn. It's been a week today. Oh I was on vacation when he ended it. Nice huh? Should I have responded? If so what do i say to that?
@carriejaworski3479
@carriejaworski3479 Ай бұрын
My ex and I were together for 13 years. I kinda had a feeling that a breakup was coming and it did. It’s been almost two months since the breakup and we still haven’t spoken. I reached out and got the silent treatment. Went no contact again for three weeks then reached out again. Got the silent treatment again. This is typical avoidant behavior for him but all I’ve done is chase him and give him everything for 13 years so he probably thinks he can easily get me back. Well, not this time. I love him but I’m not going to continue to be treated this way. He has a lot of work to do if he decides he wants to try again. I don’t even know if I’ll even accept him back even though I love him with all of my heart. The trust is gone.
@carriejaworski3479
@carriejaworski3479 Ай бұрын
I will be staying in no contact, even if we never speak again. The thought tears me up inside but it has to be done. I’ve always been there and he does need to feel the loss, unfortunately.
@anthonychan1456
@anthonychan1456 Ай бұрын
It's difficult to let go someone you love, I was in a similar situation, my relationship of 3 years ended, but I couldn't just let he go I did all I could to get him back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring he back, his KZfaq channel @droman01
@Nismolover
@Nismolover Ай бұрын
My ex feels that I emotionally cheated on her 59 days ago. I have disagreed with her claim to that, but I did indeed hurt her. 20 days ago, I reached out casually, and it seemed to be going well, so i asked her out for coffee. She still chose the breakup. I am moving on, and I hurt less with NC. . . But I feel she was made for me, and I her. I hope that in the future, she considers coming back to the relationship
@sachalewis6876
@sachalewis6876 Ай бұрын
My ex admitted they wanted space due to mental health. His life is getting on top of him. He was reaching out tho so I responded, and now he’s blocked me. So it’s no contact time. Give him the space for him to remember how happy he was with me and for him to help his mental health!
@kimmoynihan
@kimmoynihan Ай бұрын
No clue what to do with my x. He's the sweetest guy I ever met. Unfortunately he has severe childhood trauma and an extremely manipulative mother. He very immature for his age. Not sure if no contact will work because neither one broke up and we just parted ways after a verbal fight. I'm usually the one that runs to him in the past. Trying no contact because I'm trusting Coach Lee. Wish me luck.
@eppsislike
@eppsislike Ай бұрын
He isn't your ex if neither one of you haven't broke up with each other.
@kimmoynihan
@kimmoynihan Ай бұрын
Well we haven't seen eachother or communicated since Feb 23. So I consider it a constructive breakup.
@andybiddle9088
@andybiddle9088 Ай бұрын
My girlfriend ended our relationship while grieving a very close friend who died suddenly. She ended it, just AS suddenly and with no explanation! Up until that point, we both thought we had found "The One". and we were meant to be together. I must admit, I didn't deal with it very well and text her probably 3 times a week, asking how she was, as she was in a bad place, even though she said to leave her be. She has now blocked me. I sent her a card saying sorry and that I wouldn't contact her anymore....and I haven't. I want her back. If it wasn't for her grieving, we'd still be together. Is there still hope?
@fredkhan3657
@fredkhan3657 6 күн бұрын
Thanks coach !
@MarioTartaglia-dh6pi
@MarioTartaglia-dh6pi Ай бұрын
I wish I had u tube 15 years ago This guy is right on
@anthonychan1456
@anthonychan1456 Ай бұрын
It's difficult to let go someone you love, I was in a similar situation, my relationship of 3 years ended, but I couldn't just let he go I did all I could to get him back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring he back, his KZfaq channel @droman01
@user-ro6nm9nm9x
@user-ro6nm9nm9x Ай бұрын
A lot of people are scared of spiritual power because they think that there’s a side effect, for two years now I’m enjoying my marriage with the help of this amazing love spell caster.
@GPL2000
@GPL2000 Ай бұрын
Coach: does the 90 - 120 day principal hold for short tern relationships? I'm currently on day 34 complete NC. I initiated the breakup due to my ex-girlfriend's low effort. Which I understand was partially due to losing her job. The good news is that she's working again. But the bd news is that she relocated back with her family an hour and a half away. We were together for just under 3mos. But I'm hoping that me being her first kiss and boyfriend (she's religious and reserved, and I'm assertive and outgoing, though we share Christian values) holds weight. She was indifferent at the breakup (I did it via text). But I'm wondering if it's unreasonable to think that she could still reconsider after a long NC period having dated just under 3 months. Your thoughts would be appreciate.
@NPCHSN
@NPCHSN 4 күн бұрын
If you stay in no contact long enough, you’ll go from hoping she reaches out to hoping she never reaches out. Work on yourself, because you already know how that story ends, so don’t try to read that book twice.
@Reina10
@Reina10 Ай бұрын
Its really sad how people treat the people they claim to love. He bought me a fake perfume for val, I told him instead of buying me a fake versace why not buy another brand witht the same amount you spent on a fake Versace and he got pissed and ghosted. With a lot of previous disappearing and appearing, this time I too refused to reach out. I have had enough of the breadcrumbing..
@Drikkerbadevand
@Drikkerbadevand Ай бұрын
I inadvertently told her "I think it's best if I don't see or talk to you for a while".. This was before I started watching your videos and knew no contact was a thing. I just did it because I thought it'd help me heal (I guess I was right about that) I'm 2 weeks into NC.. Does the fact that I essentially told her I'm going into NC (which you said in another video is a MISTAKE) impact the stages she goes through? Because she can't really be wondering or concerned about me since she already doesn't expect me to contact her. I can't really fix the mistake but does it make it worse? We had a really great relationship for the most part and she says she still cares a great deal about me (just not romantically obvs)
@ShaySimich
@ShaySimich Ай бұрын
It could delay her emotions in stages BUT going NC will still work “If they want to do something they’ll do it” Best of luck
@slyr3287
@slyr3287 Ай бұрын
I would like to thank you coach for letting people know that the 30 day rule is a joke. It takes longer than that. I'm a older guy I've been following you. Great job..
@Nismolover
@Nismolover Ай бұрын
Coach Lee, can you make a video for when there are no signs of life from your ex after the breakup? It's been 80 days, and 43 since I broke NC. The whole time since breakup, I've had radio silence from my ex, she returned all of my things with a note and took down our photos before she deleted me on SM 1 week post breakup. I fear there's no chance, and I'm heart broken. Can you make a video about an Ex's radio silence? When I broke NC, she said "I might consider friendship eventually, but I'm no longer interested in a romantic relationship between us." This was the best relationship, I think either of us have had. She's 27, I'm 28, and I'm the first person she's said "I love you" to. We went to Germany together after 7 months of dating, and our relationship was amazing until the last eight weeks. I broke her trust because she thinks I emotionally cheated (no one else was involved). I fear she'll always cling to this, and her heart will never change.
@MD-tf7ku
@MD-tf7ku Ай бұрын
My ex and I barely broke up about 2 weeks ago.I contacted him and went to see him as early as yesterday.But It backfired base based off of that I decided decided to stop altogether, in hopes that I can get him back with this method.
@AB-zc6wy
@AB-zc6wy Ай бұрын
How about if we were together for 4 months just exclusively dating? We had a few disagreements and she ended it. Already done the pleading texts etc and no response. Going NC now but I doubt she’ll come back. We were great together, I’m so angry at myself. Finally met someone I was so excited about and I scared them off
@Est129d
@Est129d Ай бұрын
In a week it will be 3 months since he dumped me. I have not spoken to him but he randomly blocked me on social media 1 month ago. Is there any hope for me? We were together almost 3 and we were so in love
@roomofcybertron6380
@roomofcybertron6380 Ай бұрын
I agree alot about this video, my Xgf dumped me. So I gave her the breakup that she wanted, but every 2 weeks that I had been going NO CONTACT to her, she THEN reaches out to me by texting me.. I reply to her in short words saying "I'm fine", and then she ghosted me.. I just let it go, and then after another 2 weeks, she texted me again, so i don't know if I should respond back to her she is reaching out to me again after she ghosted me while she still have the general thought that she broken up with me. I don't know what to do anymore, and also 6:51, she is doing the rebound with another guy that she find more attractive than me.
@ramilamananamonja7602
@ramilamananamonja7602 Ай бұрын
Do I have to stop posting my running activities in instagram during No contact rules ? This page is my motivation and I started before I met her
@Bluepearl187
@Bluepearl187 Ай бұрын
I have kept posting mine on WhatsApp but I really can’t do NC since he picks up my daughter from school when I have class on campus.
@JoeMama-fd6vf
@JoeMama-fd6vf Ай бұрын
At the start I did no contact work to get my ex back, and now I did the no contact phase I got a message from her asking about me and bring concerned and showing signs that she was missing me, I never initiated contact and it was clear she was thinking of me. She texted me a few times here and there but still staying with the rebound. But no contact has worked for me as I saw signs that it worked and to be honest I don’t want to be with her anymore, do no contact not only to try get your ex back but do it for yourself, it makes you feel so much better. At the start I thought I would never get over what happened, but now I am happy being myself and not worrying about her anymore, believe it.
@shirleycurry6482
@shirleycurry6482 Ай бұрын
I've come to accept that it is possible to like someone, yet still have the need to expand your relationship pool. If someone has moved away from you, they are controlling the momentum of the relationship. Until they recommit, its simply best to start including other people and getting new input. I heard from my friend but I found that I'm on a lower plane of closeness. At this point, I can live with that enough that I tell my friend that there needs to be some re-evaluation of the people in their lives - who is important and who isn't. I'm actually moved into a space where I'm fine no matter how it turns out at their end.
@hipnhappenin
@hipnhappenin Ай бұрын
What if he broke up with me before and came back after a week of NC? (After 1.5 months of dating) He broke up with me again after 2 months of dating
@ashbashbaby2
@ashbashbaby2 24 күн бұрын
One question if you are in no contact and they have a family member who becomes ill or dies they reach out do yot give concern or contine with being chilled
@NewyJon7787
@NewyJon7787 Ай бұрын
Back in January, i messed up and my partner left me. I sort of messed up more post break up with emotional attempts to get back together and eventually fell into no contact. She came back after two weeks and we reconnected. 10 weeks or so later, we were on a trip and she got upset at something i perceive to be relatively minor and following that broke up with me again. Sometimes i think we got back together too quickly and that led to the second, smaller issue triggering her to end things again. I am 100% in no contact now and will see how things go, but this time i feel like i will be okay no matter what.
@anthonychan1456
@anthonychan1456 Ай бұрын
It's difficult to let go someone you love, I was in a similar situation, my relationship of 3 years ended, but I couldn't just let he go I did all I could to get him back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring he back, his KZfaq channel @droman01
@HelloSkyHere
@HelloSkyHere Ай бұрын
Hi Coach Lee, Got dumped in a short term relationship (3 months), pleaded and begged initially. Went NC a few days later and it’s been a month. I watch almost all your videos including talks on whether does NC work on short terms. But I was wondering, when my ex broke up with me, she was 100% sure she wanted it, blocked me everywhere. She’s an ENTP (extremely logical person) so I was wondering if my situation is impossible now? It’s almost my birthday and I really hope she would come back or message me during my birthday but it feels like lost cause when I read our past messages
@ShaySimich
@ShaySimich Ай бұрын
I did NC with a short term relationship, it worked pretty quickly even after I asked her to stay. I didn’t want that person after 3 weeks. But it can still work just keep improving yourself Don’t shut down
@feynou
@feynou Ай бұрын
I’m in the same situation. 4 month NC. It gets better. Just let it go and move on. You'll find someone else in time. Time will heal.
@Joe-fb3lg
@Joe-fb3lg Ай бұрын
Question for the Coach Lee - In the case where a dumper goes back to an ex after 1 month, yet the dumpee is unwilling to reconcile. Is the dynamic / role now essentially reversed? In the context that the dumper is now the dumpee? Aside from appologising and asking to rekindle is NC, all that can / should be done?
@lateashaevans4579
@lateashaevans4579 Ай бұрын
How do you know if nc is working on them when you are still block and you never reached out never beg never cheated never chase is almost ganna be a year this month
@Tk5869
@Tk5869 Ай бұрын
What if the relationship was not that good and a little bit toxic but both still have some feelings somewhere deep inside but the dumper breaks up anyway? I'm asking myself, what if she asks you during no contact (because as we know we shouldn't be rude) why I don't contact her or why I don't respond as often as I used to and wanting to discuss the break up subject matter with me?
@simply.nonchalant6006
@simply.nonchalant6006 Ай бұрын
Hi! Just had a quick question. How do you do “No Contact” if you see each at university every other day? Do I just ignore them, not make eye contact, and not try to initiate any kind of conversation? Or do I just avoid the settings/classrooms I’d probably see them in?
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee Ай бұрын
Look up my video entitled, "Strategic Contact."
@user-fp4dm8is9u
@user-fp4dm8is9u Ай бұрын
And if there dating after 3weeks after the breakup???do they feel all this or its sth else??
@user-ri5ee8wi9r
@user-ri5ee8wi9r Ай бұрын
You make a lot of sense. It’s difficult because he has now after me doing everything wrong, with short bursts of putting down boundaries - he saw some empty beer bottles and has told me he is insanely jealous and is demanding to know ‘who’ was drinking at our house. He’s open about being insanely jealous - it’s 8/9 weeks post break up, he only moved out 3 weeks ago - even though he says he is jealous and he can’t bare the thought of me with someone else, he is still standing by his decision ?? What can I do when I’ve done everything wrong so far ?
@anthonychan1456
@anthonychan1456 Ай бұрын
It's difficult to let go someone you love, I was in a similar situation, my relationship of 3 years ended, but I couldn't just let he go I did all I could to get him back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring he back, his KZfaq channel @droman01
@t.m.6579
@t.m.6579 Ай бұрын
He broke up 2 days before christmas, we still live in the apartment, he watched a new apartment last week and I don't want to lose him... I have to give him the breakup, but I feel horrible and miss him like crazy, even when he treat me like shit, lied to me multiple times and said after the breakup when I begged him that I should piss off an I'm ugly, he can't handle my character, he also said that breaking up with me was no mistake, after 3 month (dec until now), I feel crashed, I still see the good in him, because the beginning was so good and we had so good memories.. I don't know what to do... Coach Lee.
@Tambrose0405
@Tambrose0405 Ай бұрын
You give him the breakup and move on with your life.
@greato80
@greato80 Ай бұрын
I broke it off with my gf because she cheated and chose to take his side..Since I ended it plus doing no contact..Will that just make her think it's truly over with us and make her NOT want to contact me? Should I contact her first? Also, the other guy is her boss ,since I ended it and NC..Will that just push her more away from me since she has to talk to him every day?
@MAVERICK-fn6uz
@MAVERICK-fn6uz Ай бұрын
Need someone to remind me I’m on the right path 🤦🏾‍♂️ I’m 5 days only so far into No Contact with my now EX, we’ve been together 4 Years, she initiated the break up to work on herself, which I gave her the break up but we still friends on Instagram, she still have our pictures and I still have ours Should I remove her as a friend or block her, or just remove pictures, therefore I really wanna commit to this No Contact where Im not gonna contact her whatsoever. Im just confused: My real question is, should I delete her as a friend and block her or should I just remove pictures 💭💭💭 or with the “No Contact” I can keep her as a friend and keep the pictures but not contacting her 🤷🏾‍♂️
@AiMindMeld
@AiMindMeld 26 күн бұрын
What if ur doing no contact and ur exes child messages you? So i meesage them back? I feel like my ex using her kid to remind me that shes there.
@mariia7044
@mariia7044 Ай бұрын
Hello! I have important question about NC. Could you please help? Should I accept presents from my ex? We been together for 8 years. He said his feelings faded. But he sends me presents every month and pays bills for me. Should I stop this if I want him back? Sometimes he asks me for dinner
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee Ай бұрын
I wish I could give you an answer based on what you have said but I really do need *a lot* more information. I suggest you book a session with me at myexbackcoach.com/book-with-coach-lee/
@Troy12-fitnessmodel
@Troy12-fitnessmodel Ай бұрын
Im almost 6 months NC after 8 years together. Im still having days whereby im breaking down upset or crying and then having strong days. She finished with me. I dont know if we'll ever get back together after such a long time not speaking?
@ShaySimich
@ShaySimich Ай бұрын
A lot of couches will say, keep doing NC. BUT life’s short, after 6 months of true no contact. Reach out, text them and say something reminded you of them and wanted to how things were. Something like that. If you and your ex had a good relationship with love, they might be too scared to say anything and so are you. If they don’t answer or don’t carry the convo let it go and see what happens. After a day or two you’ll have your answer, 6 months in how much have you worked on yourself? Find love within yourself my friend and take care of YOU. Best of luck
@user-ro6nm9nm9x
@user-ro6nm9nm9x Ай бұрын
A lot of people are scared of spiritual power because they think that there’s a side effect, for two years now I’m enjoying my marriage with the help of this amazing love spell caster.
@paulsell2438
@paulsell2438 Ай бұрын
My ex gave me the 'you'll never find anyone as good as me' line...just let that emotional outburst roll off my back. I know better.
@anthonychan1456
@anthonychan1456 Ай бұрын
It's difficult to let go someone you love, I was in a similar situation, my relationship of 3 years ended, but I couldn't just let he go I did all I could to get him back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring he back, his KZfaq channel @droman01
@user-ro6nm9nm9x
@user-ro6nm9nm9x Ай бұрын
A lot of people are scared of spiritual power because they think that there’s a side effect, for two years now I’m enjoying my marriage with the help of this amazing love spell caster.
@navooodya
@navooodya Ай бұрын
He said me he wants me back after 4 yrs of breakup after on & off conversations ,noe he's not sure😂 what should i do
@Rb79_85
@Rb79_85 Ай бұрын
Coach - Im unsure if my ex is conflicted? 7 months broken up, we pass each other at work. We started off saying hello politely but the last few weeks he literally runs and hides when he sees me. Does anyone have any thoughts as to what’s going on?
@Troy12-fitnessmodel
@Troy12-fitnessmodel Ай бұрын
Either doesn't know what to say to you or guilty got breaking it off?
@ShaySimich
@ShaySimich Ай бұрын
After 7 months yall should know what you want, reach out to your ex if you feel like it. Life’s short Play it cool and if your ex ignores it or declines it, move on Best of luck
@TH-gi6tl
@TH-gi6tl Ай бұрын
Does any of this apply to an ex with BPD though?
@Sevoflurane2014
@Sevoflurane2014 Ай бұрын
This gets complicated when you add in a rebound relationship. Mine told me she almost came back 2 times but didn't. I wish she had. I've been crushed for almost 4 months now and she is still with a lower rebound. And says she is happy but also told me she missed me and was sad talking with me. Does that mean she is missing me so much that she is going through the stages of a rebound? Starting to compare or something M
@TheTableImprov
@TheTableImprov Ай бұрын
Move on. She's playing games. You deserve better
@sloanmagnum5009
@sloanmagnum5009 Ай бұрын
It sounds like she's telling you just enough to keep you on the back burner just in case but that she is enjoying the rebound for sure or she wouldn't entertain it. You say the rebound is "lower", what do you mean by that?
@Sevoflurane2014
@Sevoflurane2014 Ай бұрын
You can tell she seems conflicted though. Talks to me for an hour while out of town and tells me she is happy probably like 3-4 times without me asking. Like almost seemed like she was trying to convince herself she was happy. Which I've seen on some other videos that they will tell everyone they are happy and all but underneath still dealing with the breakup. I know she still has feelings for me. You cant shut that off after 4 years and also the fact we talked marriage for probably 3 years. Shitty thing is I had an engagement ring for her. She didn't find out till she left. She almost came back but didn't. So I'm still paying on that damn thing. Won't be paid off till June.
@user-ed3cr1wi1g
@user-ed3cr1wi1g Ай бұрын
Coach lee i broke no contact after 14 days now I'm in no contact again will it still work ?
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee Ай бұрын
It can and I have seen it but it depends on several details. You probably just delayed things.
@OlderWomenRock
@OlderWomenRock Ай бұрын
With My ex before this one I kept contact not begging or convincing just in a friendly way I later sent an extremely angry email Then I cut contact . After a few months He texted to say He would be in my area , hinting at a catch up At this stage I didn’t want Him back I didn’t reply and never heard from Him again He had previously said He wanted to be friends I rejected this
@BobbyJCox
@BobbyJCox Ай бұрын
Coach Lee, how do you conduct yourself in No Contact when you’re in the same church and the same groups within?
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee Ай бұрын
kzfaq.info/get/bejne/e8lxZ5p-0q60j30.htmlsi=sUs6eM-vIWYP7Q6L
@BobbyJCox
@BobbyJCox Ай бұрын
@@RealCoachLee Thank you sir.
@RetroUrbanRainbow
@RetroUrbanRainbow Ай бұрын
I’ve done nc since he broke up with me (day 17) he asked for space. I wish I knew when to expect him to reach out to me
@Jennyjames2022
@Jennyjames2022 Ай бұрын
My ex reached out after 27 days, told me he still loved me and we briefly reconnected but I didn’t see any real effort, so back in NC again lol - also appears he has either blocked me or deleted my number this time 🎉 🥳 whatever so done with his drama. He wanted to stay friends before blocking/deleting me but I kindly rejected that offer and didn’t know many friends that still kissed each other etc 🙄
@Tsan1010
@Tsan1010 Ай бұрын
What if the dumper showed signs of MLC/Depression? Will NC still work? I have the emergency break up kit 😊.
@ShaySimich
@ShaySimich Ай бұрын
Yes, but the dumper most likely bread crumb a lot when they feel good enough to reach out. Their sadness eventually will regret the break up. I suffer from depression and we can be tricky BUT we do care it’s just are brains won’t let us show it. Give it time
@misslucky93
@misslucky93 Ай бұрын
I did no contact through out my relationship. And this is why most of them come back or contacted until today. At first, i dont understand. After watching more of this videos. And now I understand, I have the power to walk away and never come back to their life.
@Foxie635
@Foxie635 Ай бұрын
I texted him I missed him after he texted me to break up. Granted I dumped him three times prior. It was toxic since the beginning. I still like him. We will see.
@jalynlewis5702
@jalynlewis5702 Ай бұрын
So my ex and I have been on a rollercoaster, I’ve been trying really hard for the past month to get her back and was even planning on purposing, we are both in college I recently got accepted into graduate for film and tv composition, this whole time with me trying to get her back when I ask her what is it she says she confused and doesn’t know what to do, but she says I’m to important to her to lose me but I blew up last week on Monday and told her I was done a few days later he mom called me to take her home which is a one hour and thirty mins away I didnt talk to her the whole time I think she expected me to but I didn’t and she start to have small conversations with me but I was staying firm, we get to her house I just go to the guest room to do my homework I hear a knock at the door and she comes in sobbing crying saying sorry and how she’s been treating she still wants to be my friend but is still confused so I left it at that and than then next day as I’m driving her back we both were going to South Dakota to see our individuals family she ask me if I was staying the whole week I simply said no I help her get her bags to her room and than I left later that night she called me to see if I was on campus but I said no she said she just wanted to see if I wanted to get the exercise equipment that was in her car but I think this was just her trying to see me, it’s been 6 days I have texted her but she text me Wednesday asking if I made it back safe but I don’t know if I should respond or not because she needs to figure if she wants to be with me or not should I text her or not she still has all our photos on Facebook and her family still wants her to be with me. My question is should I text her or just wait till she says she’s ready to talk?
@anthonychan1456
@anthonychan1456 Ай бұрын
It's difficult to let go someone you love, I was in a similar situation, my relationship of 3 years ended, but I couldn't just let he go I did all I could to get him back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring he back, his KZfaq channel @droman01
@user-ro6nm9nm9x
@user-ro6nm9nm9x Ай бұрын
A lot of people are scared of spiritual power because they think that there’s a side effect, for two years now I’m enjoying my marriage with the help of this amazing love spell caster.
@amanpradhan5221
@amanpradhan5221 Ай бұрын
Anyone reading this please give me some advice I broke up with my ex in anger but I texted her and apologized the next day but she was done. I pleaded and begged also stalked but she was really cold. Our relationship was 3 years and was a good one. It's been 2 months total silence from me and 3 months from her. I was miserable the first month after breakup. Should I just let her go? I still have deep feelings for her.
@tinkerbellUK
@tinkerbellUK Ай бұрын
Together a year, he dumped, a year apart we bumped into eachother on a nightout, got back together for a year and engaged.. 3 mths later dumped again.. i am now on blocked with his one way sms block, he keeps sending reel links but i cannot reply. Lesson learnt
@o0oStillWeRiseo0o
@o0oStillWeRiseo0o Ай бұрын
Who else is ready for another banger? This one might break the internet!
@sloanmagnum5009
@sloanmagnum5009 Ай бұрын
How so?
@CherryMelel-qs5ft
@CherryMelel-qs5ft 24 күн бұрын
Is it work second time?
@fae137
@fae137 26 күн бұрын
The situation with my ex is complicated because he left after a fight due to feeling not good enough, low self esteem and fear of abandonment. I worry how no contact will make him feel
@aceshi3173
@aceshi3173 Ай бұрын
What about if we still live together but separated,so hard for me right now
@ShaySimich
@ShaySimich Ай бұрын
Only talk about business, bills rent etc. go into a different room, do your normal routine but go hang with friends more.
@Anonymou990
@Anonymou990 Ай бұрын
Coach Lee. I reached out after 3 months of no contact. We hit it off and she confessed that she missed me. Went on a wonderful date. Couldnt be better. Kissed and hugged and everything but not too much. Then she texted me her feelings were all over the place but in a good way. Now we text over and forth and I asked her out again. She said she wanted to search her feelings and would let me know. I was cool with it but it has been a couple of days now and only some boring texts.. what do i do?
@countdowntorevolution9986
@countdowntorevolution9986 Ай бұрын
nothing. go back into NC, which you should not have broken in the first place. you just signalled to her that she can drop you and pick you up again whenever she feels like it.
@Anonymou990
@Anonymou990 Ай бұрын
@@countdowntorevolution9986 could be. But i want a mature relationship. After 3 months if you want to reach out, its not a problem. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesnt. I dont think i made a mistake per se. Trying to get the emotional connection there. There are more ways to Rome and no contact is part of a road
@ShaySimich
@ShaySimich Ай бұрын
Go back into NC. It’s okay to break NC after 3 months, let’s be real here. Life’s short. She clearly has feelings for you, go back and work on yourself and stay in NC. Honestly at that point don’t answer or keep it very short, you have a chance to flip the switch
@Anonymou990
@Anonymou990 Ай бұрын
@@ShaySimich well i think she could def see i changed a lot. She was all nervous etc on the date, which could imply she had a lot to lose too. (At least thats how I view it) I think she is confused on what to do. I think if she chooses to go on more dates it automatically means we get back together, while on the other side we would never get back together (black/white) She is not the type for mindgames etc. Maybe i shouldnt have broken no contact but come on, 3 months is long. Maybe a good dialogue is better if shes up for it
@yolandacastaneda4482
@yolandacastaneda4482 Ай бұрын
Is that ok I'd disconnected my husband line cellphone I'm the one paying for it
@vtodd9203
@vtodd9203 Ай бұрын
What if you makes at first, then ignore them
@user-ew9iy5zz6z
@user-ew9iy5zz6z Ай бұрын
Please help…. My ex has just told me I must give up hope. She loves me but she is not in love with me. She told me I must move on. This is after 2 months of no contact. What do I do now. I feel gutted . 6 years thrown away that easy. She is busy on dating sites , living her best life . She discarded me like I was nothing Please help … Darren
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