Sorry for your loss.🙏

I know it must be hard. My condolences. Sounds like you had a great relationship.

@@mojo4293 Big smile. Not only that, but he was a beautiful dancer. I was extremely blessed! Teach play and laughter. Thank you for your condolences.

I'm sorry you lost your husband. Hugs

I'm sorry for your loss, but so pleased you had such a great love ❤

So true

maybe hes just shy

My husband took the train 800 km to me

Exaclty. If he really likes you, he will pursue no matter what.

What if he pursued me for the first few months and then he cruelly changed his mind because he discovered I wasn't perfect!

Cute

Amazing idea😊👍

I did that once to an ex boyfriend. I left an I love you note inside his lunchbox and never acknowledged it. I don’t even know if he ever saw it😅 I never asked … maybe I did it to wrong person .. but very cute your experience.. great job 👏

​@@lilianrodriguez8312 yesss girl u did it to the wrong person is all, I made a cute card for a guy and he mocked me, wrong guy, right heart ❤ don't stop being so giving like that, it's cute and sweet and the right one will love it ❤

....then why are you here?

Agree, my late husband was not good at showing his appreciation of the things I did. It did affect my feelings a bit...wish now I was more outspoken and told him there and then.

I used to take my husband's meals to him in living room so he could watch TV.. there were some times I'd leave everything on the stove/oven for him to get it for himself if I felt under appreciated.. not often but he stopped saying or doing things to upset me.. I told him my doing that was a courtesy I didn't have to do.. I loved cooking for him though. He passed away 10 years ago and I still miss our little rituals. He was a great man . He got sick and literally died in my arms 6 days later. I believe he is in Heaven having a wonderful time.

Him appreciating things, and her feeling appreciated are two different things. An example is cats that bring dead animals into a house. Why? This is behavior is induced by the love cats feel for their owners, it's their natural honest expression. In it's mind it's sharing it's food and feeding you. The cat has a diffent way of expressing appreciation because the cat is not the same as the owner. The owner doesn't understand and is annoyed and feel unappreciated, ironically by the cat's attempt at showing appreciation. You can train your cat to do other behaviors you prefer, but those would be fake dishonest behaviors that are not naturally induced. E.g. if you are stabbed, the natural honest expression of what you are feeling would be to cry out in pain, but if you forced yourself to laugh like you are being tickled that would be a fake dishonest expression. The biggest destroyer of relationships is not understanding that men and women are not the same. Men are naturally induced to show appreciation differently then women. When we feel appreciation for a women it induces the following: 1. we become almost happy to die to protect her (this is the ultimate sacrifice) 2. we become more motivated and happy to provide for her (e.g. he'll grind himself to the bone at work, be more ambitious, etc) In other words, like the cat bringing strange things home, men show appreciation differently than women by providing security and provisioning (this is the natural honest expression), some women dont understand men are not women and are instead annoyed by this honest induced behavior. Some DO understand, probably by growing up observing a healthy dynamic between both parents, and these women do feel appreciated and appreciation in return, like a feedback loop. most of the time, when a man doesnt view to girls as the future mother of his children, will be mainly focused on manipulating a female's feelings to his advantage, by figuring out what she wants to hear and dishonestly saying whatever makes her feel good (e.g. appreciated), and the same with behaviors. The aim is to manipulate via dishonesty, instead of honest expressions of what he truly feels and thinks. Whereas a man who honestly expresses what he truly feels and thinks will typically be labeled an ashole, instead of being focused on manipulating what the partner feels for positive outcomes for himself (sex) etc. It's called selling her a dream, and men do this purely for long term sexual access. And women who've encountered this too often become ruined by it, because they will come to expect being lied to and manipulated for short term dopamine, in exchange for sex. What you are asking for, is to be sold a dream (to be lied to and manipulated). If your man is honest in his expression of appreciation, it will take the shape of trying to provide more security and provisioning, with less complaint by him. (He'll grind harder and talk about work less).

@@tylerdurden3722 you have a good point. But also to let someone know you appreciate the effort, it can help a lot to simply say "thank you" (goes for both men and women). Both parts should make an effort ans work (around the same amount) in the relationship, but the type of effort dont have to be exactly the same

There are emotionally available and healthy minded men out there.

A lot of men do chase after those feelings. They just don't really care who is creating them. They don't want you, they want the high.

@@catche85 Not my experience with them. 😊

Exactly, once they “have” you, suddenly they flee

Hey we exist! :)

Amen!🙏🏼

Everybody is different, every marriage is different.

Thank you for this great advice.

I believe what you said, whole-heartedly. Which is precisely why I have been single most of my life. It is hard to find a non-game-playing anyone. Or, at least someone who isn't so broken they can't function on a normal level anymore. I read that book Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus and was so annoyed at the waste of time, because, all that guy's advice would not work with any couple I had ever met up to that point, or any guy I had ever tried to get to know in that sort of way. And, then I realized "Oh! He's talking about normal people, like people the way they should be." But, I did have a guy friend when I was younger that was quite a bit like me in the way he thought, and he would go off and do his own thing sometimes, and I wouldn't wait for him but be doing mine. He'd come back or, if I went away intead, I would come back and we'd pick up where we left off or start doing other, new things together. If life had worked out better, we would almost certainly have married. Unfortunately, due to circumtances beyond our control he was removed from my life before I was even 18. The advice in that book would have worked with him but with him I wouldn't have needed that advice. He would have just told me how he was feeling.

Our 48 year marriage speaks to the truth of your comment. Blessings...

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

queen

Prince 😂

Yo it sounds like a rap 😅😅

kinda sad you dont have one and are traumatized because they banged you and left you when you were younger

shapely butt, shapely breasts, speaks infrequently, and is grateful. Women - these 4 traits alone will catch Prince Charming.

I feel the same way! He's the best!🥳

@@garybusey7625 Let me guess. In this situation, you're the prince charming?🤣

@@roma15131 😉

@@garybusey7625 No, that'll attract a man who just wants to fuck you. Not Prince Charming.

Yeah, that's too bad. I married and divorced two workaholics. No wonder I have trust issues!

ouch

He was waiting for you to interrupt and seduce him.

God bless you❤

​@@LisaGeminigod bless you❤

🤣 Chile...

What a buzz kill!

I'm so sorry

Such jerks exist. They are clueless

What a jerk.

Omg, I’m so sorry to hear how your relationship goes, how such a beautiful woman like you be treated this way, that’s so bad, you’re such a beautiful woman, you don’t even look 64 years old, you look so younger than your age, hope I can hear from you soon?

Hi Karen, I'm the same! Realized it after my second relationship ended in my late 20s. I don't like being a live-in gf, certainly showed me I'm not suited to being a wife. I didn't want motherhood either, I knew that even earlier than that. It's a good thing to know yourself, better late than never. Enjoy life + yr doggies.

I am relating to this.

@@truerosie At least you realised it sooner than I did so good on you. Some of us just are not suited to living with a partner, and that goes for males too. I love NOT having someone, not having to ring if a girlfriend asks me to stay for dinner and then you have to ring them and they carry on like you’re abandoning them. I decided that I would only be answerable to and for my son. Once I did that, life was wonderful. He is the love of my life but I fully respect your decision to not have children. My best wishes to you from Australia ❤️

@@pricewood1284 Gross! she said she doesn't want marriage or even to be a girlfriend. What's wrong with you that you chase after women who don't want men?

You must naturally play the game. Doing things right and in the right timing is an art. It's not really games if your intentions are in the right place. It's showing them what you can bring to the table that is not a game. That's your game in a way but if you're a good player then they might enjoy your game. Lol enjoy life and enjoy them. That's something you can't fake for long

@@lovelace8702 Yes precisely! If people’s minds are in the right frame to play the ebb and flow dance in an authentic way, it can be fun! Sadly with the sheer amount of relationships and marriages that fail, many people are not being authentic, they play the game to grasp onto, dominate or manipulate the other.

@@judyb1643 Neither of the two games are sustainable. The main obstacle to long term success is dopamine addiction. When an experience feels fun, what you are actually experiencing is dopamine released into your blood interacting with hormone receptors. Low dopamine and withdrawal is experienced as boredom. These hormone receptors can become desensitized to dopamine, meaning more dopamine than normal is needed just to feel normal, and not bored. A lot of women are dopamine addicts chasing more and more dopamine, becoming more and more desensitized, to the point where a fulfilling healthy relationship is experienced as boredom. Some relationships are like fireworks, fun and exciting, but shortlived and not sustainable. Some relationships are like a fireplace...warm and fuzzy feelings of fulfilment that's long lasting. It's hard to appreciate the soothing feelings of a fireplace while suffering dopamine withdrawals like a crackhead. And it's hard to keep the fireplace going when fireworks are tossed into the fire for some dopamine release. It's easy make relationship work, find someone who is not easily bored (who isn't a dopamine addict and chaser), and don't be someone who is easily bored in return (a dopamine addict)...and then you'll be able to enjoy long lasting, fulfilling, warm fuzzy feelings in a relationship.

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Women also need recognition & encouragement. Somehow men just don't know that.

Yes, well, ditto! I have known a lot of men who had nothing but criticism for their wife because the women they had left at home with the children all night, while they were trying to get in my pants, just didn't appreciate the way they worked hard for 8 hours a day to provide for her children (who they were the biological father of) and the way she got to be home with them every day, not working. Never noticing that there were groceries in the house, laundry done, the house was clean and so were THEIR children, etc. They really and truly thought their wives did nothing hard all day and had no right to complain when the man tromped in mud all over the man's clean floor in the house he paid for and found her thoroughly ungrateful for the 8 hours of work he did before he went off to go play with his friends, leaving her after her 12 hour shift to do another 12 hours of work alone. And, then there were the women that were also running an at-home business or working a full time job when the kids were in school, who had to take time off work to go to the school to meet teachers and all, who were still told that they did nothing for their husband, on top of doing all the housework, shopping, yard work and whatever house repairs they could manage and were still being told they did nothing for their husband and were purely selfish and lazy. So, absolutely, 100% DITTO. Women who do things for their family which is still most of them, need recognition and encouragement for their efforts. The more effort they put in a relationhip the harder for them to get out of it. Somehow, men just don't know that. Except, in both cases, often at least one or the other, in most relationships, do. It's a problem that there is often only the one person in the relationship that does.

Women need the same. We aren't robots, this is why women end relationships.

Men are kids - women are... puppies..

Yes! Anything is better than one of these modern, brainwashed men.

Lol

Get the puppy. You're not ready yet for a healthy relationship.

Get the puppy. You will have a healthy relationship.

Currently in this stage

Couple goalssss 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

@AZ-su1zg “Once I figured these things…….” 🌷So happy for you sweetie! I too, have a new love in my life, after almost 20 years! I’m 71, but I refuse to give up on life, fun, even a future. I know I have way more behind me, than ahead of me, but I want it to be good! This guy & I are learning how to be together … and luvin it! Ups & downs like the gyro on a plane but we change direction to one that suits us both. If we ‘have words’ … making up is so much fun lol. Hugs

❤

@@robinr.9007 Could you communicate well from start, or learning that too? Is one of you better at something and can teach the other? Are yoiu both willing to learn? does he want to learn from you if you have worked on and know/can more than he? It's difficult when men are lazy, want to go trial end error instead of efficient and stimulating...It is unknown that women become women from beiung treated as such, f ex getti ng to feel beautiful, attractive, wanted.In Sweden, we don't get brought up learning that, it is strange that we have a reputation of sexual freedom. For what is sexual activity without soul, style, courtesy, wisdom, eroticism? As to you having more behind you: what if what you have before you is of higher quality and thus really...more? And - we are created to live to 120. I even read 140. That takes very well use of body, energy, mind and spirit though. I am still wanting to get married at 60, but want to get out of mistreatment stopping me from healing. bUt many people live in love despite ill health, I have waited for me to heal first in vain.LAthough it depends on what and how it is. - All the best!

@@robinr.9007 good for you !!!! Long may ur good life continue.. sending u positive, happy, future energy TC 😊

Isn’t that the truth!!!

Yeah, you’re right, and I guess this video really teaches you a lot of things about relationships, hope you enjoy watching the video as much❤❤❤. Looking forward to hear from you, okay?

Love your comment! 🙂

Well said💯💯💯

Never understood or liked the idea of game playing…feels like it’s manipulation and dishonest.

@@ginasmitasin479 ME too🙌👌

@@ginasmitasin479 EXACTLY!!! I feel like I'm with stupid when I have to pull her strings to get something's

Sorry for your loss. May he rest in peace

Sorry for your loss. My husband passed on 14th of March 2023. I can relate to your pain. I miss him too. Hoping you'll be able to manage.

I agree whole heartedly! Leave these men alone to themselves because your dog is actually appreciative of your company and all you do for it. Men only take you for granted, are attracted to you only when you show no emotions and/or you have to play the constant head games. No way. 👎🏻

@@irinaivanovic9792 I just want to be me, & accepted for who & what I am. Not having to keep learning all these techniques that go nowhere after all is said & done. Whatever happened to men doing things to woo a woman their way? I'm literally surrounded by an entire two generations of men that are quite lazy. They need to put more work into it. I'm tired. And getting too old to tapdance my entire life through a relationship. We either click, or we don't, I guess. I don't want to remain single for the rest of my life. But I need a man, not another hobby.

It's always us women catering to them, pleasing them, keeping them happy while they like and friend lots of other women. They say it's nothing but they don't like or friend the ugly ones. Hmmm

😂

SOOO true! This is the reason why so many women get divorced after kids - the ‘husband’ is in fact the oldest child. Instead of being a coparent, he ADDS to the woman’s labour and responsibilities. I’ve lost count of the number of women who told me that their workload actually lessened instead of increasing post-divorce: their ex-husbands were a mountain load of work in and by themselves

Yeah, you’re right, and I guess this video really teaches you a lot of things about relationships, hope you enjoy watching the video as much❤❤❤. Looking forward to hear from you, okay?

This guy is doing what most men are guilty of. Lying to women, by telling women what they want to hear, for personal benefit(in his case it's financial benefit). Among men, it's called selling her a dream. If any person gives you advice on men, and it doesn't cause you emotional discomfort, then that person is busy lying and manipulating. The same goes for men in dating and relationships. If a man is trying to sell you a dream, his main focus will be on manipulating how you feel and what you think, to gain positive outcomes for himself (typically long term sexual access)...and this requires dishonesty in all it's forms. True honesty by a man, requires him focusing on expressing what he truly feels and thinks, regardless of how the truth makes her feel...and typically he's labeled an ashole by women he interacts with, but comes to respect him later on. Truth causes emotional discomfort more often than not...whereas lies cause are comforting more often than not. When you are being sold a dream by a man, the things he says and does will feel very comforting, by design.

Normal people don’t need disclaimers for this

And before you assume, I’ll tell you that I’ve been in abusive relationship and I still hold this belief

The world is full of more abnormal depressed people than normal people. Sick of people with perfect lives and their bubble worlds

You need to leave that relationship. Other people don't need disclaimers for this...I'm sad you went through this.

Yeah, you’re right, and I guess this video really teaches you a lot of things about relationships, hope you enjoy watching the video as much❤❤❤. Looking forward to hearing from you, okay?

Your comment has the feel to it, that you retreat in rejection and try to shield yourself from that rejection. It's normal to have alone time in most any relationship. Clinging to someone else is not healthy. You need to be completely fine in your own skin and with yourself in order to appreciate him expressing his needs for some alone time and being happy to enjoy yourself during it, without offense.

I actually like when l can spend some days alone every now and then, that's when I can fully relax and not think about anyone else's expectations. Maybe a LDR would be the best for me 😃

Bingo!

@@gardenjoy5223did you consider she may want marriage? Calling her clingy is very unfair.

@@Katrn30 Did I struck a nerve in you? Did you copy/paste your own needs in here? I'm not unfair at all. I'm giving kind advice. But what's with this 'trend' to have a significant other and not even get married before sharing the bed? Do you know (about) the clinical psychologist Jordan Peterson? He's got some interesting insights in the matter. Seems the sexual revolution didn't bring most women what they actually need and want. There are more in the field, that have come to this conclusion. It's on KZfaq as well. I think it's about time we rethink the 'strategies' forced down our throats for the last 50 years or so.

I'm sorry for your loss.

Yeah, you’re right, and I guess this video really teaches you a lot of things about relationships, hope you enjoy watching the video as much❤❤❤. Looking forward to hear from you, okay?

Yeah, you’re right, and I guess this video really teaches you a lot of things about relationships, hope you enjoy watching the video as much❤❤❤. Looking forward to hear from you, okay?

There are more fish in the sea!!!!

Throw the whole man away!

YES!!

Wrong. Men do not want women to do things for us - we expect it!

Exactly this

That's the truth!

How exhausting! sounds like an immature man!

@@denisepfahl3147 not really lmao it sounds insanely easy and simple to do. she didnt say men ARE a child/children. she said they're a different form of what one may be. and that they can make adult decisions. keep the "how exhausting attitude" and you will continue to treat partners that way and have dating difficulty.

Play was for secs* right??

That’s a mommy relationship, not a man-women relationship No thanks

We all are influenced by hormones whether we realize it or not. It has to do with brain chemistry.

Dedication has to do with character, morals, and values. It's their belief system.

@@murahkami Maybe, but then if one can make something more important than hormones.... Then I think that is what they were talking about.

Agree. He will move on to the next dopamine rush if he doesn’t keep getting it from you.

So you can do and get away with whatever you want a year, two, or ten down the line?? 🤔 Ok 👌

They also have looks

Yeah, you’re right, and I guess this video really teaches you a lot of things about relationships, hope you enjoy watching the video as much❤❤❤. Looking forward to hear from you, okay?

My husband and I do the same. I really believe this is more important than sex. During my darkest period with post partum depression we didn't have that intimacy for a year to year and a half. I really think the playful banter is what kept us going till my depression cleared. Doing great this year. ❤

Funny. It is very Helen Gurley Brown.

Yeah, you’re right, and I guess this video really teaches you a lot of things about relationships, hope you enjoy watching the video as much❤❤❤. Looking forward to hear from you, okay?

A man can feel that you "didn't fancy him".

@@andersnielsen6044 Maybe, he kept touching me when he was talking, sat nearly on top of me and then kissed me on the lips( which i wasn't expecting) a wet sloppy one, so i thought that was a bit cheeky when i had not been giving him any signals i liked him that way.

Gamer. Good riddance.