Gay, Pastor’s Kid Comes Out - I Had My First Kiss at 30

Gay, Pastor’s Kid Comes Out - I Had My First Kiss at 30 - I Tried to Be Straight Ep: 1

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3 ай бұрын

Nate shares his story of growing up as a gay pastor's kid, realizing he was gay and struggling with self-worth, going to Bethel Ministry School, working for Jesus Culture, and finally coming out as a gay Christian.

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@danijelapehar4174 3 ай бұрын

Sincerity and peace is what Nate is raidating :) Great pod episode, and thank you for being you ❤

@ITriedToBeStraight 3 ай бұрын

Awww. That's so kind! Thank you :)

@em0689. 2 ай бұрын

I’ve been waiting for something like this for so long… it’s good to hear other who get it

@positivity_gamer6987 3 ай бұрын

Well thank you TikTok for recommending this. If you ever look for guests, I’d be happy to share my story as well as someone who served in ministry while struggling with their sexuality for a long time

@chadmay3656 Күн бұрын

Not only are you loveable and a good friend. Your cute too. Proud of you overcoming and standing strong.

@MusicBoi74 25 күн бұрын

Fellow gay PK here...and former church organist/choir director.

@mldehusson 18 күн бұрын

No matter what, Jesus loves you more than you can imagine. Dont ever let anyone steal that fact from you. He knows you, he loves you, and he promises never to leave you or forsake you. I tried to be straight, too.

@scottmoore7588 8 күн бұрын

That's a nice sentiment and all, but I've never met Jesus let alone had him tell me that he knows and loves me, so how exactly can you proclaim it to be a fact? And no, "a book told me so" isn't proof.

@speecher1959 8 күн бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story. The more of us that come out in Evangelical Land, the sooner others there will come to realize we're already there, and we're queer not due to "grooming," but that's because it is who we are. And when we are a peace with that, we can be fully whole and live into the temporal and eternal stuff.

@kimspatz5155 3 ай бұрын

Talk about laying your heart bare! This is so brave and such a beautiful gift to people who might be struggling along a similar path.

@dougmartyn2732 13 күн бұрын

Nate, Just found your pod, thank you. I was raised Conservative Baptist, and I can so relate to your story. I am older than you, and back in the 50s, nothing was mentioned about gay. I look forward to your future podcasts.

@movieguygreg 28 күн бұрын

Thank you for sharing this! Such a relatable story, and I so appreciate the vulnerability with which you shared it.

@kelsieolsen4702 5 күн бұрын

I just found your podcast and I’m so excited to binge the whole thing. Nate, your energy is so pure and genuine and loving. I wish you all the happiness in the world. Your story is heartbreaking and you are so strong and deserve LOVE. You’re an awesome person.

@timd.6800 Ай бұрын

So much of your story resonates. Thank you for sharing. You are easy to listen too.

@fernandoj.rodriguez9853 2 ай бұрын

Thank you for your story Nate! it really hit home. 😢

@ITriedToBeStraight 24 күн бұрын

🙂 happy to hear it

@travisjones417 3 ай бұрын

20:44 This hit so hard. That has been the hardest part for me as I have come out 2 years ago. I feel like everyone in my church sees me now as broken or damaged. Something to feel sorry for. And what can I say? I felt like I must have done something wrong then to be this way. Feeling disgusting, a monster that now can no longer be the man of god everyone expected me to be. And it’s hard. I still have to remind myself tbh that I’m not that.

@rynhudson8484 Ай бұрын

Wow. So well put! 🥲

@Raddiebaddie 27 күн бұрын

Maybe they could do a 1946 documentary watch party? I’m sorry you are surrounded by that 💔

@user-lq4sw1cx5z 26 күн бұрын

@kimsteinke713 21 күн бұрын

Yes you're more than a man of God You're a great man of God because you're willing to face your faith and meet your God personally that is okay that is where I came You try to conform to their way of God and it will damage you because they're heterosexual. Or maybe there another gay person hiding but don't let it bother you just remember it takes more strength to do what you're doing than to conform and play like your righteous for the sake of righteousness sake Jesus was a historical figure and these men that wrote most of the Bible they had an agenda but you have to meet Jesus where he is and he never said nothing about gay people he actually spoke about eunuchs You need to read about the eunuchs my friend. I'm 63 and I went through hell too but you keep going because we've worked so hard and you're part of us and you're part of them and we're showing them what true love is unconditional love okay we love you unconditionally. Hang in there it will get better. ❤❤❤❤

@user-lq4sw1cx5z 21 күн бұрын

@@kimsteinke713 yes I second that. You are not alone in that Boat...its a beautiful colourful boat going beautiful places with stop offs where ever you like:) enjoy YOUR journey. it is YOUR life that is the gift

@treyhernandez 3 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing! It’s so encouraging to hear someone share about their story and also be close to God at the same time while walking through that process. It’s not easy but I love that that people like us exist who have found peace with our maker and who we are 🙏🏼

@ITriedToBeStraight 3 ай бұрын

Agreed, I am very thankful to be where I am today!

@romeunavarro7777 6 күн бұрын

Wow, this man is so adorable and lovable. You are amazing. All my heart goes out to you.

@Drewvjr 21 күн бұрын

I'm so happy this popped up as a recommended vlog. Your story was nearly identical to mine, at least the growing up part (down to the family meeting because dad found gay porn on his computer). 🙂 I am a pastor's kid as well. In grade school I was alienated by the other boys, I was made fun of, teased, called every gay epithet known to mankind when all i wanted was a best friend. It made me become VERY introverted. I attended Christian elementary school so teachers would have meetings with my parents out of concern because I was more effeminate than any other boy. One "teacher" (none of them had a college education) suggested having me go through deliverance at the age of 10. In my late teens I tried to pray the gay away by becoming involved in youth leadership and I also got involved doing 1 month long mission trips to India, the Philippines, Israel, etc. I didn't find my way out of this mess until after high school. I'm so happy we both survived and living happily as our true selves and I'm grateful KZfaq suggested this podcast.

@ITriedToBeStraight 19 күн бұрын

Ah man. That’s so rough. I’m glad you found your way through ❤

@Raddiebaddie 27 күн бұрын

Thanks for sharing ❤❤❤

@luisaalmontevega2016 3 ай бұрын

I just loved listening to you. Congratulations on being your most authentic self and love yourself! ❤ Can’t wait to hear more stories!

@ITriedToBeStraight 3 ай бұрын

Thank Luis!!!

@gaspikefan Ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story, Nate. For what it's worth, I am a little over twenty years past my own version of your story... I was very conscious of my sexual orientation but tried really hard to be what everyone around me expected. My thinking was 'I'll find the right girl, and it'll be okay', but I never felt comfortable or confident around any guys. I got married, it wasn't good... but, we stayed married because (among other things) we were very involved in the church, and I didn't believe that marriage was something to give up on. Skip the details of the end, etc., but after it ended and I came to terms with who I was, everything fit better.... and, I was more confident with both gay and straight men because I was at peace with ME. Ironically, my being open and honest with who I am made it easy for a lot of other men to talk to me about who they were. At first, it was a little shocking, but I now 'get' that there are far more men out there who are struggling with who they are attracted to than you might realize. I am glad I've given so many someone honest and open to talk to about themselves. Nate, something tells me that you can be another like that!

@davidoran123 15 күн бұрын

By ten or so I knew I was different from other kids. By thirteen I heard the word homosexual and I Knew then what it was. I tried to fit in but at eighteen my best friend asked what was going on and I told her I was gay. Thank you JOy for asking. It took a few years but I came out to everyone. This culture really makes it hard for those who don't fit the norm. At seventy now and happily married to my husband for twenty-nine years.

@risperdude 22 күн бұрын

I so relate to all the feelings and struggles Nate described. A different family and generation, of course, but so familiar. Years of converson therapy and shame so hard to unpack.

@ITriedToBeStraight 20 күн бұрын

😢

@SeanWarren 24 күн бұрын

I think I am your 1,000 subscribers!!!

@ayeefrancis 3 ай бұрын

Thank you

@scottmcgrath8893 Ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story Nat… I’m older but we could be twins … hugs and respect mucho

@timbergman5205 2 ай бұрын

i had conversion efforts in my teens too. my family could never make up their mind between me having a disease or me being villain either. According to perfect doctrine, all sin is a choice. so gay cannot be a disease or a genetic condition or anything that i didnt consciously decide upon myself. but it was so obvious it wasnt a choice to myself and very shortly them too that they couldnt rationallise it and they never really tried. All they knew was fear and hate. and gay people directly threaten them. Thank you for your story.

@user-lq4sw1cx5z 26 күн бұрын

sooo cool and exciting to hear your story Nate. thx for sharing.

@fredphilippi8388 10 күн бұрын

The truth has a way of setting us free.

@Raddiebaddie 27 күн бұрын

16:13 literally same!! We had a Disney trip planned and my parents cancelled it d/t homophobia. Still have never gone

@clays.murdock1815 3 ай бұрын

Basically my story. My sister did Bethel too. ha

@loveisallyouneed1684 2 ай бұрын

Basically my story too but MUSLIM version😂😢

@ITriedToBeStraight 2 ай бұрын

Haha small world!

@calebsimon2337 5 күн бұрын

We have similar stories, also went to Bethel Church. Longshot, but did I mention I was single :). Take care Nate.

@user-lq4sw1cx5z 26 күн бұрын

just be you:)....thats for who ever reads this:) love you

@scottmoore7588 8 күн бұрын

Conversion therapy in a nutshell: "Therapist": "Ok so let's try addressing the things that I believe influenced you to be gay and those beliefs are totally based on my religious bias and not at all based on scientific research but ya let's do it anyway." Client: "Ok ya I addressed all those things and I'm still gay." "Therapist": "Ah I see. Well I guess there's no other options left but torture!"

@michael1704 2 ай бұрын

'Call Me By Your Name' is my story...but in Australia.

@jazzyjasmine4655 2 ай бұрын

❤

@kasaaa_ Ай бұрын

❤️❤️❤️❤️

@adechinea 18 күн бұрын

I feel like this title is missing a comma

@leotcc 3 ай бұрын

Just wish I could date Nate! 🫣

@rosemaryruiz1878 2 ай бұрын

And by God I mean the Yahweh, yeshua and Holy Spirit aka holy trinity

@scottmoore7588 8 күн бұрын

"Pastors don't know everything." I'd go as far as to say that they don't _anything_. They're so disturbingly obsessed with god that they probably think 1+1=god.

@i.m.2bizee569 Ай бұрын

Granted there are people that transitioned from homosexuality for Christ and there are those who are Christians that remain homosexuals. Salute to both of you.

@timd.6800 Ай бұрын

It sounds like you are using the term "trauma bond" in an incorrect way.

@raoulvandine7086 3 ай бұрын

"Promo SM"

@user-lq4sw1cx5z 26 күн бұрын

Ive always wondered how God wrote the bible...Men wrote the bible..and it continues to be revised...

@tejotabastos 18 күн бұрын

well, for the record: u still very cute.

@samuel56551 7 күн бұрын

You were treated badly by hypocritical , religious zealots ? Wow , I can't believe it ! These cults have their own petty social dynamics and don't just victimise gay people . They have a whole plethora of prejudices .

@freddenker9537 Ай бұрын

I am so happy for every LGBTQ+ person who has the great fortune of growing up in a family that is free of religious humbug. The bad thing is that many people own a Bible, but never read it... then their eyes would be opened to who they are worshiping. I have dealt with theology for 50 years, and for me it is clear and crystal clear... all religions are created by people "Sects and cults have only one goal: to maintain influence, power and wealth through the oppression of their fellow human beings. There are so many criminals in the ranks of the clergy, in the past and even today. Spinoza said: Religions are the asylum for the stupid...that's how I see it too....and as long as there are stupid people, all superstitions will not disappear...unfortunately

@bjornjohansen5397 16 күн бұрын

He looks and sound very hetero so it can't be that bad for him. He might be rejected by closed minded straight society but he'd be getting so much love from the gays for being attractive and straight-looking. It's a strange double standard in the gay world. You are more supported and loved the more you resemble "normal" people.

@Mcfreddo 13 күн бұрын

But why be Christian or any other type? There's nothing behind it. The only real reality admitted is that it's all belief. None of it is in knowledge as the natural world is.

@rosemaryruiz1878 2 ай бұрын

Hey Nate and Susie I don’t like to offend anybody especially if that person doesn’t deserve it but you guys are aware of the fact that homosexuality is a blasphemy to God and if in the Bible nowhere does it that homosexuality is a choice or your born homosexual- why you might wonder- because God created us humankind for man and woman to mate with each other- not the other way- think about it- if homosexuality was okay with God he would’ve said so in the Bible- because in case you don’t know the Bible was written by God for us to use as a guide from him to us- I’m sorry if I offend anyone but God knows because his God and created everything seen and unseen

@Ashdaesq 2 ай бұрын

Hey Rosemary. Before you tout what is a “blasphemy to God”. What’s the Hebrew translation of blasphemy mean? Are you aware that wearing mixed fabric is a blasphemy? Jews eating with Egyptians was considered a blasphemy. Eating shellfish is a blasphemy? Are you aware of those things. If you’re not arguing against those things that are also blasphemous and God is concerned about blasphemy then do you condemn those equally? The Bible doesn’t say that homosexuality is a choice which is all the more reason why it shouldn’t be condemned. Gay people didn’t choose to be attracted to who they are attracted to. I’m assuming you’re straight, did you choose to be straight or did that happen naturally? And that’s bad logic. Just because something isn’t in the Bible doesn’t mean that it’s outlawed. The Bible is silent on me making up my bed every morning. The Bible is silent on whether I should eat lunch at 12 vs 1:30. The Bible is silent on what specific job I should work at. Just because the Bible didn’t specifically mention something is not therefore implied that it is outlawed. The purpose of the Bible is to point us to the nature of God - that he is loving, kind, merciful and just. Everything in the Bible is not meant to be taken literally. And if you believe that then talk to me about how you’re obeying all 613 Old Testament laws? Even the woman caught in adultery, Jesus never condemned here. I doubt you’re coming in “love” as you said because you don’t have a personal relationship with anyone here. Worry about your own souls salvation and the stuff you’re doing that’s abominable to God

@rosemaryruiz1878 2 ай бұрын

@@Ashdaesq well I’m not going to worry about my salvation because as a Christian God commands us to preach the gospel- and I don’t know where you got that Jews eating with Egyptians is blasphemous and so is shellfish but none of that is true- but you know what is? Killing a fellow human being, blaspheming Holy Spirit, homosexuality, adultery and practicing witchcraft-and all I can say is that homosexuality is not a choice and God created humankind for man to mate with woman- as for matrimony to be between man and woman

@lorettacrooms4398 Ай бұрын

Dear God, grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to change the one I can and the wisdom to know that one is me. ACA

@Raddiebaddie 27 күн бұрын

Hey Rosemary, I don’t like to offend anybody even if that person deserves it, but you are making us aware that you have not done more than a cursory, shallow look at what the Bible says or doesn’t say on this topic. If you’re actually interested in learning about this topic (like genuinely interested in learning more of Gods love and less of using hate in his name) then I would suggest starting with in-depth biblical scholarly research on the topic including the book “God and the Gay Christian” as well as the documentary now available called “1946”. Good luck!!

@rosemaryruiz1878 27 күн бұрын

@@Raddiebaddie well first of all I’m not spreading hate- and yeah your right God is love- or why else would he have sent Jesus Christ to be crucified to save all humankind? But yeah it’s also in the Bible that homosexuality is a blasphemy to God- not my words but Gods word- now that you dislike is something else but as a Christian God commands to speak of the gospel and sadly for you that includes homosexuality