Imagine taking a walk and suddenly you see a wild Alexander in the woods sitting in a tree and giving dating advice.

"A man who cannot obey himself will be commanded" - Friedrich Nietzche

All the romance novels are about a bad guy being domesticated by a woman.

Take it from a man who was gaslighted for 15 years by a nasty wife - This is all absolutely true. I made the mistake of thinking my wife would see my kindness as love and loyalty. She saw my kindness as weakness. She had no respect for me and treated me like crap. Well, now she knows she's one fuckup from getting her a$$ tossed onto the street. She screwed with the wrong person.

The problem is people always confuse being nice and patient with weakness. Beware of the fury of the patient man.

When I realized that as a man you have to protect women from themselves is when I emotionally checked out of dating

Chad is mysterious, ugly man is creepy (scary)

Happily married for almost 14 years... this is spot on. We women do actually value clear boundaries. And protection from our own chaos. So non-PC, but so true.

I completely agree. Jordan Peterson talks about this is as well. Women want dangerous men, you should be capable of inflicting punishment on her and others. There is no virtue in being harmless

My Ex-GF left me for my abusive friend when I treaded her well. Now I know why

She will quickly move on as soon as she doesn’t fear you anymore. Share the love you have but never let anyone walk all over you. Enlightening video, Mr Grace!

Fear = respect. It is not about being agressive towards others, but letting peoole, men and women, that you will act to defend yourself. And expect nothing leas.

12 minutes of hardcore masculinity and then 12:22

I've been in both a healthy (currently in a 1 and a half year relationship) and toxic relationship with women and this is what you need to know: - You need to VALUE YOURSELF more than you value your partner - You need to be okay with walking away (It's so difficult once you build an attachment but if you can get to a place where you can do this, then you will be okay) - Although equal, someone has to carry the relationship and that's your duty as the man if you want to earn and keep that respect from her but most importantly from YOURSELF. - If you are a really masculine man, you need to find a woman that fully embraces her feminine qualities. Being a man or a woman does not automatically mean that you are able to show these qualities so it takes work and really getting to know yourself. - Do NOT try to please her ALL the time - it won't work. - Say NO - Be gentle but firm - Allow her space to miss you, even if you live in the same house - Focus on yourself, your journey, and your purpose - Don't stop her from doing the things she wants to do that you are not happy with. What you need to do is always be ready to have a conversation with her as to what is bothering you but not in an emotional way. It's in a very gentle but yet firm way. It's not an argument but rather a discussion. - Stop bothering her all of the time - have a life - SPACE, SPACE, SPACE - trust is not 'I need to know what or where you are going all the time' but rather 'I trust this person enough for me not to worry about that' - If she makes a mistake, let it be known and help her correct it - If she is disloyal or talks negatively about you or to you, walk away and never look back.

This is great, dude you literally solved the puzzle called women

This is so damn true. When I was going through my first breakup, I really put on this armored mode on myself - I was this walking, serious, emotionless guy and somehow I was attracting a hell of lot of attention from a lot of women; there were a few women who were giving me bedroom eyes too; but I was too broken that time from the inside. One girl even hooked up with me just because she like my mean look. But the moment I open up and start sharing my feelings - boy oh boy - they vanished so fast and didnt give damn except for a few "ohh its okay baby" moments.

If men really understood women's core psychology they would never expose themselves to marriage on the current system.

"It is better to be feared than loved, if you cannot be both" - Niccolo Machiavelli.

Children also fear their parents in the same manner; the moment a child realizes that their parent cannot or will not harm them (non-violently, of course), is the moment they go off the reservation. Crudely put, treat women like children: give them adoration and love, instill the fear of consequence for action, and curtail their excess desires and impulses to stave off disaster. It's like I can hear Donovan Sharpe in my head using your words.

I see your point alexander. The way of protecting youself with an already well-established reputation is the way of protecting one self against an passive aggressive Psychpath, so also good against psychopathic man as it is against woman in general. The problem is this is easier said than done. And since society puts woman on an pedestal, having a reputation strong enough to protect youself against the word of a woman is pretty hard to achieve. It would be cool if you made a video in how to establishe this kind of reputation. Without lying and manipulating, since those tactics a very energy draining.

dude is living in an RPG how convenient is it that there's some hollowed-out tree there as soon as it starts raining. Literally magical.

Watching this while it's 11 minutes fresh before it gets deleted

I have always called my wife out for bad behaviour and she has really improved over time. Now after 20 years, she is all over me and treats me like a king.

Lesson 16: Don't let a women think you're scared of a little rain getting you wet.

I'm genuinely thinking about being single for the rest of my life. This seems like exteme mental gymnastics

Question: What "fear" can a woman feel towards a man, if she has the power of ruining his entire life by accusing him of "grape" without any evidence?

It all boils down to if that girl/woman didn't have a figure of authority growing up she's not going to respect you bruh. Ya need to stop comparing woman to girls that never matured an grew up. She could be 50 stuck in a 15 year olds mentality.

"Lets try and get inside this tree" what an odd thing to say 😂 Another amazing video Alex!

This is it, guys. This is it. All the women in my life who pursued me and never gave up, were the ones who feared me in some way - not that I would hurt them physically, but that I would ignore them or leave them if they didn't respect and value me. Every time a woman has left me, it's because she has felt absolutely no threat from me whatsoever. She knew I would tolerate anything because I had no other options and made her the focus of my life, and so she knew she had all the power.

Talks about manpower and how you should try to get women by making them fear you... *yells in high pitch when the rain starts* xd

It's interesting that the way you describe how women fear men is similar to how many religious people describe a fear of God.

Did Alex just jump into a hollowed out tree like a magic forest gnome LoL

This immediately reminded me of that Steve Carell quote from the office. “Would I rather be feared or loved? I want people to fear... how much they love me.” Lol, not exactly the correct message in line with this video, but it was definitely on to something.

I always assumed that women search in a man for the same that men search in women. How could I be so wrong...

Already an idiot disliked the video without even watching it. You can already see that a feminist most likely is subscribed just to”punish” this awesome youtuber that helps boys to become a man and for girls to have better relationships.

"Word need bad men. We keep the other bad men from the door" Rust Cohle, _True Detective._ There is a saying in my country: "at night men prey on a house with a weak man". I guess it's equivalent to "a man's biggest duty is to save women and children from other men" in the West. I am a woman and I want a man who other men (and women) are fearful of, not because he is aggressive or short tempered, but because he is brave, confident, assertive and "man" enough so no one tries to harm or bully him and his family. I want to feel safe and more importantly I want _our_ family (kids) to be safe.

Simple version No fear, no sexual desire Without her genuine sexual desire, there is no relationship

When he has the power to resist you, you know you're safe with him. I love it when my boyfriend reprimands me, because I know that as much as I enthral him, ultimately, he has the control and has the capability to lead me and not the other way around.

After dating women for years, thinking it was my purpose as a man, i m led to constantly think about one thing, i wish i was gay, i wish i wasn’t attracted to women, the passive aggressive way of talking, the puzzles u have to solve, and them in their period, its just too much. But here i am still straight, i envy gay ppl

I think the word "fear" is not perfect for this, but I do understand the concept. It's similar to how the bible says for christians for fear God. It's a respect type of thing, rather than a fear that creates aversion. I hate starting sentences like this but _As a black man_ (😬lol😅) I know what it's like for people to see you and have one of their first reactions be fear. Fear without a certain sense of familiarity and/or desire doesn't breed attraction. Someone else said it already but Professor Dr. JBP does a good job using the idea of being dangerous. A homeless man whole looks jumped up on stimulants is scary and not at all attractive, as they're unpredictable and undesirable. The big, country boy who kinda sounds like "yerda/yerpa/your-father" and drives his truck over the speed limit every time he sees straight way or is on the highway- that can be very attractive yet dangerous. That's perhaps a type of fear but there ought to be a new word to differentiate...

In Holland you would be afraid of the huge women!

Of all the relationship ‘gurus’ on KZfaq. This guy’s in a league of his own.

If I can't scare a women how am I supposed to scare away any threat to me my girl and my kids A man who is scary is a man who is powerful

Naaah, dump that woman that needs fear to function kind and humane.

Intimidation is alpha attraction.

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Can't relate to this. All my life people especially girls keep saying I'm a kind and intimidating man. Still single

Pro tip:Never utter a high pitched laugh, especially in front of women.😁

damn it's so much work to put on for finding and dating a high quality woman, no wonder MGTOWs just give up.

You should keep up with these video formats, really been great and crystal clear! Well done pal

I really relate to the bit about social Capitol. Towards the very end of my marriage my ex wife started saying all kinds of lies about me to the people in our lives (in order to make herself look better, repeatedly caught cheating etc) thankfully I had enough social Capitol, and she'd been caught in enough small lies by most people that almost no one who knew us both believed her. Being trusted and respected by those around you is vitally important

Wow this vid Alexander is one of if not your best so far, really insightful!

The kind of fear is the same kind of fear outlined in the bible. Its not a fear of being hurt, or a fear of punishment. Its a fear of disappointing someone that you care about. That's the kind of fear that a woman need fro her partner.

Its so crazy how these videos get posted at the right time in my life

Man that rain coming on, the timing, your reaction and your solution all was so absolutely beautiful! 🤣💪🏻😎

Can you do a video on what some of those "low value female" behaviours (That require you to not negatively re-enforce) might look like. In my experience, sometimes a man can take a stand on something, but if its not actually a low value behaviour, he can just end up looking insecure and underconfident. a list of actual behaviours that shouldn't be put up with... with examples would be amazing.

this reminds me of my p.e. teacher who was this huge guy who'd been in the army and all the kids feared him cos we saw the punishment he would dish out to the naught kids, even tho the 'gd kids' feared him we also respected him as he was one the kindest and understanding teachers in the entire school. even the naughty kids ended up not just respecting him but actually loving him and they changed their behaviours for his classes. i remember feeling safe in his classes cos the bullies feared and respected him

I think fear in this context is more of a respect than physical fear. When a woman says she fears a man, it's because he's physically abusive or she fears he will be. That is never good for a relationship. Only messed up women stay in relationships like that. But what you are explaining is very accurate. Women want to look up to a man. They want a man with backbone. Not a loose cannon with a bad temper. But a calm, cool, collected, Don Draper type of man.

This Channel is a Godsend from the heavens!! Thank you, thank you, thank you!! ⚜️🛡🎚⚔️⚜️

One time randomly at work, this girl told me that she was scared of me because of my deep voice, maybe that some how plays into it as well.

Thank you Alexander, I did some of these things recently through a breakup and this just confirmed my instincts were correct.

Lesson 11 is my fave: A Fear that helps with self improvement, hopefully healthy.

I find this very interesting and confirming. My ex wife use to tell me while we were dating she was scared of me and I asked her why and she said didn't know why. I just thought she was messing with me.

Wow bro. This was gold! Also that tree shelter at the end makes me wanna go camping

Lesson 12: Fear will make women value your kindness more

... as a guy, all of this ticks me so wrong from one perspective, yet resonates so much from the other... it's amazing.

All these things we knew ...always good to hear again

Right when he's talking about being tough, he starts giggling and running from the rain...🤦‍♂️🙄

How can I respect someone who can't improve themselves without the threat of fear?

Makes sense since "fear" is on the arousal (excitement) spectrum. Why do "dates" like scary movies? Why do "dates" like roller coaster rides? Why do "dates" like motorcycle rides? Why do girlfriends like bad boys? A guy with some danger to him? Because it arousal sensations in her body.

Lesson 11 was so helpful. Thank you.

Last friday I broke up with my now ex-girlfriend. (1.5 years) I'm doing everything you say in this video. It fits my character naturally. However all my life I hear from women that i'm to dominant in the relationship. Some broke up with me over this fact. Sometimes I broke up with them because they gave me this feeling I'm like a tirant or something. Last friday I gave up on a very lovely good hearted women. She always treated me with respect and kindness. However during our last fallout she started saying things like: I can't be myself around you. You are the reason I'm angry all the time to other people. I don't feel happy. This was the first time she did so. I told her I was going to keep my dignity and I left. She's not going to disrespect me like that. Now she has alot of regrets and told me a few days later that it did not make any sense for her to say that. As a well self-respecting individual with a good amount of self esteem I'm just tired of hearing this stuff. I always mean well in a relationship. The women im with are always left behind better than they were before they met me in many aspects. They definatley have always feared me. That's why they normally never disrespect me. I never touched them or hit them or played mental games to play them. So its sort off in conflict with your message. I do however totally agree to not be a push over in a relationship or in life in general but It seems for me this is where my relationships always fail.

she sould have a mix of fear and admiration

If you want women love you u should be person whom she complaine about it.

She should fear losing you, fear losing your presence/all the good things you bring in her life She must also respect you, in a way that you assert your position in the relationship by being assertive when she tests you Otherwise just have fun and enjoy your time together

This was so true and interesting, I never analyzed this aspect of my own physchology. Thanks Alexander!

This is essential and pivotal. It's the elephant standing in the middle of the room that to few see ! You've distilled instinct into clarity and a plan of action. You're brilliant.

a woman fears the idea that you can be happier without her

Thank you, AG. Fantastic topic. The skies opening up as you opined amidst nature, is akin to the many tears shed over your use of the charged word, Fear. Yet there is such a thing as healthy fear. Enduring the potential consequences of actions we take makes us fearful of taking those actions - healthy fear. We learn then to respect those consequences and steer clear of those actions. If anyone watches and listens to the message in the video, this will become evident by AG’s 3rd point (or by the general discourse of the channel if you are a regular). In my opinion, Alex has earned the status of someone to be respected enough to be heard. Status is ultimately what is under discussion here. You should be working on yourself to cultivate within yourself the leadership and resilience that lead to wisdom, which may well see you arrive at the internal abundance of earned confidence (self-esteem). This includes curating academic as well as anecdotal knowledge of people from all walks of life (this will inform you). Traveling this road will make others wary of your status, inward and outward, and may lead to respect (some will challenge this status to test its validity, which is where resilience serves you well). She must be wary of you to a certain degree (satisfies also the need for some mystery and excitement). You cannot become a conquered commodity to her that can be exploited (you’ve lost frame and respect once you do). You must demonstrate leadership over yourself before you can expect her to entertain electing you to a position of meaning in her life. The beast in you must remain elusive, yet it must be there, most importantly to be leveraged in service of the pairing. Yeah, you have to show you have fight in you and that it will be used for her, and potential children - safety and security. She can respect that and you if she regards this as a need you can meet. It’s not about a physical fear or intimidation, these are the purview of the weak and flaccid. It’s about doing the work to cultivate inner strength and developing the inner rock that can be employed to gently direct the course of rivers that flow around it or roughly bludgeon threats. This measured aggression is vital when in service of a pairing and utterly disastrous if deployed against each other. My best to you and yours. Looking forward to your next.

If she doesn't fear, then how could he protect her?

Ok, so this is my first time watching one of your videos. Great job on conveying some superbly accurate information. How is it someone so young as you is able to understand such wisdom?

you can also be treated this way by a man who doesnt respect you, hence bullies

Cracking video mate! Nailed it👌

Very very important and true content. Thanks!

I've been a subscriber for a while now, and man ! I'm happy i found this channel

You call it fear, I call it respect. Two sides to the same coin. This is also an explanation to why women like bad boys. It’s a misplaced devotion that has roots in exactly what Alexander is talking about here. Women biologically desire the dominant male figure. Bad boy comes along and it’s this drive (and Beauty and the Beast programming) that propels her to him. For myself, I know I am drawn to feisty men, and the intrigue persists if he’s also principled. Someone who has the ability to exert the savage, but knows when and where to use it.

Well done, great talk.

This is great content!

This is really interesting and insightful -- I completely agree, as I have never used fear and have transcended fear for far too long through practice from childhood and valued intelligent and calculative much more. And that is the path that has pushed me in a direction that keeps women away from me, as they feel that I am far more independent enough for their liking and they cannot hook on to me.

12:00 I was only listening not watching, like a podcast. When I heard the rain I freaked out, whipped off the headphones and ran outside to grab the laundry. took me a good 1-2 seconds to realize there was no rain.

Great summary my friend 🤝🏽

The very insightful Alexander Grace! A sad truth on the "competitive plane": If you can beat other men in the group, then the women in that group won't mess with you. I still assert men should cooperate more than compete.

This is great, this approach got me through my wife's HRT experimental phase (about a year) before she settled down to a good regime and back to her old self (phew). Even if you have a bit of leeway with a reasonable woman, is best to have a buffer of 'fear' or 'respect' or whatever you want to call it to help you through the tough times.

One of your best videos! Keep up sharing the truths Alexander!

I am 56, I have followed other dating advice coaches, but you are the first to talk about this concept, this has just caused me to rethink my whole life. :-)

The rainstorm hits and he doesn't skip a beat. Now that's good frame.

Thank you Alexander, you just confirmed me, what I already suspected.

Man, this video is gold. Hope your channel grows a lot.

Great piece of advice again man. I cannot get enough of your wisdom on female state of mind.