Story 1: AITA for hanging a photo of my family (including boyfriend) in my apartment Story 2: 3:42 AITA For losing it after I found out what my husband did when our son was born? Story 3: 7:59 AITA for telling my ex he was very inconsiderate of our daughters when he found out the gender of his new child with his wife? Story 4: 10:28 AITA for leaving my husband who joined my mother and siblings in humiliating me?

Story 4. Turn the house into the city. Fungus is a health violation. See how they feel when the house is classified as unsafe, and they all have to move out.

Gonna have to disagree with the last story’s commenters, I’ve been accused of pouring paint all over my neighbors car, and everyone said I did it even those who didn’t see me do it, until the oldest daughter of the neighbors came outside and casually admitted to spilling the paint. Never even got an apology from the neighbors or my parents. No one believed me when i cried and begged and I was already punished before she admitted it.

Story 3. You need to change the custody arrangements and get the girls into therapy. Petition the court for child support and extra money to be put into a court supervised college fund for the girls. You know from his attitude that he won't contribute to something like that for them unless ordered to by the court. Do everything to support your girls, I think they already realise that Dad does not like girls.

Don't name kids after family members who died tragically.

To the family that pressured OP's Husband to name their newborn after his late brother. When you're the one who pressured and peer pressured your own son to have your way in the naming rights, you don't now get to call OP petty for being upset that the name agreed upon 2 months prior was changed. They don't get to play moral high ground when they've proven they're the bullies here. OP's husband should also grow a better spine as he's just as at fault and he knew why OP didn't want the name as the first name and preferred it as the middle.

I'm flabbergasted by the baby name one. It's your child's name! A huge bonding point! It isn't trivial and trying to throw it away by saying you should be concentrating on bonding with your son is ridiculous

Honestly with story 1: I can see why OP's ex reacted that way. My parents divorced while my sister and I were in elementary (5th grade). Our mom started dating and our dad didn't like it because our mom's boyfriend at the time was kind of taking on the part of acting like a dad. Their relationship ultimately ended when he didn't see himself getting married and yelling at our mom after going to Hawaii for their anniversary. Note that our dad didn't mind the dating so much as our mom's ex boyfriend acting like a dad towards us.

NAH I agree the commenter that said the father is coming from a place of insecurity and fear of being replaced. It doesn't help that his own daughter is talking about another man when she is with him. I would feel the same way, but I would respond by trying to get closer to my child. I would make it no contest and make her everyone knows, I am the parent and no other person can replace me.

Story 2: time to get a lot of paperwork - one to change the baby’s name and one to get a divorce.

Story 2: NTA, My wife and I agreed upon a name for our daughter (based on a name we both liked from a character from a TV show we watched together) and the name honoring my grand mother as a middle name, my wife was totally okay with it because we discussed names and both came to an agreement on it. Screw that man, divorce his ass, he is a selfish prick and does not care about what the wife wants.

Family is trying to replace their dead child with OP’s. Husband went completely off book and just expected her to cave. That kid will constantly be hammered with “namesake loved this sport so you should too. Namesake was really good at this hobby and you should do it. You have to live up to your dead uncle’s shiny mythology!!!!!! We named you his name!!!!” I have a generational name (was my great grandma and then my aunt’s) but it’s my middle name. Not once was I ever pressured to be like them. My own child now has the same middle name. So she’s named after her mom, great aunt and great-great grandma. Husband and I both agreed to this. It’s her middle name as well. We and only we decided kiddos names. Literally nobody got a say but us and nobody even knew the names until kids arrival. It’s baffling how many people think they get a say in naming a child they had no part in creating.

When deciding on a baby name, it's common to have veto privilege. Different couples might have different numbers of vetoes, but it's not uncommon to have at least one. What is _not_ common is railroading the other partner into accepting one name that they don't like. You don't get to do that. *Especially* if you've already decided on a different name. Going behind her back to force that name through was duplicitous and slimy. Hopefully OP has some written record or text conversation that shows he agreed on a different name and can get the court to change it. If that fails and she can't pull hubby out of the FOG, the marriage might be doomed. Either she assumes the doormat position and plays along, or fights tooth and nail to teach the baby his real name, fights in-laws every time they use the wrong one, and polishes hubby's spine. Maybe if she makes it clear to hubby exactly how thin the ice he's on is, he might make a bit of an effort not to be such a pushover... But I've heard plenty of stories that don't work out very well.

Story 2: Honestly? instant dealbreaker in my opinion, complete disregard for what OP wants and he also shows that he'll never have her back in case he gets some pressure from his family. I'd casually ask him what he thinks of divorce, just sprinkle it into the next discussion that'll surely come. Story 3: That's horrible, I don't even know what to say to that. For now I'd keep tabs on the situation and ask the girls if they noticed something or if their father behaved differently towards them and if there are any more signs of him mistreating them in any way I'd revise the custody agreement or whatever else is possible in such a situation. Depending on the relationship with the new wife maybe talking with her would help. I doubt it but you never know.

Regarding the Birth certificate/brothers name - Inform your husband (while he is still around) since names are flexible, you will no longer use his given name and he will henceforth only be addressed as "Momma's Boy" or "MB"

The last one. The mother was aware that there was mold inside the house which is a serious health risk not many people show symptoms right away but I hope he was possibly showing symptoms which is probably why it was affecting her first. If it’s an old wardrobe nine out of 10 there is moisture behind the wood or inside of the wood itself causing the mold. It’s not hard to fathom that OP hope he will be wearing a mask obviously to get the mold out it’s not hard to get mold out by using bleach. The wardrobe could be easily repaired. Why is this a hard concept for people

Second story OP is NTA. Her husband and his family planned for this to happen this way. After they learned of the name OP had agreed to, they coached him as to how to get the name they wanted, that's why he pretended to agree to the name. The timing was well thought out for him to offer/volunteer to complete the paperwork when OP was in the first recovery stage after giving birth, when she would most mentally vulnerable and agreeable to his suggestion without questioning his motives. He wasn't even man enough to tell OP what he had done. At least the person who had the name before is not living. A child having the same first and last name of another relative, especially fathers, are a target for identity theft.

My advice with the last story go no contact with your entire family and apply for divorce from your husband plain and simple because they would rather see you suffer physically mentally and emotionally than help you get through this.

The third story your ex-husband isn't the first or the last man to have that type of thinking. My advice to you either tell him straight up either you apologize to your girls for what you said at the gender reveal or be prepared to sign over your rights or give me full custody. That's all you got to say and admit that you would rather have sons more than daughters. The one thing that this dude will not get is that he never wanted girls to begin with and yet he has two boys that he's going to spoil. It's better for you for him to let you have them full-time and they can see them when they're ready or just be prepared for your daughters to have Daddy Issues later on down the road

Story 2. This is so bad that the only solution is divorce, full custody and a complete name change court ordered. Then cutting his family out completely with him only having supervised visits no over nights no alone time. Lawyer up and get your own family to back you up 100%. Best of luck.

The one about the babies name is definitely grounds for divorce and I'd change the name legally and not even give the husband's last name! It's not about the name, it's about the betrayal and lies to please his family and did it while she was in a vulnerable and traumatic state having just gave birth and he tricked her into thinking he was taking care of formalities for his wife who just endured a major and painful process! It's not that she gets to pick thr name outright, it's that they both agree on a name and to trick her and deceive her at such a crucial stage in their relationship to please his family and completely disregard her wishes is pathetic and disgusting and I'd divorce and change the name but I'd make sure to deceive him in a major way first too!

NTA! Ex needs to file for joint custody if he wants a closer relationship! She is not in the wrong. That last story. Lot of stuff missing.

The last story was super confusing! What was her plan after breaking the wardrobe? 🤔

Op needs to think about divorce because her husband can’t think for himself and needs his family output

This is how kids get molested by stepfathers. She leaves her kid with a guy she’s only known for a year.

My coworker and her son DIED from mold spores in their house. TRUTH... Get out and divorce that ignorant husband while your at it. Sue mom for not repairing the leak nor having the abatement repairs done. Go to housing authority and report her first. They will tell you the steps to follow if you want to stay in the house. Personally I'd be gone. There is steps to follow in order to do this properly.

Last story. If everyone is acting crazy, there may be more to the story. The leap to her having a mental breakdown is ludicrous. So the story is ludicrous. It's so unlikely that the husband, and *HER* family would react the way they did if she was exactly as her story portrayed her as.

The second story... don’t both parents have to sign the name paperwork? If that’s not how it’s done then the rules need serious updating for exactly this type of situation. What a snake!!

To the woman who's husband who named the child, I don't know what country you're in but in the the US state I lived in when my two kids were born they won't allow any official naming until the mother agrees. Also, there is a time frame in which the name can be changed before it legally becomes the baby's name. Considering this garbage move you should worry about who will raise the baby, you and him or you and his mommy. NTA, that goes to the reflection your husband sees in the mirror.

Second Story be prepared for divorce you might as well just give up the name change because he will never stop fighting his family will never stop fighting and your family might as well be on his side because you're just winning. Let's not forget that your family will see this as a name where you know you didn't want it they're going to tell you straight up just drop the name change and move on. I get this you're pissed but you need to let this be and move on. Start planning the divorce procedure plain and simple

Last story OP is either crazy or stupid. What the actual hell. I can't believe how any of the commenters were taking her side. She sounds unhinged

You already let your 6 year old daughter be alone with a man you know for just 1 year?! That's not right...

The last story, it's so common for bullies to gang up on someone, that "criminal lawyer guy from canada," is def from Canada, rainbows shooting out of his butthole. It's common to use the "you must be crazy!" as a gaslighting technique. Bullies like to keep you down, and you being sickly was a way for them to keep you in your place, that's why there was no rush to fix it.

I don’t know if you can really judge the last one. Really can’t tell who was the one acting crazy without hearing a full history from both sides. Sounds like the family may have been pushed to the edge by some reoccurring behavior or OP could be horribly gaslit. No clue...

Story3: Massive NTA. Holy crap I can see why OP broke up. Ex is massive douchebag for saying that crap in front of his own daughters! Who gives a flying crap about his happiness. I hope OP keeps a copy of that charming FB recording, moves for full custody, and gets her girls into therapy.

#1 I don't know. There's no full context to the story here. The situation itself seems pretty shady. I could be wrong, but being so comfortable having some guy try to play dad after just a year together and with such high commitment..I'm not entirely convinced this is just some random one-off jealousy tantrum. Best thing for the guy to do is simply try and get more time with her.

The birther has the final say of their child’s name.

Story two his family got their way is despicable. I learned that not to tell anyone of the name of my child until they are born and the birth certificate has the name we wanted. Some people disagree, but they have anything to do with it or help out in any way. People keep giving names we don't like. I tell them No Hell No or Fuck No!

Last Story: ESH, but I would say that OP sucks the least only because her family clearly did not care about her health. It’s not her property to be going around busting out the wall/wardrobe, but if OP was also doing other handyman work around the house, why is the line drawn there?? Also having mold and fungus in your home is a health violation so if they don’t want to report it or take care of it, OP should. Just because they aren’t sick from it now it doesn’t mean they won’t be later. At my old apartment, everything was fine when we moved in but as time went on I kept noticing a weird smell. I always had headaches and my sinuses were fucked all the time. Come to find out when we started moving out there was literally black mold from a water leak in the corner of our bedroom where we kept a tall, skinny shelf next to my side of the bed. Worst $520 a month ever spent. The floor was never wet but the way the building was built I think it just kept dripping inside of the wall

Title story: NTA. They're broken up. OP doesn't owe her ex squat, beyond mutual child care. Daughter already has pictures of dad in her bedroom, and she's not being neglected. Ex can get over himself and be more diplomatic, or he can STFU since he hasn't got a leg to stand on.

Story 1 ex still wants the husband privilege

Story #1: NTA. Imagine getting this upset over decorations in a house you don't live in. The ex is still the daughter's father, but that is all. The relationship between him and OP is over, and this kind of post-breakup jealousy is a waste of energy and only makes him look like he hasn't moved on. Story #2: NTA. He made a unilateral decision that wasn't his to make. If he can't even man up enough to tell his family that they don't get to decide _his_ son's name, then he's not ready to be a father. The brother is dead. He is not coming back and he won't be recreated in the newborn son, and his family needs to accept it and move on. Story #3: NTA. The fact that he said OP was "trying to ruin his happiness" says it all. It's all about _him_ and his feelings. He was caught admitting that he prefers a son to a daughter. He's showing preferential treatment the moment the new child is born, and the daughters have every right to be afraid that he doesn't care about them. Story #4: NTA. OP's mom won't clean out the fungus growing in the house, but gets mad that OP is? This is unsanitary, and OP's family are crazy for thinking she's wrong for trying to fix what they won't. This entire situation is without logic.

Does anyone have the link to the second story?

Also that last one sounds like the OP is crazy and the Fungi and mold may have been a delusion.

4th story- she could’ve went to the smaller bedroom if her sinusitis was really that bad or paid for the mold guy to take away the mold. You have to ask for permission before u break someone’s property.

Okay with the first story I get the feeling that your ex either cheated on you or you cheated on him and your boyfriend is probably the new guy in the relationship and the fact that your daughter and him have gotten really close and you're hanging pictures in your apartment it's making your ex feel some type of way that he's losing his family 2 this complete stranger that he sees. Even though he's not a complete stranger to you and your daughter. My advice to you it's your apartment do what you want but have a serious conversation with your ex and maybe recommend you and your daughter go to counseling for this and maybe tell you exit he needs to go counseling as well or take it to the courts and go for full custody especially since his reaction make it even worse and it may turn physical at some point.

1st story: NTA. 1. It's your apartment, 2. He is an Ex. Ex Probably is jealous that new BF and the kid are bonding, still, it isnt his territory to cry. 2nd story: NTA. What a freaking a-hole, I get his family and he are in grief, but that is a huge betray. "let me honor my dead brother by betraying my wife, yeah, that's a good way to honor him", goodness. 3rd story: NTA. Good thing he is an Ex. 'No more girls', damm, what a brat. 4th story: ESH. That's some crappy family and husband. But also, you destroy property without even say something beforehand

Without perspective, it comes off as her replacing him.

😢 I'm starting to feel sad watching these because most of them aren't post in updates and when there updates come for some on the original list it's alway missing the other one and a new list is made instead. 😢 Ex: _Original List:_ *Story#1: {Good Slice, Bad Slice?]* AITA for eating my own slice of birthday cake? *Story#2: {Baking Bread]* AITA for baking bread instead of buying it, even though I told my husband I wouldn't buy it if I have to use the money I'm saving (he won't give me money to buy it)? *Story#3: {Limestone Pie]* AITA for saying that Limestone is basically a more serious & strict version of Applejack? *Story#4: {Bugzy The Bug]* AITA for using a cartoon quote to tell my friend to shut up, even though he does the same to me? _Updates & Newbies:_ *Story#1: {Bad Slice]* [Update] AITA for eating my own slice of birthday cake? *Story#2: {So-Done-geons & Dragons]* AITA for giving my 1 year younger sister a taste of her own medicine by saying she's too dumb for Dungeons & Dragons? *Story#3: {Irredeemable You]* AITA for not forgiving my birthday father for selling me 2 days after I was born (my mother saved me)? *Story#4: {Wishing Shell]* AITA for banning my mother from my house and from visiting my kids for throwing away my Wishing Shell Momento?

For some perspective on the baby name story as a parent it might be fake When my daughter was born we both had to sign her birth certificate and it has her full legal name on it They tell you to check it and make sure and the mother would for sure have known if she looked at it So unless shes in a state where one parent can sign a birth certificate for both parents im wondering how she didnt know Im not saying its fake and i think the dad using a different name then the one they agreed on is unforgivable but i dont know how it would happen if she at any point had the papers in front of her

Holy shit I can’t believe that wife didn’t straight up leave his ass the second she found out what he did by naming there son!!!!!

Story 1 I was about to side with the father because I understand as a father how bad you want a boy but to hear that he's ostracizing his self from his daughters now we can't do that just cuz they're not a boy that's not what we doing you still suppose to love them girls i understand being happy that you got a son coming though but yeah big asshole

Story 4 - she could have stayed in the smaller room alone. a dehumidifier may have also helped.

I would try find another place to live and never go back

2nd story: Spouse can't be the only one to fill out paperwork, she would've had to look it over before signing. She can call the hospital and tell them what happened and should be able to change it hopefully

The last story about the room.. I feel sorry for op that her family didn’t care about her health from the start. But - she can’t just start “fixing” when it’s not her house and not before she ask if she is allowed to do it. That’s f*cked up. And the last thing about that it spreads into the hole house?? I didn’t know that! So after that information it’s more f*cked up and if her mother knew about that - I can understand even more why she’s freaking out. You can be angry with your children but this sounds something more like mentally abuse or what it calls. But wtf why do op pay rent but not her sister… so I don’t think that family is healthy anyhow. BUT- about the husband. W T F. I would totally left him there without remorse. I wouldn’t even talk to him. If he ask I would say something like “you seams to fit in. So lick the wall then you can sleep together with my mom in her bedroom. Goodbye.” I can see WHY her’s mother freaks out and I understand that op’s husband thought it was stupid of her and everything. BUT wtf. Her mother yelling, everyone yelling at her - why the f*ck do he treat her like shit too??? He doesn’t need to agree with he’s wife or support her actions like this - but what do it do for good to treat her like this, in these situation right there? Is he simping her mother? Why? It’s sounds like the mother didn’t want them there. So why is he being a simp? It would be better for him and his wife if he didn’t yelled at her. Just say “Ok..you did something really stupid here, and everyone is really angry and so am I. But I can also see that you are upset/sad so..What do WE do now?” But he didn’t. So he can stay there. It’s not my problem that he doesn’t have somewhere to go? 😂 you simp for mom - be with her. 🤷‍♀️ I would seriously ghosting them all 😂 just not answering or anything. Get divorced. Find someone els. Make a family and never look back. Even if you did wrong, you’re not mentally ill and need to hospitalized. You are not mad/crazy. But you did something really stupid. That’s it.

Story 1-not the ahole op would be one if she didn’t have pics of the dad it sounded like he was coming from a good place Story 2-not the a hole the husband betrayed the trust of op like they talked bout it before Story 3-not the a hole the father was the a hole for saying what he said Story 4-the family sucks I’ve dealt with mildew before not fun

1st story: i am a bit in that ex's shoes. i moved on, he should do the same. his daughter have a nice step father and he should appreciate that. anyway, did he seen his daughter's room? maybe that will make him feel more comfortable? 2nd story: IL are jerks and husband is a jerk too and a spineless coward. even to the point of divorce. Now I remember when my daughter was born, the nurse asking her mother what will be the name of the child and me feeling so glad/fulfilled/both for hearing the full name. I thought we give her three names, her mother chosen the first, I chosen the middle two names. My father thought I am a little nuts for that but until now the fact that she have three names used her in school. I was/become a jerk not long time after and that lead to our divorce, gladly though we have a good relation in parenting matters. 3rd story: as I said, I have a daughter. We didn't made any attempts to find her gender, when her mother went to scan asked me if I wanna know and I said that I don't care. People who knew about her pregnancy thought we will have a boy because of some speculations (mothers carrying boys are less sicker than when carrying girls or whatever else), I said that she will be a girl in spite of them, just to have a different opinion, I guess. What if she was born a boy, would I have loved her/him more or less? Our relationship would have been different, but only because of her different life choices. Anyway, the verdict is: the father is a complete AH, the daughters are in a tough position and for their best interest, the mother should get full custody (and hopefully a boyfriend who isn't a complete jerk like their father), someone who may be for them a good role-model.

Story 3: that nigga is hilarious🤣🤣😂🤣😂

The wardrobe lady, yes you are the Ahole. It’s not your house. You can’t just start smashing walls open. You say you had to move home because of the pandemic, but you are both still working? Sounds fishy and you should have made other arrangements before destroying her home

Story 1. Don't do that. Wait until he is stepdad at least. A boyfriend replacing the father would be gutwrenching. My reaction to seeing this would be seeking more custody as a father. Expecting photos with him around the house is absurd, but the people of Reddit seem heartless

1st story, NTA. Your bf is becoming part of your and her family, you are allowed to have whatever pictures you want. However I do believe maybe getting a photo with you your ex and your daughter could be good for her to see that even tho you left her dad, she is still the main focus for both of you. And of course she talks about your bf a lot. She’s a child, he’s new and unknown to her. She’s curious and interested in him. It doesn’t mean he will replace him as her father. But it is also good that it sounds like your bf can be another positive male role model in her life and your ex should be happy about that

Last story why not just remove the wardrobe instead of busting up property

Story 1 OMG OP its your apartment. Ex needs to get over it. OP NTA. This is what happens in divorce type situations. His next GF isn't going to want to have a pic of you in his place and will ultimately want it gone. Next story. OP can get this unraveled. Go to registrar's office and say a mistake was made go from there. OP NTA I also would consider a divorce. Last story OP YTA. The way OP should have handled this would be to bring in a professional. OP also doesn't know how to remediate mold. Remediating this problem would require the whole family to move out for a matter of time. What OP has done has also put other people in the household at risk.

That second story has me pissed. That guy has to be breastfeeding still with the amount of sucking up he's doing for his family. Drop the dummy like a bad habit cuz that man cares more about getting gold stars and cookies from mommy then your feelings and mental well being.

For story 2: I think they were both shitty in that situation, but the husband was effing terrible. The husband should not have blatantly lied when he intended to name the child after his brother. The worst part was him not even including the name they both picked out. Honestly, that is grounds for divorce in my opinion. Also, I think the wife should have accepted the child being named after the deceased brother. Not because of the family pressure, but because her reason for wanting a different name is silly in my opinion. If the case was different with her wanting the son to be named after her deceased father (hypothetical), I would be expecting the husband to respect that.

Change it

Yeah that last one was definitely a yta situation. Yes you are paying rent, but refuse to pay until the situation is fixed. If you get kicked, you get kicked. Tell em to get a sheriff to start the eviction process if they insist. You do not go destroying property though. You made the spread worse by doing that

I bet she cheated with this new guy. I'm guessing it's going to end badly for the kid.

That second story angers me. I HOPE TO GOD op divorces the husband and changes the baby's name.

Ah, always remember reddit hates men and will always side against them, sorry, but your ex feels like he's being replaced and that needs to be discussed, not ridiculed, your husband lost his brother, sorry but why deny him passing on a name? Never go to reddit, they're way too pro divorce and don't believe in working things out, "he's an ex for a reason" yeah? And it could be any reason,I swear, I hate my own gender so much.

Your ex is lucky you found a man who loves your kid as much as he does and he should appreciate that it took me years to realize that. And once I did I stop being jealous and I started being thankful.

Story 1 My first question is, who cheated first?

Oh my God the boyfriend in the first story is such a good stepdad

Muzica nu e la mine!

Husband shouldn't have done the name behind her back. Horrendous. But he should have just kept arguing. Ultimately, not naming the son after his deceased brother would have "ruined" the situation for him, though. It's really not hard to empathise with him if you have experienced loss. Mostly, I see people naming sons after their dead exes. That's a no, but to not grant this name would be a festering mess. WTAF, though. The father who wanted a son. "Thank God", was toeing the line. But the rest of what he said was utterly despicable.

And the second one everybody keep saying that OP’s reasoning makes no sense. Did everybody forget the fact it up he literally says the reason why she does not like the name is because she feels like it was forced upon her and the husband openly acknowledged that he would not except any other name except that one

Story #2 If she stays with her husband. She is in for one rough ride. That will probably end in divorce. What he did is a deal breaker. Something that important, going behind your back. Trust issues. What happens when his family decides he should go to this college or follow in his passed uncle's foot steps and go military.

As for the pics, I tend to disagree with most of the comments. I understand, she's not married to her new p yet, right`? If that's the case, I don't think she should hang her bf´s pics around the house until they will get married. What if they will break up one day? Will she then hang a pic of the next bf, and or the following boyfriends later?

OP4..if husband joines the bullies he can't be a part of OP's life.

Men should always name their sons

The feminist said get a divorce, screaming feminists are that way because they are bitter,

2:30 well durr. But you got divorced, giving your daughter the worst trauma of her life. So piss off dude.

Grow up people. My dad has changed my name when I was born too, and we all survived.

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First

Story 2: ESH

honestly i dont 100% condemn the guy who lied to get to name his son, with all else happening women are the ones who often get the final say with naming childen and its not really fair. all the other stuff is really shitty but she wpuldnt even consider the name