I'm No Longer Mad At My STBXW and Her AP, Now I Just Feel Nothing But Disdain. Surviving Infidelity

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I'm No Longer Mad At My STBXW and Her AP, Now I Just Feel Nothing But Disdain. Surviving Infidelity

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I caught her in another affair in January. She was also messaging another 2 men but hadn't met with them yet She broke down a few nights later about how she hated being in the house with us(me and 2 kids) and just wanted to leave. Her AP offered to let her move in. So she left me and the kids.
At this point I despise him and what he is doing. He is also still married and my STBXW is living in the house with him, his wife, and his 2 kids. It ripped my heart out and hurt so bad for a while. But now I am just disappointed. He promises he will divorce her soon and marry my STBXW. His wife is apparently unaware of this and is allowing my STBXW to stay because of false statements given to her about me being abusive which is preying upon a past trauma his wife had.
Story 1:
I still hate them but I am not mad anymore.
Story 2:
She Just Won’t Go Away
Story 3:
A little reflection and optimism
Story 4:
One day this week I didn't think about the betrayal until I first sat in my car to drive to work.
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@redditoutloudrelationships1430 3 жыл бұрын

Story 1: I still hate them but I am not mad anymore. Story 2: 5:29 She Just Won’t Go Away Story 3: 9:28 A little reflection and optimism Story 4: 13:29 One day this week I didn't think about the betrayal until I first sat in my car to drive to work.

@trailtrs1 3 жыл бұрын

Stop playing “captain-save-a-Ho”. She has no honor to save. Your kids need to know why the marriage broke up and so do your friends

@supercunthunt7756 3 жыл бұрын

These reddit guys are such simple. Efff her

@Bleg94 3 жыл бұрын

I have to disagree here (on the semantics) honor is something you earn, not something you have so it is more likely that she never even had honor to begin with

@trailtrs1 3 жыл бұрын

@@Bleg94 Exactly

@ChadDidNothingWrong 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah dude he may love them kids, but he doesn't think much of their intelligence I guess. They know someone screwed up.

@dukenukem5766 3 жыл бұрын

She belong to the streets

@kateemma22 3 жыл бұрын

Never forgive a cheater. Never take back a cheater. Never believe a cheater. Never feel bad for a cheater. Never make a sacrifice for a cheater. Never show a cheater any respect. They never thought about anyone but themselves so never think about them. Wipe them from your life and move on to greener pastures proud of the fact you survived a run-in with a monster.

@horusdark4343 3 жыл бұрын

Arrooo

@einsofjehohazabraham5957 3 жыл бұрын

Preach it

@ImperativeGames 3 жыл бұрын

Kill the mutant. Burn the heretic. Purge the unclean. Sorry, I couldn't resist =^_^=

@kinggamerz2838 3 жыл бұрын

Exactly I have always said before a man or woman cheats they fully think about what could happen if they’re caught and they proceed to do it anyway

@RGRaj_1977 3 жыл бұрын

1st OP has no excuse not to reach out to AP's wife.

@afinch823 3 жыл бұрын

I think I said she already knows but they lied and said he’ abused her so she’s okay w it

@ChadDidNothingWrong 3 жыл бұрын

@@afinch823 he has evidence I guarantee you. By his words, I can tell he just doesn't care a whole lot

@rosiecheeks.k 3 жыл бұрын

Right!! I will blowing up spots in that sutuation! Absolutely justified!!

@anon-iraq2655 3 жыл бұрын

He did, they told the wife hes abusive and lying

@suefecteau1306 3 жыл бұрын

@@ChadDidNothingWrong ,

@Mia-dt3gl 3 жыл бұрын

OP in Story 1 made a later post. He is definitely moving forward with divorce, but it’s going to take 8 months and he was asking for advice on dating. So far the Redditors have given him positive feedback about dating and his divorce. OP revealed that he lives in Texas, which is an “at fault” state. Which means that because his STBXW cheated and is currently living with the AP, she’s basically screwed with divorce proceedings. She will also probably be liable to pay for OP’s lawyer.

@THEMADZGaming 3 жыл бұрын

link plz

@Bleg94 3 жыл бұрын

still sounds like too little of a punishment imo ...

@Thatmeowmeow 3 жыл бұрын

@@Bleg94 maybe she shouldn’t have cheated then ?

@Bleg94 3 жыл бұрын

@@Thatmeowmeow ? I meant to little off a punishment for the cheating pos, cheater deserve more punishment

@MisterGreis 3 жыл бұрын

God bless at fault.

@rajakghosh6602 3 жыл бұрын

She is never urs but just ur turn. The best way to deal with cheater is to remove from life like tumour. They lack morality, have no ethics and a narcissistic. Why keep such low value person in life and destroy ur own? The best thing about cheaters when they get cheated upon they try to garner sympathy from others.

@BIGEAGLEDUDE 3 жыл бұрын

First story you need to tell his wife because if you don't she will continue to believe his lies. In addition get a lawyer go for full custody alimony and spousal support and for the house as well. This is somebody who clearly is not thinking of what's in the best interest for children and herself. And be prepared for her to destroy you for daring to destroy her. It's time for both of their worlds to crumble and go up in flames plain and simple

@daviddelaet8116 3 жыл бұрын

1st story, she can't stand being in the house with OP and 2 kids, so she moves into a house with AP, his wife and their 2 kids! All kinds of crazy with this one. Cut your losses and run Forrest run!

@dm9078 3 жыл бұрын

Caught her in another affair. So this was at least the second one. What a fool. He will reconcile! And there is no such thing as Karma.

@KittyKittyPeowPeow 3 жыл бұрын

I don't feel sorry for anyone that takes back a cheating spouse and then has a surprised pikachu face when their cheating spouse cheats on them again. Rather than have dignity, a spine, and some self respect, these people won't just rip the band aid off to continue a facade, no matter who else it hurts.

@tazhienunurbusinezz1703 3 жыл бұрын

A huge mistake a lot of these people make is to blame the other woman or guy (AP) just because it's easier if it's that person's fault. It hurts far more to admit that this partner they loved & trusted so much willingly hurt them that much on purpose so it "must" be the AP's fault. They don't realize that they just gave their own partner both a complete pass & a ready made excuse for when they do it again. Idk why anyone does this but it happens over & over again.

@NerdishGeekish 3 жыл бұрын

Cold contempt (when justified) is the best emotion in the world. It's rocket fuel for a successful life when you wish from the bottom of your heart to be better than those you feel disdain towards.

@heydaddy2471 3 жыл бұрын

I never got cheated cuz i wasn't never in relationship

@sodone466 3 жыл бұрын

I had 4 LTR, 3 cheated, the one that didn't, I just never found out. Count yourself lucky.

@ssjwes 3 жыл бұрын

I had 2 ltr they never cheated that I'm aware of. Maybe because I told them they might end up dead if I found out. The last one used to joke with her family about it "if I end up missing look in his septic tank!" xD Only reason I'm not with that one is because she changed her mind and wanted kids after 6 years so we broke up... at the 10 year mark! Can't believe she wasted 4 years after that...

@ian7064 3 жыл бұрын

Story 2: Sounds like the ex is having buyer's remorse lol

@BIGEAGLEDUDE 3 жыл бұрын

With the Second Story clearly she's getting her karma big time and she wants to get back in your life so that it can stop and quite frankly she wants those good memories back even though she destroyed them. My advice to you is simple tell her either you stop contacting me or else I will get a restraining order against you to where you cannot contact me or come near me And if you do contact me I will have you arrested for criminal trespassing and harassment that's all you got to do. In addition also tell her parents about it as well it may be time for her to be committed. Not to mention she wants to be in control of your life even though you she's no longer in it. Be prepared for a fight that she may be committed to being involuntarily committed to a psych ward.

@shammydammy2610 3 жыл бұрын

Tell you EX wife that if she needs to contact you for anything, to route it through your attorney, and block her.

@strikeforce1500 3 жыл бұрын

1st story: OP, you aren't obligated, but please tell the AP's wife. Don't bother being near with this woman, don't talk about her anything but the kids, don't bother about her opinion, she lost her right to give opinion when she went around being the city's bicycle. Her friends ask about "where she is?" tell them everything. 2nd story: Restraining orders,my mate. She just want you as a safe net.Tell your friends to please block this beach, and block her yourself. And after that, read the Grey rock theory (I think it's the name). 3rd story: ALL HAIL PRENUP. Freak that Beach. "I know I cheated on you, for a year, but never wanted to hurt you", GTFO. It's great you are doing way better OP, and focusing on yourself. 4th story: Great, you are healing OP. You are progressing slowly but surely, live the best life!

@Bleg94 3 жыл бұрын

3rd Story: yeah, like it is such a big surprise that cheating is hurting the (ex)partner

@mjjm8446 3 жыл бұрын

1st story, he needs to clear his name ASAP. It will not look in the courts eyes.

@crocopie 3 жыл бұрын

Ever notice that reddit infidelity stories are mostly the wife creating ?

@Michael-tm6vs 3 жыл бұрын

It could be that about 70% of reddit users are male

@Redwarden1992 3 жыл бұрын

I like the moving on stories, and have been going through a process of moving on myself, though more moving on from some abusive people in my life. My favourite quote in regards to this is simply "A step forward is still a step forward, no matter the size of the stride". Hope anyone else going through the moving on process is doing well. Take care guys!

@lex9172 3 жыл бұрын

I’m still stuck on she let another guy play his ps4 she gotta go just for that 😭

@BIGEAGLEDUDE 3 жыл бұрын

With the 3rd and 4th story keep living and doing you and don't look back and do not let your exes back into your life if they will destroy everything in their process that you rebuild to make you the person that you are today just to make themselves feel good.

@simbatable 3 жыл бұрын

Some Ex's try to reconnect when they feeling like crap and want to see if the other person feels like crap if they aren't they will be when they hang up.

@danacarter9147 3 жыл бұрын

That part where 1st OP's wife was lying to the kids that he was abusing her ₱*&§es me off, because it sounds like parental alienation.

@maheenahmed6653 3 жыл бұрын

First, OP should tell the other wife what’s happening. Second, OP can and absolutely tell his cheating former wife exactly what he thinks of her. And he should be as hurtful as he possibly can.

@Renge43 3 жыл бұрын

The last one gets me I work in town and see an ex often. At first I didn’t want to see him or even help him but now seeing him does nothing for me. To me he’s just another customer.

@brendasprayberry1807 3 жыл бұрын

If she has any deliveries sent to your address Mark return to sender" this person moved" and drop it at post office.

@williamj.dovejr.8613 3 жыл бұрын

Make plans that doesn't include her...watch what happens...

@senzokai3156 2 жыл бұрын

Despite knowing it's wrong, am I the only one who wishes bodily harm on incorrigible, manipulative cheaters who devastate partners for their own selfish reasons?

@chrisd7775 3 жыл бұрын

Dude you want to ruin your wife's little world get in touch with your a p's wife and let her know your not the abuser your wife is your not the one carrying on an affair with her husband your wife is and she's allowing this to happen under her own roof. Then continue to move on and handle wife divorce papers and tell her you want nothing to do with their other than she could go kick sand

@rhcpempire2278 2 жыл бұрын

It grinds my gears when the cheated tries to save the other cheaters dignity, or try and be the bigger Person. You don't play nice with a cheater you go scorch earth on them, destroy there life no mercy its the only time your allowed not to be the bigger person.

@birdybanks5819 3 жыл бұрын

1. Cheating partner and affair partner should both be made to leave the home, never the other way around. And yes, tell family and friends before they gaslight you. 2. She regrets her decisions. Don't talk to her, don't respond. 3. Never look back.

@comfychair4475 3 жыл бұрын

The way of women, when they break up they either want to keep stringing the guy along for validation, or completely break him.

@kush7138 2 жыл бұрын

I love this title card because it explains how I feel for certain family members. Used to hate their decision making and be mad. Used to hate how they keep letting trashy ppl be around them causing drama, but now I feel nothing but disdain towards them and only care from a distance. Deep down I feel that I've lost my specific family members due to the ppl they hang around.

@everymoviehero9248 3 жыл бұрын

Holy fuck the balls on that guy to have wife and ap in the same house 😳

@Mrwillie95 Жыл бұрын

Op wife is just mad that op won’t be her backup plan if things with the AP doesn’t workout

@samanthahyatte04 3 жыл бұрын

So glad I'm not the only one that absolutely DESPISED driving alone. My 30 min commute was Hell each day. I call the noise in my head the "radio". I stayed and worked it out after my husband cheated. Almost 3 yrs later I still think of it atleast once a day... I fear it will never go away.

@bobwoods5017 3 жыл бұрын

It's tough when you married a lying cheater, but its more like you just lost your turn. She cheated on you, she will cheat on the next guy. Women jumps from bed to bed, never looking back except to see how hurt you are. Best to see you with another woman then standing alone in the cold. Men are only desirable when another woman shows interest. We are a strange creature, but its best to realize you didn't own her and owe her nothing, never base your happiness on the actions of others.

@LaviniaKing-hz9ue 8 ай бұрын

--- Stop answering her calls. Get a lawyer and tell the AP's wife and wife's friends the truth. --- She wants to have her cake and eat it too. Just ignore her, she doesn't want you to move on. --- Glad you allowed yourself to ignore her and keep moving on.

@AllieOopsTK 3 жыл бұрын

Never been this early before 🤣

@kingofsnacks8 3 жыл бұрын

Same

@RoleReverse 3 жыл бұрын

I don’t pity cheaters, if I had the power, they’d be tied up in the desert with the vultures pecking at them.

@beverlynaquin1256 3 жыл бұрын

If she sends package to your house return to sender. If she calls and it isn't about kids then hang up

@DummyThiccccc 11 ай бұрын

Did the 3rd story say she wouldn't get anything in divorce because he bought the house before they were together then say later in the post he moved to his parents to save up for his first house?

@ch_rlieb03 3 жыл бұрын

SMH fatherless activities

@ben2808 3 жыл бұрын

Dang. Jesus loves you btw

@danacarter9147 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you. And Jesus loves you, too.😉

@big-unk-1015 3 жыл бұрын

First I’m sorry that you had to go through this . Know this is not your fault none of it . The only thing you are Quilty of is loving her , in my opinion that’s what you are suppose to do . Please stop denying that she is anything but what she is worthless . Stop defending her & stop living in the pain . Tell everyone what she did blow her world up & take your power back 👊🏾

@josepherhardt164 3 жыл бұрын

Well, this video was joyful and uplifting ... >:(

@joshuaokaro773 3 жыл бұрын

Story one he became cold

@blackwolf-hm2hi 3 жыл бұрын

I wonder if I should post on reddit revenge because I slept with my ex's sister after she cheated on me.

@kaedx3387 3 жыл бұрын

Well, that's quite the revenge. That's one scar that she won't be able to hide.

@minggulhasa225 3 жыл бұрын

Be cruel and selfish. The betrayed spouse should think about your 9wn interest not the welfare of the traitor.

@elsaflood6393 3 жыл бұрын

1st story. By not telling APs wife, you are enabling your wife and condoning the affair. Stop treating your cheating wife like a girlfriend. Set boundaries. Have some self respect.

@safiismail497 3 жыл бұрын

how do you deal with a dead bedroom for years omg you must have - IQ like it is obvious she also have needs so if she is not doing it with you who is fulfilling them

@saras7563 3 жыл бұрын

Just return the packages as person unknown, and cut the cord, you are her security net and she is also staying in control by staying in your business,

@Reikotsu 3 жыл бұрын

2nd story’s OP seems to have too much of an inflated ego and also not over the relationship, which makes him read too much into what she is doing. Just don’t give a fuck and stop sounding like she is begging to come back. The true way to get over someone is to give literally zero fucks.

@paranoidboyscout1776 3 жыл бұрын

Story 2... "She canceled her bank account and threw the ATM in the river but she still wants to be able to take money ou"t........

@504gucci4 Жыл бұрын

I'm not nor never been married but I don't understand this dead bedroom stuff ... Why not have a Convo wit wife a while before you think about proposing, and just say something like "it's oka to say no every now & then, but if it goes on for 1-2 months, then we should have a 1-sided open relationship, where I(the husband) can go have sex wit other girls, since you (the wife) sex drive is low now or a divorce" I willing to bet 90% of the time the woman will start initiating sex more often then if she doesn't like option A or B lol

@videofan1010 3 жыл бұрын

Aren't hate and disdain the same thing?

@DennisNeijmeijer 3 жыл бұрын

No hate is active and disdain passive. The opposite of love isn't hate. It's indifference

@Bleg94 3 жыл бұрын

hate is pretty similar with love actually both need passion, but disdain is something you have for someone you consider a lower and disgusting lifeform

@dominnique2773 3 жыл бұрын

Sherade lol

@mathieul4303 3 жыл бұрын

Wtf is that title?

@jasonbernal8593 3 жыл бұрын

First post :go no contact unless it for the kids you need to get all the copies of everything and give it to the Ap wife document document document everything cut contact with the kids go for primary custody she is monkey branching you. Burn her world down you are the man be the man Second and third post cut all contact again document everything get a restraining order. Time to level up get yourself up work out read