Surprise.. another dead-end 🙄

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7 ай бұрын

After trying to study my way out of the hole I feel I am in, imagine my surprise when I find out, yet again, that it is a wasted effort as the course actually leads to nowhere.
nobody accepts it as a route to further education, and nobody accepts it as evidence of experience.
#personalgrowth
#lifeat35

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@allthatjazz9000 4 ай бұрын

I will tell you this, I appreciate your honesty. For real. I'm sick to fck of fake BS in this world! You are extremely honest. Thank you!

@MorbidLyre 7 ай бұрын

Its all to fiddle the numbers to reduce the stats for NEETs and numbers in the Job Centre, they've been playing these games for years unfortunately, its completely disingenuous. But it sees you're second guessing what you want to do now as a result of this situation, don't let this experience taint what its seems you're interested in pursuing. The one thing I would recommend what I should have done myself, is to network somehow. Befriend people doing the same thing at a high level, the more connections you make the better the chances for an inroads into it properly.

@evanBrett95 7 ай бұрын

I don’t try all that much anymore in life I find it liberating tbh I always say the key to life is knowing when to stop and I stopped a few years back now and I’m more calm than ever

@Add- 7 ай бұрын

Something I need to learn and not let it hit like a negative impact. Knowing when to stop and put that energy elsewhere. Always feels that I call it a day right before things would land.. usually seems me burning out going nowhere through almost fear, of falling short too soon

@bibilym4514 7 ай бұрын

Please keep going. We’re all right there with you. I can totally relate to this rn in my life. Maybe the program itself isn’t meant for you? Maybe you do this new thing that you enjoy through a different avenue? Keep going, and keep looking for those little moments of happiness as you go through this season in your life. I have to believe that things will get better, it may taking a f*cking long time, but they will.

@Mada_94_ 7 ай бұрын

This is exactly how I feel in my career. I'm doing it just for the money but I hate it, it makes me depressed sick and burnt out. But at the same time, I have a dream to buy a house and I need the money. So I keep going even though everyday it gets worse. It feels like I'm selling my soul to the Devil. And I don't know how to get out of this situation. 😢😭

@Add- 7 ай бұрын

Its a fine line, my personal findings are, you can sell your soul for money, but the cost of that is huge on the individual mentally etc. Or you can sell your future for a job that seems to be a good fit, but they simply don't pay what you need for the plan you have

@Allysroadtorecovery 7 ай бұрын

Adam I know how you feel I was trying to get on a Level 3 I.T course which was being advertised. Contacted the training provider and they said are only currently rolling out the level 2. ( I'm already qualified at a level 2 level ) So like yourself trying to further insprove myself and it feels like I'm banting my head against the wall. My mental health has recently been horrendous. Stay strong brother I wholeheartedly relate

@lukemabela5143 7 ай бұрын

Adam your right about those goverment course's. Alot like the college courses many of them are just fillers so they can say they offered so many thousand new courses for adults. Many jobs unfortunately are just from connections. Unless you start your own, finding your own way to make money unfortunately.

@pinchpunch1109 7 ай бұрын

Damn, this video really reminds me why I decided to leave the UK. You call it bumps in the road and brick walls. I used to call them hidden turds around the corner. 100% empathize with the frustration.

@simplelifeinjapan5353 7 ай бұрын

Same reason I left the UK man

@akashohja7563 7 ай бұрын

You are the best!!

@joejo4549 7 ай бұрын

I agree with everything you say

@christucker7328 7 ай бұрын

Is it possible for you to go back to University to study for an Engineering Degree, that you were pursuing years ago ? It will give you something to focus on. It sounds like you have a good ability and that you're really passionate and interested in it. Have a chat with course coordinator, tell them you couldn't complete the course due to medical problems and that you are really interested in enrolling. It's never too late to follow your passions and interests. I know people whom went back to University in their thirties.

@grandiosa86 7 ай бұрын

I feel this in my bones man. Exactly what I am going through. Especially the thing with chipping off, it feels like I get chipped off a little every day.

@eightsprites 7 ай бұрын

You go over the obstacle, or around it, or digg under it, or get something heavy and go through it. You got this. Regarding courses, its what you learn in them, not who tought it. Im sure you now can pass an other level2 easy when you get the chance.

@IRLWojak 3 ай бұрын

I did this a few times last year...wasted about $10,000, it really makes you wonder what to do if it always seems like who you know is what matters most...I am 44 and I have been running these hoops since 2009, I am trying to think outside the box for my own path because I have been kicked out of society at large. I feel like you, I am no longer sure when I do something if I am doing because I feel like I need to be doing something to benefit myself, sadly, it does become a matter of chasing the wrong dream...are you doing it for you or are you doing it because you feel that you have to do it. I can't live my life doing things that I think that I have to do, especially when everything is a dead end for me as well. My channel is a lot like yours, don't feel bad, I am 44 now and I would advise thinking outside the box rather than waiting as time as I did. I would have been better off taking an alternative path a long time ago as opposed to trying to appease what I thought was success.

@melissavs6673 7 ай бұрын

Hey 👋 Adam, I think you are very courageous sharing with us that once again your hard work seems to have brought you to another dead end. I know that there is positives from what you have achieved already but it's pretty soul destroying that our government only helps people to a certain level ,paying for them to get to a level to get them to take the jobs they want filled. Please remember how amazing you have been, just getting to this point. You sorted funding and learnt. You didn't have to do a thing but you have shown you are determined! If I was an employee and I'd watch you, I'd definitely trust you and want you to work for my company because you are determined and you push yourself. You have a lot to offer the world! You are showing people it's not their fault! Those of us in your position are endlessly trying and nobody sees it. We are determined and the help we are offered leaves us broken and feeling its us. Yet you are helping us realise it's set up like this and unless we got to college and university and/ or get chances through family and friends in the know, we are left at a level where we don't have the choices to thrive in the jobs or education we choose or can afford. Thank you for being brave and fighting on and showing the world what the uk, does to those who want to thrive. I'm back at college at 41, I have been where you are and I kinda still am. Don't let anyone rush you, you have time and you deserve to have the future you want. If a parent of yours dosnt understand ( like mine) you will show them one day how happy you are, when you have got where you want and you can show them with your happiness, just why you didn't get trapped in a job that caused you to be miserable. Some people will never see why you need to succeed in what you enjoy, but some of us can't emotionally cope doing something that gets us down. You are fighting for a better life! I believe in you ! and so do all the people on here with all the love and support for you. Thank you for sharing with us . 😊 Melissa P.s I apologise I can't find a different email to make contact. I've tried looking at your info out of the app but I'm not very good at this stuff. 🤗

@Add- 7 ай бұрын

Bless you Melissa, you kind words of support as always, I really appreciate them, from people facing the same things and doing their own work to get through their own battles. It means a lot. As much as a lot of people thank me for sharing to help them, I thank you for sharing as it helps me too. As for the email. In a web browser go to my channel. Next to my face should be some text, clicking that text should pup up a box that have a contact email (might not jave the email, might say something like 'for business enquiries) give it a poke. If all else fails get back to me

@melissavs6673 7 ай бұрын

@Add- Hey Adam 👋 Thank you! ✨️ I'm off to Sheffield tonight, heading to London from Kent 1st & I will be seeing my babies 😊 (age 19 and 2l 😁) . I will ask them to help me look on the Web browser and find your email. 👍 I Hope you are doing as well as possible and there are a few things you have to look forward to in the new year. 😊... its also OK if you dread another repeat of history on its way. Its very hard for those who try so hard to make positive changes so the next year is different and some how more liveable. It's been a little crazy here as a friend who did something that crossed the lines to me, has gone missing. The police have been to my home twice today and once yesterday. The friend has threatened his life to manipulate women before, but also something may have happened to him... I must say the police have been understanding and kind to me, but this Christmas will be another one where I'm left not having a clue if choices I've made to help others and improve their lives and mine have have gone boobs up. I know it's a very different thing to your issues but again, I relate to you because I am always pushing to better my life, give back to society by being a good person and making people smile. My friend cried with joy when I last saw him as i made his birthday the best he had ever had, he felt cared for and hopeful and yet stepped over a line that eve when I was vulnerable and caused me to relieve past trauma. He has now gone missing and threatened his life and I'm the only friend he had so police are coming to me for help. I don't knownif it's to get my attention as I'd had to back of as I feel creeped out about what he did, yet I still care. What I guess I'm saying is , it's hard to change who we are and yet being who we are can lead to nowhere or negative things and all we have done is be good, kind and try our best to do better. I know what I say, everyone can see, and I don't mind as I have nothing to be ashamed of. I just wanted to say that I hope you and I and other people here that care for you will continue to be the people they are because its not our fault that society and some people can take advantage at our most vulnerable, but we are not to blame. Its set up to keep us down and to know where we stand, but I do hoe you carry on being the person you are and never give up on finding what makes you happy. We have 1 life and we all deserve to thrive and feel happiness, no matter what others around us may suggest and advise or do to us, we deserve that right to be ourselves, to have people around us that are good for our souls and to find our joy. Big hugs, take care. Melissa ✨️

@rebeccamouse9294 7 ай бұрын

In reading stories of people your age who have been in your situation and gotten out…they all got out of the situation by taking a seemingly dead end non career job and being extremely consistent with it. Showing up. Not worrying about advancement. Just showing up, head down, doing the work. Very very often the most reliable people get promoted or make contacts that open doors for them. Just get a job. Stick with it. After a few years your situation will be different if you just show up consistently and be the most reliable person there. Stop trying to make plans and figuring things out ahead of time. People who progress beyond being jobless and living with their parents at your age seem to do it by accepting it is an iterative process.

@michaelanderson7708 7 ай бұрын

Very good advice

@michaelanderson7708 7 ай бұрын

You sell your infinite time on this planet for money, thats a job. You dont need to enjoy it.

@nonefvnfvnjnjnjevjenjvonej3384 7 ай бұрын

also the honest thing is the uk is really shit. ran by people who dont care anymore. moving is possible is a much better option.

@BanjoPixelSnack 7 ай бұрын

100% agree

@Add- 7 ай бұрын

@michaelanderson7708 If you have limited time on this planet why would you put 90 % of that time into something that brings you 0 satisfaction 0 joy etc, thats not life thats existing

@simplelifeinjapan5353 7 ай бұрын

I think it’s crazy that such courses exist knowing that they can’t actually provide a further path. It’s more like a “just something to do” course or like a meet up group… just keep pushing man as every moment isn’t predictable. I honestly was at a low point before and never believed I could live in Japan. Just keep trying and experience, understand and grow. Cheering for you!

@Add- 7 ай бұрын

Thanks man, really appreciate the support

@simplelifeinjapan5353 7 ай бұрын

@@Add- no problem I'll always be wishing you success in wellbeing and life. You deserve it after the battles you keep going through

@michelleamywatt5695 7 ай бұрын

You can do this I’m going thru a lot of dead ends at the moment It’s painful

@Ikr2025 7 ай бұрын

We have to just keep persevering in life. Govt depts in particular seem to like to keep throwing road blocks up to stop people progressing and accessing any money or resources. Some of us are too easily discouraged and defeated. We have to change that mindset. Be tenacious. Don’t don’t give up. Keep trying to think of a solution to get where you want to go. Its your journey - maybe it is the journey itself that is important not the destination.

@OtsileM 6 ай бұрын

The knowledge and skills gained are worth something. Try switching to a valued version of a similar course and hopefully the prior knowledge will propel you through.

@IntuitiveAndExhaustive 7 ай бұрын

What are these classes for?

@neazurer 7 ай бұрын

You should do a live stream Adam, you can maybe get suggestions in real time and also interact with your subscribers too. keep well mate :]

@andrewevans482 7 ай бұрын

That’s a knock back for sure, but use this KZfaq thing as a record. (Think you said you would ages ago). You found something you enjoy, that seems like progress compared to the beginning. Now you have an aim. Keep showing up. Easy for me to say, but it looks like there has been progress. I think the other suggestions of uni course seem it might be worth investigation ?

@janettejanners7714 7 ай бұрын

Chin up Adam, I totally understand your frustration, maybe talk to a college and ask if you can get some sort of funding as you’re unable to work, it’s crap I know, but there’s got to be some way of getting help if you make it clear you want to get back into employment again 🙏🙏🙏

@NaikoArt 7 ай бұрын

woof...that sounds fucked, yeah a lot of walls can be either a 'be more persistant' or a 'change your plan' from the universe.

@rebeccamouse9294 7 ай бұрын

So true! It’s so hard to distinguish those!

@alpeaceandlove 7 ай бұрын

Holy smegs man

@a--------------- 7 ай бұрын

damn, I wouldn't have known if you didn't shed light on such scummy tactics.. I believe something will work out for you, I know it will

@joejo4549 7 ай бұрын

Would you want a penpal sort of thing for some accountability? It sounds like your channel is giving you some however

@Add- 7 ай бұрын

I appreciate what you are saying, honestly I feel I am at a point where I need to cut everything down to its minimum so I can focus on 1 thing at a time. All these ups and downs and unknowns are just twisting me upside down and inside out, when I feel I have a handle on something, up comes an obstacle and for whatever reason no matter that obstacle big or small, my mind just goes to pot.

@joejo4549 7 ай бұрын

@@Add- makes sense, i know if i stopped overthinking it'd help me focus on goals and progression instead of worrying about possibilities