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I didn’t know there was a good side of grindr

Grindr is 98% full of nut cases 😂😂😂

I’m a 66yr old gay man in a committed 48 yr relationship. I applaud your responsibility. Keep setting this great example for other gay men. Bravo, young man. Hope you have a great, happy and healthy life.

It's like fast food but for sex. Quick, anonymous and cheap.

“I don’t care because I’m on PrEP” Larry Kramer we need you.

You're different than the other gay guys on youtube talking about Grindr and I appreciate it. The way you talk is thoughtful and very well structured, filled with respect for understanding and personal space. Thanks for the video.

With enough time spent on grindr, you find out all of the app is the dark side lol.

You're the rare and precious (and cute) gay man, as it seems all gays are on prep and doing bb, none of them care, they just want to have sex and as much as possible of it. Just like open relationships are so common with gay couples, i find all of that really bad. I miss regular humans like you, you're so nice and cute.

As a straight female, I've come across men that don't want protection.. Even with protection you can possibly get infection. Be smart and protect yourself. I'm sure you love your life.

Thanks for encouragement GB❤

Thanks so much for sharing, I thought of the same thing and it's good to know that others are thinking the same thing.

I'm bi but I've never been with a guy in any way, and the fact that I'm overly cautious makes me wanna stat away from things like grindr. I kinda just want to meet a guy in person, you know?

This is a very intelligent and necessary video. Thank you for making a video that explores promiscuity and self-destructive behavior among gay men.

Lmao I was smoking a cig outside on my porch and my headphones fucked up so all you hear is “the dark side of Grindr” loud as fuck 😂😂😂

Very smart! I always ask about hiv status and I ask about herpes status. There are so many diseases out there. I agree with you about herpes!

im a straight 64 year old woman but youre a very smart man. they should listen to you.and what you said goes for straight people too. i mean.all the incurable diseases out there should make anyone gay or straight whos single think of being intimate with anyone they havent known for a very long time.its scary out there.

I like your attitude and I'm glad you put this out on your video people need to get into their heads.

Well said! X❤️

I will ALWAYS play it safe no matter what or who it is. I'm not risking my health just for him or anyone. I truly don't know if I could be in a relationship if the guy was positive? Being in a relationship and having to get tested every few months just doesn't sit right and it would always be on my mind and even stress me out. So I don't get why some guys think just because they're on prEp that it's all good and care free. It's my health...my life.

Keven, I'll give you a real answer: I'm 51, Gen X. I'm certain you've heard this before. I'm not a Luddite or anti-technology in any way, but even though gay dating has always been a challenge, I really feel it's worse than ever because of social media and I don't think I need to outline the reasons. I truly miss the days when I would go to a bar (Woodies in Philadelphia, Private Eyes when stationed in Norfolk). I met my first boyfriend (a Corpsman) at a bar. Our eyes locked from across the dance floor. It sounds like a cliche', but it was truly a special moment. We exchanged numbers using a pencil and piece of paper and were together for 7 years. Now, you go to a bar and people are looking down at their phones. I've used multiple platforms and probably met hundreds of guys, fakes, crack-heads and so-forth. I truly believe there will be a backlash at some point and we will realize social media is a worthless, time-stealing and money-grubbing endeavor. There is no substitute for meeting in real life. As I type, you cannot see me. You don't know if I'm being serious, sarcastic or otherwise, because you cannot see the inflections or nuances from reading a cold string of sentences by an anonymous user. To me, that is chilling. Emojis are worthless. I challenge my gay brothers/sisters to put down the phone for just one week. Do an experiment on yourself: buy a regular flip phone that only has the capacity to call people in case of emergency. Go out to a bar, restaurant, coffee shop and strike up a real conversation. I think we will all be surprised. I feel it is my obligation to generate an opposition to this nonsense. It is ruining lives and all the advice in the world regarding the navigation of cyberspace will (at this point) continue to anger and frustrate. They say the definition of insanity is to do the same thing over and over expecting a different result. Try to do something different. What have we got to lose?

Valuable information, all in when it comes to protect Myself 🌈🌈

Wise words. I kept watching the video while nodding. I couldn't agree more on how reckless many gay men live their sexual lives. I recently got tested for HIV and the doctor asked me if I wanted to get a complete blood count. I didn't know all three kinds of hepatitis can be transmitted sexually. That's why this "prep" argument is quite lame and laughable.

Reply to a comment - Great to see someone speak up on common sense. It’s also alarming how easily guys believe that their hookup has taken the Prep everyday & consistently for it to be maximized. And there are strains of HIV that have shown to be resistant to Prep.. Also I know it seems like gay guys just give in to open relationships, but the truth is we need more examples of monogamy in the community cos it does exist & is possible too. Open relationships are more visible & loud. Monogamy is more quiet & content but its there & possible none the less.

Now this is a smart young man. Well done, Sir. Keep up that maturity and resposibility. It will serve you well your entire life.

Keven, you seem like a super thoughtful guy. I applaud you for trying to reach out to this person, but not at all surprised they were not interested in listening. You know what they say - You can lead a horse to water ... Having met someone years ago before all the social media / hook-up apps, I find the entire concept really bizarre. I always tell people - go live your live doing whatever YOU enjoy doing. That's where you'll meet the man of your dreams! Good luck to you and maybe we'll cross paths some time in FLL!

Its good for you to be secured and aware of what you are doing especially when you take the inititive and get involved with those random ppl on these apps 😘

I understand, many guys dont care, they dont understand about consecuences in a basic level as their own body, they dont understand why do flavored condoms exist. This Is one of the main reasons at 28 i am still virgin, many men are careless about sexual health and commitment. I hope more guys think like you do. Regards from México 🇲🇽

Just know your limits. No condom no sex... is the absolute golden rule with absolutely everyone. Second golden rule is do not mix sex and drugs.... that is so so important that I can not emphasise it enough..!!!!!

Had a similar experience this week on my birthday. Guy wanted to hookup but ghosted me after I wasn’t interested in BB.

my partner of 14 years left me last year so I was forced to go on Grindr and I feel like I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life.

Will as you said you open to all possibilities...mine is drinks even diner if you are up to it ..I would like to hear what else concerns you

If this is the darkest experience you’ve had on Grindr you’re fortunate. Oh and Truvada is the name of one of the drugs prescribed for HIV prevention in negative individuals…the other is Descovy. “Prep” is just a slang term used for these two drugs when they are used for prevention.

some gay men are unfortunately on an unconscious self destructive path through self-hate, doubt and societal marginalization.

Exactly!!!!! What about all the other STDs besides HIV. I don't think anybody on Grindr even thinks about that, but they should. Thanks for your video

I agree. Not interested in having sex with someone I don’t like and love. I’ve got bigger fish to fry.

WOW. You just described of friend of mine who's in his 50's who does that. He doesn't live in Miami though. Same friend is also into open relationships and will not seriously date anyone who is not into open relationships as well.

Heard of Grindr but wouldn't ever sign up. You are very valid in your points about other STD's My friend had a saying "a stiff dick has no conscience. Never think with the wrong head.

great reflection, think similar.

I agree! I like intelligence and humor. I’m off put by someone who is reckless!

Spot on. You're gorgeous. Hope to come across you on grindr some day ;)

That is strange that he thinks Prep is going to stop everything. Just like you, I am afraid of Herpes and the need to tell partners the same as HIV.

I like that your smart & you think about things like that. I am the same way. And I feel like a lot of guys are so ignorant and risky in there behavior and all they think about is as long as they don't get HIV but what about all the other diseases, some of those don't go away with a shot or pill. they stay with you you're whole life. and why would you be willing to risk other people's health?

❤ Smart ! 😊 Stay safe ! ❤

Commercials now on TV state Truvada caused severe problems!

It's gonna pretty scary the gay culture in Indonesia with the grind and HIV detection. well, I see your video uploaded 3 years ago and I just see your youtube video, which was probably the same time in my local place "Surabaya" there was seminars who cancelled by police and some religious people because the seminar tells about "Prevention of HIV from homosexual activity" (#BeraniParty). Because Indonesian people are mostly are Muslim, the biggest unreasonable reason is “for disturbing the public”. But here's the crazy thing, a lot of Indonesian gays are connected and concentrated in big cities like Surabaya, Jakarta, Bandung, they know each other because of Grindr, Twitter, Blued or any gay social media. The good is that kinda sort of a local NGO that cares about HIV but they scare about personal identity, so their campaign with these social media anonymously. However, Grindr culture is the same as your video, they don't care if prep, herpes or not, you hook up then feel great about having sex the go out. it getting worse with society backlash about Gay. first the lack of education about HIV and the stigma with it, second people are usually taking their "Straight Medicine" with marry a woman, because our religion said it is sin and will be forgiven if you marry a woman (But still even after marriage you can still search hook up with Grindr marry culture), lastly according to PBS that HIV transmission highly concentrated from childbirth or woman who gets infected from a man. soo yeah, even there's any local NGO concern about HIV, but remember first the stigma from society, the second you're gay and people don't like it because of religion, third your gay culture same with me, fourth there any "straight medicine" with a loophole. last but least people love raw and do it because they are afraid to buy a condom publicly. so yeah, 101 become gay in Indonesia is just be under the radar and play safe **sorry for my English and grammar error if you notice it

just hope you know that people live their own lives. if they wanna be reckless then let them do that. you cant really be surprised...

I agree with you. Safe is always best! If you date awhile go get checked together, make a special event out of it. You already know it, but you're really cute

A lot of people use prep this way. Not a great plan. My lover and I have lost friends to AIDS over the years. I met my lover when I was 19. Have been in a committed relationship with him for 56 years. Way before the AIDS outbreak.

thats why i go in a fast lil date first cuz ppl crazy and dont look there pic also. dont trust anybody idont care about prep

use a condom, period, my personal opinion about prep is that if the person suffer from sex addiction or the person job is a prostitute, then use it, but for casual sex, a stash of condoms is mandatory and you will be just fine, protected, for me grinder is not to make new friends but to hook up a quickie.

Where do people like you hang out. I love the head on your shoulders. I'm single and will stay that way, TILL I get to know that person very well. Since I'm not looking it most likely it won't happen. The bright side of this is I'm stressed free from people that dont have their lives together. And are careless and uncaring.

Me watching this even tho I don’t nor will I download Grindr

Honestly. If you don't wanna catch anything. Don't get with anyone or... Get tested first.

OMG! Safe sex, it's self explanatory...

I think PREP is the generic name and TRUVADA is an actual prep drug name. Like saying aspirin is generic and TYLENOL, ADVIL, and EXCEDRIN is the drug name. I think they have different kinds of prep drugs other than TRUVADA, same results, but owned by different companies, they'll probably start advertising them soon. TRUVADA is the only one I see being advertised right now.

Hi seriously about the rise of hivin Miami ...I just landed in Miami for design Miami .....nice intelligent wake up call to so many clueless people

👍👍👍👍❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤much love from Thailand. You are so charming.

Kev I hope your attitude towards prep has change since 2018. I have no clue why this is in my feed years later. No more slut shaming...okay?

do you have sublimnal messages in your video ?? cuz i can clearly hear the voices

Good for you., your body your choice.. Its good you found out he barebacks before your naked. Long term AIDS survivor here since 1989 Remember World AIDS Day is DEC.1 rst

Thanks to prep stds are spreading like crazy . When are we going to learn

good good

You mean there's a bright side?

Truvada is PreP

What even go on the app and take the risk? Seriously? You are attractive and seem intelligent, why do this?

Grindr. Deleted few times. I don't have an idea why I'm still on it. Awful place. People are unreal. In the last 5-6 years I haven't made any kind of relationship on Grindr apart from a few hook up. Isn't worth it.

Can We Meet ?

The ignorance is unreal!

Sorry but what is prep?

rawlivesmatter

how are you? What are you thinking about History about HIV????? do you have some information about another of Side?

it's really creepy app. Criminals can disguise themselves as bi or gay and murder someone for the sake of h8 crimes. GrinDr is just for bed fun not for a good boyfriend / husband relationships.

lol

I love you

alot of dl undetectable guys ask this without ever disclosing there status.. I personally only hookup w ppl as paranoid about safe sex as me.. if a guy mentions anything about raw I stop responding cause if he's willing to do it with a stranger he clearly has done it with plenty others before

Basically the dark side of some gay men.

Peoole are hornby.

There is no one , no matter how great you are or how bad they are , there's always a dark side and a good side

My few experiences on Grindr were all negative. I disabled it after a few months of installing it. That was 9 years ago. As regards to this guy, I would have agreed to his request and then block him, and not waste time explaining. I did that too, first I'd say yeah sure and then block. Then again, Grindr IS the dark side of gay interaction.

Grindr app, made by a demon to create sins

Just in terms of having a dating life, you might want to contain the lecture, and just let him know that No, you don't do raw.

Keven the minute a Grindr hook-up (or anyone I just met) asked me right out if I practiced raw sex, I would have said "No, sorry." Got up and walked away." This guy was dangerous.

I most likely wouldn't say it as the dark side of an app. As it is after all a tool that we use. I would say that to any app that allows virtual communication. Even Facebook. That is the downside of all apps if humans are not educated the way that we need to be. With a sudden freedom of hiding behind a screen with no responsibility to anything, people do crazy stuff beyond imagination!

So many complaints about this site. It. Is a hook up site, all about sex. what does one expect?

I feel the gay community are acting irresponsibly these days. We’re fortunate to have medications that treat STDs and HIV, but that doesn’t mean you can go bare with anyone you meet on Grindr!!!

I think life is too short to waste it on phobias. I love raw sex. Sometimes I use condom, sometimes not. I constantly testing + I'm on prep. Everything's ok.

At least the guy was honest about his interest and didn't lie about it and pretend to wear a condom and then slip it off and rawdog him. This kind of stuff and much worse is the real dark side of grindr.

This is such a Judgey video. Most of your videos aren’t like this. I’m kind of disappointed. It’s fine if you don’t like something, don’t do it. But do t shame the people who make that decision f or themselves.

Don't understand why someone would go on "grinder" for a meaningful conversation? I't impolite to speak with your mouth full.

You have to meet people in every DAY LIFE not Dating apps or Cruise ares, IT will happen for you its when your not expecting it that it happens and when it does shove away the insecurity and fear and just say HI, cause thats all it takes. Out in the world, every day life maybe at a book store(not the bathroom) anr some hobby place you like (Not a sex store). If you feel the urge and pull to go some where then go out and check it out, like movies or restaurant or mall or a walk some where or a basketball court ETC, any where !!!!!!