❤️ You're not alone in this world. Don't give up.

Hugs!

Your circumstances are rough, no denying it. But when you consider continuing to transition, it the choice of the chance to make happiness versus the anguish you’ve already experienced. You may not be able to regain all that you’ve lost but with patience and love you should be able to rekindle the relationship with your daughter. You are headlong into the awkward phase of transition, it does get easier (practice, practice, practice).

“I think I’ve forgotten that pain, replaced by the pain of loss” Ouch… that hurts… I can totally relate to that frase. I lost my relationship, my beautiful flat, my job and income, moved back to my home country and left the life I had built for myself in Spain behind. They were all my decisions, because I felt it was finally time for me to face my demons. I’ve been grieving my losses for 2 years, often thinking I had made a mistake, and if you ask me now: Has it been worth it? My answer is: I don’t know, I’m still not ‘there’ yet. But I try to remember that it also took me years to build a life abroad. You and I are starting from scratch again. We need time. But we’re impatient because we feel we’ve already wasted a lot of time. (I’ve just turned 50) Thank you for sharing your story and thoughts. I wish you all the best 🧡

I can 100% relate. I'm very truly sorry, I know what you are going through. I'm struggling so bad now, I feel so lost and so alone. I can't understand how others would rather have you miserable and unhappy, than simply tolerate the changes made to yourself, which do not physically hurt, or take away from those rejecting you. I've come to terms with being alone the rest of my life. Being able to be "ME" alone, is better than being something I'm not, surrounded by others. It's the lesser of two evils for me.

So much of your story echoes my own experience. My heart goes out to you. Though there are differences I can definitely say that I've been there. Courage sister, we're all here for you.

@Daisy B I know its scary as the protective layer (facial hair, masculine clothes, fake persona etc) starts to chip away from you. But the person underneath is way more powerful and stronger.

It’s definitely hard, especially while you’re closeted and that stage once you’re out but can’t transition - but after you start being yourself you will notice a big difference.

Don’t give up! Believe in yourself.

One step at a time. One step at a time. Assess how things feel. The calming is a positive affirming so far so thats great. With time, injections will get easier.

@@DRZPHD thank you for the advice :)

I love that you shared that. Thank you.

💖 i really love this, thanks for sharing!

Wishing you all the best!

So glad to hear!

Oh, this is a good thing to read -- thank you! I have worked out pretty obsessively for a long time trying to prove myself to myself somehow... but funny, I always gravitated to the female athletes as role models... hmmm. My first early baby steps to explore my femme side have been fraught, with many of the pitfalls Dr. Z addresses, but I am already feeling like it is getting easier and feeling better. A little less upstream for sure - yay!

That’s so great!

I am so sorry to hear of your pain.

So sorry to hear about marriage ending. That must be very hard.

I understand how you feel about that...my wife is leaving me and can't stand to see me as my true self, blessings to you my friend we will be alright.

1990 ended 2000 ended She wants masculine

I hear you. IT can fee overwhelming too. Remember to take time to just be vs doing things all the time.

Thanks for sharing and I wish you all the best.

Thanks for sharing.

Wow that video must be so powerful!!! I think the currant can be so many things in our lives.

Link? Asking for a friend

So glad to hear and thanks for feedback. This way I know I can keep moving forward with it

Wishing you all the best.

Glad to be of any help. Wishing you all the best.

Thats so great to hear.

Thank you!!!

It really is!

SO so happy for you. Dont get out of the waters you belong to.

So sorry to hear.

You are so welcome.

Yes thats very true. Self reflection often gets muddle with dysphoria.

Ohh such a great point. Thank you.

Thank you so much for sharing! I am so excited for you and believe you have everything within you to handle what comes your way. When one is on true path, things start lining up for you.

Glad it was helpful! I am so sorry about your struggles.

Glad you enjoyed it!

Thank you so much. I do believe communicating ideas and concepts is my true strength.

Glad you liked it.

Wow powerful lyrics. Thanks for sharing this.

Ohh shit thanks for letting me know.

I am so sorry to hear. That sounds very rough.

@@DRZPHD though my family was supportive, I went to a single gender school. I'm doing so much better now!

You can do it. Whats the worst? You realize the new waters are too much? Better than being stuck in waters you know and are sick off.

Thanks for sharing and good luck with the therapist. Sorry I dont answer DMs on there because I get so many.

So sorry to hear of your challenges. Hope things will get better soon.

I am so sorry to hear. Fear is a common block for so many.

I hear you. We as humans generally speaking dont like change.

I so hear you on this.

Very well said. Thank you for expressing it.

Ohh no!

Glad it was helpful. I have many videos discussing fear and will do another one as it’s a big and important topic.

I am so sorry to hear. We often go to large length to see parental approval.

@@DRZPHD I don't have somebody to lean on. My sole request of my parents is that they comprehend my situation. But all they do is hurt me on a variety of levels. They are apprehensive of me because they are concerned about what their community would think. I couldn't explain and make myself grasp and accept things as a psychology student, and they're simply adding to that weight.

Ohh so so sorry about. It is so hard when one can't have access to most necessary things such as hormones.

@@DRZPHD It is. Its also why Im working that much to be kinder to myself in what will be a short time

I feel that! I'm big on options, and I don't know if I'm afraid to transition cus of *gestures to everything*, or if I just want the option to chose masc or fem depending on the day. It's starting to get quite exhausting.

@NeonJedi often if there is an inner one identity vs having options so to speak, you will start feeling tension pulling in that direction. If no tension, just enjoy options, thats great too.

Thank you for sharing and I wish you all the best.

Ohh wow I so hear you! Yes, nobody will get it excited for trans folks even sometimes younger generation may not really get the opposition of current as much as older generation.

@@DRZPHD ah, I've gone out and tried to give subtle hints to the younger adult trans folk I know, mostly women. They don't want to hear what I have to offer. And now we're at a point where trying to help both cis and trans understand there always needs a balance. Instead, this trans 'issue' has become the front line on what's to come. Unfortunately, having lived in the world as a cishet man, I was more aware of how we are still so primitive and that if one of us walks in with horns down, expect them to get locked. Can't reason with anyone. And if cis ppl only knew how being trans is similar to autism is various ways, these days I see even more evidence of this than ever before. But I suppose I suffered my own trials with autism. The world may never understand us, but there are still plenty of people at least willing to try. That's gotta count for something, right? Cheers.

Hi. Thanks for sharing and while this channel is solely focused on gender info, I do support Ukraine on other platforms.

@@DRZPHD thank you for your reply! I'm glad that you support Ukraine. Could you please tell a little bit more about the platforms where you approach this topic?

I totally hear you. The first step is to even realize you are swimming against it.

I am so sorry to hear.

So sorry to hear!

@@DRZPHD thank you, Doctor

Thats common.

Damn I am so sorry. Those are very very hard waters to navigate and sometimes the choices are gonna be down to how you feel about everything vs what you can actually do.

Why don't you think transition is the correction? For those that do not suffer from it, it's IMPOSSIBLE for those to relate or even begin to understand. Why is it that those who are not transgender, go out of the way to discriminate, belittle and dismiss it?... I did not just wake up one day after 5 decade's, and decide to ruin my life, family and business. If you feel it is a metal disorder, why isn't there sympathy and empathy for those who suffer from it?. Autism, Alzheimer's etc, are disorders, do you diminish those who are afflicted with those disorders?... Does Transgender individuals take money from your account, food off of your table or cost you your professional career? Why the hate then?

@@miltonbillings9967 I agree that it’s a disorder and I have sympathy for those that suffer with it. That’s why I’m asking the question. But with other disorders where people feel the world different from reality like body dysmorphia, the treatment is never to have that individual continual believing the false reality. I want transgendered individuals to get all the help they need, but I’m just confused with the push in transition treatment

Did it occur to you that maybe just possibly that it's somehow genetically caused. The human brain develops before the body. Hormones from the mother bathe the brain. Could it be possible that somehow someway something got messed up in the oven? You know if that's the case, Transgender individuals are not living a so called false reality. They are living with two different situations. Female wiring and a stick shift transmission. Try living life feeling and knowing one thing, but seeing and being housed in a total opposite body. It doesn't match. I can't remember the name of hand, but there was a drug, that was giving to women in the 60's to early 70's that miscarried a child, to prevent it from happening again. FDA banned it's use early 70's because of gene 🧬 problems. Children at a high percentage were homosexual, born XXY..XYY, XXX, ETC.... it caused havoc in development in the womb. I happen to be born after my mother had taken that drug. Is it the reason I am what I am??? Who knows. I can tell you it's a living hell. Every second of every day you are being screamed at from inside your head. The brain, bones and soul knows, but the eyes can't see it. So the brain works hard to correct it, but it's impossible. So then things get crazy. Depression, sadness, isolation. You can never feel comfortable. I denied it, tried to live with, fought it. It never EVER goes away. I just one day woke up and said...I MUST AT LEAST RECOGNIZE AND SEEK PROFESSIONAL ADVISE. I didn't want to live any longer. My responsibilities of family and my own company kept me from addressing it for years. I got the kids through college, paid down mortgage and had a come to Jesus meeting with my wife. She actually told me, she knew something was off about me, but couldn't put her finger on it. It suddenly became clear to here the problem. To her it made sense, to me it still doesn't. I can tell you though, after a week on Hormone replacement, I felt incredibly better. Colors are brighter, smells are stronger. I can get out of bed easier....That was 2 years ago. Life got better. I've got surgeries scheduled to complete my transition. I look 15yrs younger. Highway patrol officer told me to renew my license, as I look younger and much different than my old picture. It's not that I'm being enabled, I'm being cured. The fact you can't comprehend it, doesn't mean the steps taken to fix it, isn't the fix. I'm telling you it is. I have absolutely nothing to prove to you, and honestly could careless what you think. I'm living proof transgender is a thing and transitioning is medically necessary. You wouldn't go around with a broken leg would you, why would you expect a Transgender individual to do it....

@Albert Fralinger thats a valid question to ask. Gender Dysphoria is considered primarily a medical phenomenon by majority of clinicians. The symptoms of a medical condition such as depression, anxiety, sucidal thoughts, etc, which are psychological, hence cause a cluster diagnosis which we currently have in DSM. However, since it is medical, once you fix/correct (for better lack of words) the physical, the mind symptoms tend do either completely go away or tremendously decrease for many. As a result, transition is a viable treatment that focuses on medical physical elements vs psychological. For example, people who are going through cancer also suffer with depression but depression is a by product of going though cancer. Once they finish treatments and are able to resume their life, for majority, depression goes away. Hence we dont say cancer is a psychological disorder. Similarly, people who have body dysmorphia for example an eating disorder , if they are persuaded that it is OK to be skinny, they literally will starve to death and dye as there is no "stopping threshold" in their mind space about what skinny truly is as it is a mirage conception. Whereas transgender people, if we tried to, for example, use conversion therapy, which we have stupidly in the past, people literally committed suicides. So as you can see, if we fix the physical, the psychological goes away. Hope this clarifies.