Thank you for the encouragement. I pray the book will be a blessing to you and your marriage!

Amanda Hugnkiss- We all need little friendly, encouraging nudges and reminders sometimes. So glad we have the Body of Christ to help us grow.

Kingdom Manhood - 1. Did you ever cheat on your husband? We have been married 26 years now. Early on in our marriage, I assumed I was "above" adultery. I didn't know anything about guarding my heart. I was very friendly with other guys and assumed they would respect that I was married. I ended up with feelings of infatuation for a guy in 1995. It scared me to death. I realized that I was not above adultery and that it was prideful for me to think I was. Thankfully, nothing really happened other than that I talked with the guy. But that was bad enough. It was a wakeup call, though. I saw how easily I could have destroyed my life. It was very sobering. After that, I was much more conscious of the need to guard my heart and to immediately deal with any feelings of attraction to other guys on my end or their end. 2. Do you ever intentionally disobey him even when it's something important to him? I didn't really understand the whole honor my husband's leadership thing until 2008 with things really clicking in 2011-2012. There were many times I intentionally went against what my husband said in those early years of our marriage. He became very shut down and passive. I became quite dominating and controlling. He never addressed my terrible attitude, disrespect, or control. The only sin I could acknowledge then was that I worried a good bit and I tended to be impatient. I thought I was the most amazing Christian wife ever. I cut my hair off a few times knowing he would hate it because it was my hair and at that point I convinced myself he really didn't have feelings and it was my hair so who cared what he thought. I cleaned up his side of the garage because an HVAC guy was coming the next day and the garage was a mess. He told me specifically not to clean it up but I did anyway because I didn't want to upset the HVAC guy who had to walk through the garage. I would have been really embarrassed, so I chose to disrespect Greg rather than embarrassing myself in front of the guy who asked me to have my husband clean the garage the next day. I pushed and pressured and tried to control Greg those first 14+ years and had no idea why he was so shut down. But even before I understood what I do now about biblical submission and headship, if he put his foot down on something earlier, I would eventually cooperate. Not joyfully, but I did cooperate even then if he was adamant. I knew he was supposed to lead. He just usually was quiet and didn't say what he thought or felt or wanted. I would even ask him, many times, but he stayed quiet. He felt it wasn't worth getting into a big fight with me. So he usually didn't say anything. That breaks my heart now. God opened my eyes to the beam in my eye in December 2008 and helped me see, for the first time, all the disrespect, usurping my husband's leadership, control, pride, self-righteousness, fear, anxiety, bitterness, and mess in my life. I repented to God and to Greg and was determined to make things up to Greg. I stopped demanding that God change Greg and began begging God to change me and show me what it meant to be a godly wife and woman. And what it meant to respect my husband, because I had been so tainted by our culture I couldn't even see my disrespect. I wanted to learn to honor my husband's leading, even though I was afraid Greg wouldn't or couldn't lead. And I had no idea how to change. I spent about 3-5 hours per day 7 days per week for over 3 years studying, reading, praying, and journalling, asking God to change me to be the wife He wanted me to be no matter the cost. It was a slow process. But God did change me. And then He healed Greg and our marriage and children. He is still changing me and teaching me and I am forever grateful! Since I began to understand that God desires me to honor my husband's leading, I have tried to be cooperative, even when I don't agree, unless he were to ask me to sin or condone sin (which he has never done). I am trying to think through the past 10 years or so... Earlier there were some times when I continued trying to help some readers on my blog when he felt I shouldn't. Although he wasn't adamant that I stop. It was his suggestion. I paid for it later because things got very messy. Now if he asks me to break contact with someone, or even just suggests it, I try to do it immediately, even though it is hard and painful. It's a lot better than getting myself into a much bigger problem. I am sure there have been a few misunderstandings here and there where I thought I knew what he wanted but wasn't actually clear on it. Or where he didn't say what he wanted and I was in a position where I was forced to make an assumption and ended up being wrong. There were also times, early when I was learning to cooperate with his leadership, when I thought he was just making suggestions but he was trying to lead and I didn't realize it. My goal is to be very sensitive to his leading and cooperative. Especially on things that are really important to him. I don't ever want to purposely go against his leading. I also appreciate that he is always open to hearing my perspective, concerns, and suggestions. So I feel like I have a voice. He makes sure I know we are a team. He is never a dictator. Where I have to watch myself is he likes to think about things for a long time. If we have other people waiting on an answer, I sometimes feel like we need to give a response before he is ready. So I have to be careful not to jump the gun. I don't want to be rude to the people waiting for our decision, but I also don't want to be rude to him. I'm grateful. Greg is very humble and loving. He is extremely patient and gracious. He gives me a lot of freedom and latitude. He never tries to control me and is never harsh. He doesn't yell or pressure or push me. He has become such a godly man and leader. I'm really proud of Greg and thankful for all the Lord has done in us both. Thanks for the questions!

@@AprilCassidy wow, thank you for writing such a detailed response. I hope this helps some women. Maybe you can share your full story again in another video.

You're welcome! I hope it will be a blessing to other wives, as well. I have shared a lot of these things on videos over the years. Some fairly recently. But I will definitely consider what I could share of it again. Thanks!

@@AprilCassidy - yes perhaps if you feel like sharing it all again. I have seen most of your videos and shared them with potential girlfriends. Haha!!

@@AprilCassidy Thank you for your testimony in showing the Love of Christ in your life. Blessed