Most people do not realize how horrifying a narcissistic relationship can be.

If you are here.. you know enough = get the hell out ASAP. Come back here tomorrow for a daily pep talk...YOU GOT THIS 💪

"They need hosts because they are parasites." Andrew (NarcDaily) So true. 🎯

I typed in ‘why does my spouse compete with me?’. BAM! Narcissist. They do love imagining you feel trapped. Boosts that tiny fragile ego. Pea brain is right.

Typical day - the monster say's, "I'm going to Target to pick up a prescription." Target is five minutes away. Six hours later, after not responding to phone calls or texts, the world's biggest philanderer comes home. If I had a dollar for every time....

As a young adult, I would always drive 3 hours to visit my narc mom on holidays. (She would always guilt trip me that I don't visit enough, while she NEVER visited me.) Before leaving for the trip, I would call her to ensure she would be home when I arrived, but she would always play games to make me arrive and WAIT for her to arrive. I was to just sit in her empty house until she got home because she had things to do and wasn't going to commit to a time to be home for me. Then, she would always have a guest of honor for dinner. Our family served as supporting pawns around the dinner table while she schmoozed this guest. I finally stopped visiting her on holidays because I was sick of making the long trip just to be treated poorly (as the invisible child). Now, that I understand narcissism, it all makes sense. Thanks for the videos.

When you're in the relationship you don't realize that you are in a trap. You're used to the daily madness and chaos it seems normal. As heart and mind understood this, I left. I am so grateful that I made it. Thank you Andrew, ....yes never give up !!🍃❤🍃

I think the first thing I typed in was "Sleeping with the enemy." Or sleeping with a parasite"

I was brought up by narcs so a narc hub felt normal! OMG. So grateful to be out of that sh*t.❣️

Don't stay longer. Get out ASAP. Love and respect yourself.❣️

Trapped because they guilt trip you. They make you feel sorry for them. Moreover, you probably felt insecure (because they made you feel that way through triangulation) It’s a whole load of fake s**T show - Thank you Andrew. Another quality video ❤️🌷

Lots of encouragement and love sent out to you all,❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

"The endless to-do list" is a good way to put it- for the unpaid helper. I know that those who have no option to misuse their freedom are not truly free, but these people take that misuse to another level, and don't want YOU to be free.

I never felt so alone in all my life. I reached the breaking point one too many times. I did everything. His own sister said to me how could I put up with him. I searched for all of what you mentioned here. I couldn’t believe I realized he was abusive. I never really felt loved by him. I thought I was crazy.

Pea brain is my favorite 😊🥳

Thank you for picking me up off the floor! You have helped me more than you will ever know. Everything you have said matched my abuse. You showed me the way out. Im not looking back ever. Thank you again.

Geeze Andrew, you are describing my marriage exactly. Dragging out the divorce, draining my finances. What a nightmare. It is a trap from the first date to the end of the marriage. It's just been a game for my narcissistic husband. They enjoy recking havoc, ruining your life and watching you suffer. It's an evil scheme.

I feel it is because they are power motivated under the guise of love, just like when they give a gift, they expect something in return. They know that premium supply has a sense of duty and obligation. They will stack up "the debt" with them till you are overwhelmed and at wits end. BPD, avoidants and a few other folks that would benefit from seeing a shrink can NEVER do that, because they know that the shrink will see through their sales pitch and destroy that illusion like hot water on an icecube. The hardest patient to treat IS the narcissist/BPD. Horrible, but infallible people, also ungrateful to a fault. Thank you sir for giving this platform for me and others to vent and to learn of these critters, it really helps, you are so appreciated!

Peace and love to everyone here and of course to you as well, Andrew. Namaste

Yep, it feels like you are energetically trapped until you understand that these parasites exist and the games they play!

After she left I checked my phone records and there were 9280 text messages between her and her new appliance.

Anyone who's just starting on the road of learning what the hell happened to your life, go back and watch many of Andrew's videos. There's a great wisdom in his words. Dude must have walked thru hell to have acquired it. This channel has definitely helped me gain clarity and answer 12 years of questions and frustrations...

I think the repetitive nature in your videos, really help drill and solidify the urgency and information you’re providing. thank you so much

Exactly that Andrew!! I had that feeling sat next to him, I have never felt more alone and disregarded as a human being.... NEVER. The anxiety started to build as I was trying and trying to please him and care for him. I felt like I was in a parallel universe 😢. I wish I'd shortened the relationship months earlier when the first red flag appeared and slapped me in the face. He thought he was entitled, a petulant child who could have what he wanted when he wanted. Delusional. I'm relieved, my health has returned and I'm content.... just thankful because he could have caused so much more damage....he is dangerous. 😔

So true! Every time I was onto him, he would make the endless to-do list longer 😂

"Not trapped any longer"...soothing my ears and soul. Trapped and trauma bonded. A fata morgana that never actually existed. Thank you, Andrew. All your content is enlightening, helpful and encouraging for all of us hurt, abused and discarded.

no freedom loss of control

Andrew, everything you've said about the narcissist is what I've experienced.

I AM FREE!!!!👏....AND IT FEELS SO AWESOME!!!!

Amazing video..too many examples I can relate to..he had me trapped and under his control.. I relish my freedom now.. Thank you for the message and have a great evening!

they want you trapped so that they are your only person to lean on. Mine was ruthless, thankfully WAS

Hold on ,therse s hope, i m 7 months recovering a long dark road... and ever new spark...is speaking brighter...and the light that was stolen...like a springtime sunrise ,has risen anew ,thank you Andrew,thanks man,keep the faith y all , A belgian.❤

I went to a therapist i thought she would help me and she lowkey blamed me for my health issue. I felt horrible and i cancelled all future appointments. I felt like i just got abused again. Thank God im more educated now and i dont stick around abuse anymore. I see the red flags and im out.

I'm so thankful I'm out

I figured it out , broke up for a year, took her back and 4 more years of the full menu. Ended it again nearly 4 years ago but fell for a Hoover 6 weeks ago. Saw her once and I’m still reeling from it. Do not break no contact !

This is the way it was. WAS!! ❤

Wow his new supply must have a huge amount of resources. She is a very vulnerable wealthy widow. He’s been with her for over two years. I don’t envy her because I’ve already lived through what she’s experiencing now or will experience shortly.

It's like the whole world can change but you always have to be there AND stay the same ! They have to be more important than almost ANYTHING else , if you don't contact them within even a short time they need a reason , and you find yourself making excuses to avoid conflict ! If you do things without them they are confused why you didn't tell them , and WOE BETIDE you if you should ever have fun or enjoy yourself without them ! If you try to tell them how you had a great time they always have to pull it apart , then mock and ridicule it !! The very idea of you enjoying yourself without them really erks them to their very core ! Basically they think that you live your whole life AT THEIR PERMISSION !!! 🤨That is a narcissist ! 🙏❤️😎

Being out of a toxic marriage for a while now it is still amazing that I found this channel! I was so so lost and messed up. so much of what Andrew says over an over still teaches me. Daily I listen to him and find myself thinking of the things that controlled me an made my life hell. As I read the comments and see others at different points in their journey, I am reminded how real this is. I feel grateful you are all here and are sharing your experience! Thank you for the help you continue to give me. We are no longer alone!!

I was trapped by his occupation of my head. Thoughts like, "why hasn't he called for 5 days?" On 19th July it will be 3 months no contact. I looked over my journal as to how i felt after 5 days. I felt numb and full of second guessing, like, "who am i to label him a narc. I am not a professional..." at the moment i think about him less. I've achieved a quiet time in my life, for healing. I dont have a mind full of chaotic thoughts. I'm giving myself the space to build up my self esteem again. Yes, it is getting better. Andrew, your daily support has really given me the help i needed to break this cycle. Some of the things you have said have really sunk in now. I've realised how people test you to see if you are going to be their unpaid helper. And as soon as i set boundaries for myself, i could tell by his reaction that he liked it the least.

All holy Hell broke loose when I dumped him. I was in the relationship longer than I should have been but I was being held prisoner in my own home. I once loved him and I saved his life and now I feel nothing but hate and regret.

Still trapped things fell through one more month one more time andrew I'm losing it ...thanks for being here you make me sane

This is so true my sister throughout the course of her life would say something like "well not according to my book", and then just make up the rules as she went along and would pull that type of nonsense when she wanted something from any one of the family members...now she's just an aging narcissist.

You become cognitive desonate. Fuks with the natural chemical functions. Distorted and unable to make basic decisions or choices cuz your not all there. Love to all that healing from this horrible journey. Take every chance and be gentle with yourself. Be kind and knowledgeable you are lived. ❤❤❤

I see your little buddy paid a visit. 🐝💛✨️

Everything was and is punitive and conditional! I believed it was all my fault and my people pleaser self and taking over responsibility created a cycle that I barely got out of after 33 years! Thank you Andrew & Community for the LOVE 💗

Drama free, Trauma free, Narcissist free! ❤

They went to Great lengths to take my Independence & make me dependent in many ways.🐛🦋🐛🦋

I just stay in toxic relationship during one year, we got married I relocated and things has gotten worse and worse. That was my fault, I ignored all of red flags in the beginning I didn’t know nothings about narcissistic people before been through it. I always felt bad about the way she treated her parents, I wondered when I would be the next one, it doesn’t take long time and stared devaluation and criticisms . She wanted Control everything and everyone should serve her needs! When I realized I was depressed with low self esteem and completely exhausted to deal with her chronic unsatisfied feelings. I haven’t an exit plan at all, so I just decided to go away and retake my life. Thank god we don’t have kids, I still healing but things definitely has gotten better.

Trapped chasing a personal want. All you find is a mirage for as long as you want to fool yourself. In hindsight, now with narc armor, all the signs were there from day one. At least in my case. Got caught at a bad time. When in vulnerability, which you also know now how to recognize, make no relationship attempts. Want total relief ? Make no relationship attempts. The relief is like no other. Done.

I am so TRAPPED...no money, no friends, no family, no job...

every day was a storm walking in a mine field. When I found out what a narcissist was I waited till she was telling me that I should leave, and I called her a Narcissist. It was like the Tsar Bomba.

Now I understand why I always lived in fear feeling terrified and still do ever though my mother, (a true narcissist) is dead and my sister is completely blocked. 😞

Yes I did reach my breaking point. It is over and I feel great. Everything mentioned here is 100%true. Narc is gone. Bye Bye.

Thank you andrew ❤

Love the rain.

ALL TRAPS begin in the human mind. And the mind with the problem doesn't have the solution. Therefore, we must be willing to break the wall of our "perception" of how things "should be". "We are learning" is the best quote of this video. Open your mind, let go your fear of the 'outside view" or what is "different" and grow and heal before life is spent and gone. Time has no merci nor it waits for anyone. In order to heal, four actions are key, Self-honesty, courage, acceptance and detachment. Blessings!

Great video Andrew!! When i started the healing path, i took up running. The first song on my playlist was Trapped by Bruce Springsteen. It tells the story, but it also lit the fires for me and got me moving forward. If you are trapped find something to get you moving again, dont think too much just start walking, things will start processing. Waiting to move keeps you stuck in the past and ruminating. Keep moving forward. Wishing everyone clarity and peace ✌

❤ Hi and thank you! I wish I could put together a clip of clips of yours bc no matter how, background noise sneaks in, like, every one lol 😅 it's cute, tho, cuz you are so un-bothered 😂 each new video it still happens. Much hugs to you and the pups, from me and my pup!

I am now realizing that all 3 major relationships in my life were with narcissists who each presented slightly differently. Two I had to leave, they weren’t ever going to leave physically but continued to abandon me and at times completely ignore me. I’ve never felt so alone. The key that ties them all together is the complete lack of empathy and being completely self-centered. My needs and preferences didn’t matter.

So true 💯 my stomach used to churn when my ex narcs key would turn in the front door.

True❤ really true thank you Andrew

💚💚💚🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽Trying to get to where I want to be. Never gave up. Becoming empowered. Moving forward. Boundaries.

Yes I used to deal with them when I finally spoke about what's happening taking the opportunity then I saw it's true they really do all that no contact feels best it's most unpleasant feeling being trapped with them they're all same, that parent, siblings, friend, ex companions thank you great video 😊

The problem is I am trapped within myself. I've been isolating for many times many years, my personality is brittle and impatience. It seems I an unhappy person by nature and I contact the wrong people to download my bitter experiences and it is not their responsibility because I don't have friends. I give people the shits they run a mile, I'm embarrassed, I'm 63, I'm grim because the only time is giving to others I feel ok but I throw myself at them practically giving my whole self away!

The narc wanted to trap me as she has her enabler/flying monkey husband and others. When she was discarding me she was working on her next target and she set me up so she could blame and shame her. It was pay back for both of us. She is doing her very best to separate her husband from absolutely everyone. She really is vile.

You and Dr. Les saved me. You would have been pleased to see how you taught me to repell a major league hover and double tag team flying monkeys that were both in person and written coordinated.... They flew right into a smiling happy grey rock ...splat. 💥 THANKS Andrew, I feel good. Life is rapidly returning to good. 🥳 ❤2u ALL

Andrew is the best!!!!! ❤❤❤

keeping you trapped is keeping you engaged....and this is what they need, your engagement for continued supply.

Could I have done something more ?? Trust me, no. I gave 25 years of *more* - only to have more pain, more loneliness, more abuse to me & children, more health problems & financial loss. Pain. Divorce is laborious as Andrew said - dragged out, vicious games you won’t imagine. God, I prayed, please help me out of this. So we escaped. Not trapped anymore - there’s life, there’s love …,there’s hope and freedom .. on the other side. Thank you Andrew 🙏🏻👣⛰️❤🕊️

Even if you are not in a relationshit these demons can still cause chaos in your life. I have an unbelievable situation with my neighbor who threatened me severely right in front of a sheriff ( for 30 minutes) what did I do? I knocked on his window to tell him to stop running over my shrubs. I'm talking to lawyers trying to get him charged. It's unbelievable.

My heart goes out to anyone watching this who has suffered at the hands of a narcissist. I have just got out of a twenty year relationship with my sister-in-law who I realised a few weeks ago is a narcissist. She tried to disrupt my happinesd and compete with me and as Andrew always says, the narcissist "always overplays their hand". And this is exactly what she did. And the mask fell, spectacularly. Andrew, you buoy us up every day. In your own words, you are beautiful, bright, shining light! ❤

Hope no one skipped out after you said something like “that’s the video “, at the 22 minute mark you shared really important great info 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 Thank you

Thanks Andrew you are one who loves to guide others to freedom and forgiveness for ourselves that I have found in these eye opening videos again, thank you so much and God bless your msg...

I typed ' why my boyfriend promises to do things together, and disappears for two weeks on the planned day, then reappears saying he was feeling unwell' ...5 years 😅

Thank you for sharing this. It sums up everything I feel. I have just started the divorce, and what you said rings so true to everything that has happened to me, and I guess what I still have to go through. I am so sorry that you suffered this too and thank you for telling us as I am sure there are many of us that are somewhere along the path you have trodden and felt so alone. Your strength in sharing gives me strength not to give up not my narcissists demands

Good morning 🌞🌞🌞

Great work Andrew

Again Andrew, it's like you were there, and then flew a drone over the area to let someone like me see the bigger picture. Thanks as always for the reminders about everything i can do and become going forward. It's so appreciated & your channel continues to be part of my daily practice to be my best self. I am free and sending you care and light as always 🎉

This is a very serious topic but every time you say pets planes trains I just start laughing 😂😂😂😂😂😂

Kudos to our friend's narcissistic ex who emotionally abused her at the casino 😮 It reached a point where none of her friends want her to show up at the casino because no one wants to see her pesky ex!😝

I typed what kind of a person acts like this. OMG it was opening a Pandora's box. My ex is a text book narcissist.

So right on.

He has always kept me in the dark on all levels...what is it like to have love, attention, and compassion.

My x narc friend ,met my husband and daughter a few days ago,she's back living here in the area,,my hubby looked at her and said to her,your words to my wife(,calling my name) was so disappointing ,,do you truly believe what you said,? Its been NC since she spewed her vittrol at me,,, all projection,,on her part..She told him,she did not mean it,she did not realize what she said would have that effect, ,what she does not understand is the many years of putdowns, I'm betters than you, because i have a higher degree , much more money than you,3 houses , slimmer,prettier,lighter in complexion than you,drive an upscale car live in an upscale neighborhood.A last straw will always break the camel's back..they never fathomed it could happen..she called yesterday but her number is blocked...tra la la.. off i go!!! people when they show you who they are,make no excuses..,😮

Thank you, I hear you. Oh, the price has been beyond pain.

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I left. All these videos sure help me. Thank you ❤

Very comforting message I needed today. Thank you, Andrew. Namaste

I googled "girlfriend thinks I cheated on her while I didn't" and open went Pandora"s box lol

12:45 best decision I ever made

I am reaching the pinnacle of indifference after 7 years of marriage and three young children. Kids are still too young to not have a mother in the home but I am working on an exit strategy. I really appreciate what you're doing, here.

Whooh, i have to stop watching to react right now. After a 20 year marriage i think i was his new supply so i recognize a lot from my point of view but i’m certain that all the things he said about his marriage were untrue. When he (in my eyes) suddenly got supermad, he always said something like “i don’t need anyone, I’m independent” screaming like a devil. I had to go down almost on my knees to calm him down.

Saws every video of you this week still hurting over it the loss of her I hope it gets better whit time.

Thank you Andrew

Yes... I literally did The Happy Dance after his UHaul had disappeared down the street!

About 3 years ago my family meet a man who had a position of authority. I didn't know the word narcissist at all but noted certain behaviors this man exhibited that seemed off. He would talk down to you , liked to control you and spoke about myself/my family with distane constantly. Red flags were there and I stated looking for an answer as to what was wrong with this person. Eventually I found out about narcissistic personality disorder. We are now going to court with this person and the company that he works for because of his behavior. I have had time to heal, mend my soul and be prepared to see him in court. Narcissist are soul sucker's that when called out will run for cover, draw out legal procedures and not respond to requests for documents from our lawyer. I am very much looking forward to having closure with this legal matter and seeing him held accountable.

Indeed, the narcissist husband he did everything to trap you and see how you get out of the trap, that's another way of abuses. We don't even treat a pet in this way, the narc is inhumanity. The narcissist husband will arrange marriage mediator for the consultation purpose, and he will miss that appointment, implying that you are the only person needs that consultation not him. He is all perfect, it's your problem, you are the problem and you need to be fixed. Thanks to God, I got out of that marriage many years ago. With God's mighty power, I still see the picture it was God pulling me out of the chaos with His mighty hand. That was a miracle, and miracle is totally unconditional. Remember this, you don't need to be right or good to receive the miracle from God. Just ask God, and He will rescue you. 30 years later now, I have never looked back to that narcissistic lunatic for even one time.

so hard when you are trapped by the court system