Why Would My Ex Come Back To Me? We often feel like our ex will never come back. We look at everything we've done wrong and think, there's no way they would come back to me after the way I treated them. So why would your ex come back? Why would your ex give you a second chance? We talk about those reasons in this video.
In Today’s video we're going to be talking about why would my ex come back to me? That's a big question. It is a big question and when you think about it, it's probably a scary question,
Margaret: 00:52 right? If you say, why would my ex come back to me? You're looking, you're asking me to really think about what I think I have to offer. Yeah, well what I had to offer her
Craig: 01:03 or him, so I've got a quick email that I want to go to and then we're going to talk about it. All right, so they said, hi coach. I wanted to start off by saying you and Margaret are the best coaches I found on youtube.
Craig: 01:20 The videos have been really eyeopening and I started the workbooks and love them. One of the big things I've struggled with is this, why, what my ex ever come back to me. I was with my girlfriend for three years. I am just now realizing how terrible I was as her boyfriend. Oh, I've been feeling very depressed. As I look back. I used to yell at her all the time. I didn't call her names. I was just impatient with her. I neglected her and it's been going on for a long time. I really didn't know how to make her feel loved. After watching the video on that, I really thought there's no way she's coming back and he's referring to the video I did. How to make her feel loved. I'm guessing she said she still cares about me, but it's tired of how I made her feel.
Craig: 02:24 When I pushed her to talk about it more, she said she was done talking about it. She got angry and then said, how many times have we had this discussion? You didn't hear what I had to say then why would you care now that hurt you could imagine that are, uh, I'm doing the work books and they're helping a lot. I've already made a lot of changes and I'm saving up to do a skype with you in the next few weeks. I've just been having such a hard time. She will ever come back. I don't blame her if she doesn't. Well, first of all, I think one of the things that we do in this situation is we assess everything we did wrong, right? And a lot of our energy goes into that as we start thinking about everything we said that was wrong or did that was wrong. All the complaints that they had on why they broke up with us and we magnify them,
Coach Margaret: 03:31 but in this man's behalf and good for him, he's willing to look at whatever is his fault and that's refreshing and that will help you. Absolutely. Most people say, I don't know what I did. This guy is saying, I know what I did. I can see what I did. I take responsibility for and I'm trying to change good for him
Craig: 03:53 and that's the best thing you can do, but that doesn't happen. Magically know, right? You're having to force yourself to really look at who you are in your romantic relationships and maybe how selfish you've been. Yeah. And that's a tough thing to look at.
Margaret: 04:08 Yes it is. Yes it is. And the other thing that you'd be surprised people have a very difficult time time answering is can you say three good things about yourself? I gave up asking for three. I went to two and people still had such trouble. I now settled for one. Can you say a good thing about yourself? And some people really have to struggle. Um, you know, I go to work on time, we'll do, um, you know, I try heart, I clean up after myself. There were all kinds of, even very little things that we do well every day and those are important too. But as you say, when you're in a beat yourself up phase, it's hard to see any of those. Right?
Craig: 04:52 Absolutely. It's very hard because you're overwhelmed by guilt and depression. Right. And you can't think about what you did, right? Because all you're sitting, you want to punish yourself. Yeah. You're like, ah, this person away. Yeah.
Margaret: 05:08 Listen, stupid. What did you do that for?
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