WILL SHE BE TOXIC OR A GREAT MOM?

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@tallspicy 2 ай бұрын

I went on a date with a man who was confused about why the woman he was engaged to turned out to be a crappy mom after she prioritized him during their relationship instead of her children. What you say is 100% right. People never own their own choices… it is for both men and women.

@Connor-fd9jh 2 ай бұрын

My left ear is getting a whole lot of loving right now

@BadThrusher 2 ай бұрын

And the overall audio quality is awful

@henryzhang9915 2 ай бұрын

same here.

@Marcus-hb9ll 2 ай бұрын

Choose wisely who you marry and have kids with. Don't rush into it. If it takes time, ride out that time. Rushing anything doesn't always result in good.

@kennethporst4359 2 ай бұрын

I ABSOLUTELY LOVE the Light Green plants with the PURPLE Background 💚💜

@cornwallismorgan874 2 ай бұрын

I recently dated a single mom who functions like the good type you mentioned, but was emotionally abusive to me and was extremely emotionally immature. While those signals are great, they're certainly not all there is to it.

@AnkyPank Ай бұрын

I think this is a very good and important comment.

@TruthPapi 2 ай бұрын

I found that writing down your “non-negotiables” and “nice to haves” is a great filtering mechanism to save you time in the vetting process. It also helps you to better understand yourself… If not you just wing it and considering most men don’t have great intuition and lead with their eyes (and another thing that rhymes with stick), it becomes like rolling the dice…

@DominicVL772 2 ай бұрын

Men have good enough intuition to stay away from you.

@Sweetieee 2 ай бұрын

This goes for men & women 🫶🏻

@brianshaw4751 2 ай бұрын

My mother was the narcissistic type. I don’t talk to her anymore. My father was always the goat. I try to look at her mental illness as a benefit. Dealing with her mental illness helped me to notice red flags in my intimate relationships. I’m 24, not perfect, and have dumped 6 narcissistic women that acted like my mother.

@taddeojudemugagga2306 2 ай бұрын

Thank you Sadia Khan for emphasizing the need to protect the emotional well-being of the children because I believe that they are innocent. Stay the course please. 🙏 Taddeo Mugagga from Durham, North Carolina

@moneyman431 2 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing this. I'm so sick of these men who think their backyard is so clean and that they've got it together. Same things like this about single moms.

@X0sse1 2 ай бұрын

"She encourages the children to spend time with the new stepmother...and not selfish putting the childrens needs before her own."

@Specialcot77 2 ай бұрын

I been waiting for this Topic

@maphitagodswillebai4956 2 ай бұрын

I grow up with my grandma, I new my mum at 12. Up till date I have not yet met my Dad. I'm 24

@starkabdelghani168 2 ай бұрын

You are such braveeee man

@InternationalHealthCoach 2 ай бұрын

A good barometer, but incomplete. Life is not so simplistic as an 8 minute Psychological breakdown of 2 polar opposites in Single Mother's. Most fall in-between the extremes. Therein lies great complexity. But for Pop Psychology this is a very good start for vetting for both green 💚🍀💲 & red flags 🚩🚩🚩

@chrispedersen2526 2 ай бұрын

Man here, I need to work on my vetting process.

@djinnierasmussen336 2 ай бұрын

This is true...but meeting a narcissist can be possible in your life without life education.such person can fool everyone for years until it is too late😢😢

@mumufarm Ай бұрын

I dated a single mother with 2 kids. She had a masters in psychology. She used called her ex narcissistic and psychopath etc etc. then if I do anything wrong she used to say I was like her ex. And will call me narcissist and other words. She would weaponise my deep traumas against me. We broke up so many times over 3 years but I kept asking her back. Now it’s gone and it’s a struggle to rebuild myself from the ground. The problem is seeing it from the start. It’s not always clear or you are just in the emotional loving state. Remember and keep to yourself. Don’t ever be stripped away because as you learn, you realise as well who the real narcissist is

@iam2nd184 2 ай бұрын

Far from a great anything . My kids are still surffering it’s heartbreaking . She use to undermine me secretly .

@m.bonginhlanhla6596 2 ай бұрын

Looooove this woman for talking some sense into women....coz we just as guilty most times

@ziegunerweiser 2 ай бұрын

the words of a loving nurturing mother - people need to hear it everyone's looking for it and all the money in the world can't buy it

@TheAcad3mic 2 ай бұрын

Hard disagree with this one. It's not that you should get to know which kind of single mother she is, the question is whether or not you want to bother taking the risks and opening yourself up to all the pain and issues and drama and headache in the first instance. Ask yourself why do you want that? Why are you bothering with it when there's plenty of women out there that don't have this drama and baggage you could put your time into? It's like knowingly seeking out a woman who is an addict. This doesn't make her a bad person deserving of scorn and judgement... But what is it about YOU that is making you interested in a hardened alcoholic that you're pursuing her, rather than one of the millions of women who don't have an addiction?

@robertah2353 2 ай бұрын

Agree with every word you said

@Untamed_Heart 2 ай бұрын

Ok. How about a single moms who doesn't allow her child to have unsupervised visitation & toxic grandparents from father side meaning, sexual abuse of a child and meth addict family members abusive father, sex addict, porn addict who watches porn all day at the presence of her child? Is she a red flag? Serious question. Until her father is rehabilitated for several years, only then we can discuss more visitation. I'm for amicable mature co parenting, if an ex is not an addict and doesn't have rage/anger issues.

@persona5305 2 ай бұрын

there's an obvious answer to that and I don't think she is talking about that situation. The priority is the children's safety and well being.

@bloom7204 2 ай бұрын

not necessarily true if the husband/father became alcoholic years into the marriage after children were born • no signs previously when dating

@FAVanguard 2 ай бұрын

Yes there was. They drank alcohol. Addiction doesn't just start. It takes years of drinking to build up tolerance so you knew.

@francescod2965 Ай бұрын

You're amazing, lots of truth here, yet some single mothers deny the fathers to be around the kids because they are dangerous and toxic for the children... of course those are the men they chose to be with.. so their mistake there!... but moving on they HAVE to keep the kids safe and away from their fathers. That said for the most you make a great point!

@user-bk3xu5yz8c 2 ай бұрын

I love your knowledge and content and was wondering, can you do a segment on why and how men become sex addicts, please?

@jasonrocksvegas 2 ай бұрын

Sadia is an excellent commuicator and honest and direct. Understands relationships. Lots of Green flags. Shes a keeper/ Unicorn. Does she cook and clean and everything in between?😂

@hafizulasad987 Ай бұрын

NON ALCOHOLIC, NON SMOKING AND NON FORNICATION.

@tarigel-kithiri6619 2 ай бұрын

Happy holidays.....

@Espia-zx4ot 2 ай бұрын

Sadia, really exist dangerous fathers. And sometimes need have bouldering to the fathers for violence.

@AnkyPank Ай бұрын

Yes, she considered that possibility. At 8:04 she says: "So if she has blocked access to the father and if the reasons are anything other than regular and consistent abuse to the child, then chances are she is a toxic single mother and one you should stay away from." It's very likely Sadia, since she's a psychologist, means physical as well as emotional regular and consistent abuse.

@zeeshanbinnaushadnujjoo1389 2 ай бұрын

Eid mubarak sadia! ❤️😘☪️

@TheRocket555 2 ай бұрын

Great advice and videos. I'd like to know your opinion regarding what to do or how to handle a woman who flirts with other guys .not often but a few times. Does it show weakness to not confront the guy? Why get into say a fight for a woman who shouldn't be doing that in the first place. She should be respecting me in the first place. Is it better to walk away ? Doesn't that make the other guy more attractive if I don't do something?

@eglanthoxhulka1704 2 ай бұрын

Well, before finding the perfect non toxic partner, ( mother or father of our children ) let us invest in ourselves skills, values and insights in order not to be one of them, so I think this way we will be able to attract the right one!

@depisode816 2 ай бұрын

You are labelling a woman as a 'bad mother' because the father is not present in the children's lives? Do you know women escape abusive marriages? that there are men who abandon their children? Men who never pay child support leaving it to mother to carry all the financial burden. The way you often make sweeping generalisations and talk in absolutes depicts your poor understanding of human nature. It dangerous how you issue these edicts. Co-parenting involves two people and just like a relationship it takes both of them to work effectively.

@nanaindx 2 ай бұрын

Right?? It's not that I didn't vet my ex. I was 18 and just entered a new religion, disowned by my family and met him, hsi family has a reputation and we knew each other for 2 weeks before getting married. I've seen first hand how the grandfather abuses the grandmother, I'm saying he'd literally 'SWIPED' the dinner table, with all the food on it, because he doesn't like a dish! And I've come to realize day by day my ex agreed to his father's behavior towards his own mother and does it to me too! I have a responsibility as a mother to not let my son grow in an environment such as that. How? I let him see his son and let them poison his mind? It wasn't until I got into religion classes that I realized how much my ex and his family twisted their own culture and thinking into 'religion teaching'., it was overall just a toxic place to be, how could I as a mother putting my son at risk for that??? He blocked me and got married not a month after the divorce, had a baby with her. Sadia needs to states these 'exceptions' out so people that doesn't subscribe to her Patreon don't take her words out of context... I still have a lot of healing to do myself, I plan to let my son be close to his bio father once he understands the good and bad, at least to navigate the world of emotions you know?

@bettylehmann2351 2 ай бұрын

That’s a bit extreme I am a single mum & find the is a lot of in between it’s not that black & white. My ex left for Malaysia after our divorce & still blames me for everything. I try to communicate but get hostile replies . Don’t understand why we can’t talk about the children .

@zakhelemsibi5625 2 ай бұрын

True they male it difficult an come by saying u must fight to win🤣🤣🤣

@marcin3136 2 ай бұрын

You will be a great mom :))) So you will raise your children to be "Beautiful, Wise and Joyful People" :))) You just have to understand that I'm wiser :D But only a little ;)

@gapguy9564 Ай бұрын

My mom is the red flag one, and im the stupid person in all this, because I realised it after my dad passed away

@richardshah 2 ай бұрын

👍 exactly

@sonainai8962 2 ай бұрын

True

@polyglotdream3863 2 ай бұрын

Thank you for this great content!! I would be interested to know what would be best if the kid is sexually abused by their father's family whenever they visit them ? I understand that the woman chose badly at the first place but what can she do to ease the damage that already has been caused if the person you had children with is abusive to them too?

@SanPendro 2 ай бұрын

The sound is only on the left channel?!

@hafizulasad987 Ай бұрын

JUST WATCH BECAUSE OF NICE FRIENDS

@Specialcot77 2 ай бұрын

I had Horrible Divorced and Used my Son's as Hostage. Her Mother Step In and Me/Son's have a Great Bond 10X better then my Father.

@tundun8365 2 ай бұрын

What about solo parent (mother) ?

@user-sw3kh9zf8y 2 ай бұрын

Btw what does it say about me that if i she looks in the camera i feel intimedatet but also could melt?

@Granimechi 2 ай бұрын

I do have a question... I really do need an advice.. I'm a person who doesn't gives compliments to my girlfriend on a regular basis cause I don't see that as a Focal point,to show how much I value her ,I'm literally always there for her ...but she sees compliments as a big deal because every guy compliments their partner... She is making conversation with her difficult and in the end she claims to be the victim...

@dnbaddict 7 сағат бұрын

It can be very risky to your mental health have a relationship with a single mother. This is especially true when the children come from two or more different fathers. What she says is true about the negative behavior. This is why I won’t date single mom’s anymore.

@joey7824 Ай бұрын

My girlfriend is a single mom and refuses to hold her baby daddy accountable to anything from court. He doesn’t pay child support or insurance. But she will hold me to account for the insurance and for every little thing. She doesn’t want me to play softball with my buddies either because people drink at the fields.

@Peter-bc2iv 18 күн бұрын

Classic story of beta buxx while chad gets to hit with no strings attached. Sorry my dude

@timothywilson3253 2 ай бұрын

Sadia Kahn, who is ( @MadisonCloeLoves) ???

@hafizulasad987 Ай бұрын

FRAGRANCE OF ALCOHOL IS AGAINST MY DADY,THEREFORE I USE NON ALCOHOL DRINKS.

@stipobilanovic5907 2 ай бұрын

What about the woman who doesn't block the father. She is not with him but using him to take care of kids so she doesn't need to. What if she will go out or do her staff and not even think about the children just leaving them.

@user-mg1gd5vw9x 2 ай бұрын

I can't be the only one getting Chameleon vibes from her.

@martinabr6114 2 ай бұрын

audio is not there

@ziegunerweiser 2 ай бұрын

I will say there is a difference between a baby, girl, woman, mother, and lady. These are 5 different entities. Learn how to become a lady of virtue and ask yourself are these the words of a loving nurturing mother ? Do the words match the actions ? If not then she is probably not the person you should be selecting. men leave women because they don't feel appreciated it's not complicated - be authentic, don't play games, be respectful and accommodating - the right kind of compliments at the right time often go a long way, it takes alot of practice, no one ever said it would be easy, find that person inside screaming to come out, only you can find that person inside yourself I first discovered Sadia during the lectures from the soft white underbelly channel, a charming and classy lady whose advice I found to be life changing, yes I said she's lady and not just some woman

@hafizulasad987 Ай бұрын

THERE WAS A GREAT CHANCE TO DATE WITH ASHRAF,S FRIENDS WHO WERE VISITING MY HOME,BUT SMELL MADE THEM LEAVE.

@SamuelCrow-zy1bm 2 ай бұрын

Or S.G. I am confused lol

@poorboy1666 2 ай бұрын

How many times are you being divorced. ? @sadia .

@farouk69jacobs 2 ай бұрын

🖤

@SamuelCrow-zy1bm 2 ай бұрын

E.C . 😂 Still amazing

@dennislaw8097 2 ай бұрын

the first type, how likely are single mothers of the first type?

@Crypto-G 2 ай бұрын

video has no sound

@DominicVL772 2 ай бұрын

The #1 red flag to look for when it comes to women is, "How much control does the Devil have over her? How much does Satan control her mind? Compared to, how much does Christ live in her heart?"

@JulianShell33 2 ай бұрын

If you need to watch this its too late fella's.

@dude1624 2 ай бұрын

To be honest there is no rule book

@ellamedic8963 2 ай бұрын

Talk to Mel B from Spice Girls. She will tell you what a huge perspective you’re missing in all this. What is a woman who has been with a real narcissist suppose to say? 🤷‍♀️ And these are all real victims who most of the time suffer horrible abuse and have ptsd? When we come out on the other side of that abuse, we sre some of the most self aware and strong women. 💪

@tallspicy 2 ай бұрын

I am amicable with my ex and we coparent well together are very sexy words!

@lucyroxy1911 2 ай бұрын

I think a mother should not be allowed to say anything about her ex-partner if he really abused her. Some mothers are in the hospital after meeting a man who knows how to put his best foot forward. And many women don't get the best education at home about love and marriage. But then to tell someone she is a bad mother because she was young and naive and fell into a trap is ridiculous!! Don't portray the man as the victim if he is the abuser. And let the single mothers show their hurt side too!! What you are saying is very toxic. People should be more judgemental and keep away the women who only had to suffer because they were young and immature. That doesn't make them bad mothers if they also want to work on themselves and put the child first. Maybe that was the reason for leaving the abusive man because he was not good for her child. I would be happy if you could think outside the box and realize that there are not just two types of single mothers in this world. But honestly you don't know that because you're speaking from books and not real life. If you were a single mother you would know more. It's sad that people learn from you to push women into a corner and treat them with less respect. I would love to see empathy in your videos which is very often not there....

@chithrangupthan6594 2 ай бұрын

WOMEN NEVER EVER LIE -- THE BIGGEST LIE EVER

@rocasanova8897 2 ай бұрын

U need to fix your audio

@mandra3768 2 ай бұрын

It’s about bad single mothers and unicorns 😂

@NoyKeosouma 2 ай бұрын

🎉❤

@leagis2013 2 ай бұрын

My theory about cutting off access to the children with the father is that she knows he isn't the biological father. But she doesn't want to tell him in fear of losing the child support. I'm sure that's a red flag but a different kind of red flag.

@A-Boogie-uw9hr 2 ай бұрын

I feel that child support must include DNA testing. How many fathers are paying for kids that aren’t theirs

@hafizulasad987 Ай бұрын

MY FATHER HAS ALLERGY FROM SMELL OF ALCOHOL.

@ndthat 2 ай бұрын

Switching cameras makes it very difficult to watch, maybe hire someone who knows what they are doing.

@Sweetieee 2 ай бұрын

Why is your content geared to men now?

@kchingk 2 ай бұрын

on youtube the majority of viewers are male ages 16-35. the girls of that demographic is mostly on insta and other media platforms like that. :)

@Sweetieee 2 ай бұрын

@@kchingk um that can’t be accurate, every channels viewership is different based on what kinda content they put out, a channel talking about makeup & beauty products isn’t going to have a big viewership of men compared to women, you know what I mean? I just wanted to support a fellow British Pakistani woman but the content is more for what men should look out for