If more black men were like you, the black community wouldn’t be in shambles right now.

As a dark skinned single woman who makes six figures being called a gold digger is a regular experience for me because of this reason. There are microagressions that men (not just black men, now it's all men) have for black women because of the media portrayal... and it makes it so difficult to feel safe or even date without being attacked from the jump. Thanks for this video.

Talk about not being shy with their disdain for black women...last week a friend of mine (black male) shared a Facebook post that had been circulating, and it chastised Henry Rugg's wife for not taking the charges for him so he could continue playing and making money. And because she didn't take the fall for him, she was a gold-digger and wanted his money for herself while he goes to prison. Never mind the fact that he could've killed her and did kill someone else; his wife was in the wrong. I was appalled. Particularly because my friend's wife is herself a dark skinned black woman, so I couldn't believe he'd post something like that. I commented that "I guess for some shameful individuals black women can't do anything right", and he responded that it was just a joke. When I tell you how disappointed I was...I considered arguing with him to drive home the point that posts like this are part of a broader pattern of anti-black woman hate and very much NOT a joke, but I dropped it. I say all this to say, I feel everything you said in this video❤.

There’s definitely a Gender war in the black community. BM vs. BW! but unfortunately too many BW are dying by the hands of BM 😞 it’s so heartbreaking 💔 Thank you for being brave enough to speak about this. Your platform is greatly appreciated & much needed! Thank you 🙏🏼

It’s all too much. As a attractive woman I have many options. But the options are horrible. I get treated so portly because I expect a man to be in a good financial position before he approaches me for a relationship. I am doing very well. I work smart and hard. It’s not over yet. I made a lot of sacrifices. Why would I NOT want the same?

As a dark skinned Black woman who married a dark skinned Black man and together created a dark skinned Black daughter, we discuss the same thing. The fear is real. It's beyond sad that not only do we have to deal with hate from other people, but our OWN! However, just like you and your family we're going to keep moving. We're looking for a house as well (it's wild in California 🤞🏽fingers crossed, lol). Thank you for speaking up on this and keep doing what you're doing. It's definitely NEEDED 💙

I don't know why BM are so bent out of shape over what Cynthia allegedly said when they hate single mothers anyway. And furthermore when you tell a BM you're pregnant the 1st thing out if his mouth is have an abortion or it ain't my baby! So sounds like she's giving them what they asked for. But we can never win.

To most bm, anything other than a glowing, positive comment made toward them makes them say that the person who said it is “bashing” them. These types absolutely refuse to admit to a lot of uncomfortable truths. Bless them, fr.

Hopefully the future generations care more about each other and do better. The black community in particular. My own family doesn’t care for the black women in the family at all and we have to live in this hell hole. No one knows how it feels to live in a world where you’re hated and not cared for bu any race even your own. It’s painful and we’re expected to still be this strong woman, it’s hard out here but thank you for using your platform for good! Love these videos. Peace and love to all!!

Hate to say it but at this point i dont think other brothas care

It's so disheartening at this point. We're all held accountable because of the bad ones they chose. At this point there is no black community. I've always wanted children but at this point I'm scared for them because of the world that's being created as well and the hate that's filling it. We're literally the only race that has so much hate for one another, hate for our skin and holds a whole gender accountable for the actions of a few that people CHOSE..... 💔

Before I even listen: Thank you. Thank you for being willing to discuss these topics on your platform. Thank you for your vulnerability thank you for your observations of what you see in our community. I am a single mother to a little girl. The father of my child refuses to provide anything for her at all. She is 8. Beyond the lack of financial resources, he doesn't care about the fact she has no covering or protection as a little girl. He is not concerned about her MIND how is she doing how is she feeling. He offers no fatherly wisdom or guidance. How am I supposed to do all of that as a single mom? I CAN'T. These little girls hurting so bad over not having a father. It hurts. Thank you Shumake.

We need men like you who actually want peace and love in the conmunity.

MANY of these same hateful bm out here who have these views are also married, and it’s usually to a bw! Poor wives have no idea how their husbands view them and their female relatives. Sad and disturbing.

I keep asking WHY is it always and only Black men making these videos, spewing hatred, saying women have to only answer to them. No other men do this!! all these black women getting killed. We need to protect OURSELVES. I wish more men listened to you

The videos I see constantly see of bm making videos on how much they hate bw. Along with my experiences dating them and seeing dv with bw being killed. Has had a huge impact on my views of bm. And I honestly don't want to deal with bm on a friendly level or intimate level. I used to dream of having a bm for a husband at one point. But I realized the chances were slim to none so I moved on. I have no hate for bm, I'm at the point where I avoid them because I genuinely don't feel safe around them.

You’re absolutely right. My father and mother was married 66 years when he died. A good God fearing man, wonderful father….I have 7 brothers,2 sisters……so much love among us. We were raised to love one another. I don’t understand none of this. My brothers are all married to black women and sisters to black men. You remind of my family….good people. My son and daughter is black . I’m so disappointed of what is going on within our race…just sad. Thank you.for this vid. You, Mr. Kevin Hicks, Mr. Tony Gaskin, are the examples of what a true man is.much respect to you. God bless you and yours.🙏🏾

I wish they cared as much as you do. I'm learning I should keep my walls up. The hate hurts. How they hurt us hurts. I'm legit scared. I'm planning and accepting a life by myself. I can't hate black men, I have black brothers, uncles, cousins and my dad that just passed this year. I'm trying to condition myself not to want love anymore. I get shamed for liking romance... idk if it's because I'm black I shouldn't believe it when it's happening. Idk it's very depressing it makes me scared to have a girl if I ever get pregnant. The country makes me scared to have a boy... so maybe it's a good thing I'm alone. Thanks for sharing always insightful.

It is so sad. My principal's daughter is a black belt. Some of my female cousins are packing to protect themselves. I know there are black men who do not believe in this negativity and evilness, but they are not heard because of all the trolls up front. Now more than ever I am now including men of other races and ethnicities to get to know. Regardless of what the trolls think, we have options. A person's character, vision, leadership, humblesness, healthy attitude, spirituality, and knowing how to love a woman properly regardless of color is most important.

This hatred towards ourselves goes all the way back to slavery the white man taught us to be against one another to hate one another because if we against each other we can’t be a strong nation against him. Slavery has been over for 560 years and we still dealing with the disfunction of slavery. It’s like even though a abused child is taken out of the situation he’s still dealing with trauma from that abuse. Our ancestors got us out of slavery but now 560 years later we still gotta heal so man I commend you for what you’re doing

I must agree with you. The way to sidestep this prejudice is to give your children so much concern and love, they love them selves, other peoples opinions of them is not really important, teach them values, manners make sure they are well educated and have compassion for others, appreciative and they will be able to brave the ups and downs of life. The love of their parents is what is important and what will mold them. Children are like pure clay in the hands of a potter, it’s up to the parents to manipulate that clay into beautiful vessels. I appreciate seeing beautiful dark skin women, I’m dark skin and have been told many times I’m beautiful. I appreciate dark skin because I know we have to work a little harder than light skinned people and when I see them become the cream of the crop it makes me proud. I love all people, love and beauty in a person stems from the inside, no matter how pretty a person looks on the outside and if they are ugly on the inside it will overshadow that outer beauty every time. I worry about children in these critical times, you have to watch them 24/7, there is so much hate and demonic behavior especially towards black children, boys and girls. My only son is 50, very dark skin and 6’3” raised in the toughest part of Philly, single mother, but guess what he’s a Clinical Psychologist and a Professor of Psychology in NY. He calls me along with his wife and daughter his responsibility, I can take care of myself and live in a nice suburb. He always ask, whenever he speaks to me, Mom do you need anything, I’m good. It’s black men like you that needs to be heard. I don’t know your mother but I do know behind every good man there’s a good women. Proud of you. Keep telling them.

God’s judgement is going to come up on men who think evil of their own women.

I’m so so glad you spoke on this…finally someone understands. Thanks I can feel your spirit on this!

No you are not weird. You have some morals and values. May God bless you, your wife, childrem and future children.

I thank you for your candor and authenticity and the heart that you put into your videos, truly. What you're sharing is so disturbing so deeply disturbing - there's a book called "The batterer a psychological profile" and it stipulates that men who are functioning in a batterer's mindset go on "seek and destroy missions with women". This is real. I'm so glad to see men like yourself, Devon Franklin, Dandre Whitfield, speaking truths and striving towards health and demonstrating alternatives to such toxicity; and who are functioning in away as to be uplifting. Also demonstrating the beauty of black family and speaking direct truths about the epidemic that is sweeping through our communities. In my lifetime I have been a child raised in domestic violence, experienced sexual assault and stalking before the age of 18 and having become a professional in working with such violence, I've tried to hold on to the black man. I felt determined up until recent years to believe that all men and specifically black men are not predatory. I've enjoyed black male friends, and black male relatives who have been a beautiful example and a blessing to me.... I've been determined and refused to fail to see beauty in my communities' men. So when I hear men of our communities generalizing I'm appalled; and if we look at our history as African-Americans, our unique history as African Americans, I don't want to comprehend it. I want to add that when you shared about the disrespect and dishonor endured by dark skinned black women.... the comedian Richard Pryor who often used the N word in his comedy skits, he said that after traveling to Africa and seeing the Sea of black people there and seeing with his own eyes the culture and the richness and heritage, when he returned he said he couldn't use that word anymore. Black American men who are putting down dark skinned sisters need to understand there's an entire continent of dark skinned sisters and dark skinned women all over the world; South America and all different parts of the world. It is poisonous because such sentiments on social media, in music lyrics, etc....this poisonous rhetoric doesn't just stay in the US black community; it is heard all over the world. It's affecting not only Black American women here in the United States, it's affecting black women around the world. There's no conscience, there's no insight or care about the far reaching implications. I appreciate what you're saying about roots of pain anger and rage. It's being released into the world at large. If that poison is not addressed individually, it spews onto everything it touches. Programmed Canableism. Thank you so very much for your platform for your voice for your integrity.

This reminds me of the saying “Cut off one’s nose to spite one’s face.”

You're doing your part sir 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

Same thing happened to me. I went on a blind double date. My friend girl's boyfriend just kept complimenting me when he met me. He thought I was so gorgeous and said he wanted to introduce me to his homeboy. I agreed. We went on the date and when his friend arrived, he looked at me and turnt to his friend and said "this is who you're talking about?!!! Yea she looks good but she would look a whole lot better if she was light skin". He had a drink then left...said i wasn't light enough 🤷🏾‍♀️

It also stems from the fact that back women are dating and marrying outside their race more now. Black women are being desired more from other races.

You ain't never lied ! You called it all right the truth is the truth !

Accountability, is a beautiful thing. Thank you!

Thank you! I appreciate your words. 🙏🏾❤️

Stand Tall king you keep Telling Truth love ❤ it

That is right Michael stand up for your black woman we need more man like you That think like you) Because there are beautiful chocolate black women in this world I am one of them and we have a lot of them In my family ) Pray over your wife And when you Have that daughter Pray over her every day that God will protect her That daughter And give her back to God Because we are the overseer Of God's children after him) Keep being the strong black man you are)

I am so grateful for your content you give me a little sliver of hope that there is a good quality man out there for me 😌

You hit the nail on the head with that experiment theory. I see that these folks are possibly sent to do the work of those folks and they just watch us get emotional and fight each other. What makes us think anything ended as far as racism on a higher level is concerned? We need to get smart about this game they are playing.

I understand your sentiment. God bless, and protect your family.🙏🏽 You are a beautiful soul. I’m praying for you, and your family. Stay STRONG and STAY ENCOURAGED.😊🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

I loved this video and totally agree with you. I’m dark skinned and I totally understand what your wife means. I once heard the reason why light skinned women seem more attractive than dark skinned women is that light skinned women looked more feminine and dark skinned women looked more masculine. I’m an older woman and I remember back in the 1980’s and 1990’s light skinned people had more choices in dating than dark skinned people. They were treated much better from the opposite sex.

My dad used to have that mentality and he still suffer with it, but momma said even though she not in love with my dad no more, she can SEE the change in him since he grown up and realize he has a black girl who isn't lightskin or exotic, she can tell he has more respect and he been apologizing and doing right by all black women he meet. (He was raised very different than most so he adopted the culture later on in teens)

I’m so glad he talks about this because this needs to be talked about! I’m a dark skin girl and I’m 21 and had 3 boyfriends out my life one really dark, one your complexion and one light skin! The 2 dark ones always made jokes about my skin but still try to act like they obsessed with me & love my skin! My boyfriend that was light skin NEVER made a joke or ever said I’m black asab or anything! It’s literally the dark skin men who are the most insecure and they put it on us dark skin woman especially! Shit so fucked up!

Your going to do great! Your a good Man! ❤

I know the video that you're talking about. The title of her video alone scared me and I didn't watch. I'm afraid for my sisters, nieces and my friend's daughter. I hope he spends as much b time with her so he can teach her the qualities of the men that she shouldn't go near. This is a deep video and I sure thank you for sharing your concerns with us.

Congratulations to you and your wife!! I love the content. Keep up the good work.

Had to go back and see your daughter on that live... She is beautiful and if she listens to you talk, you'll shape and mold her with so much understanding.. Pray for your family Become a better MAN everyday.. make it a goal everyday.. Let her see you take care of yourself.. Let her watch you as you respect your wife and you listen to her...

I really do appreciate you black man!!!

This was a great and much needed video ❤️

I am also concerned about our black daughters.

I always appreciate your videos. If I was of birthing age I wouldn't even bring anymore kids into this crazy world for some of the very reasons you mention. I was married we have 2 sons and a daughter my biggest fear was having to raise them alone. I succeeded but everyday I have to pray for them and their protection because truly the world is against them. Keep it up sir you are needed.

Thank you so much shumake!!! Like woo you winning

I love you and you will continue to be blessed!

Thank you Shumake

Am black man I love the way you speck the truth brother

I totally understand and can emphasize with you wife; I’m a Dark. Skin women and we do get looked at different ; I really understood this when I had my daughter; and she’s light skin. And the treatment is different, in my opinion this should not matter, but it does with our race. Great topic

Man, we all need to do better and stop with this hatred. Point blank.

That ANT EXAMPLE is DEEP!!!!!!!!

I called triple A the other day and a bm driver came out and he gave me dirty look and had an attitude with me for no reason. I immediately told him if he don't want to be here. And on the subject of bm not being attracted dark skin women they are actually but they want they want to follow the self hating crowd. They tell dark skin women that they cute for a dark skinned girl trying to play on what they think is the dark skinned women low self-esteem. It's trick psychology, but they don't realize that dark skinned women love themselves and they try to put their own self hate onto the dark skin. Bm need to start being leaders and not following. Bm are actually watering another races garden and it's sick and sad.

Shumake, you have a clean heart toward people & life, sadly this has become rare. I say this, I will do my part by living righteous & doing what I know is right, according to the Word of God. I pray for everyone, including myself. Thank you for such a transparent video 😊

Great video.

KZfaq algorithm recommended this to me and this video was very interesting and enlightening. Thank you. So correct me if I'm wrong, but the moral of this story is that we should never generalize people, because no group of people is made up of the same exact individuals.

I want to love everyone and try to check myself when I find my mind going south. However, I can't help but feel fear and dread when I see black men on the street. I don't want to have to kill someone in self defense just to make it home alive. I find myself clutching my knife and pepper spray and it just makes you dislike the group as a whole. I've been followed in cars and had abuses spat at me when I politely declined their advances. My own father spews some of the nonsense mentioned in this video. He hates black women and tries to convince me that I'm the problem in a marriage that hasn't even happened yet. I know not all BM are bad, I've met many kind ones, but they seem to be shrinking in number. I hate that I have to racially/visually profile fellow black people for my own safety, but I do. I wish more black guys like him would speak up, maybe it can be safe in our community for once.

When women say “all” black men it’s because y’all “good” ones are checking the bad ones and nobody is building what the community needs

You’re such a good, honest man. You’re wife is extremely blessed.

The stories I could tell..

I’m going to be honest I have two black sons and a black husband and I don’t want a daughter for the same reason of being a black woman

I've always love 💘 ❤ 💕 ♥ 💗 💓 💘 darker skin beautiful people, my people are the most beautiful people on the face of the earth. I think you put out great constant, please keep it coming. Be blessed and peace be with you all and I will keep you in prayer.

This is where parents need to give confidence to their kids and not passing on their frustrations and insecurities. Thank you for being you, you're a great man

I think the same way about having my daughter but I will raise her to walk around with her head high thru thick and thin you are a queen behave like one

I love your videos brother. I don't think these men are just attacking black women because they are hurt or have suffered so horribly with black women. A lot of them are jumping on a bandwagon because disgracing black women has always been fashionable in our culture/society. Most of them have never really experienced enough suffering/pain which is why they mishandle black women so often. I look at it like this...black women have endured so much that we have the strength that a lot of these men envy because they allowed their pride to cause them to relinquish their God given responsibilities, which has made them weaker and unable to measure up now. Black women have really come to a place where they really don't need the type of man that society now has to offer. It will be in her best interest that she remain single. Sad, but it's reality

Some of them really don’t care about their daughters. They don’t even grow a relationship with their kids at all. They just do whatever they feel like.

It hurt me so bad when my 13 year old grandson said he doesn’t like Black girls; said he likes biracial, light, white girls😢😔. I think society is obvious with their agenda

That's its right there is nothing valuable out there no more. ❤💜❤💜

Another great video ❤️

Thank You so much Mr Shumake ✌✌ Your wife is one of the most BEAUTIFUL Black Women on Earth 🌎and you both are going to have the most Beautiful black babies ever ❤❤❤

I hope y'all have twins ( a girl and a boy). That would be awesome!

We are living in the last days. But I would suggest listening to her video concerning that issue before mentioning her topic.

Tell it! & I'm half black! mixed with native American, 😋 and I don't like it! But thankfully the men & women in my life are good to me and very respectful! It's not right to do this on both sides, we are all individuals! I was done wrong by someone, I don't like or deal with that person, I don't blame all men or whoever, I have my performance, what I like and that's all! It's still based on the person, if they have a good ❤ heart, a family member wanted to hurt the person that done me wrong, as it turns out, I left, never looked back! Best decision I ever made, we live separated lives, I go my way & they go theirs! Luckily it worked out for the best, lesson learned!

12:20, so true. Let these dudes get comfortable around you enough. The words you will hear exactly.

Unfortunately, many of them don't care that they're putting a target on the backs of their family members.

When it comes to the abortion part. I believe their body my choice. Just because you have children doesn't mean everyone deserves their selves replicated. Bad decisions can be corrected. You are correct in all you speak ❤️ much love brother

Thank you

Self Love is 🗝 !!! Someone who doesn't love themselves could NEVER love you properly. 🤎❤🤎❤🤎🤎❤🤎❤🤎🤎🤎❤🤎🤎❤🤎🤎❤🤎🤎❤🤎🤎🤎❤🤎🤎❤🤎🤎❤🤎🤎❤🤎❤🤎🤎🤎❤

Keep being a good listener to your wife

Thank you for being a bm who cares. We need more men like you. Yes...your daughter is beautiful!❤❤❤

The same bw that birth them, were there when they were sick, clothed them, fed them, never left them when they're father's did! Out of respect for those bw, they should never! They're not the first BM to be hurt by bw, but somehow, they're the first on this mass level! Why? Tupac said it best on the song keep your head up!

This hurts my heart because I’m a dark skin woman. I’m afraid for my granddaughter, family (women) and friends. We just keep it moving because GOD has our back. He was the one who created dark skin women. We will keep praying and GOD will protect us believe that. Thanks for that video. Love you my brother.

I have a beautiful chocolate drop daughter. I have no concern for her because of idiots she may come across. Even in the 90s as a fair skinned woman, I had to learn to love myself and my dad and mom were integral in that process. My beautiful brown skinned daughter is growing up with the same support and with God's grace she'll be a woman with healthy self esteem. I 🙏 the same thing for all of our children. We have to be the remnant to help the community flourish! 😉

Cyn G is needed. I used to ALWAYS specify that NOT ALL Black men are bad but then I realized MOST Black men is like this in the community. I’d like to think the community have something to offer I and my family but it doesn’t, it’s unclean, it’s unsafe, it lack substance and most of the men just want to turn the young ladies coming up into whores. Before Cyn or the red pill etc… Black women were ALWAYS being treated like trash in the community. I’ve gotten to the point in life where I’m more scared of Black men than I do a the KKK.

I'm expecting a daughter in October, her mother is a great woman very submissive and strong at the same time I see how much hate black women have been getting in recent years, I'm worried about the challenges I know she'll face as a black woman , ima make she's prepared for all the bs

I agree

I wish I can buy a house with someone. I guess I'll do it alone.

15:00 man you better speak 🗣

Well said. And yes the ant thing is here in R Illinois. You give them food and all they do is run over it and fight all day !

Please don't call yourself a simp just because you don't bash bw.

💯💯💯💯

Revelation 1:8 (KJV) I am Alpha and Omega, the beginning and the ending, saith the Lord, which is, and which was, and which is to come, the Almighty... I don't put my trust in men... it doesn't matter what the world views about melanated people... the Most High has the final say.... I pray the proverbs 22:6... #shalom

They’re dwelling only on lower frequencies in this matrix

This has been going on for a long time . I am not surprised it's as if people want to be brainwashed. If you don't like something or someone just leave it or them alone.

Your right I think , hood parents say they look ugly , my wife black black very beautiful lady

Micheal I appreciate you,But we as women need to come together as a whole rather Light Skin or Dark, It's about LOVING SELF if we do that MEN who have a problem with BLACK WOMEN want stand a chance, They want be able to play the LIGHT SKIN DARK SKIN CARD but some of us FALL FOR IT!!!, THIS IS FOR ALL BLACK WOMEN LIGHT OR DARK YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AND WORTHY OF EVERYTHING GOOD THIS UNIVERSE HAS TO OFFER!!!!

You should watch Cyns video. It’s about to get bad