Remember kids, a healthy dose of skepticism keeps you alert and aware!

I just hate when the cheater plays so hard to be the victim

This is a cruel and unpunished crime. And let’s not forget that there’s a man out there who’s being deprived of his daughter. Men must *REALLY* start doing DNA tests on their babies.

Don't pity you're wife. She made this bed. Her decisions and lying put her in this place. Cheating is awful enough but making the conscious decision to lie about it for years, especially if a pregnancy occurs during the cheating and isn't admitted to...nah..leave that trash to their own vices and never look back. There's no excuse for it.

The worst kind of hurt is betrayal because someone was willing to hurt you just to make themselves feel better.

Man, I wouldn’t mind raising a child that isn’t mine, as long as her mother isn’t involved. I really think that most men feel that way, the problem is not raising and supporting a child that is not yours, you cannot blame the child for being born, *the real problem is supporting the witch who did this to you.*

23 & Me strikes again. It's awesome how despicable mothers can no longer get away with this. Show her the streets. Legally adopt your daughter I guess, and once they turn 18, go no-contact with ex-wife. Then live your life to the fullest. Then once the divorce is finalized, see if you can sue your ex-wife for something.

No matter how much u trust ur gf/wife and think that she is loyal, talk about paternity test before hand and mandatorily conduct it at the time of birth. No man should go through emotional distraught and financial fraud. If father can be arrested for not paying child support similarly a mother should be charged for paternity fraud. DNA testing lately is revealing alot of cheaters.

OK to be clear on a couple of things: 1. She's not remorseful about what she did. She's sorry she got caught. 2. She's NOT suicidal, she's manipulative. She knows she's the "bad guy" and will threaten suicide (will probably fake a drug overdose, the favorite method of caught cheaters) as a way to become the sympathetic victim.

The wife:"Honey our love can withstand my mistake" The dude: "You screwed another man, got pregnant and told me it was my kid" *(wife proceeds to become suicidal)* the dude:"._.XD"

Those family dna kits are dangerous. How many cheaters have you caught out?

1st story: She went suicidal? It's her problem. The kids hate her? It's her problem. Her family hate her? It's her problem. Of course the kids will dislike her, this is not a "Santa Claus doesn't exist" lie. It's a life changing life. Focus on your kids, get a family therapy. 2nd story: at least you realize your mistake before having kids with this guy. Seriously tell his wife.

With the first story clearly she's going to attempt suicide to get you back in the make the kids not hate her when in reality it's only going to make them hate her even more. She's only thinking about yourself and Her Image not her children and her husband. My advice to you continues to go to therapy with your daughter because she's going to have trust issues from this for the rest of her life especially when it comes to her mother. Also be prepared for her family to try to pressure you to get you back into her life. She's a master manipulator because she's not sorry that she cheated and destroyed her family she's sorry that she got caught and exposed. Be there for your daughter but also get your son into counseling as well because he's mostly going to be hurt by this as well. And lastly serve her the papers now so she can know you're serious and you're done with the BS.

If u see any redflag while trying to date a person then definitely something is wrong, vet the person before committing to him/her.

The affair might have been years ago for her, but for you and your daughter, it's right now. I'm sorry for your pain. Honestly don't know how it's going to go on but I wish you the best.

I really hate when cheaters get caught they say the same cliche’ predictable shit. “ it meant nothing “ or “it’s not what it looks like” 🤦🏾‍♂️

From what I've seen a cheater who says ''I am gonna divorce my husband/wife'' almost always never does

Why do the evil villians in these stories always act like victims?!?! Letting a man raise another mans baby and keeping it a secret is THE MOST VILE thing a human being can do. Women that get caught doing this should go straight to prison for as many years as the man thought it was his kid, in this instance it would be for 15 years...thats what the wife deserves.

And women wonder "Where did all the good men go?" Anywhere but around you.

My gf ignores me so I watch these to feel better-

Story 1: UPDATE 5:16 Update: Beloved wife cheated on me and my daughter isn’t mine Story 2: 8:41 I didn't get cheated on but he cheated on his wife with me... WHY AM I SO STUPIDDDDD

If you get into a relationship and it lasts long-term and there is no fighting. You might want to start asking questions, because all relationships have arguments. If they don't someone's doing something shady.

Prenups Everyone prenups

Gentlemen....DNA tests. Get them. Before you sign the birth certificate

Cant wait to start my family , but I'm afraid of this

The kids aren't as the armchair psychologists say, 'picking up on his anger'. Well, they MIGHT be. But really....those kids were betrayed too!! The kids deserve to be angry too! These are not mindless blank slates and suddenly become self aware at the age of 30. These are small people, becoming adults everyday. They need to FEEL their anger. They need to grieve too. Don't force kids to be more grown up than you can't even act on yourself. The kids had been lied to all those years. She robbed you of the decision to stay with a cheater that wanted you to raise her affair baby.

If she wasn't willing to cherish you before the affair what makes her say that she'll cherish you now?

So many issues at play here. I myself have married twice and both to single moms, so I knew going into it that I'd be raising other men's children. But this is something on a whole other level. Yes, you can love the child but you were deceived into believing that she was your flesh and blood from the beginning so you never had a choice to pass or play. Add to that she cheated, got pregnant but knew that the baby wasn't yours, so she was going to take that info to the grave with her. WTF? It takes around $250,000 to raise a child today so not only did she cheat, deceive you, broke your trust, hurt you in the deepest and worst way, she cost you a lot of money too! Again, this has no reflection on your daughter but only on the character of your wife. I'm just curious if she ever tried to reach out to the AP to let him know he has a daughter during your marriage? I'll bet she has, then it also raises the question if she did, did she sleep with him as well? She had unprotected sex with this guy presumably a random stranger during her fertile time, bore his child then laid that responsibility on you! Women get pregnant, I get it, but to get married then misrepresent a pregnancy? Unbelievable! Women just "blow-it-off" like it's no big deal and that life just goes on! Do you know why? Because they suffer no consequences for the affair. If it wasn't a-r3pe, then it was totally consensual and she knew having unprotected sex when she was fertile would lead to this! It was NO accident either! And I'll bet it wasn't the only time she did this! There's more to this affair that she's not telling you. Who was the guy and how did HE play into your lives? She probably got dumped by him but would've left you otherwise. You were her plan-B!

6:12 that's messed up things to say, let me translate to you, "I wish I never brought that kit and let my mother continue to lie to you" so selfish.

A previous child is one thing..an affair child is out of the question

I never thought anything like this could ever happen to me. Both of my parents deceased many, many years ago. Recently I purchased a DNA kit. I thought that it would be interesting to do a family tree on both my mother and my dads side. I received the results yesterday. As I sit here I am numb. I'm destroyed. Nothing is real anymore. As I was scrolling down there was not one person that I thought that was my relative that was on my list of potential relatives. Not one! This has shaken me to the very core and Foundation of my soul. I no longer Know Who I Am anymore. Several years ago (1981 to be exact) my father was in a drunken stupor and began to talk. He told me the story about how that he and the person I thought was my mother had wanted children so desperately but she could not have any. Anyway, a female was found who was very, very pregnant at the time. It was agreed that my mother and dad would pay the hospital bill and she would go to the hospital and pose as my mother. I suppose back in the 50s you could do something like that. Now I'm pretty sure that they are much more strict. Anyway, I was born and her way was paid back up to somewhere in the northeastern part of the country where she was from. Anyway, long story short none of my family believed him. Whenever you lie so many times people begin to disbelieve you and whenever you do finally tell the truth people think you are crying wolf. I never really paid any attention to it until yesterday. If only parents knew how badly they can screw people up and mess people's lives up by doing the things that they do, I have to believe that they wouldn't do them. At this point I'm in shambles. To this day I remember the name that he gave me that was supposedly my biological mother's name. According to my DNA results, the closest person has the same initials that he gave me. I don't know if I should try to contact this person, or not. Its like nothing is real anymore. If anybody has any suggestions out in the world wide web I'm certainly open to them. I bid everybody God Bless and good day.

I can’t imagine going numb to or hating my gf

It may be nothing to her, but, to him it's everything.

You want her to suffer, make her suffer, make her feel all the pain and regret, all the time you spent loving a lie. After all thats what you had to go through.

Oh gosh. They grew up together. Oh dear. That's actually crazy. I don't know if this marriage thing is for me, man.

In an ideological world, it should be a mandatory procedure for any child born to undergo a paternity test.

1:51 awe fuck that literally broke my heart. Never had tears swell up so damn fast b4

Honestly if you haven't met the parents you can't consider yourself serious. I couldn't imagine dating someone I knew so little about after a few dates.

Simps always try to appease the cheating spouse

I feel so much for first OP and his kids. They didnt deserve this.

With the Second Story you are not an idiot you were played like his wife is currently being played. My advice to you you need to tell her the truth that you had no idea that he was married to you until you found out on social media. Let her know provide her with the evidence and be there for her when she needs you to testify on her behalf in court. Other than that you're just as much a victim as she is. And when you found out the truth you left the moment it was made possible.

The 2nd story abor rhe woman with the cheating husband is fortunate that he didnt kill her when she confronted him. Over here this woman confronted him when she found he had 5 kids. She broke up with him, and he stalked and killed her. He garroted her. Wben the police showed up he was hiding in the closet. He knew that she had to open ip the store where she worked at, and waited outside to kill her. She wasnt wrong. But she had specifically asked him if he was married and even had kids and he looked ber full in the face and said no. Not only was he married, but he also had 5 kids.

This channel and that subreddit is dedicated to me for not get into long term relationships...

Don't push your kids to forgive their mother. They will do it on their own accord

It's funny how it always means nothing. Destroying your family's entire lives over 'nothing'.

The only credit for the wife is at least she didn't get an abortion.

Good question now would have been if the mother preferred her son or her daughter. That would have said a lot about how "it was nothing".

Putting the father aside for one second, think how the kids are feeling. Especially the daughter. OP could say that her pain is started to heal but all of us know this is a lie. This is not something you heal from. Poor kiddo.

I know it's serious but "Lol if that's your decision" is the coldest shit I've ever heard 😭😭😭

Don't act like a milksop! You're just teaching your kids that their mother's behavior was a common, simple mistake. Your daughter is your daughter regardless. Not in all cases but when you love each other and your daughter didn't help her cheat then that's still your child.

First story... yes... file for divorce. 1. You can always reconcile during the separation period. 2. You need to establish legal custody. Men rarely get it -- especially with your younger son who isn't a teen. Get this while she is suicidal and you can petition the courts over this. In a year or two when she is 'better' you are almost assured to loose custody. 3. You can't afford to get raked over the coals. You need the house, savings, etc. for the kids. You can't afford to be buying out your half of the house to her, giving her alimony, etc. Nor can you assume you'll get child support out of her as she may not be working. Likewise, expect costs for the kids to rise, you may need to work less hours, expenses to go up (say therapy, etc.) 4. You don't want a suicidal person around your kids. Or someone who tried to take them. Alcohol or drug issues, etc. 5. You may need to legal custody for all sorts of things -- medical issues, travel outside the country, etc. 6. You'll need her out of your will, children's college funds, money from your parents you might get/inherit, etc. 7. Your wife can clearly use "suicide" to avoid divorce papers and retain custody, visitation, etc. for years. She has no incentive not to be suicidal. She may use custody of the little one as a threat over staying together. 8. You may put your kids in fear that she'll end up with custody -- either because you aren't filling or wait until she's sorted herself out so she gets custody. etc. Seriously, its better for the kids to file ASAP. It is causes her to make more suicide attempts... that isn't something you can control, but you can't let that prevent you from protecting your children and remaining in limbo for years while she 'games' the system. She is out of other options.

It’s in my head that looks

Hope everyone had a great day and if not hope you have a better day tomorrow!!!!

i just need someone to vent too. Some days i just feel like dying, somedays i just feel like a burden too everyone around me. like nobody even cares for me. sometimes it feels like i have too force the "i love you" out of my mom, i know exactly what shes feeling because ive done it too my brother and my dad. I tell her i love her and she just pauses and stays silent. ive been depressed since i was 5,one time i even smashed my head into a wall till i bled out. Another when i was 4 i stood on top of glass and kept jumping so i could feel the pain. my family would be better off if i died.

Shit like this is why DNA tests should be mandatory!

STBXWs have a choice of one of a couple of paths. First is the DV path to destroy the the spouse. For taking action and exposing the cheater. Second is the emotional and pity route. Tears, begging, promising, getting family to encourage reconciliation, and other attempts to pull heart strings. Third and last, Self harm or you know what. It could be for the reason of ruining true love and hurting the spouse. It also could be to mentally harm spouse and not worrying about kids. Try and make them think it was all the spouses fault and they will live there life regretting what they did to to the cheater

Story 2:Tell the dang wife!!!!

2:50 I gotta somewhat disagree. Kids do in fact care about biology if the biological father is still in the picture. Little kids especially will probably not be the nicest to step dad or even step mom. Most kids want and truly believe that their biological mom and dad will get back together and their family will be whole again, and the only person stopping that from happening is step parents. I'm guess the guy who wrote this had step daughters with a dead beat dad who isn't apart of their life that much or who just completely walked out on them before they could remember. That really helps the step parents chances of the kids fully accepting them and seeing them as dad or mom. Plus it sounds like the guy already has experience with kids and marriage which makes taking in step children pretty easy since you already know that fatherly love and instinct feels like, not all men have that blessing. But yeah I 100% feel for OP and his daughter, they must be going through a lot emotionally.

Would be 1 less cheater in the world

She received 3 23 and Me tests for her birthday? Really?

I love it when cheaters say the affair meant nothing. Because that means exactly how much the person they cheated on meant and means to them. Nothing. Same with it was only physical. They say that like it's supposed to make things better when all it does is make it worse.

I think this story is probably fake, right from the opening. (1) Those kits are expensive. Far more money than an average 15-year-old would spend on a gift to a friend. (2) The only 23-and-me kits I've seen are designed for a single person, not a family. Each person would have to have their own kit. (3) 23-and-me kits operate on saliva collection, not swabs.

Would it help your daughter's sense of security if you suggested that you adopt her?

Yes the wife is the one that did that but you need to keep your children safe even if you're dorter will be yours no matter what

SMH fatherless activities

Holy shit. I feel so horrible for the daughter in the first story. The mother is horrible.

It meant NOTHING ... and she doesn't either

Um im thinking of not ever being in a relationship ever

this kinda reminds me of a doujin I once read...

The second story well of course a woman blames the man for all her choices women do not have any accountability for their actions they always blame shift and say it’s other people in society that’s letting him do it I cannot have a daughter and now my marriage I’m scared to death of it every day after seeing all these women and how they truly are who can trust anymore

God that first story hits home. My uncle basically changed himself for the better when he got married by controlling his drinking habits and stopped smoking after finding out he was going to be a second dad. Second arrived and years later everyone in the family found out his wife had an affair and that his second kid isnt his. Definitely hurt him because he got back to smoking but he seems to trying to kick it again. I usually see his ex go to the store I work in with the guy she cheated with and a lot of kids(either hers or his as its been like 3-4 years i think) and can definitely say that he life is likely worse now

Hmm so trying to find a man to have sex with is just support? I mean she definitely was a victim but her version of “support” was inevitably going to bring in the worst of humanity and she should’ve known that I guess when she said she was dumb she wasn’t kidding!

This situation is above Reddit's pay grade.....

Mandate the DNA test for fck sakes.

Hate to sound cruel but woman's past haunts her oh well your time to go then

This is an old story

This is why their should be lawful notarized pernups at the time of marriage as part of the marriage license and mandatory DNA test at birth before the man's name lawfully goes on the birth certificate.

Do you notice how all of these stories are of women cheating? I saw a statistic that says men cheat more than women and I think it's bullshit. This is anecdotal of course, but I only hear about women cheating. Anytime I hear about a man cheating it turns out that his partner was cheating on him first anyway. I'm sure that some men do cheat. However, I hear about women doing it all the fucking time. This is why I'm kind of afraid to enter a relationship.

Same old crap different folks involved...

I will never understand the mindset of "she's still my daughter no matter what, or he is still my son" No. No they are not. Can you still love them? Of course. But they are not your fucking child

I dont think kids can judge parents in those situations if parents still care of them. Especially the mother, they will always have her. Kids are young and have black and white thinkibg, sadly.

Women moment

This channel needs to skip the Reddit commentors. Nothing but bad advice. Kids DO care about biology. And of course the beta simp that said they don't has step-children. Hilarious.

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