Story 1: My beloved wife cheated on me and my daughter isn’t mine. How can I move forward as well as shake angry feelings? Story 2: 5:17 11 years together, with 2 years of fidelity Story 3: 11:35 Please help! Possible cheating wife!

Guy in the second story is incredibly weak. She cheated once and left you... then you took her back? He deserved everything he got after that.

2nd story the guy deserves what he got. His friend told him but he took her word as gospel. Paternity test is needed for him

The first op should sit back and enjoy the show while reassuring his daughter.

Second guy was a complete chump. What motivation would your friend have to lie? To all you young up and comers out there, know this: it takes A LOT for one friend to come to another and tell them their s/o is being unfaithful, simply because they know that there's a likely chance they're about to become the bad guy. If you've got a friend who tells you she's taking her pants off for other guys, learn from this guy's mistake and believe him.

The fact the daughter in the first story is being the perfect daughter because she isn't his biologically breaks my heart. Sugar cookie, that's your dad. I have no doubt she feels devastated. There are certain circumstances where it's ok to be a little difficult and this is one of them. I'm afraid that emotionally she isn't letting it out.

Well at least his son is biologically his and the mother is facing her consequences. He outta sue her for paternity fraud she probable knew his daughter is his until she got caught. One thing to know about cheaters is that there never sorry for what they did only sorry cause they got caught keep that in mind

Story 2: this guy is just.. umbelievable. He is not a victim; he was told about her cheating by friends before marrying her and chose not to believe. There is no way you don’t look into things after a discussion like that. He put himself in this position because he’s a simp. He knew subconciously. Now he’s stringing along a nice girl; should just break up with her because he’s wasting her young, childbearing years.

this bloke was so warned by is friend and he disregarded what was said and married a cheating wife this was pathetic no sympathy all the red flags were flying high number 2

It’s actually super normal to have petty, mean, or “vindictive” feelings-it’s part of our nature… the most important aspect is recognizing that we don’t truly want those things and that we know logically, those thoughts don’t do anyone any favors (even ourselves). We know deep down inside we want no harm for anyone, despite their mistakes. Nothing can take away our power to choose to be patient, understanding, and benevolent.

Paternity fraud is a serious crime that has no punishment that many many women get away with. Women who commit this should be forced to refund every penny the man has paid towards a child that isn't his and get as many years behind bars as that child is old

No SIMPathy for op #2. As the friend whose tried to warn a friend before, he deserves what he gets.

Bro the last dude 😂 these guys are something else haha

Am I the only one that notices that 90% of these stories are all women cheating on their husbands?

Story 2 welp that's what you get for calling yourself 'blissfully unaware', this kind of person just burries their head in the sand after getting told the truth, not worth helping out just wasting everyone's time. When people like this have had enough they'll get out or just live like this for the rest of their lives.

That daughter in the first story feeling like she has to be a perfect daughter to show her dad that she's still his daughter literally breaks my heart. He's always gonna be your dad

Dude in story 2 is jus a chump lol

The second guy deserves everything that she did to him. Don’t be a simpleton man. Disgraceful for a grown man to behave that way.

2nd story: Hahahaha! I hope his kids aren't his. I don't want his genes to be passed down.

Someone needs to do a Reddit Relationships speed run, you win when you find a story about the man cheating

Alternative title - stories of weak men creating hard times.

The third story Jizas kraist dude, can you not see the signs Whats worse you apologising for her obvious distant behaviour She is cheating. Point blank and Period

Imagine marrying in no fault state

Even in a no fault state make sure you have PI pictures because that can help you not pay alimony or whatever it is in your state.

Should have trusted your friend now he’s paying for kids that aren’t his and another man doesn’t get to have a relationship with his kids

Cleaned out your savings?? How do you let her get away with that without suing??

The guy in the second story sucks but what annoyed me more was that arm chair psychologist who commented "Oh she does it for validation, I think she was abused and has CPTSD" literally nothing indicated that and it sounds like they are trying to justify her behaviour.

Don't reward a cheater with a ring. The cheating will grow out of proportion in the marriage. Frankly the second story is so gross. Edit: Don't confront a cheater if you does not have any undisputable proof or else she/he will manipulate/gaslight you. Instead do your homework by that i mean hire a private investigator, audio recording, spy/nanny camera, location tracker, check email, duplicate the phone content, check computers, bank statement for small sum of money spent on hotel room or restaurent/gifts that you never receive etc.

First story is just a guy that doesn't understand what the death of a marriage means. He's angry now because he's still grieving. He still loves the illusion/false image he had for his wife. And he HATES her for killing that image. Anger is normal. And anger is normal for his kids, they were betrayed too! They are grieving too, not just mirroring him. Therapy for him and the kids will help process these feelings, and maybe he'll let those feelings happen instead of fighting against them. It's super unhealthy to deny feelings of anger, and to try and deny others their feelings of anger. It'll take a long time, but those feelings of anger will turn towards indifference. Which is the ultimate goal of the anger he's feeling. In the grieving process we call this acceptance. But for the wife that has lied to and used him for many years, she's still alive. Her image is gone, but that's what he needs to bury and grieve for. Not the monster that's left behind. The monster that believed it was okay to parental fraud this man for multiple children, and waste his good years nurturing her instead of someone that would actually love him....that creature will wind up alone. If her children forgive her, that's fine. But that's not for you to decide. And you shouldn't push them one way or the other. She's not your problem anymore. You be there for those kids, but not as the husband figure, only father figure.

2nd story: you see people, love is everything, love is happiness, love is endless and most of all love is sharing, but love can kill you in every ways there is, if you put too much love on a person that person interpret it into different meanings, suffocating and caring it depends on how you interpret it, this happens to this guy he was told by a friend that fiance is bad news and yet he married her because he was blinded by his love to her, few years down the road the true color of his wife surfaced and what he gets in return, nothing, he was treated like piece of shit, a good lesson here, people, always listen to your friends they always have your back, don't let love blind you in every way, it's too dangerous......

The second story is why I have mixed feelings about having alloromantic friends. They'd drop you for their lover and will say the sky is purple because their lover says so. The pain isn't worth it.

Gee, no wonder the number of people getting married is going lower and lower. One of them even have an affair for the entire relationship, took all the money and even in that way, the custody is 50/50 and I bet OP didn't get 50% of the money to stand on his feet

Parental fraud is a perfect and unpublishable crime for women. And everyone forgets that they (women) robe the bio dad of his fatherhood. No one contacts them after the truth comes out. Imagine if it was the other way around, a baby switched at birth for a stillborn and never telling the bio mom years later that actually she has a child. That would be unacceptable but men, the hell with men.

Story 2: "how could I have been so blind?" Dude, I have zero pity for you. You not only had red flags, but an entire crew with beacon lights trying to wave you off. You *chose* this.

Second guy is a turbo simp, ignored them obvious signs, won’t do a DNA test, never doubted her “girls nights out”, and ignored his friend who was moral enough to take the heat by trying to help him out of his delusion. He didn’t deserve what happened to him, but he is certainly partially responsible for it.

"Girls night out" means the relationship is already over.

Why so people cheat? I rather have them say they don’t love me and want to date someone else. It’ll hurt but not as much as if it’s done behind my back while still being together.

Never, EVER share a bank account with a spouse… evvverrr Even if they are financially responsible and/or loyal when shit hits the fan too many people are willing to just clean out the bank account with no shame. It should be a felony to do this

second story was pure karma. guy deluded himself she wasn't cheating despite the fact that his friend warned him about his wife. His friend literally gains NOTHING from warning him, and yet he ignore it. Instead of looking for evidence, he just confronts her and cuts the friend off. He brought it upon himself.

I have 4 children 2 that are adopted. The youngest when he was about 10 or so also became the perfect son. Asked later about it he said he was so afraid he was the reason his birth parents didn't want him and he wanted to do everything he could so we wouldn't do the same. That's what his daughter is doing. She is so afraid the only father she knows will not want her. I wish people before they decide to cheat would read posts like this and the very serious consequences of of what cheating can create. There is no way of predicting all of the outcomes

Adultery should be illegal

Soo many reasons for men to not get married, probable cheating isn't even the #1 on the list, yet so many do. 2nd biggest mistake of my life for sure.

I don't understand how someone can cheat for 9 out of 11 years with multiple people, drain a join account without the other person's knowledge, and STILL get spousal support. Plus, 50/50 custody and she still gets child support? None of that makes sense to me.

23andme...and him, and him, and him, and him...

Therapy for him and the kids! If he doesn’t have a damn good lawyer he’s crazy! But OP has every right to his anger. #2 took back a cheater! The fool deserved every ounce of pain he suffered. Edit #3 Her ex was a cheater. No she cheated on the ex. And now she is cheating on #2. The marriage is over. It is time to do plan 180.

The daughter in the first story is heart breaking. She's absolutely terrified of losing her father with her change in behavior. The positive here is that's clear the relationship between OP1 and the daughter is likely going to be fine going forward. Therapy is a must. What also likely needs to happen since it's clear OP1's feeling toward his daughter has not changed is to adopted her to give the daughter some piece of mind going forward and to make it clear she will always be his daughter.

My advice with the first story is simple you need to let your children work out their anger and frustration with their mother on their own don't try to force them to talk to her because then that's only going to make their hatred for her even more intense and it may grow some resentment towards you for forcing them to have a relationship with her. It's time for your soon-to-be ex-wife to learn the consequences of her actions and it may be that she loses her children not speaking to her for good number of years because of her selfishness especially when it comes to your own daughter. Because let's be real here you know you're not going to leave your daughter that abandon her but in her mind she has that intense fear of you abandoning her because of what her mother did to you and her. Get yourself some therapy get your children therapy with do not force them to go and have a talk with their mother because all that's going to do is intensify the hatred for her and maybe some resentment to you later on down the road.

This is reasons I don't want to get married or date 😑

Second story he deserves what he got soo made

Story 3- she’s cheating on you! Don’t be weak, get rid of her.

I don't blame OP for feeling the way he does. He just got hit with a sledgehammer to the heart ❤ in discovering that (a) his wife cheated, and (b) his daughter is not his biologically. I admire his restraint given the circumstances. He and his kids should seek counseling. Fortunately, his daughter only sees him as her real father, and vice versa. That bond surpasses biology. In that regard, he is blessed. If there's any consolation, his ex-wife is already suffering the consequences of her infidelity. Karma is a bitch! She can't hide from it. She has been put on blast and exposed to the whole family as a cheater and adulteress. She can't spin it in a way that benefits her. She can't gaslight him. Her reputation is destroyed. If that puts a smile on OP's face, I ain't mad at him. I'd feel the same way.

Her taking the entire savings account will not look good in court.

I feel sorry for the first OP and hope he sees his way through this for him and his children. He should sit the kids down reassure them of his love and devotion no matter what. He also should tell them that while they are all understandably hurt and mad at mom right now she is their mom and they have the right to choose what relationship they do or don't want with her . There will not and should not be any backlash or hurt feelings from him or either sibling over what relationship either of them chooses with her now or in the future. Bottom line it's their mom and own personal choice which will be totally respected and accepted by all of them. The second OP was foolish in just asking his ex about the friends allegations and expecting the truth if it was true. This situation is where you don't say anything or act differently because the info might be wrong but take that info and start digging and investigating. If there is anything you will find it and then drop them into the dumpster where they belong . Third OP , If you have reason to think your SO is cheating then they probably are, your gut isn't telling you somethings up for no reason.

With the Second Story you need to get DNA test on both of your boys and quite frankly you need therapy for yourself because let's be real here this is one of those situations where this woman not only mentally and emotionally abused you but took advantage of her your love and kindness and basically lied to you for almost a decade of your life cause you to doubt marriage all together and almost cost you going to suicidal depression and stole from you. I wouldn't be surprised if she what do some trauma in her life that made her feel this way.

2nd guy is a spineless coward. Best to not be like him.

And women have the nerve to wonder why men don't want to get married anymore 😒😒....

Story 2. The fact that you where told by her co worker and didn't think to investigate further since your own friend said everyone in her work knew and the fact you only asked her and she said no. But didn't think to ask her co-workers. Like if i was told that my husband was cheating. I would first go get information at her work since I was told everyone knew. Then I would ask him /her

That’s not the definition of insanity it’s just a quote from a movie

1st story is absolutely disgusting , a woman who does that shit should be put in jail PERIOD

Whether you are a man or woman, why the hell don't you have an exit strategy when there's problems in a relationship? Think of it like death. What would you do to prepare in case a loved one is gone? You need to make plans to reduce the pain and move on. When you buy a car, do you expect to keep it forever? Most people can't because the car will die on you or it won't do what you want it to do anymore, so, you have to make plans to replace the item or live without it. The same goes for relationships. Why are people so inept at realizing that good or bad interactions between people change and you need to adapt and safe guard yourself. In some ways this is an addiction response where the injured party just doesn't want to stop even though they know what they should do in the first place.

I DONT CARE IF IVE BEEN WITH SOMEONE FOR 500 YEARS , IF THEY CAUGHT CHEATING IM DONE FOREVER ... PERIOD

She has to stay at a hotel for the night because her company wants her to work the next day and on Valentine's Day, while her work is 10- minutes from home? That is strange.. this is for the last story

Dude should break off the relationship with that nice girl. Stringing her along is terrible. She deserves someone who will live the type life she wants.

The 2nd story man what an idiot. A close friend tells you she’s cheating before marriage and you ask her rather than investigating. Then you let her be a house wife with plenty of time to cheat and no self income so now you have to pay her spousal support

Story 1 - I'd let the kids call the shots. Your daughter is old enough to decide if she wants to talk to her mom. Your son might be mirroring what he sees. Get a divorce and send her to the streets. Then consider therapy once the divorce is done. Story 2 - If there was a Biggest Simp Award, you'd win. Story 3 - Bro, let's use some logic. If it looks like she is, acts like she is, and sounds like she is... SHE. IS. CHEATING.

My wife thought that I was cheating on her. I hiding credit card bills and being a little sneaky with my phone . Our son was killed in 09 and he had a son who lives with his mother in Alaska. This had been killing my wife. Because of the global issue we had not seen him in a couple years now she broke her ankle in January and she has been in the bed since her surgery. She flipped out on me and she thought that I was seeing someone. But I have been working on getting him down for the summer and he and his mother are moving back towards the end of the summer. His mother is sending him down with all of his stuff and his furniture. I had been working on getting a house for them to live in. I had to go see the houses that she would pick out for them and we found her one that needs a little work that she wants to do herself when she moved in it. I had to setup my grandson’s travel with his belongings and a flight for me up there and driving back home in a moving truck. He almost slipped and told her but I cut the phone off on her. Her birthday is in may and my daughter in law and grandson are going to drop it on her birthday for her. But I had to let her know that she has nothing to worry about because I know that she is a pit viper in a divorce court and I don’t want her ever going after me again. lol hopefully she loves her gifts. My daughter in law’s parents don’t know that she is coming back home yet either and it’s been hard to keep it from everyone. The biggest thing was that she thought that I would cheat on her. I cried when she asked me about it. Because I couldn’t show her what I had done. Our oldest daughter found out and she spoke to my wife and told her that she needs to just chill until her birthday.

Op number 2. 😂😂😂😂 you deserve everything you had coming.

Your wife cheated and got you to raise an affair baby without knowing but you're worried about your angry and vindictive feelings... you have every right to be angry, vindictive and whatever else you want. What she did is even worse than cheating. Cheating is bad enough but to pass your affair baby off as someone else's is horrible

Second guy is a moron and deserved what happened. He was warned early on; most people who experienced the pain of infidelity would have loved to have a friend like that.

Its the lies and deceit that hurts. The fact your wife could deceave you like this shows just how selfish she was. It just shows how women are total traitors to their men.

Too many wives have affairs and have their lovers child! Makes a guy feel like it is crazy to get married!

23&me doing it again, my (so we all thought) half sister found out at 17 she wasn’t my dad’s kid or my blood sister. Her mom admitted to the affair but still doesn’t think my sister could be the other guys kid (claims affair ended well before sister was conceived). Our parents were already separated when we found out, but I know it hurt my dad still.

Story 2: That title is all I need to hear!!

Last story....he married a cheater. What was he expecting? 🤣

Sucks to know OP only has 1 kid, hope wife and daughter can find the dad.

2nd story: she cleaned out their savings and gets spousal support? She should have to pay him money to replace his half of the savings.

I got advice for you do not ever be talk bad about your wife in front of your kids do not take those kids away from their mother. If you keep the kids away out of Revenge or out of pity or out of anything that does not going to like it and you get sued and jail for keeping kids away

I've seen this one for the last few months, and for the sister-in-law to say she didn't know, is not believable. She knew that her sister slept around. The sisters and the wife's friends always know about the Affairs and this kind of paternity fraud

Your fault for not believing your friend about your wife. Also, you actually asked your wife” Hey, are you cheating on me??? You really think she would have told you the truth?!

Kids do care about biology when they grow up. In his daughters case I would be worried the guy decides to leave inheritance to her sibling - if there is one that is.

Cheating is fucked up to begin with, but cheating with someone the opposite gender of your SO is even worse. I wouldn’t let her anywhere near the children.

I would just feel bad for the daughter, being brought into a circumstance that is outside HER control.

These stories just make me want to stay single

17:20 Damn Boy Running for his Life 🤣😂😂🤣

I miss this channel, it was one of the few reddit relationship channels dedicated to the male POV.

Those 23&me dna tests have probably found a lot of cheaters and children that are not the father’s! So sad and disgusting that someone can do something like cheat on their spouse and have a child and pretend that it’s their spouses child when they know it’s probably not.

Lol It’s not possible. The last guy is in denial. It’s obvious that she’s cheating.

Story 2: At a certain point you stop being a victim and become an enabler

Story 1, women turn their kids against fathers all the time even when the dad doesn't do anything wrong. I say do the same since the kids already hate her and are living with you. Also reassure your daughter so she doesn't feel compelled to over compensate.

2: I just?? She sounds like a nightmare, and the fact that he thinks it was his fault in any way is heartbroken. Whoever that FaleNNNNN commentor is, they’ve got it laid out pretty well.

The first comment/advice on the first story was👌

2nd guy.... I'm sure his wife'll just inform him that _he's obviously mistaken, and it was all a dream... They're actually happily monogamous and love each other very much._ And he'll agree and get back together with her. The kids look nothing like him, _...because she ate alot of Italian food while she was pregnant._

For real, that last guy's advice to the married man who's wife OBVIOUSLY is cheating on him cannot be more solid. I mean - waiting until night to just grab her phone, then take off before she realized what happened... what can see do after that? It would be a good idea, though, if he had his own recording device going before he pulls it off, so that she cannot accuses him of physically attacking her to get her phone, like a camera in the bedroom of something, but, if he's seriously about getting answers to his questions, that's the move to do. ... Right after taking to a shark and starting the divorce procedure, of course.

OP: I'm gonna talk to her (daughter) about that tonight. All the comments (Reddit+YT): YOUR DAUGHTER YOUR DAUGHTER YOUR DAUGHTER YOUR DAUGHTER Me: WTF

I hate hearing about children born by infidelity; however, the one thing to say is their mothers chose to have these children , when an easy solution could have been abortion. Hate the sin but love the sinner.

2nd Story you got what you deserved. Why didn't you listen. You were warned

Omg. What is it with people needing therapy? Does nobody know how to deal with their own emotions, and lives? Jeez... survivors? Wow.. the rapist.. therapist... get a grip on yourselves and be master of your.own emotions.. and let it go.. dragging it with you is WHY YOU THINK you need outside help..

Please send an update if the second guy offed himself already. It's only a matter of time.

"Kids don't care about biology?" Really? Sorry, that statement as way too broad. Regardless, everyone deserves to know who their real parents are. That's right, their "real" parents. There are vital issues pertaining to medical history, and that's only part of the equation. It's wonderful if someone has a great relationship with the father that brought them up, but you can't lie to your children about something like this -- it's hard to think of anything more important.

Well, they say ignorance is bliss...