Is there another update or is it the last one

Like lord krishna said in mahabharata forgiveness is the toughest thing a man can do in the society but forgiving the criminal (cheating wife here) is the only way you can rationalize in punishing the criminal because after you forgive them from your subconscious you achieve two major things- 1.The past beautiful memories dont come to haunt you(in this case) 2. You can easily punish them in a balanced way they deserve without resenting yourself going too far with punishment (forlike in revenge) in future To all people here who get betrayed i say this- First forgive your partner from your heart and then move on the next move of punishing them not thinking of getting revenge in mind. This way you ensure never looking back as in case of revenge its all coming from revenge and momentary unexplained unwanted hate for someone who you thought of being life partner and thinking of getting revenge on them will only hurt you in future. Whereas when you forgive them from your heart then you can in a snap see things rationally and your feelings fade away with everything clear in mind on what next move to make that will not only gaurentee your win but also you'll never think of going too far

@@calebjimenez8698 I think he changed his will then killed himself.

@@plokoon154 I honestly hope he managed to get through this but I wouldn't blame him if it did end that way. I could handle a cheating ex, but finding out my own children betrayed me by being bought out so their mom could continue cheating would absolutely gut me.

@@plokoon154 damn... fr?

Bro u don't need enemies They are on ur home, carried your kids and share ur dna

Gives a whole new meaning to,”keep your friends close and your enemies closer.”

At least with enemies, you know where you stand. I can respect my enemies after they do me dirty. The sad thing about betrayal is that it only happens with your allies

@@triplemoyagames4195 if my family did this shit I’d disown them I’m sorry you don’t love me if you hide that shit for gifts then you run in my house and act like you didn’t know

@@kingteddieP4 I wouldn't blame you for that. For me the wife is outta there, and if she tries to meet me in person, she's getting shot right in the kneecaps. My daughters I would go no contact for a minute. Or play some mind games, emotional torture as I call it. Either way I ain't trusting my kids again

they can contest the will if they are writen off he can just give them a dime and boom no legal standing as long as he leaves the kids something anything they have no legal standing.

@@lococrash Not if they're given the minimum amount. Usually a dollar.

@@CocoCece08 im not too sure about US law so the minimun is a a dollar or something of the same(or more) worth? i knew that you had to leave them something for the will not to be contested

@@lococrash In some states it is a bit higher, some a bit lower, I believe the highest state is $100.

It's still disgusting that mum would beg them to keep quiet, say she wont do it again but did it again anyway, I think she put the kids on the spot, it happened to me, I was given gifts to be quiet and she said "you have to accept them, I csnt take it back" I told my dad anyway and kept the car and late run she demands the car back saying she needs the money.... I said no and her parents started to say how unfair I was being and that my mum needed my car to sell it, even though it's in my name and legally mine, I cut all contact with her side of the family, shes from line of cheaters and I am not even surprised with the shit she pulls.. Eme and my dad and stronger than ever and hes happy

ya there was. her. she was the problem in the relationship.

Exactly. Long term is not worth it.

Wahmen logic. It's all emotional, didn't you know? That's why they get the Wahmen label. Single - Waaaaahhhh Men!!! (excited) divorced. wahhhhh.. men.... (crying)

Thing is that when a woman tells you that when they've cheated or are dumping you, what that really means is this "you've done everything wrong and you've done everything to turn me off and make me fall out of love with you".

@@Ddx629 Orrrr, "You di somethings wong, but I expected you to fix it without me telling you what you did wrong" It's essentially, it's not you, its me type bs

They did not tell him because the mom was buying expensive stuff. No love involved.

They wanted random stuff, their mother wanted silence. The STBXW hated to buy expensive stuff and the girls thought it was their lucky moment. It was more a "if you buy me this, I'll be quiet". Bet Sarah started to be distant as soon as she realized she didn't need to act as daddy's girl

@@alejandramesones8417 truuuuueeee. I never clocked that. Then she came back when the Dad found out. Notice how she had no trouble sleeping UNTIL the mom got caught. At least most of the time when the children know they try to get closer with the parent being cheated on, even though it is too alleviate guilt. The daughters went the opposite way smh

Lowkey worse. They knew, covered it up, and accepted bribes. Then the only reason they are talking sh*T about their mum was to alleviate guilt. Notice how the oldest was sleeping no problem, UNTIL the wife got caught by OP

How were they just as bad? They weren’t the ones cheating. Of course it’ll hurt him knowing that they knew and didn’t tell him, but it’s ultimately not their thing to tell. And it was probably not the case of “if you don’t tell your father, I’ll buy this car for you”. It was probably more the mother doing that out of her own, after having convinced them that she will end it and tell their father. Bottom line: They are not nearly as bad as the mother. It was the mother that cheated for a long period of time, the mother that had their children stay quiet, the mother that literally made them choose between their parents, which is something awful to do to children.

it was actually 3 times i think

@@unforg1vengtfo434 Even worse😭😭. I can get over an affair eventually. But a betrayal by my own kids tho?!😭

@@triplemoyagames4195 man first time i feel so bad for a stranger , it feels like he is actually depressed and might want to end his own life thanks to his daughters

@@unforg1vengtfo434 right? Like I can't even conceive that level of betrayal The cheating I can, and I know I could get over it. However, I can't even imagine how horrible it feels to discover that one group of people you couldn't conceive of betraying you. Not only did it once, but multiple times. Your own children!? That's a different type of pain. I hate suicide I doubt I could even contemplate it again. but if this happened to me with my daughters, It wouldn't seem so far fetched

This is suicide kinda stuff.

I'd argue their betrayal is worse since you're their parent and have raised them.

@@jamainegardner4193 you’re probably right

Like lord krishna said in mahabharata forgiveness is the toughest thing a man can do in the society but forgiving the criminal (cheating wife here) is the only way you can rationalize in punishing the criminal because after you forgive them from your subconscious you achieve two major things- 1.The past beautiful memories dont come to haunt you(in this case) 2. You can easily punish them in a balanced way they deserve without resenting yourself going too far with punishment (forlike in revenge) in future and keep balanced mind in the battlefield (for life what it is) making precise right decision with every passing moment To all people here who get betrayed i say this- First forgive your partner from your heart and then move on the next move of punishing them not thinking of getting revenge in mind. This way you ensure never looking back as in case of revenge its all coming from revenge and momentary unexplained unwanted hate for someone who you thought of being life partner and thinking of getting revenge on them will only hurt you in future. Whereas when you forgive them from your heart then you can in a snap see things rationally and your feelings fade away with everything clear in mind on what next move to make that will not only gaurentee your win but also you'll never think of going too far

He lives in Texas, move to Florida find a woman that will adore him and love him and worship him and vice versa , also have children with her and put all your money in the will for your new children. Then on your death bed be with your true family not with the devils of your past, Essentially find happiness and stay away from his old family and take precautions to never let your old family see your true family that you love

I could somewhat understand if they were all VERY young (like 13 and under), but they are all adults pretty much. Disgusting

LOL, the mother taught them well. "The morsel of satisfaction now is greater than the plate at the end" I'm imagining golum from LoTR and the mother telling the kids to take the bribes. Yes yes preciousssss...

@JL-XrtaMayoNoCheese well not to the strets but a wake up call is what it will be as they should never lie. They dug there own grave. He might forgive them one day but dont expect anything from there father anymore.

Like lord krishna said in mahabharata forgiveness is the toughest thing a man can do in the society but forgiving the criminal (cheating wife here) is the only way you can rationalize in punishing the criminal because after you forgive them from your subconscious you achieve two major things- 1.The past beautiful memories dont come to haunt you(in this case) 2. You can easily punish them in a balanced way they deserve without resenting yourself going too far with punishment (forlike in revenge) in future To all people here who get betrayed i say this- First forgive your partner from your heart and then move on the next move of punishing them not thinking of getting revenge in mind. This way you ensure never looking back as in case of revenge its all coming from revenge and momentary unexplained unwanted hate for someone who you thought of being life partner and thinking of getting revenge on them will only hurt you in future. Whereas when you forgive them from your heart then you can in a snap see things rationally and your feelings fade away with everything clear in mind on what next move to make that will not only gaurentee your win but also you'll never think of going too far

@@catsithx I agree, not the street, but 0 inheritance, is they love the father, they need to win him back. But accepting that all the money is lost for hers, they can keep the cars and apartaments that mommy buy for her silence.

@@andyhappy5516 very insightful

The manipulation would be understandable when they first discovered. The feeling of not wanting to break the fairy tale family and concern for the fathers feelings would make them prone to be highly influenced by their mother lies. But after they caunt her the second time she prove to them that she is a piece of garbage serial cheater that don't love and don't care about their father anymore she will make him miserable and cheat on him forever until getting caunt or finding another suitor that she thinks that is someone good enough to jump out of the boat. You don't let one parent condemn the other like that I don't care how much you think you love the shit parent.

Too bad. Genetics.

Not only dogs man..... don't be partial. cats do too There are many instances where cats have helped depressed people in their dire situation

Don’t forget Johnnie Walker…

Pretty much, they caught their mother's betrayal at least twice, and they sucked up the lies and bribes both times. I would never be able to trust them again, knowing that their love and loyalty can be paid for.

@@chaosreaver3597 yeah exactly. Being cheated on by your spouse is hurt,but betrayed by your flesh and blood that's is definitely the worst.

It's a different type of pain. I would contemplate suicide lowkey. Like imagine being betrayed by EVERYONE in your family.

@@triplemoyagames4195 I mean the dog didn't betray him, so in a way not everyone fucked him over.

He has to come to grips with the fact that AWALT.. His wife's cheating and his daughters' betrayal are just the way women act. Once he recognizes that, he will see it's all on them and not him.. No reason for suicide..

Me neither

@@barsoom43 There are ALL THE reason for suicide.

The best revenge or shall we say response for him, after and during divorce, is to reinvent himself and hit the gym for physical improvement, maybe add some boxing to flush out demons by smashing the boxing bag, then start working on gaining new friendships to build up self-esteem and feel 'alive' again. Becoming the best You is the greatest way to respond to something so devastating. Don't let the demons win! He can eventually find someone worth investing his heart into, possibly another strong woman who has suffered a similar event. Both know the pain and would be even more vigilant and not allow themselves to be enticed by another.

He put his heart, soul and all his belief system values into his wife and daughters. This is a huge blow and will take him quite a few years to get thru. He doesn't help his recovery progress at all with the drinking. I fear his career will start to fail. This is a test of what he's made of - he has to steel himself and accept the realities of the nature of people. It's a tough struggle out.

Honestly, i can totally believe that op wife still loved him, even during the affair. Women are known to be hypergamous (is it spelled correctly?), if having a relation with 2 different partners satisfied hers fee-fee she would totally be into it. Sometimes we tend to over-rationalized stuff. It's true, RATIONALLY we would probably stay with the wealthy old partner and get the d from the side one, but women dont do reason that well. She just want it all

@@DuelTubeChannel That's not a woman thing, that's a cheaters thing.

@@untitled-gv3qp That is a female thing.

@@untitled-gv3qp That is a female thing.

@@DuelTubeChannel previously in I have never dated a single woman because they are all repulsed by my God awful personality: all women cheat because I'm bitter and angry

It wont probably be alive in 6 months

He deleted his account i believe

I doubt he's even in his right mind anymore man, shit destroyed his life

@@victorj4460 oh... i really hope he is doing ok and gets all the help and support he needs

Yeah he deleted his account

@Phuck KZfaq ???????

This. They only it for the money.

His daughter's love is worth a type S car.

As soon as he realize (and go over) as soon he'll heal.

His *wife didn’t love him. Jesus Christ it’s obvious all of you on your high horses have never been in the situation the daughters have been. You could say it was cowardly, but to say the daughters don’t love him and only in it for the money is reeeeeeaching

@@LinneAzalea no i have always told my parents when the other does something wrong._.

Ive noticed women value peace a lot more than justice and have a lot of ingroup loyalty, afaik they were going "you go girl get some" throughout her affair

I'm just glad he wasn't like any other dude who was like oh it's alright i won't take it as a betrayal cuz you are my kids bullshit!!! They showed how much they respected him by betraying him when what they eat, what they wear and where they live is provided by him! Having these kinds of kids are worst than having a cheating wife

These daughter have no father. Not anymore. And i said that being a little bit shocked by that, i never saw myself as someone who can toss aside their own daughters (i dont have kids), but listening to this story and imaning myself in his shoes, knowing what i know now (im into red pill content) i didnt even need to get to the point where the daughters confess that i already started think at the daughters in a different way.

Or worst still. pay for them! This guy obviously has the means to give all four daughters fairy tail weddings. I think the moment they chose to hurt their father like that, was the moment he no longer had any fatherly obligation towards them. They obviously have no love for him, how else could all FOUR of them keep this quiet, think of that FOUR. So he no longer has the obligation to show them any. Treating them as they treated him would deem to be fair option.

@@bepolite6961 This poor guy's situation is about the strongest argument I have ever seen for a man to just ghost everyone and start a new family somewhere else. Since the daughters are so keen to take bribes from the mother to look the other way, she can pay for their weddings as well.

At the same time, though, the daughters are caught between a rock and a hard place in this situation. The mother is guilty of not just having an affair, but of manipulating her own children through bribes and gaslighting. The way they reacted when they finally told him shows me that they really did think they were protecting him, whether they were convinced of that by their mother or not. I feel sorry for them. For the shrew who cheated? Not so much. The deepest circle of Hell is reserved for betrayers and mutineers, and there is no greater betrayal than infidelity in a marriage.

@@ArthurRex131 Yeah nah the daughters are just as bad. They happily accepted her bribes knowing full well what it was for and are only shit talking her now to alleviate guilt.

@@stuartward1755 do you know these girls personally? Because thats the only way you could know that

@@ArthurRex131 I don't have to. They literally confessed to it in the story

@@stuartward1755 how do you know it's the only reason, though? You can have more than one reason for doing things.

Worse part they took the bribe from the mother. Disgusting

@@butt_torpedoes It's one thing to be put between a rock and a hard place, and another is to being bribed by their mother!

Yeah, this is the kind of stuff that makes people end themselves... Regarding the daughters, though? I kinda agree with OP. If they only found out one time and agreed to not tell him, it could be chalked up to conflicting loyalties to your parents (horrible anyway, but much more understandable) and believing their mother had actually ended the affair, so discovering she didn't may cause remorse in them for not telling him, but after the second (and, if I understood correctly, third time?) the only way I'd believe them to actually be remorseful is if they confessed before OP found out about the affair, now it just seems like they are trying to play the "remorseful child" card to get back in good graces with dad.

I too im concerned. That's not much way out by a similiar situation.

The real scary part is that as far as we know, he DOESN"T have anyone. No family, no friends, not even coworkers to turn to. If your own family doesn't have your back in this situation, how can you expect anyone else to? Here's hoping he turns his life around, whether that be by finding a new social circle or by turning to God.

I heard a post on another sub that he killed himself hope I'm wrong because otherwise his grieving widow gets everything .She wins

​@@jamesm3123 bro now im scared af

Observation bias is more likely in this case.

I think even the Pope would give this poor guy a pass, considering that it was all of them in on the dirty little secret together.

@@shenanigansone8172 the Catholic Church will mind. He has to get an annulment.

Also the courts will ream him mercilessly no matter what happened.

@@jamegumb7298 Ah, less so in Texas at least. It's a "fault" AND a "no-fault" state. He is well off and can prove her infidelity, more so, that it wasn't a short term or one off but for almost a year. That "oops it was a mistake" isn't going to fly. He might be able to bring in just how cruel she is with the parental alienation by her conspiracy with buying off the kids, even her driving her partner to suicide. He should go "fault" and remove her financial rewards for such shit behavior. "No Fault" in Texas runs under 3 ways to file and it's usually used to get out as quick and uncomplicated as possible. Like if there is little money/property to divide. Or you just are willing to capitulate to be done. He needs a shark that is willing to burn her to the ground if she don't get out without trying to fleece him. He sure needs the counseling and the trying to cope with booze...that there will ruin him, either health wise or make a dumb move that gets her all his money or in jail. Or even fool enough to try and patch it up. He said that Sarah, in her confession told him that between the second and first time wife was caught, she said she "loved your father and just can't afford to lose him." That can be construed as knowledge and conspiracy, she confessed, she knew she was wrong AND she wanted the money. The daughters, as shitty as they did, I imagine he may want to some point be with them again. They are young woman and should not have done him like that, true. But they were raised by that mother and in privileged life. She taught them moral ambiguity for profit. I would consult that attorney about altering that will, with his advice on how to handle them eventually getting back in, provided they come clean to the judge about what the wife did, that too, would go a long way to roast "mom" a little more. Teach his daughters that when you do wrong, you got to acknowledge and then try your best to set it right. Carrot and stick, you want in the will? Do the right thing this time and get rewarded, not the wrong thing.

Nah, brazilians dont care that much about divorce, but it is hell for the man, in the courts

Me too cause it's been more than 2 weeks since his last update/comment.

@@thecookinestkid401 can you post the link please?

@@1Outis1 Sure. www.reddit.com/user/i_am_on_the_edge/comments/

@@thecookinestkid401 thank you.

@@1Outis1 You're welcome. I am sorry that I didn't get back to you sooner! Had to find the page!

Because it will never be enough. Ask bill gates' wife.

BC he spoiled her and his kids... She grew to FEEL entitled to what she wanted.

Boredom. Some people are just so petty that they mistake contentment for boredom, or they feel like something is missing when it's really not, and so they go searching for that thing, and shit like this happens.

Because she didn't respect him nor fear the consequences nor love him so why not jump on an opportunity for more sex with a young stud

True. This is also a perfect example of why some people like dogs better.

"Those who fail to learn from history, are doomed to repeat it."

A couples of months ago one of my bf told me is getting married. I was really worried for him.

@@deadlyraver4454 it's not even about learning from history. It's believing that it won't happen to them if they do everything "right". How many times have you heard people spewing crap about men who end up heart broken that they "didn't find the right one". Man has been with this one woman since the age of 13 Don't be surprised if you hear friends and family talking about he'll find love when the right woman comes along. I'd understand if he never saw the horrors other men faced but he did, and instead of mentally preparing himself for that possibility he thought he just lucked out. His Ego completely crashed knowing he isn't special that's why he's so hurt. And Jesus, his children; it's like the nail on the coffin but he shouldn't hate them, the mother has warped into something terrible. Man needs to stop hitting the bottle and hit the gym instead.

@@deadlyraver4454 The issue isn't learning the history. but assuming it won't happen again

Nah, the issue is with guys who are naive enough to believe they can't be cheated on. That is where the blunder lies

Its 30 pieces. Also, perhaps its genetic. Meaning, they are also a person with no dignity. Theyd open their legs to others as well when similar situation happen. The dad really has to....punish them all really really bad so that they do not betray their future husband.

@@eleethtahgra7182 Always get how many pieces of Silver it was mixed up, thanks.

@@ULTIMATZEKROM And just look at how Judas tried to repent for his betrayal. OP should use it as guidance.

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As it should.

Hopefully he divorced and cut everyone out of his life.

If I could, I would ask a higher being what the fuck happened to OP. I really hope he is doing ok, and has NOT made an attempt on his life. OP deserves so much better, more so that he needs to live somewhere far away; no contact from anyone, unless he is willing to speak to them again. Basically, he needs to start a new life.

She didn't even blame him, she said he was a great husband and there was nothing wrong....she just cheated for no reason

@@egorapter exactly. Because it isn’t about what you do, it’s about who the other person is. He didn’t have to do anything for her to cheat. She cheated because that’s who she is. But there are people who aren’t like that and never will be...

@Ben Dover It’s hard for me to believe any man is good, and I’m still relatively young. But you know, I have great guy friends and an amazing ex. I think the sad truth is most people aren’t that good, and you have to find the few that are. But I can assure you there are definitely some women who are good out there, because I am one and I know many. I’m sure you could tell me the same about men.

Don't worry, he has his dogs.

@@thecookinestkid401 sometimes that's all you really need. Dogs are amazing at being great companions and just a way to make you smile and put a little bit of light in a what maybe an already dark room.

@@Sound_Spark I know, right? Dogs are great.....even if you're allergic to them. 😔

And after that, still disown the daughter.

Omg I want u to be my devorce lawyer

He needs therapy and to move out of the state/country and change numbers and block his wife on every social. As for the kids that is something he needs to decided. At the least I'd go no contact with them for a year while he works on himself and getting himself back on the road to recovery.

After listening to these stories for over a year bro even the word marriage makes me nauseous.

not everyone are cheaters. you're in reddit where people expose their cheating spouses. you need to see happy married couples and it's not here. don't let others' sad stories define how you write your life. others have happy stories also

I think that is why OP made to note he was 17 years his junior. She used him for fun. She was never going to leave her wealthy husband for a younger man. I pretty sure she hangs around socialities in Dallas and no doubt religious. Her rep would be trash.

I don't think he'd disown his kids, his wife oh hell yeah she's removed from the will completely.

I mean the daughters are also to blame, they knew and said nothing. Instead the oldest and the twins took bribes to keep quiet.

Nope. His wife had a sister. That sister married some guy who became his BIL. His BIL had a younger brother, so not directly related to the OP or his cheating spouse.

Won't find one, the users account was deleted as from what i can find.

@@Sound_Spark Yeah I read it before, I wish he could update us on his current situation.

It was Reddit 🥺

It's rare. But I guess the parent weren't the old school type and had an arranged marriage set up between the two. At least this way they could decide for themselves if they went the dating route or just stayed as childhood friends.

Considering the account has been deleted, you'll have to settle for using your imagination.

I wish all men would buy a car for a midlife crisis, that is easier to deal with. Some decided to cheat.

Did the guy update anything?

@@saturnringer267 I tink he deleted his account, can't find anything on Reddit bout it

He can, it's a matter of does he want too. The guy really has nothing left. His parents are both gone. His wife/kids all basically took turns putting a knife in his back.