Friend Threw A Fit As I Took Back My Designer Wedding Dress I Lent Her Cos She'd It Dyed Green AITA

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Friend Threw A Fit As I Took Back My Designer Wedding Dress I Lent Her Cos She'd It Dyed Green AITA

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I had a designer dress that I got at a ridiculous discount. I paid slightly less than 10% of the original cost for the dress because the last bride never made it to the altar. She was rich and didn't care about money, and I was discount shopping on Craigslist: It was a perfect match.
I made the dress my own, took out the zipper and put in a corset back, added a bustle, etc. I got married in it, hurray, so all was well.
Fast forward a bit and a friend asks to borrow the dress. The friend is financially struggling and dealing with health problems. They're pushing up their wedding to get on their future husband's federal employee insurance. They want to look pretty for their wedding so they ask me to borrow the dress. I tell them of course they can borrow the dress, and I'll take care of cleaning costs afterwards. I only ask that they keep it from being irreparably stained or damaged.
Story 1:
AITA for taking a wedding dress back?
Story 2:
AITA for uninviting my parents to my wedding after my mom said “I don’t care about your f--king wedding”?
Story 3:
AITA for telling my mom that she is responsible for getting money from her friend after he damaged my wife’s wedding dress?
Story 4:
AITA For not wanting to give my sister a wedding dress that was offered to her first?
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@redditoutloudrelationships1430 3 жыл бұрын

Story 1: AITA for taking a wedding dress back? Story 2: 5:24 AITA for uninviting my parents to my wedding after my mom said “I don’t care about your f--king wedding”? Story 3: 11:16 AITA for telling my mom that she is responsible for getting money from her friend after he damaged my wife’s wedding dress? Story 4: 14:17 AITA For not wanting to give my sister a wedding dress that was offered to her first?

@victoriajohnson4420 3 жыл бұрын

On the last story. OP should "finish" the dress by replacing the big puffy parts, and returning the dress to its original form as much as possible, and then return the dress to her twin sister. Honestly, the twin couldn't be bothered to alter the wedding dress herself? Now she can't be bothered to buy her own wedding dress?

@north9327 3 жыл бұрын

Can you please give me the link of second sorry I wanna read all of it please I tried to look for the couldn’t find it

@moradoemoji7871 3 жыл бұрын

The first OP is NTA. If her friend wants a green dress so damn bad, she can go out and buy one. Not try to dye something she's borrowing.

@lennaedaley8676 3 жыл бұрын

She was def trying to use her illness as a scapegoat.

@barbarastorball2117 3 жыл бұрын

Their Is a difference between borrowing and giving someone something.

@bonb213 3 жыл бұрын

@@lennaedaley8676 she probably manipulates everyone using her illness as an excuse including her husband to get her wedding date moved up due to illness and insurance.

@MrJpaynebb 3 жыл бұрын

NTA. Borrow means you return the item back in good condition undamaged. WTF thinks dying a borrowed wedding dress is acceptable? I can't think of any woman that would agree to let that happen. It's her wedding dress and she doesn't have to loan it out or give it to anyone. OP can burn the damn thing if she wants to but her friend has no right to permanently alter that dress for her purposes. Just because her former friend has an illness doesn't mean she's entitled to do anything she pleases with other people's property.

@sfsin3380 3 жыл бұрын

@@bonb213 It's not just that I've seen way too many stories where AH brides use this tactic "borrowing" for the day then refusing to give back because "I wore it on my wedding, What kind of monster tries to take away a woman's wedding x" It's usually jewellery but I've seen a handful of dresses too. The illness is just the icing one the cake.

@carolroberts4614 3 жыл бұрын

I can't believe all these people having a go at op1 for being a 'people pleaser' etc,she just wanted to do something nice for a friend,who showed that she was no friend at all.Good on you,ok and don't let the detractors get you down.

@tonyblake7569 3 жыл бұрын

Exactly. Op expected to get it back in basically the same condition. A people pleaser would have let her borrow it. All she did was let a friend borrow something she wasn't using. I feel sorry for these people that apparently don't have any friends that would be willing to help them out if there isn't something in it for them, those aren't friends.

@chaos4654 3 жыл бұрын

Those people clearly never had friends or loving family. Edit: tho it does seem OP needs better friends.

@DrownedInExile 3 жыл бұрын

I was shocked at the responses too. Seriously OP had condition not to modify the dress, the "friend" ignored and even lied to OP about it. There is no universe where OP is the jerk. But I do hope OP grows a spine.

@catT5236 3 жыл бұрын

I do feel that OP seems to have a lot of people that are taking advantage of her kind & generous nature though. I don't think sending her vitriolic messages is going to help that, she probably does need to be a bit more discerning about who she lends stuff to but being nasty isn't going to make that happen.

@WolvenDragonZ 3 жыл бұрын

One of my most trusted friends borrowed a book from me. Without her knowledge a mutual friend "borrowed" it and destroyed it. When she managed to get it back she looked at it and me. I understood she hadn't intended for this to happen and said it was okay. She disagreed and in a couple days she had found (not a rare but just uncommon book) and bought me a brand new copy. This is why she is trusted. Friends don't intentionally destroy friends' stuff.

@barbaral743 3 жыл бұрын

I lent a book to a friend saying I wanted it back and not to lend it to anyone else. She lent it to her roommate and I never saw it again

@WolvenDragonZ 3 жыл бұрын

@@barbaral743 that sucks

@MaritheCreator2001 3 жыл бұрын

For the first OP, if she was really trying to get a cheap dress that she could dye her dream color she could of gone to a thrift shop and gotten it for less than $50

@thegayestgoth 3 жыл бұрын

A dollar, honestly.

@alliekingsley7919 3 жыл бұрын

@@thegayestgoth That depends on the area and the dress. I had some drag queen friends who would regularly be on the look out for gowns they could buy and dye/alter and our local thrift stores would charge 30$ for dresses with massive yellow pit stains, blown out zippers, etc. And this was like... Goodwill.

@catT5236 3 жыл бұрын

She also could have bought fabric & made her own - I know that's not easy but I would definitely chose to try my best to make my own rather than destroy my friend's wedding dress. I don't think I'd even ask to borrow it in the first place in case I accidentally spilt something on it.

@jaycol21 3 жыл бұрын

Why would you think you could dye someone else’s property?

@jamesk8891 3 жыл бұрын

Karens have no shame

@gannicusfinch7068 3 жыл бұрын

*dye

@jaycol21 3 жыл бұрын

@@gannicusfinch7068 Saw that after. Didn’t want to edit.

@Sinvare 3 жыл бұрын

Maybe the friend felt like she wanted to die, so she wanted to dye?

@D4rkenedskies 3 жыл бұрын

Well..if she asks and OP agree.. but that's IF..

@aliciab6193 3 жыл бұрын

I've learned over the years not to lend things to people. Literally anytime anyone asks to borrow something, what they really mean is give it to me so I can use it then throw it in the trash when I'm done, or worse they give it to someone else as a gift. I've lost so many books and movies that way to people I'm no longer friends with. And shoes.

@alliekingsley7919 3 жыл бұрын

My feeling is that I never let anyone borrow anything I'm not okay with losing. A cheap book I bought to read at lunch and I've finished reading and have no interest in re-reading any time soon? Go for it. My best friend and I are very different sizes (I'm 5'10, she's 4'10, but we're both heavy, too) but she's one of the few people I trust to not actively try to steal something I let her borrow. We've gone on a few vacations and gone out clubbing and I tend to pack more accessories than I need, while she tends to forget to pack little things. She takes stuff off at the end of the night and gives it back to me before we part, because she'd forget to give it back otherwise. (Like, genuinely, not 'forget'. She's not a dishonest person like that, her memory is somehow worse than mine.) But for anyone else? If its loss or damaging would sadden me or make my life harder, sorry, no.

@Callimo 3 жыл бұрын

@@alliekingsley7919 I'm wondering why so many people use borrowing in place of "gimme yo stuff", because that's what they're actually asking. Do they think asking to borrow something is a softer way of saying "gimme dat"? Either way, parting with something you don't mind losing seems to be the best bet, but I like the dynamic you and your buddy have.

@aholeyouare4332 3 жыл бұрын

Dyeing a custom made wedding dress that you borrowed. WTF, I mean WT every loving F.

@jdd9993 3 жыл бұрын

Story #1: OP was perfectly within her rights to take the dress back, especially since she was nice enough to lend her wedding dress to her inconsiderate friend. Her friend is the AH.

@DesertRainReads 3 жыл бұрын

Wow, Story 2 was a shocker, the OP was a massive asshole, not only to his mom, but to his entire family to boot. The behavior is appalling to say the least. I truly hope that family goes no contact with him.

@akoilngas1215 3 жыл бұрын

Some people get with another person and they lose their entire personality and discount family. In many of these cases, the person they are with manipulates the situation to make them the single source of truth and love. We're seeing that here. We're also seeing the characteristic behavior of the manipulated person: Gaslighting, shifting blame to the offended parties, lying, etc. Everything that maintains the truth that Sarah is the priority and no one else matters.

@alliekingsley7919 3 жыл бұрын

AND an asshole to the Reddit community by lying and obscuring things, too!

@catT5236 3 жыл бұрын

@@akoilngas1215 the fact that his fiancee was so happy about a major falling out he had with his family just before their wedding lends credence to what you're saying. Most brides would be utterly distraught their future husbands family weren't coming even if they weren't especially close with them. Though it also kinda seems like he's ashamed of his cultural heritage/background & his family & was looking for an excuse to cut contact.

@akoilngas1215 3 жыл бұрын

@@catT5236 I'm sure the little marionette was very much looking for an excuse to cut contact. Whatever makes Sarah happy here.

@jenicdarling9425 3 жыл бұрын

@@catT5236 I thought that was really odd too like wtf you’re marrying into this family and happy this is how it’s starting out?! If the mom was a nasty just no MIL and op didn’t have a spine then it would make sense. I thought it was off like he looked down on his family’s background and culture, the things he said about his mother wow no wonder she doesn’t care about having a good relationship with his mom.

@Bleg94 3 жыл бұрын

1. Story: NTA lol how could OP even be considered being an asshole in that story? that "friend" wanted a free dress and probably wouldn't have given it back ... ever OP got that "pleaser syndrom" and wants to help everyone around her even at the cost of her own happiness ... hope she gets better 2. Story: huge YTA the story felt like OP left out half the information after there was the comment that did sum up everything OP said in the comments it is clear that OP left out 90% of the informations and only gave the 10% that makes them look like NTA, so OP himself knows what shitstains he and his wife are 3. Story: NTA seems like the parents got a weird 3 way relationship with Martin, but thats not important here the father is the only one that knows it is their fault and knows they should take responsibility and pay ... but he probably knows that his wife would leave him if he pressures Martin and her 4. Story: NTA oh now that OP made the dress better the sister wants it? wtf no that is now how it works

@akoilngas1215 3 жыл бұрын

8:40 is an amazing takedown. Any son that abandons his mother like that deserves nothing.

@Bleg94 3 жыл бұрын

@@akoilngas1215 he is just really disgusting as a person, same with his fiance

@akoilngas1215 3 жыл бұрын

@@Bleg94 I agree. I'm sure he's not a good guy, and having a "quality" woman like Sarah probably only exacerbated things. I have known people who just let their significant other hijack their lives and personality. I'm not saying it happened here, but it's likely, and you see the end result.

@Bleg94 3 жыл бұрын

@@akoilngas1215 I have too known such people ... one suddenly and without any notice to ANY of his friends moved to the other side of the country with her

@akoilngas1215 3 жыл бұрын

@@Bleg94 Yeah. That's not a good thing. Sorry to hear.

@aniko7125 3 жыл бұрын

Story 1 NTA. When someone borrows something, the assumption is that they will return the item in the same/similar condition it was lent to them. Borrowing a white wedding dress from someone and trying to dye it green without asking isn’t borrowing, she was trying to make the dress her own and probably hoped OP would let her keep it after. If she wanted green , she could have incorporated it with a sash died green or something. Then she tried to lie to OP about the dress being dyed. Awful friend.

@TheIndigoLion 3 жыл бұрын

Wtf is with all the all people thinking its okay to take something after they've watched someone else work hard on it. Smh

@ghostwritter1075 3 жыл бұрын

I love how people DON'T want something because it's OLD and OUTDATED.... But then when you take it, work hard, putting all your blood, sweat and tears into it and it comes out looking WAAAAAAAAY better than anything you can find in a store or even DREAM UP themselves it turns into.... "Well it WAS offered to me FIRST!!!!" "And YOU also TURNED IT DOWN FIRST TOO!!!" So when I said I'll take and tweak it into something for myself and you liked it.... Now all of a sudden...... BUT IT WAS OFFERED TO ME FIRST SO ITS ACTUALLY MINE!!!! NOT HARDLY EVER EVEN ANYMORE...... YOU SNOOZE!!!!! OF COURSE YOU LOSE!!!!!! MINE NOW!!!!!!!!

@absolutelyridiculous6743 3 жыл бұрын

So buy a secondhand dress from another thrift store and dye THAT one green. NTA. The "friend" is using her situation as leverage to get her way.

@Kevin7557 3 жыл бұрын

As someone with health issues let me state emphatically health issues do not grant a person the right to use people like first op's friend did. Just no.

@GabrielleHayes1921 3 жыл бұрын

1st story: cut off that person. Don't feel bad because you got it cheap, it's your dress, your freaking wedding dress. She definitely would've ruined it. As for the people who said "yta", guess we can go into their closets and take something they deeply treasure and ruin it.

@ravenfox926 3 жыл бұрын

#1: NTA. What was that woman thinking?! DYING an expensive, BORROWED dress? OP had every right to take it back. The friend is a HUGE asshole

@DrownedInExile 3 жыл бұрын

Story1: NTA. She lied about it being too late, hoping OP would just give up. That tells me all I need to know. I can't believe people are actually harping on OP for this! Friend is a jerk, trying to milk her disease for entitlement points. To hell with her, OP needs better friends. Hope she learns to grow a spine.

@jakebrakejunky10-4 3 жыл бұрын

Story 2, talk about a plot twist.

@f687sNFM 3 жыл бұрын

I'm surprised how sexist and racist op was to their own mom

@silentguy1831 3 жыл бұрын

Right? lol

@HunnieSuckle24 3 жыл бұрын

I damn sure didn't see that coming. Reddit dragged OP for their entire existence. Just log off and elope. OP lost his entire family and all respect because he and his fiance were just stupid.

@jakebrakejunky10-4 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah and i wasnt to surprised even when youtube removed my first reply but due to his up bringing it was clear he was raised to treat women as property and not people. I feel bad for his soon to be wife you know hes going to treat her the same as his mom.

@ComaLies225 3 жыл бұрын

@@jakebrakejunky10-4 I don't know, the wife in that story doesn't seem like a saint herself. She was also disrespectful to OPs mom and allowed her family to be racist towards her. They both sound like trash people. They deserve each other.

@StarlightUmbra 3 жыл бұрын

What in the fuck you dont alter something you are borrowing what is this "friend's" major malfunction

@AliceinOverwatch 3 жыл бұрын

“Dad will pay for it if you leave Martin alone” let him pay for it, cut the mum and her ahole friend out. Their dad can get his money back from his wife and clearly her bf

@florinaschilean6143 3 жыл бұрын

1st story's OP is so sweet!

@carolroberts4614 3 жыл бұрын

Isn't she just!? A lovely girl,such a shame she was taken advantage of.

@sharkdentures3247 3 жыл бұрын

That last comment of the video was TOTALLY what I was going to say! "You want the dress? FINE! Pay me for parts & labor & it's yours."

@charyltaylor117 3 жыл бұрын

NTA You explained that she could barrow dress. So everyone who calls you out let them give her a dress.

@shirleysenkler781 3 жыл бұрын

This so called friend was over the line and had no right to alter/destroy the gown. Glad the original owner was able to retrieve it in time!

@donaldcampbell3043 3 жыл бұрын

First op, nta, her dress her rules... she told her at the start it was a loaner, she said she'd pay for cleaning and dont damage... good riddance to the former friend

@snowflakeslayer4354 3 жыл бұрын

don’t give her your dress ever

@snowflakeslayer4354 3 жыл бұрын

Story 4 that’s your dress not hers , only give her a shredded dress

@GabrielleHayes1921 3 жыл бұрын

2nd story: based on all that extra information, yta. Your poor parents 😢

@MaritheCreator2001 3 жыл бұрын

Deadass they have such an awful son

@trinadailey8949 3 жыл бұрын

The 1st story you are not the A hole. I’ve loaned friends things in the past and they always came back ruined.

@livevine3351 Жыл бұрын

It was her dress, with massive sentimental value and she was being waaaaay nicer than most people would be.

@greatshax68 3 жыл бұрын

Story 4 is NTA and is a literal version of One person's trash is another person's treasure.

@sarahclapp505 3 жыл бұрын

What is with Martin even your dad said leave him out of it??

@patriciaboies8298 3 жыл бұрын

Is he the actual dad?

@nonamenoface3654 3 жыл бұрын

Thruple? Three way couple?

@tonyblake7569 3 жыл бұрын

There are some people that care so much about how they look to others they'd rather sweep something like this under the rug so word doesn't spread how they're cheap and petty. No they wouldn't be but again there are people that think that way.

@DrownedInExile 3 жыл бұрын

Story4: NTA. Sister turned the dress down. She doesn't get to retroactively change her mind, after OP put in all that work. She may not have been a bad person before, but the stress of the wedding appears to have brought out her entitled dark side. After insulting OP, she's welcome to pound sand. And absolutely do not capitulate or apologize to "keep the peace".

@tesiatalks 3 жыл бұрын

2nd story: you win the YTA of the year award after all of that extra info came to light! I’ve come to realize some people are just AHs and they’ll never change. I really hope his family goes NC forever as this toxicity will always be present when he’s around. Family and blood doesn’t mean crap when you’re dealing with horrible selfish people!

@Rose-yt5hi 2 жыл бұрын

The red flag in the original post for me was how happy Sarah was that OP was feuding with his mom on her behalf. I can understand being secure that your SO has your back even against his family, but to take actual delight in it seems… psychotic.

@blix_xo 3 жыл бұрын

Last story: You rejected the dress; you no longer have the chance to use it if someone else accepted it. If the mother, during that time they were trying it on/showing it, went ahead to say she was ok with them altering to their liking, then sure that'd have been alright if the twin went for it. Tears of joy or not, the dress wasn't hers. Stressed? Oh well. Not your dress. What bugs me are the family members wanting peace and for her to just give it to her since it will be a while until it's her turn. No. Thats not cool. I'd tell the sister to keep crying elsewhere.

@ImNotaRussianBot 3 жыл бұрын

The twin sister dress story: It's like getting your dad's beat up Camero that is a rusted shell because your older sister didn't want it. Then spending months and thousands of dollars on it. Then your sister demands "her" car back after it's back to mint condition. Thank god cars have titles.

@switchedeyes 3 жыл бұрын

Last story, nta, but that FB post definitely created this situation. Like in a way I feel the mom wanted the other daughter to see it and be like “you missed on this dress” Also that dress post is not helping on her daughter getting engaged either since the boyfriend of 5 years now will say (he feels pressured...

@THEFIRST39 3 жыл бұрын

1st story: Let me stop right there: it’s your wedding dress. NTA. PS. I a GUY. Seriously, the Duck is wrong with your friend?

@gannicusfinch7068 3 жыл бұрын

Does "Martin" park his new car in the garage overnight, or leave it outside?

@sherfinkbiner8278 3 жыл бұрын

I'm glad you were able to get the dress back before the dye got done. Guess when you lie to a helping friend, play stupid games, they get stupid prizes. Don't listen to haters, they just have nothing better to do. Wear your dress with pride as sounds like it turned out great.

@pollyc.1957 3 жыл бұрын

How dare this chick borrow a WEDDING dress and think she's entitled to customize it to HER liking?? Lady...it's NOT your dress. It has never BEEN your dress. It will never BE your dress. I would have just told her no. Good luck finding a wedding dress in time, Bridezilla.

@burntblonde2925 3 жыл бұрын

When you borrow something g, you give it back, just the way you received it, in perfect condition!

@normavera9510 3 жыл бұрын

Don't feel bad it's your dream dress and no one should try to make you feel bad

@leedaroach2150 3 жыл бұрын

Wedding dress is not the asshole. Wedding dresses ARE emotional keepsakes. The friend had NO RIGHT to try & dye it any color. My husband and I remarried on our 25th anniversary. We didnt have a church wedding the first time. When looking for wedding dresses I found a 2 piece corset back dress that was perfect. Because it had a stain on the corset and a tiny tear on the lower bottom (all was an easy fix) I got a $900 dress for $25. My daughter wore my dress when she got married. I would have killed anyone for damaging my dress.

@jitaamesuluma9730 3 жыл бұрын

who thinks its ok to dye a borrowed wedding dress green ? who wants a green wedding dress anyway ? if you want a green dress buy a cheap wedding dress and dye it not an expensive designer wedding dress that is not yours

@DragonBloodShepherd 3 жыл бұрын

Imagine lending someone specific wedding dress and when asking to have it back hearing: "Sorry, I borrowed your WHITE dress. My dress is GREEN. Thus, I do not need to give it back 'cause it's a different dress."

@cheskydivision 3 жыл бұрын

How could a person barrow anything and think it's ok to dye it much less a wedding dress. If she had dyed it I'd say sue. Lucky you got it back.

@jerriewyatt905 3 жыл бұрын

#1 The dress was loaned, the friend had no right to dye it.. people that called op names can take a flying keep.. not their dress ! Op needs to be more careful with picking friends.. more like users.. Story #4 OP’s sister is an AH for try to make the dress her’s after op remade it for herself..she knew op was making so she could wear it someday for her wedding..

@tinabrock758 2 жыл бұрын

NTA take him to court. He did it on purpose. I'm glad you went NC. Sue them.

@alanjackson2712 3 жыл бұрын

The red wine incident. He should sue his mother! She spilt the wine. His mum would then have to get the money off the chump!!

@GabrielleHayes1921 3 жыл бұрын

Twin story: um why would you let her try it on? Absolutely not. Edit: doesn't matter if you always share clothes, that's your wedding dress, unless it's going to your child (like your mom did), then you don't let people wear it.

@shammydammy2610 3 жыл бұрын

It's YOUR wedding dress!

@Jean-qn4fy 3 жыл бұрын

The wedding dress. The friend is the AH. That dress would be a family heirloom and friend was insane.

@mothersuperior6751 3 жыл бұрын

One week from the wedding and she still intended to dye it?!? Not enough time. It was going to be a disaster for her anyway. The fabrics would need to be treated individually and professionally.

@DragonMedic20 3 жыл бұрын

Story4 nta, she only wants it now that you Cinderella'd that dress. She didn't even consider using pieces for sentimental reasons.Also don't let her ever talk to you like that again.

@tarotinthekichen1831 3 жыл бұрын

The wedding dress one oh you want it ok I’ll undo all the work I did(if possible ) and make it look like it did before for you that was your dress this is my dress

@frumpusnumpus 3 жыл бұрын

First story. What is wrong with people? Once she dyes it green, no one else would be able to wear it, and if another friend in need wants to borrow it, they can't. Some people are the architects of their own misery.

@moradoemoji7871 3 жыл бұрын

NTA for the third story but go to court if it can't be cleaned

@victoriajohnson4420 3 жыл бұрын

On the first story. A couple is having financial trouble before planning the wedding, in fact schedules the wedding early in order to get the sick woman on her husband's insurance, and THEY CHOOSE TO HAVE A FANCY WEDDING? You can marry at a courthouse for next to nothing, and much more quickly. They could spend the money they do have on co-pays and essential needs. With such immature, emotional decisions about finances, this couple will always be in financial trouble. They are the AH's.

@robertcromwell9736 3 жыл бұрын

Story 1: It IS YOUR Wedding Dress.. NTA Your 'friend' is though.

@susanlosey9511 3 жыл бұрын

#1.. NTA. You let her borrow, then wanted to dye it. NO! You didn’t give it to her.

@BaoHadir 3 жыл бұрын

Last OP: And that's why you don't post pics to social media. Jealousy is an ugly emotion.

@florinaschilean6143 3 жыл бұрын

who the f is martin?

@megadude967 3 жыл бұрын

First story NTA. Friend was an asshoke the second she threw a fit that she couldn't permanently alter a sentimental item that she was borrowing. Also OP mentions the worry of friend not giving the dress back once dyed and given how they come across in the story I could see it. "Oh, it barely even looks like your dress anymore. I have so much sentimental value for it. You wouldn't deprive a sick woman of the dress she got married in, right?". Given the whole fiasco with lying about already dying it I wouldn't be surprised if it "went missing" after the wedding.

@davebruneau6068 3 жыл бұрын

You did not lend the dress to a 'friend',CLEARLY

@brandyb2931 3 жыл бұрын

1st story, it doesn't matter what OP wanted to do with it, she LOANED the dress to her friend, and when you loan something to someone to be nice, you expect to get it back in the same condition you loaned it in and not GREEN! And people saying she should've just given her the dress...why? That's like saying if someone needs to borrow your car that you should instead, just give it to them, they need it to right? The entitlement attitudes of some people never ceases to amaze me.

@annabordelon6663 3 жыл бұрын

1) don't destroy someone's property-a wedding dress. 2) most wedding material can't be dyed. 3) buy her a thrift shop dress and left her die it. 4) your friend is a loon

@helenconnor3714 3 жыл бұрын

1st OP is NOT the Ahole! There is a very big difference in loaning something and them thinking they can change the color! That is a permanent change. When loaning something you agree to to loan the item for their use, not change it into something else.

@generallordjowbra8871 3 жыл бұрын

The people that borrow stuff and rip you off tend to have one thing in common...

@josephhurst4902 3 жыл бұрын

Molly's Dress Decison, NTA. your sister was offered the dress and she refused stating that it was "To DATED for her and maybe you should take it then". sounds more like a insult at you and the dress rather then a JOKING MATTER. now that you have put in WEEKS of work that she would have had to pay for she wants it now, yeah cause you made it better for YOUR WEDDING. and her excuse was but i was offered it first. then your simple excuse for a NO should be equally as simple, Yeah and you REFUSED it first too.

@AlexGarcia-kn9be 3 жыл бұрын

Story 1, when I let people borrow stuff, I hope they are respectful enough to hand it back in the condition it was lended to them. Same thing I will do when i borrow stuff

@jezuscaezar2397 3 жыл бұрын

DONT LET PPL BORROW YOUR SPECIAL CLOTHES

@Vipre- 3 жыл бұрын

Never loan something out you're not willing to never see again. Hard learned life lesson.

@nimisilverbird1239 3 жыл бұрын

Nta your mlm om and dad never seemed to like sarah and now are just making excuses to hate on her more. Good for you for standing up for your SO

@coffeezombie6813 3 жыл бұрын

Last story, a commenter said "It's not your fault she now likes the dress" ... well actually, it kinda really is ...

@metis7534 3 жыл бұрын

I really think there’s something wrong with people who frequent Reddit. They were saying Op in the first story is the AH because she didn’t just give her it? And saying she needs therapy because she didn’t give her friend the dress? Like bro go touch grass you’re just as bad as the entitled people the stories are about

@annabordelon6663 3 жыл бұрын

Wine glass mom should have already paid to have the dress repaired.

@Crazy_Hubby 3 жыл бұрын

LOL funny, borrow a Dress and dying it ? OK ask to borrow her Car for one Day and tell her you will paint it Pink and return it afterwards 😁.

@standinthegsp6858 3 жыл бұрын

Can you make your a twin a dress or repurpose one & use the extra fabric from your mom”s? I know it’s a lot of work. Securely hide the dress so it won’t “disappear” or get ruined out of spite.

@oldwoman5942 3 жыл бұрын

The wedding dress story...NTA...your “friend” is NUTS!

@minacat7929 3 жыл бұрын

She's not nuts. She's a scheming manipulator who tried to keep the dress by damaging it.

@vanessacarter5966 3 жыл бұрын

1st story: you are not the a-hole, your friend asked you to borrow your dress Not can she have it! Don't let her health issues send you on a guilt trip, that is so wrong of her to think it's ok for her to dye your dress and think that you would be okay with it.

@suefecteau1306 3 жыл бұрын

Borrow means return and when you borrow something you get it back the way you get it . Common curiosity

@maryfletcher3906 3 жыл бұрын

1st story regarding wedding dress. Being sick does not excuse and behaviour so the being sick is irrevelant. Your friend is an awhile and not worth your time. Even if you wanted to use the dress as a mop afterwards, that is your business. Point is, she cannot make changes to something she borrowed.

@nicolepenkwit6530 3 жыл бұрын

To the story 12:53 ....When this to not have a affair, not important of physical or emotional....

@annabordelon6663 3 жыл бұрын

Molly didn't want the dress. Let Molly "borrow" your dress but don't alter it for her

@josephdavison9855 2 жыл бұрын

Fourth story not the Ahole. She did not want it. Keep it for your special day.

@nimisilverbird1239 3 жыл бұрын

Nta. You let her borrow your dress as long as it doesn't get damaged. Dying it another color is damaging it. Yet the friend doesnt even give it another thought. Maybe you should ask to borrow her car and then paint like it's a derby car.

@judyfirpo4422 3 жыл бұрын

It’s your wedding dress she’s borrowing it not keeping it. Or maybe that was her intention, while I died it so I might as well keep it she won’t want it back. I would tell everybody look if she wanted to borrow the dress and wear it as is I have no problems but she wanted to be sneaky and dye my dress. That was nasty and underhanded. If she cannot respect that it is my dress and it will stay the color it is, then that is on her not me. None of you would allow someone to borrow something of yours and change the color so don’t expect it of me

@gigiw.7650 3 жыл бұрын

Who alters a borrowed item, especially a wedding dress w/o permission? Why is this even a question? Color me confused!

@fadetoblond 2 жыл бұрын

Green? It's a wedding dress. Is she a leprechaun or something? Save your wedding dress and put it on every 5 years to renew your vows. That's how you stay in shape, to make sure you always fit into the dress every 5 years.

@kimsawyer3918 3 жыл бұрын

O.P in what world is it ok 4 Sarah to exclude your mom cuz she just dislikes her ok then how dare she ask her when no one else wants to help .why didn't she just leave your mother alone.you don't treat people like crap then say your moms wrong.son you can never ever replace your mother you choose your wife and see where life takes you. Your wife dose not respect her and nor do you. Your a horrible son and you beloved will live to regret how you think of your mother and treat your mother.

@dancingkitty11 3 жыл бұрын

Green dress last makes terrible choice in friends.

@CarrieVogel77 3 жыл бұрын

when you BORROW something, you DO NOT have the right to ruin/irreparably alter the article you are borrowing. If you think you have that right, you need someone to teach you basic life skills because your parents FAILED.

@snowflakeslayer4354 3 жыл бұрын

Story 4 , I’d throw it in the fireplace before giving it to her

@MsDonna1953 3 жыл бұрын

Those ignorant people who have so much to say. You pay for her dress

@animelytical8354 3 жыл бұрын

Insane. You can't dye a dress that you are borrowing. That's insane.

@shrimpy_nazeem 3 жыл бұрын

Story 1: NTA, you agreed to lend her the dress. You did not give her any permission to alter the dress in any way. I don’t think people should lend jewelry or wedding dresses to others because I’ve seen too many stories of people borrowing jewelry or dresses then turning around and trying to strong arm the lender by saying that the item in question is sentimental because they were married in it.

@VoidBL 3 жыл бұрын

Lol people on reddit are weirdos thinking they're entitled to destroy someone else's property. If i ask to borrow someone's car I'm not going to paint it a different color it's not mine I'm just borrowing it and the person who let me borrow it is already being nice enough to let me borrow it. Talk about entertainment.