Is this how you know it’s “time” to leave a relationship?

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5 ай бұрын

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@mca217 5 ай бұрын

As someone who believes in the importance of being equally yoked, the moment I realize that our core values don't align, I'll respectfully end the relationship. If our core values don't align, there's no point in continuing the process of getting to know each other. Being equally yoked is so important. I wish more people stood on that principle.

@latoyakelley9259 5 ай бұрын

Amen!!

@deauiloyoe5878 5 ай бұрын

Amen! Facts

@conversationswithadrianne 2 ай бұрын

Genuine question: how would a person get in a relationship with a person whose core values aren't aligned with theirs?

@danaiewhite3866 2 ай бұрын

@@conversationswithadriannebrokenness, moving too fast to name a couple... I did this to myself a few years ago and after 5 years of hell and a child I have since then left.. as I began to find myself, get in therapy and pursue God. The healing began.. I would never even entertain the idea of being with someone who's unequally yoked. But it's like I was so broken it made me subconsciously desperate. Stupid to put it frankly... forcing something that I knew deep down just wasn't working... focusing only on the good to make it through. But I had to realize that having good moments doesn't make it a good relationship..it doesn't matter what a person says or what they do for you, it matters how that make you feel and when I was honest with myself I realized that even in the "good" moments I wasn't fully enjoying then because foundation was just off. There are many ways people can end up in a relationship with someone they arent equally yoked with.. this is just my story, hopefully it helps sis❤!

@LilMamba 2 ай бұрын

@@conversationswithadriannesometimes we feel we can change that person. Or base it on hope. I was guilty of that. No you're not going to agree on everything but where is the foundation?

@JoshMitchell116 Ай бұрын

"If you cannot show up in your relationship healthy and wholehearted, you need to leave." That's it.

@leexinping 28 күн бұрын

Excellent video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her..

@coleman-zx9ne 28 күн бұрын

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back

@leexinping 28 күн бұрын

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her/him?

@coleman-zx9ne 28 күн бұрын

Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex

@leexinping 28 күн бұрын

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

@shandricaanthony7575 5 ай бұрын

I will love to have coffee and conversation with this brother. Tapping into other intellectual mindsets is a deep interest right now.

@rodneytimpson1608 5 ай бұрын

Why coffee..to funn

@JackieS812 5 ай бұрын

I love Tripp and Ms. Kittie!

@mikeruck2888 5 ай бұрын

Been having these conversations with him for over a decade and I'm glad other people get to hear these thoughts.

@claymorekwaramba6937 5 ай бұрын

@@rodneytimpson1608stop 😂😂

@claymorekwaramba6937 5 ай бұрын

He's big on accountability. Can you handle that ?

@markusbanks7572 5 ай бұрын

Tripp is a very intelligent man.. Every time I hear him speak,he always makes my antennas rise up.. Much respect & Thank you Tripp 🫡💯!

@user-gr7js8zj3u 5 ай бұрын

What's his full name?

@jimmysharp6628 5 ай бұрын

tripp fontaine. he has a "Ted Talk" out there that's just as good as you get here. one thing for sure, he's always on.@@user-gr7js8zj3u

@juanitawalker2656 5 ай бұрын

Nothing more that I can do or Nothing more that I am willing to do 🔥🔥🔥🔥. Ohhhh weeee 🙌🏽🙌🏽 he speaking facts.

@moniqueburnham2200 2 ай бұрын

I whole heartedly agree!!! Once I noticed that he did not care about hiding that he was talking to other women around me and the resentment was very loud. I started my exit plan. At first I was scared because all the fears ran rampant in my mind about all the what ifs but then I realized that I had the upper hand because i built up both of us. I was the driven one, the educated one and the brains behind our success! I packed all my stuff in my cargo van and bounced!!!! Not even a week later he called me because he was fired from the job I did his resume to help him get. It was then that I realized he only wanted the access I provided him. I stayed in that relationship 5 years too long. I left him in 2019, I been on the up and things for him haven’t been working out. Just like Trip said I was in that window of there’s nothing more I could or was wiling to do!!!! At that point I had to show up for me!!!

@calvinmack7124 5 ай бұрын

At the end of my marriage I was emotionally depleted... I just woke up one day and left....no plan. Sometimes its just time to go.

@ladyonthecoast 5 ай бұрын

That's the hardest decision to make.

@calvinmack7124 5 ай бұрын

@@ladyonthecoast Yes, it was! It's a decision that I have to live with for the rest of my life. My mental health is in a much better place now. You can't take care of others if you're not taking care of yourself.

@ladyonthecoast 5 ай бұрын

@calvinmack7124 I'm glad you are in a better place now. I know going through the process feels like purgatory. You are so right, though. I have always heard it said, 'You can't give from an empty well.'

@calvinmack7124 5 ай бұрын

@@ladyonthecoast appreciate it! Purgatory sums it up... Overwhelmingly distraught! I didn't even have a spoon to my name. I had to find a new job/new place/rebuild everything all while finding who I am as an individual. It's definitely a mental process.

@RockkcoR 4 ай бұрын

@@calvinmack7124Takes a strong person to make that decision and start from scratch pretty much. I’ve been there and am Happy you were able to find peace down the line.

@alexistaylor7483 5 ай бұрын

One of the biggest cures to toxic relationships. I told so many you can not fix toxic things. You have to exit. No fixing it. No tolerance. Just leave. No matter what you have to do. What he said is so true.

@businessandfamilyman6023 5 ай бұрын

That hit home for me, especially the situation I am right now😮😮

@sondraphillips6316 5 ай бұрын

Wow! Me too!

@jameseaton53 4 ай бұрын

Man what.

@isiahyasharahla2896 4 ай бұрын

Facts! Me too😢

@mylifeinrealtime 4 ай бұрын

Me three!

@AffectionateBike-gl4cn 3 ай бұрын

Me too 😢

@ChristiGo Ай бұрын

He Said, "Just Go On Ahead and Start Working On Your Exit Plan" Spot On✨🎯💯🙏🏽

@shamibrown2287 5 ай бұрын

Word From the moment you can’t be yourself any more, time to go. I agree with the brother

@misguidedpearls7456 3 ай бұрын

❤

@thecultarchives3440 Ай бұрын

Too many Godless pookies & pookieshas are new age pseudo "life coaches" who act as if they're dropping gems but it's mostly feminist, emasculated rhetoric that is purely subjective & personal or just made up to sound intelligent to get attention, applause and notoriety...💯

@cynthiagomes2979 5 ай бұрын

REAL TALK!! Stop wasting people time. Stop wasting your time!! You can't get it back!!

@brianaj6807 5 ай бұрын

Ive been to the point where there was nothing else i could do. Its the most painful thing to let someone go when you still love them but its better to in the long run

@garyshuler7702 3 ай бұрын

Facts! Like he said, "Even if it's you!"

@Lisa_Lisa312 5 ай бұрын

The best lesson I ever learned was realizing and accepting the FACT that I wasn't the one for my spouse. It was an epiphany, I wasn't sad, angry and had no regret. We had an amicable split. Two things can't occupy the same space at the same time, you have to be willing to simply let go to allow something else in. Ase.

@SpiritualLifeCoach43 5 ай бұрын

He is absolutely right on this 💯%. It's not easy but pray to God ut first then get yoyr money right. If yall have kids then start planning for that 2 week or 1 week on and off situation because that's coming. Don't get petty. Do it gracefully. If they wrong you, let God deal with them their absence will be one of your biggest blessings. It will hurt at first but on time you will see. There's no price on your peace 🙏

@osiegraydon89 Ай бұрын

Never regret doing what's best for yourself Never settle for less than what you deserve in life.great message ❤

@aylex1974 3 ай бұрын

When the respect is not longer there when you see you are nothing for them. Thank you for always inviting me to leave relationships.

@user-nj1zw9ec9n Ай бұрын

I did just that! First, I made my ex fiance believe I was afraid to leave. Then I repeatedly told him how much I loved him and that he was hurting me. He was never home and I blew his phone up to make him believe what I said. I knew he had someone else, therefore he wouldn't call my bluff. I did this for 2 months. The night before I moved out, I told him I was leaving the next morning. That morning was his payday and I knew he wouldn't be home. By 1230pm, I was moved out! He called me at 430pm and repeatedly said, I can't believe you actually moved out. Nothing he could say could convince me to come back. The woman broke up with him 2 months after I left. He had the nerve to leave a voice-mail message saying me chose the wrong woman.

@cxm1211 5 ай бұрын

I like that he is not animated and when he talk it’s calming.

@CAROLYN143-8-9 4 ай бұрын

YESSUH, I AM A LIVING TESTIMONY. I STARTED WORKING ON MY EXIT PLAN IN 2006 AND IN 2007 I WAS EMBARKING ON NEW BEGINNINGS. NOW LIVING ON THE OTHER SIDE OF JOY, HAPPINESS, PEACE, SAFETY & PRIVACY IS NOT UP FOR NEGOTIATION.

@THINKGOODKARMA 5 ай бұрын

This was a clear direct message from my ancestors!!

@williegrant3054 5 ай бұрын

Scared to be LONELY 😭😭

@mignalyortiz4589 5 ай бұрын

Sometimes you're in a bad relationship and still lonely.

@williegrant3054 5 ай бұрын

@@mignalyortiz4589 TRUTH!!

@Lisa_Lisa312 5 ай бұрын

People easily forget, ONE is a whole number....

@gashafashi08 3 ай бұрын

You can be in a relationship or marriage & still be lonely.

@williegrant3054 3 ай бұрын

@@gashafashi08 TRUE

@Bigdvirgoco07 5 ай бұрын

man is speaking truth and I know it's hard fellas but we gotta keep it real with ourselves and understand life on earth is too short.

@dpaaat 5 ай бұрын

This man is a gold mind when it comes to articulating emotion fr, love hearing him break it down so effortlessly.

@karonjones 5 ай бұрын

I love listening to and being around intelligent people. This brother right here is exactly that!

@anthonydeveaux6954 4 ай бұрын

Exit plan I have been advising everyone about having a exit plan for years. I learned this 20yrs ago in my own situation having a exit plan from any good or bad situations is a must. being able to protect ones own agenda is paramount to your ability to grow up and fly right. Be easy my friends 🎉🎉

@mca217 5 ай бұрын

This is why if you're not married, you have no business living together.

@candiss5169 5 ай бұрын

He’s always on point!!! 💯 💯

@Ttahrguyhgy 5 ай бұрын

I love him still but I could not stay it was a requirement to leave and a demand to never go back. We hav to make choices in life.

@Jeffreyway 2 ай бұрын

That's Husband Right There 🙌🏼👑❤🏆👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

@landrat3481 5 ай бұрын

The truth🙌☝️💞 ..Wisdom at it's finest 💎💥

@chardaemowery8853 5 ай бұрын

Ask yaself those questions, NOT OTHA FOLKS‼️✔💯

@lonitagraham8399 Ай бұрын

That's good, there is nothing so amazing than to hear a healthy and mature man speak!! I appreciate you!!❤

@serenedione 2 ай бұрын

I could talk and listen to this man 24/7 🙌🏽🙌🏽

@ngreen1230 5 ай бұрын

He is speaking the TRUTH 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

@user-or8zf2mh2r 4 ай бұрын

Amen my brotha you better tell it 💯.

@traceymiller6700 4 ай бұрын

He speak with such passion and meaning

@brilliantbrenda 5 ай бұрын

💯 resonated with my past!

@2011ThaMrs 15 күн бұрын

Thank you for straight truth

@empressstaceyjackson5375 5 ай бұрын

Key 🔑 words, can do or willing to do. ❤🙏🏾

@n.o.c.a.noonecaresanymore2372 5 ай бұрын

Always be ready✊🏾 I totally agree

@laquamartin4602 5 ай бұрын

Preach Sir Amen!

@MsMarmolade 3 ай бұрын

Dang you don’t even know how much I needed to hear this. ❤

@SFGDCORP 4 ай бұрын

Maaaan I really needed to hear that!

@angelalaprade2332 5 ай бұрын

AMEN THANK YOU ❤❤❤

@rosemarielawrence-ed5jz Ай бұрын

This is absolutely true I did just that and I feel so much better for it the feel after was mind blowing the sense of peace was priceless 🙏🏾

@tcampbell1676 5 ай бұрын

No one will be able to prosper in life if they are in a stuck or stagnant position, they will fail in any relationship they come across.

@aphiwemambi9917 5 ай бұрын

Thanks for the advice, needed that because I myself I'm in that situation.

@International.Channel 5 ай бұрын

This is the guy that made me subscribe to this channel actually ❤

@tiffanyhall6342 5 ай бұрын

Alot of this makes sense however people can grow through their immaturity together. So not everyone should move in this way. Js

@Queenluv8795 5 ай бұрын

Real talk 💯

@HumbleBeauty679 5 ай бұрын

Real shit 💯

@changeforus1 5 ай бұрын

Bruh seemed to be chatting with me….. Relationships can be work and not everyone can handle it’s reality🙏🏾💯

@ruthcook8599 5 ай бұрын

FACTS 🌬 💯🎯🔥

@the-infamous4028 5 ай бұрын

Dang,that hit bro hard, you can tell he’s like damn I gotta start packing when I get home.

@AlyssaIrvine 18 күн бұрын

The necklace/sweater combo is fire 🔥

@AaliyahAmourr 2 ай бұрын

love this man so knowledgeable

@larhondasawyer5979 28 күн бұрын

Wow 😮 ❤ work on that EXIT 💯💯💯 Truth and True

@slimeballsake 5 ай бұрын

he is a beautiful being

@geehampton9363 5 ай бұрын

Thats real sht 💯

@michaeljones8484 5 ай бұрын

I’m in a shitty toxic one sided relationship and this shit is mentally tough. This woman can vent to me about whatever she going through or how she feels about me. However, the moment I express how I feel or vent to this woman I get interrupted, she’s passive aggressive, and highly defensive. So I’m at point just cut ties and be along fuck love

@kayochambers9418 4 ай бұрын

Shes emotionally unavailable or narcissist sometimes its both

@_Tree 5 ай бұрын

He's right!!

@Keyaniale Ай бұрын

This !! I need this !!

@IdontHOEnoMOE 5 ай бұрын

This message is for black men that you should have an exit plan as early as the first half year of your relationship to mitigate losses if the break up so happens.

@jas1565 5 ай бұрын

😂😂

@bashsnk1 5 ай бұрын

The message is for the gender who don't take accountability for their actions

@soriba391 5 ай бұрын

@@bashsnk1 there is a gender called fools?^^

@rosabscura Ай бұрын

@@bashsnk1oh.. so it’s us raping people and then not being punished by the judicial system.. wow that’s crazy.

@jewellennmccormick7206 2 ай бұрын

Straight facts start making a exit plans to move cause it’s getting a bit to much for me now👍🏾

@marilynjackson7532 5 ай бұрын

I love your videos because everything you say is very relatable. I would like to see you write a book.

@kelicajohnston9990 2 ай бұрын

That's some wisdom he just spoke.

@aishadavis5541 18 күн бұрын

Lord I have a very intelligent brother from my mother that gives great advice and I thank u for him. But I would love to be his friend. If he's married I say this with all respect, also good intentions. I say this because I don't really ever disagree with what he says and he says it with grace I love it and him. Father continue to bless and keep this man strong on his journey with u. In Jesus Christ name I pray Amen. U are everything God says u are, ur very special. U have a gift....u are a gift....I love to hear u speak.....

@michaelbassett546 5 ай бұрын

No truer words could have been said.

@Wellnesssoulutions 2 ай бұрын

So true!!

@Grace-love79 4 ай бұрын

My ex said if you are so unhappy why don’t you leave the marriage? If you think I’m so wrong why are you still her? Remember you have to take you wherever you go, you will always have your problems, but I’m not leaving, I’m not the problem. You know nothing about marriage, you have never been married before, like me. Go leave, bet you can’t this time. You tried before and no one wants you. I left with my kids and did not look back. Heard that he spread lies to everyone about me and then tried to ask for me to go back. If any relationship gets to this point then ladies walk away and stay away. Let them stay alone.

@ShaShaLuva414 5 ай бұрын

Well said There was nothing more that I wanted to do. 😎✌🏾after 30 yrs.

@tiffanycrenshaw5421 5 ай бұрын

Yeah when I was in them moments and understood there's nothing else I can show this individual with my presence had to give him my absence...mental health is very important

@shonb989 5 ай бұрын

💯💯💯

@merys333 2 ай бұрын

After dating for a few months and realizing that he wasn’t over his ex while feeding me “the trajectory we are on is for you to be my lady” I simply made a mental note and had an end date.

@hennessytheblackrose6519 5 ай бұрын

CORRECT I DID THAT ASAP 👑🙏🏽👑💯🎯👸🏽🎯💯🎯🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️

@neekneek588 Ай бұрын

Well said

@geminisunlover 4 ай бұрын

Definitely nothing more that I can do and nothing more that I'm willing to do. Time to move on. This too shall pass. Self love is the best love. ❤

@EmPressTMW 5 ай бұрын

God i love Tripp....❤

@LyfeLuv 5 ай бұрын

I needed this 💯💯 Facts Tripp. Yes it's time for a escape plan 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽. Thank you so much for this advice Tripp 💋

@tonytony4845 2 ай бұрын

Real Talk Plain Simple Facts: 💯 Lenny Williams' song sound very good but it also turned men into stalkers but if somebody Dnt want U, let them go. Be Bless Not Stress & work on you

@klove6149 5 ай бұрын

1000% AGREE!!

@tavarshia3122 5 ай бұрын

Back story: Son makes breakfast in the morning and leaves a mess in the kitchen; dad takes son to school every morning after walking the dog. I want dad (my husband) to make sure that our son cleans up his mess before leaving the house. Husband: "How do I make sure that he cleans up his mess if I'm asleep?" (he's not sleep, he wakes our son up). Me: "You smell the food he's cooking, you know he's gotta clean it up." Him: "My brain don't work that way." Me: "So you're saying that your brain don't work that way and you can't tell our son to clean up his mess after making breakfast?" Him: "Why you make that sound negative?" How do I make this sound positive?

@darhkz3900 5 ай бұрын

I don’t think “making it sound positive” is the issue here. Y’all have a communication problem, and these little things are only going to get worse. He might be stubborn or whatever else, just take your time, calmly and non-combatively, without emotions, have a conversation about how to solve the problem. Compromise if you have to. It’s hard to argue with someone who doesn’t want to argue Rn you’re arguing about smelling food and waking up and that isn’t taking you nowhere

@rtj2397 5 ай бұрын

Tell your son to clean up. Why are you asking your husband to do it?

@raymungo6109 5 ай бұрын

@@rtj2397Because a lot of women are more interested how they want it to happen rather than the ultimate result!

@jas1565 5 ай бұрын

@@rtj2397where did you read that she asked the husband to clean it up? she specifically said the husband needs to make sure the son cleans up.. did you just want to respond without actually reading?

@rtj2397 5 ай бұрын

@@jas1565 same thing apple pie face. Did you just want to respond?

@renaywaterman815 5 ай бұрын

💯

@JiaShortcake 5 ай бұрын

Facts!!!

@Reba385 5 ай бұрын

AMEN

@babytheNarcSlayer 3 ай бұрын

Real talk

@domicascott7596 5 ай бұрын

He is spot on. I know someone who's marriage is like that. They are steadily sticking around with each other on a effed up marriage. There has been multiple cheating, limited communication. They're putting on a act to their congregation and some family. They Stupid and it's irkin me

@rosabscura Ай бұрын

Sounds like it’ll end badly

@scollins7398 Ай бұрын

You could see dude in the audience crumble... I hope he makes the right decision for himself... 🙏🏾

@RaiDrew86 5 ай бұрын

This is so true

@genobourn7423 5 ай бұрын

I know that is right! I love God and I love me! I don't need and want the drama! AND NOW LIFE IS GREAT!

@brianfreeman2200 3 ай бұрын

This message in the wrong hands is actually dangerous

@andrewparker6574 2 ай бұрын

Wish I'd heard these words decades ago. 33 years in a marriage, two good people not good for each other. Dedication and commitment is a good thing, if they are a part of growth and progress, they are incredibly damaging when they are a part of maintaning something unhealthy. Now separate, we are both growing, in different directions of course. Wish her the best, but our paths are diverged now.