It sounds like the ex wife wanted to marry someone rich, when op didn't satisfy that requirement for her. The fact that she got married only 2 months after she file for divorce is very telling that she's a materialistic person.

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@@barbarastorball2117 Yep, super materialistic. Doesn't take it seriously, totally a dick move taking the daughter without saying anything. She couldn't wait for him to make some more money (even though he already had plenty) and went after a richer dude, no regard for the family she split up. Definitely a selfish person through and through

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The best revenge is often your own success -some rando on the internet probably

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There is another story similar to this one that the wife started a affair with a rich guy. The wife wanted nothing from the marriage just a divorce so she could marry her rich lover. One week after the divorce was final she married her rich lover. On their honeymoon they had a tragic car accident and her husband was killed. They was married for 2 days when the accident happened. She got nothing from her late husband's estate. She went to her ex-husband and asked him to rewrite the divorce agreement so she would have something to live on. The ex-husband refused. If I remember the story correctly she is a cashier somewhere and is trying to survive on a cashiers paycheck when one month earlier she was living in a baby mansion with a rich man. Not all, cheating wife meet rich man stories have happy endings.

Yup fucking hate that shit

When kids are involved, the worst thing you can do is think only of yourself.

@@Netherwolf6100 while that is true, the cheater does that and often lives a happy life while the person that does think about the kids often becomes suicidal and that outcome is simply not fair what good does it to be the better person if you are close to suicide because of that?

@@Netherwolf6100 tell that to the cheater. They always expect people to feel bad for them and accept their trash decisions.

@@mr.valentine5072 If you've been cheated on, and you have children involved, if you're first instinct is to whine and believe that you're justified in putting yourself and your own emotions before the well being of your children, you're honestly worst than the cheater and I pray you don't have kids. Trust and believe, I don't condone cheating of any kind and I'd rather castrate myself with a rusty butter knife than to ever cheat on someone who loves me, regardless of the state of our relationship. Having that said, anyone who is willing to cheat on their spouse who loves and respects them, showing no concern for the state of their relationship or the well-being of their children, putting their own short-lived, emotional highs over all else, are already lost. But if you, as someone who was cheated on with a family, being *Self-Aware* attempts to justify being selfish because your ex-partner was also selfish, you're worse by default because you're fully aware of what you're doing is wrong and playing the "Well they did it first so why can't I?" nonsense doesn't fly with me. If your morals are so easily faulted because someone you loved betrayed them, then you had no morals to begin with in the first place.

That isn't unique to Southeast Asia, there was a guy I used to work with who had a mail order bride from Russia. Within a year of them getting married her parents, sister, aunt and cousin were living with him, only him and the cousin worked, but the cousin could apparently burn through his monthly pay cheque in 3 days so he was permanently broke so the guy was supporting 5 adults on a security guard salary. Edit: Spelling.

Nuclear families is like a staple in asia

Even if he helped it would probably still be cheaper then living in the USA . And if not put foot down early . It kinda sucks on how much people make in other countries I watch a cool Indian channel that say they make 80 USA a month

Filipino, and yeah I see this too when I visit my birth country

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How very true.

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It is. I was dating a girl from India. Guess I wasn't good enough and she ended up telling me I'm white trash. Fast forward 20 years and she's deported and I retired at 40 .

Yeah. Unless they don’t know about the cheating

Well more over if both partners cheated and got passed it, it's called never being the same, but starting something different

I can see where you're coming from the courts have pulled bigger BS when it comes to women vs men, but OP got money and hopefully access to the best lawyers around so they can argue the case that mom gave up custody and isn't even fit to be a parent anymore you know being broke and what not 🤣

@@supermanic3320 She thought she could buy her daughters love, daughter thank goodness is quite smart and saw through her bs

@@supermanic3320 I also believe the lawyers could argue that she wanted the divorce and made the rules herself. The fact that she essentially cheated, was getting married, and more long before the husband signed the divorce papers shows that it was her choice and her initiative. Also, hos lawyer can argue that he takes care of the daughter more than mommu does.

In most states, as long as it was done BEFORE filing not much can be done about it. But once filed things do become "frozen" as they currently are. Cannot empty accounts or even move back into your own home if you've moved out to pacify the wife. Read those words carefully guys.

Follow your lawyers advice. Don't move out of that house and continue to record and document all conversations and correspondence with her for her forward. She's not pissed about the divorce she pissed that OP won't roll over a give her the house.

@@jeffklaubo3168 isn't it funny how guys enforce all these BS laws? It's guys who serve then cry when their master monster is a monster to them? Why do guys not hold the sellouts accountable?

@@generallordjowbra8871 I read a book. "The 10 stupidest mistakes men make when facing divorce, and how to avoid them" It was written by a law firm who's expertise is representing men in divorce cases. Excellent source of information.

Better man. I’d say he healed himself from an emotionally traumatized situation and focused on himself and his daughters wellbeing. It’s already prove the ex believed the other man was better, for a while until March of 2020. I’d say the ex gets a eerily silence. She doesn’t deserve anything for what she did, especially a tiny violin.

That "ex" only gets nails on a chalkboard at best. All she saw were the big dollars sticking with the "apparent millionaire" AP and dove straight into that, completely forgetting that her ex-husband was already on his way to becoming a millionaire himself, and found out the hard way that apparently richer doesn't mean consistently and long-lastingly richer (the AP had debts, her ex-husband didn't it seems).

He later became a billionarie ww

That’s the probably the stupidest comment I’ve seen today no offense to you

@@antzeballa You know, saying no offense doesn't magically make your offensive comment lose its innate intent/properties. But putting that aside, I'm interested in knowing why you believe it to be a stupid comment.

@@KurosakiNaturo I agree. I don’t like the idea of marriage because as a man you have everything to lose in divorce even if you take the right precautions because one lie could crumble everything. I’m not afraid of love or commitment. I’m afraid of divorce. And I hate the idea that’s an illegitimate argument to women because “love” when they have everything to gain

@@antzeballa marriage doesn't work. Look the statistics.

@@j_the_don5160 women have literally nothing to gain in a divorce. the only time they get any benefit is when the marriage was very bad for her. and what she does gain is something that allows her to do the basics to survive and stand on a equal platform as her ex husband. the most common complaint with divorce is " women gets majority of custody". that sentence is true however the common belief is that the courts favour women over men. that simply isn't true. the reason why women get majority of custody is because courts immediately assume her as the parental role purely because she's a woman, the courts often focus on the child's needs and try to make the divorce impact their life as little as possible so they often give primary custody to the child primary caretaker and the parent that the child spends most of their time with which is majority the mother, most custody agreement are settled out of court anyway and both parents equally agree that the mother takes primary custody, and men are actually more likely to get primary custody if they just ask for it but because people take statistics and remove the context then spread around false claims that men don't get custody so many men don't even bother, then there s the last one where men just don't want to have custody. the second is alimony, alimony is often payed to the ex spouse who has a lower source of income and less personal assets. the reason why women get alimony majority of the time is because women typically work less hours, have lower paying jobs, more likely to be a stay at home wife which negatively impacts their ability to get a job, get given primary custody if they have kids, have way more medical bills to cover, and generally being a woman costs over $1,300 more every year on average in 2015 but due to inflation has certainly increased beyond that, the women are given alimony because they need it to survive. the same reasons for splitting assets. "women are 69% more likely to initiate divorce". yep thats true, because marriage is incredibly unfair towards women while heavily benefits men. reasons divorces happen is men are drastically more likely to commit adultery compared to women, there is a drastic disparity in equality in the bedroom where sex is often one sided and heavily about mens pleasure and ignores woman's needs frequently and can often end up to be a very harmful situation for women where sexual health for women aren't taken seriously to the point its considered normal for women to suffer sexual disfunction such as unable to get aroused, women are constantly doing more than their fair share of the domestic labour and emotional labour despite having full time jobs, while men receive employment benefits when married women do not and often see a negative impact and loose out on things like promotions and other benefits, men get tax benefits while women don't, men are treated better in healthcare while women are treated worse often being asked to get their husband permission on medical care or are completely ignored in favour for the husband, women aren't included on spousal agreements and the decision making is often left to the husband, women are often expected and harassed into providing a child or being solely responsible for the contraception and the ones mainly forced to take accountability when it fails. this is just but a small list as to why marriage is unfair towards women while benefiting men. women suffer more financial difficulties and drastically increase their chances of living in poverty. however there is some benefits to women that men don't have. they spend less time doing chores where as men spend more hours. women also take moderate relief post divorce in this domain while men typically are heavily negatively impacted as a result of men being typically endorsing gender rolls so by doing something that is typically thought of as a female-typed activity it can add more stress to the divorce by adding dissonance to their gender identity. men will see a greater health decline and life satisfaction decline as a result of the divorce because they no longer have the benefits of the health increase form the marriage. it also causes mens morality to decline post divorce. there are behavioural differences as the national library of medicine puts it "A second explanation highlights behavioral differences in the predivorce period. Women are more aware of marital problems and make greater investments in holding a marriage together (Baruch et al. 1983). At the same time, women are more likely to initiate divorce after they accept that their efforts are hopeless (Brinig and Allen 2000; Kalmijn and Poortman 2006). Because this decision often takes men by surprise (Thomas 1982), they might become more distressed when their marriage breaks down. Women who initiate divorce might already feel the relief of having terminated an unhappy relationship. These considerations suggest that men’s and women’s health and subjective well-being may adapt on different time scales: Women suffer from the impending end of a marriage already in predivorce years, whereas this process is delayed-and possibly more devastating-for men.". men are more likely to find another partner 70% within ten years while only 50% of women are able to achieve said goal. TLDR: the reason why men loose more in divorce is because they gain more in marriage and loose those benefits when the marriage ends sending them back to when they were first single. "Living in the lap of luxury isn’t bad except that you never know when luxury is going to stand up."- Orson Wells "to the privileged, introducing equality feels like a loss"

Takes a strong person to be a better person

Si te sirve de consuelo, la mayoría de estas historias son falsas

trust me when i say that the world is huge and it seems common because these stories are localised in subreddits like this but it is very rare to happen this severe. also remember majority of people on reddit are men who go to these subreddits for advice or to vent and women do experience these situations the same amount as men do and do share the same fears and would never dare to cheat and will truly love you for who you are. sadly this is a world where good people are the ones who get hurt by the bad people. never let the bad people win. some good advice is to get to know a person first and see if any romantic feelings are there instead of going in trying to make romantic feelings. sadly romantic feelings cannot be created, only discovered.

Exercise and getting fit are the surest ways to build confidence.

Right 😂

nope. most of the time they have just lost any feelings towards you because of things like difference in love language, romantic feelings shifting to platonic, different lifestyles, relationship isn't equal and feels one sided, different political and social views, disappointing sex life, emotional stress, and many other reasons. however in this specific subreddit it does mean they find someone else.

I’d love to be a fly on the wall for that!

Are you trying to say that women from Thailand are less than? Because that sounds like racism to me buddy

I was waiting for a response like yours; damn sure it was just a matter of time. Anyway, I couldn't care less about your insinuation and if you had a mnimum of experience, absence of hypocrisy (aka you were honest with yourself) and weren't brainwashed by that stupid politically correct racial bs, you would agree with me. There's ton of docs about thais families selling their kids, and this story is about one girl working in a spa doing massages, that met a millionaire and is about to marry him. It sounds like a cliché.... Racism got nothing to do with it and misogyny either. Moreover, mine is not the first comment of the sort in this section, so go bother someone else.

@@regulus6936 so marrying above your class is wrong. Dispite never having step foot into Thailand or meeting a single thai person, thai families sell thier children. Women who work at spas are inherently bad for marrying men with high end jobs especially if they have children. Supporting family is backward. As someone who has a) actually been to Thailand, and b) have friends who are Thia. I call bullshit

@@pernelachea1163 no

@@pernelachea1163 Virtue Signaling - Failed.

i get where you are coming from but why would it be a crime? it technically violates peoples autonomy and free will if it were to be criminalised. also what people consider to be cheating changes based off of who the person is. for example some think that watching "movies" is cheating but others won't. some consider self pleasure cheating, while others don't. this leaves it incredibly ambiguous and lets the law be open for manipulation. while yes, cheating leaves a lot of emotional damage and trauma, its not really violating any rights or doing anything that could be considered an offence. in order for cheating to be a crime you'd need to make it so those who are in a relationship have no free will to make choices for themselves or have any right over sexual autonomy, essentially stripping them of any consent or bodily autonomy. the only reason why crimes that include sex is illegal is because there is no consent present. by making cheating illegal it removes the individuals ability of consent or being able to freely give consent by themselves rendering any consent invalid it also makes it impossible to revoke consent such as exit a relationship unless the partner also agrees to it. this leaves a massive issue where many cases of abuse will surface. then there are other things people consider to be cheating which actually aren't by definition such as being a victim of any form of SA. as SA can be difficult to prove, the evidence of SA can be easily misconstrued as being cheating in court, this then causes a chain reaction of rampant victim blaming, survivors refusing to report, and if you implement the rule of using reports to avoid cheating charges then false reports will rise, causing actual survivors to be ignored and punished.

No. Don’t do this. I grew up knowing my dad was a serial cheater who wasn’t faithful to any of his wives. This led me to subconsciously believe it was just something all men do, and that messed me up for a long time.

@@angelsinger4574 "bad man" should mean something

Correction: women are more interested in the wedding instead of marriage and being a good wife.

Depends on the women, much like it depends on the men.

from the national library of medicine: "Numerous studies have shown that the economic costs of divorce fall more heavily on women. After separation, women experience a sharper decline in household income and a greater poverty risk . Their former husbands, in contrast, may even improve their standard of living in postdivorce years. ...the resulting gender gap for the United States, estimating a 27 % decline among women and a 10 % increase among men... . Other U.S. estimates for women’s drops in economic well-being are even larger . Similar results were found ... women’s household incomes 1 year after divorce amounted to only two-thirds of those of their former husbands. Explanations for these gender inequalities. ...(1) higher economic need and restricted earning capacities in the presence of children; (2) insufficient child maintenance; (3) disproportionate loss of income, which is often not fully compensated by spousal maintenance; and (4) human capital deficits resulting from gender specialization in the division of labor during marriage." "Housing and domestic outcomes figure prominently among the stressors associated with the divorce process. One line of research in this area has asked whether men or women are more likely to move out after separation. According to rational choice models, the question of who moves out is answered on the basis of each partner’s resources and costs associated with staying and moving, including direct costs of moving but also costs in terms of disrupting ties to family, friends, and the workplace... ... Given that divorce constitutes a major life course risk of losing homeownership, a number of housing studies have examined gender inequality in this risk. ...women are, on average, more dependent on their partners and therefore at a higher risk of losses in terms of quality and security of housing after divorce. If spouses who own their home separate, ...require providing for a mortgage and buying the interest of the ex-partner-a task that is often unaffordable for women. In line with these considerations, ... women are more likely than men to lose homeownership after divorce ... gender specialization and low levels of women’s labor force participation may contribute to these differences. ... ... examined implications for the performance of housework and the gendered division of household labor. Although studies have focused more on the reverse direction of this relationship (i.e., how gender roles in the home affect the risk of divorce), some have addressed the effects of divorce on the performance of housework. Two-wave panel studies have shown that men substantially increased their time spent on routine housework after separation, whereas women moderately reduced their housework hours (Baxter et al. 2008; Gupta 1999). A multiwave panel study indicated that these changes may be permanent (Hewitt et al. 2013). To the extent that routine housework can be considered an onerous activity, these findings suggest that women experience a moderate relief in this domain, whereas men’s domestic well-being is more strongly, and more negatively, affected. The latter might apply particularly to men who endorse traditional gender role attitudes. Among those men, greater involvement in female-typed activities might exacerbate divorce-related stress by adding dissonance to their gender identity (West and Zimmerman 1987). To gain more insight into these issues, it is useful to complement objective measures of hours spent on routine housework by subjective measures, such as satisfaction with performing these tasks. this is just but a small fraction of the information with some of it being shortened. link to the paper: www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5992251/#:~:text=In%20these%20domains%2C%20several%20studies,after%20separation%20(Shor%20et%20al.

Yeah super cap