Story 1: AITA For Not Sharing My Inheritance With My Sister? Story 2: 5:50 AITA for telling my mom I'm tired of being treated like the adult? Story 3: 9:56 AITA for telling my brother I won't stop supporting and being there for my nephews? Story 4: 13:58 AITA For not letting my son play organized sports

Before the last story ended I have found myself calling the OP wrong. Swimming, ballet, and gymnastics are just as competitive as organized sports. She makes no sense and she is being selfish. Thankfully the father has his son's back.

Grandma did not want money going to the sis. Respect her wishes

1st story - In these stories always forget that the “other” child has their own grandparents/father/mother.

Story 4, what, plus the mother thinks ballet won't get him bullied?

Story 2: the mother lost one daughtet through tragic circumstances and she going to lose another if she keeps carrying on. Story 4: YTA, what the fuck? How are sports toxic? How is competition harmful to child development?

Some people never deserve to have kids ever

Wow, last takes the cake, ballet is even worst than soccer, or basket, there still competition but worst it destroys the body of the dance mainly the feet and tendon ligament near the ankles, this sounds more like some who would have wanted birth a girl rather than have a boy with need for camaraderie and sportsmanship.

The grandmother didn’t consider the sister her grandchild and didn’t leave anything to her .. OP’s parents are AH to try to make her share after going NC and depriving her of her grandmother..

When the other sisters grandma dies and if she leaves money for her will the parents insist on leaving the OP some money? I doubt it. Keep the money.

I’m so happy everyone said she was the AH on the final post. How she posted and her reasoning for saying “no” showed she is toxic like a ton of feminists(not all). Football and hockey she could have at least tried to point to concussions. But being competitive(most feminists believe is the start of toxic masculinity), that is a red flag that she believes masculinity itself is toxic. Being competitive also leads to camaraderie and pushes people to be their best. If she is afraid of her kid becoming toxic she needs to realize it starts with how she raises her kid.

Last Story: WTF?! Can't be serious must be BS, if that is serious she is just trying to ruin the life of her kid. That is seriously edging around child abuse. And yes, ballet and gymnastics are much more competitive than football or other team sports. In gymnastics and ballet you are almost always competing against your own team mates, imagine playing football (soccer) or baseball and knowing that you are playing not only against the other team, but also against every member of your own team.

as a ballet dancer, the ballet world is really bad. you constantly compare yourself to other dancers (every aspect) and the competition for getting a lead role/most important role is amazingly high. not to mention it’s super draining bc when you spend hours at night preparing for a performance and then barely getting sleep the night before the performance out of nervousness

Does OP realize how toxic and hyper-competitive ballet and gymnastics are?! This should be less about banning sports and more about maintaining a healthy mindset while in competition. Banning him from those sports will only make him want to do it more.

Last story: What a controlling mother! I sense a bit of narcissism.

The last story... Mom thinks that people doing certain sports for the lack of other words are kinda " dumb " yet thinks ballet and gymnastics are alright ? she must be a special kind for the lack of other words " stupid "... given her reasoning as why one is okay and not the other...

First story you're not in the wrong and clearly your grandmother is one of those people that just will not enable your mom's bad behavior. That's why your dad pretty much told your grandmother that either you're going to accept her as your grandchild or you cannot see our daughters ever again. When your grandmother said no your parents cut your grandmother out of your life and continued on with the LIE. My advice to you go no contact with the parents because they don't see the mistake that they caused and how it affected you later on down the road. In addition do not give them any money and quite frankly tell them to buzz off... in addition your dad is pretty much a simp to say the least

About story 2: my mother used the same manipulative tactic with me. In her head, "being the mature one" meant that I: - should let my little sister bully me, invade my personal space, polarize all attention and parental energy on herself, take my stuff without asking, break and ruin said stuff (all without any repercussions) - would have to listen to her (my mother) complain about life, my father, my sister (who she refused to discipline), about the house that nobody helped to clean (she was a stay-at-home mom, my father worked all day and I was a student, I could do chores but she never established a schedule or taught me how to do said chores) - would have to agree to whatever tf she said - would have to allow her to use my time as she pleased, but discard me whenever one of her friends called (even when I was talking about stuff that was making me suffer) - should only voice my negative feelings in a way that she liked - should give up on my personal life, goals, romantic life and friendships because she was "worried" (jealous, she was fucking jealous and didn't like that she wouldn't be able to control me) The moment I called her out on her bullshit she started insulting me, started saying that I was "immature" and even resolved to physical violence. If your mother (or other caregivers) is like this, I just want you to know that she doesn't love you, she doesn't accept you as who you are, she doesn't value you for who you are and she doesn't give a fuck about your well-being. She only cares if it benefits her in some way. So please run, get away from her, call her bullshit out and get to a safe space where you can thrive❤️.

I read OP’s replies on Reddit and yup-she wants her son to get into ballet and gymnastics because those are the sports _she_ prefers. And unfortunately I don’t see her changing her mind because she doesn’t accept the YTA judgment from Reddit and she blames the entire situation on her ex and his “toxic masculinity”.

Story #1: NTA. OP's mom created this whole situation by having an affair baby. The grandmother was under no obligation to accept an affair baby as part of the family. Just like how OP isn't obliged to share the money from her grandmother when she had absolutely no relationship with the sister. Story #2: NTA. So, because OP's mom does nothing for her own daughter, OP's father has to include someone else's daughter on their personal time? Hell no. She created a blended family and just expected OP to deal with it, now it's predictably not working and the mom blames OP for not playing house like everything is okay. Story #3: NTA. OP's brother got remarried to fill the void that his wife left, but didn't consider how his sons would, or would not accept this new woman. And since he's had two new kids, it seems like he's prepared to completely ignore his first sons if they don't mindlessly obey him. Story #4: YTA. This sounds like OP is trying to discourage her son from doing anything masculine, period. Newsflash! Any kind of competition can become toxic when people are competing without discipline and sportsmanship.

I hope the woman in the last story feels genuinely stupid for having such obscure opinions on sports, I’m sure she’s been thoroughly embarrassed by Reddit at this point.

she's not banning traditionally male sports because she's scared of a toxic culture or concussions she's strictly only banning traditionally male dominated sports and that makes her a sexist mom. Who knows, she might be doing other sexist things against her male son we don't know about.

Story 4: Definately the AH. She is one controlling radical feminist. Living through her son.

Last story: The mother is toxic. The father talks sense. Ballet is indeed very competitive and toxic. The mother probably has no idea of what goes on behind the scenes in that field. Team sports, on the other hand, can build healthy relationships with friends and teammates - they're not automatically hotbeds of "toxic masculinity". The father should get full custody, if he wants it. If not, he needs to be there to protect the son from that mother's crazy beliefs and attempts to force his son into her idea of what he "should" be. That woman is seriously in need of parenting classes and more.

Story 4 got me really pissed. I understand not wanting to sign a kid up for something like contact football because it’s dangerous but any sport will be competitive to some degree, ballet and gymnastics probably more so than 8 y/o soccer or baseball. Even swimming at a summer league level (super laid back) is comparably comparative to kids soccer/baseball. Let the kid play what he wants and he can decide if he wants to keep playing in the future or try something else.

I don't think the mom from the last story been has watching the news about olympic gymnastics lately.

Last story: WOW. Competitiveness =/= toxic. Like everything it can be overdone to being toxic, but that doesn't mean it itself is inherently toxic. Part of growing up is learning good sportsmanship, which comes with being competitive without bullying. The best place to learn that? Organized sports/skill events with a good coach/ teacher. If you're that against team sports, you'd better be equally against Knowledge Bowl, Science Olympiad, Track and Field, Cross Country, Archery, Martial Arts, Cheer, Band/ Choir/ Music of ANY sort (wouldn't want auditions or performances hurting feelings would we), Scouting... might as well cross school off the list since class groups compete for quickest answers and test prep Kahootz all the time... literally every club or event or interaction with humans is competitive at some level. Guess we're toxic then, by that mindset might as well end ourselves because we're just making it worse, right? WRONG. Mom, you need to grow up. Even if the environment is toxic (cough online gaming cough), you can teach your son to be better and not add to the toxicity. You may not like religion, but Christianity's "be the salt of the earth" is a universal. Mature and set the example, even among friends. Your son will experience toxic/ competitive friend groups, dating pools, work places, etc. It's best he learns how to socially deal with it now as an 8 year old than being a 40+ year old who refuses to understand that leaving poop splatter on the walls isn't doing his cleaning job and had his mother write a letter to my supervisors about how abusive a supervisor I was (which happened to me last month). Maturity comes with experience; stop denying that to the child you and your fling buddy irresponsibly invited into this world. Tl;dr Stop throttling your child's development. Competitiveness is part of life; let him learn how to navigate it now in something he's interested in with people he likes. Also, don't be a toxic mom. You signed up for it when you slept with a dude without protection, and now it's time for you to grow up as well.

2nd story: I woulda said, "look here 'mom', I'm done!! I am so effing done!! Good luck with ur husband and ur step-daughter!! Peace and chicken grease, daughter OUT!!"

Okay so never did ballet, so I might be wrong; but I've heard it can pretty intense and competitive as the dancers compete for solos, top spots, and have high expectations of keeping in certain shape. And that's on top of how much damage it can do to the body (reason why a lot of dancers stop dancing full time by the time they hit 30 and move onto teaching is because of said damage). So how is that less toxic than playing spots? Same with gymnastics although again haven't done it but from what I see extreme cases gymnasts really mess up their bodies in order to stay small and lithe. Again not much better than competitive sports.

Last story: This OP is on a "How to create a wimpy, out of shape kid with poor social skills" speedrun

kinda want an update on that last one but doubt she will be back sense the internet didn't tell her what she wanted to hear

That last chick, needs to check her purple hair. 👌😹🔥

The third story is simple you need to tell your brother that either can you put you taken your nephews so they can be on that sense of normalcy straight and narrow or he needs to be prepared for for both his older Sons to cut him off when they are both eighteen because clearly this dude could care less about his son especially if the sons aren't disrespecting his wife and they're not talk down to her they just don't see her as their mom.

I honestly never give advice like this but in story 3 the older brother needs a but whooping of phenomenal proportions.

Story 2: When parents favor one child over another, it creates constant tension, ongoing conflict and can lead to egregious behavior. Nothing worse than one or two parents putting the burden of navigating post-divorce conflict on their children. The mother is clearly playing favorites at your expense. Stay with your father and cut her off.

Has she any idea of how competitive ballet is??

The last story I get her feeling but unless it is a really dangerous sport like rugby or such, she doesn't have a valid reason. Sports is good for developing social skill and stuff.

Wow wtf them parents need way more help than even a professional could give them Last story: my sister is a dancer I’m the the straightest dude that can’t dance but still knows the difference between a Demi plié and a grand plié dance is toxic af even more for boys she just was her son to be her daughter

Sounds like the mom in The last story wishes she had a daughter. her son's father is Right though, ballet and gymnastics are very toxic and very competitive. Her son clearly wants to play sports to hang out with his friends and I see no problem with that. Mom needs to get off her high horse

Story 4 does she understand how competitive swimming etc are

That last story, I can't believe mom thinks ballet, gymnastics and swimming aren't competitive. They are even worse because you have 1 kid who is against all the other kids. At least soccer, baseball etc, reach kids to work as a team. What a dingbat this mother is. Just let the kid play and sit down with your toxic bs.

Lmao ballet or gymnastics, what an ass of a mother to keep him from what he enjoys. Sports aren’t toxic they’re great

First story, cut your family off, get therapy, and go create your own family. They emotionally abused you because they cared about your sister feelings over you and still care about your sister over you. Second story, it's time to go NC with her mom and push for the courts to give your dad full custody. If she doesn't, she'll have to push for NC when she's older. Third story, it sounds like they're going to cut their parents off in the near future. I hope OP will open up her doors to them in the future because they're going to need it. Fourth story, I've done both and they're both competitive. You can develop an ED, mental, and physical issues with the "less competitive" sports.

The mental gymnastics the mother of the last story is truly a gold medal performance

That last op wtf ... organized sports is very good for children, it's also (and mostly) a social activity, and if he's the only one of his friendgroup that is not included, he will feel bad when they all share their baseball stories.

First story. Say goodbye to your parents. If your sister wants to keep in touch, that is fine, but let her know what is up. Your parents were on a power trip and you paid the price. I am sorry for what you put up with. Good luck.

If i was that last one i would let the kid play sports only if the kid had straight A in school i think education is more important than sports

Wow the sports one. No wonder the relationship would not work out if they tried she's crazy

Story 4 - Organized sports for younger children teach them so many good things. Try going to a couple basketball games for boys in your son's age group. Watch how they learn to work as a team! Watch their faces when they don't personally scare the point! Learning to take pride in everything you do, whether it is part of a team and you helped, or something you do all alone. Team sports help children make friends, learn manners, and improves self-esteem. You are so wrong. He may decide he doesn't like the first game he chose. This improves his decision-making skills and teaches him to follow through when he makes a choice that turns out to not be the exact fit for him. Children who play sports are also much less likely to get in trouble with the law and get into drugs. You are the AH!

Those are some terrible parents and I would change my number and have no contact with the parents

Money brings out the worse in some people. I went through a lot when my mother died. Some of my family tried to fight me at the funeral because my mom put me in charge of everything.

Story 4: I feel like OP is, with lots of more colorful alternatives to choose from, dumb, especially since she sounds like one of those parents that would absolutely strife if she had one of those much cooler non-binary kids everyone is talking about.

ballet is less toxic lmao it’s like radiating glowing swamp

As a male that did years of gymnastics along with almost every major sport. Lemme tell you rivalry, injury, possibilty of death and overcoming fear is apart of the sport(at the higher level). It helped me learn to stand on my own 2 feet and understand myself more then any activity ever could. To shy away from competition is to accept mediocrity as a standard. OP is going to raise that kid to be a loser unless dad steps up.

15:07 so she's not okay with her son playing sports because theyre "toxic" due to competition, yet gymnastics and dancing are fine despite also being competitive? This sounds like a person who is being biased towards more male dominated activities for some bull crap reason like "toxic masculinity"

1st story: NTA. Still, it's up to you if you want or not to give inherence, I personally would do it. But wouldn't give crap to the parents, because that is crappy as hell, and go no contact. 3rd story: NTA. You ain't an adult, your mom negligent you, to the point it is toxic and do favoritism. That wasn't "acting like an adult" that was pure favoritism and negligence. I'm glad you are with your dad, OP. But your mom needs to get some mental help. 4th story: NTA. You cannot force to someone else to like someone. At best they should aim to be cordial. But how did the brother act and SIL, wouldn't be surprised if they just leave ASAP 5th story: YTA. OP, as someone who doesn't like most sports, let the damm kid play sports. He likes them? Let him do it. It's not "mom I'm going to drink/get drugged", it's literally play sports. It will do him good.

That last one shocked me cause ballet and gymnastics I’ve seen first hand with my sister is some of the most intense shit I’ve seen competitive wise to the point of it being unhealthy

As someone who has been very interested in climbing up the ranks in the dancing world, it is INCREDIBLY TOXIC, cuthroat, and competitive. You have to be the best of the best to get into good dancing schools and companies, there have even been stories of people sabotaging other dance student's shoes so they cant dance properly for their finals, to make sure they cant move up. It's a beautiful art, but the people behind it can be absolutely awful.

Fourth story: The first time I see someone being the AH... But just finishing the sentence of not wanting the son doing organized sports because they're competitive and "dumb"... What the hell?? She's the AH.

The parents are disgusting people. You aren't the ahole. Don't share your money. God rest your grandma.

YTA. Organized sports like gymnastics, baseball, hockey and even ballet have tragic consequences for kids like: - Making new friends - Sense of accomplishment - Learning teamwork - Having lots of fun - Improved health If your son wants to play baseball and it will cost you nothing you should let him. Threatening to prevent him from going to matches so that his teammates will be mad at him is cruel.

Honestly I say the op for the last story is the ahole but can they not be civil about it? That’s why I hate the majority of Reddit because of how toxic and grouped each subreddit is. If you have an opposing opinion you automatically get downvoted and hated on and this negatively affects your account due to the karma rating based on downvotes and upvotes. This goes for I’d say 99% of Reddit.

I’ve heard cruel things before but that is in its own special category

1st story is not wrong!

Last story... Jesus Christ OP. You're gonna raise the most unique snowflake with your ideas about competition.

The last story the woman is wrong

family thearapy story thearapy isnt about changing feelings its about expressing

Last Story - Woke commenter on POC in ballet, Freed of London, the shoe company used by the Royal Ballet, manufacture their shoes in a range of brown and tan satins. So do Gaynor Minden. Also theatrical pink doesn't match many, if any, white skin tones.

When i used to be a phobe id have absolutely accused last woman of trying to make her son gay

I don't know about the boys in ballet, but the girls ruin their feet. I'd say the boys better know how to fight. 😬

Organized sports... : character is developed at home in addition to on the field. .interview the coaches, watch the games; the 'toxicity' is her own opinion. sign away your son to his dad; it'll be better off for both of you.

what? i am 23 and i still cry sometimes when family leaves to go back to hone country. a 6 yo crying cuz his dad left is not acting out.

Children should have rights but our country, the USA, is the only country to not sign the UN treaty addressing the rights of children. We continue to put children in cages even though the party has changed. The last woman has put her kids in a box of acceptable sports. It should not be her choice. Sports teaches teamwork. Where else is she making choices and value judgments that are insane?

One of my mom's friends is going to marry her fiance and she has 3 kids one of them is my friend he is 15 or 16 and he doesn't want to have a blended family with the other family so his mom was going to send him away to live with relatives in another state so they could blend better without him interfering. My dad has been dating a lot and right now he is dating someone that I have known since I was 5 and my dad said that he also wants a blended family because she also has three kids , before I didn't really know his ex- girl friends and mostly ignored them when we were together with them. Now I'm kinda worried that if I don't participate in trying to get along with the kids and not talking to her as much he might send me away too which would probably be just staying with my mom but I would miss my dad, one time he asked me if I liked his girlfriend (an old girlfriend) and I said yes but if I didn't like one of them or we didn't get along would he do something and he said no so if I so get along with one it would just feel really awkward when I'm with him and I don't want that.

I like how for the last story everyone everyone is united in telling the mother her opinion is stupid

Last story - YTA. Even if she was trying to keep him from getting hurt, there is no reason to keep him from baseball.

I want to believe the last one is not real

I'm curious. Did the parents tell her sister about money? How did sister know that she didn't get anything? Seems like the parents most likely told her "Grandma left your sister alot of money and you didn't get anything." Trying to get whatever sick pleasure they got allowing their daughter to go through life thinking she was hated by her grandma.

The second OP's mother needs to stop using the word mature when she isn't her damn self. Resorting to name-calling when she doesn't get her way. Always trying to use OP to get her father to take responsibility for HER stepdaughter. Giving away her stuff. Expecting her daughter to be a pushover to appease her new family. Show your mother how maturity is done OP.

Child's sports. OP is one of the biggest AH I have read about in a long time. Team sports teach kids how to cooperate with other kids, teaches them that getting along for the benefit of the team even if there are people he doesn't particularly like on the team. This readies kids for the real world. Competition is a part of life as well. Ballet is mean, snarky and completely cutthroat competitive. And to force a boy into ballet when he has no interest is such a huge disservice. You obviously know nothing about raising boys. Let his father guide him as this child one day will have to walk in the world of men just as a girl has to walk in the world of women. Let the kid play a game. Stop being such a damn girl. You really need to stop with the toxic femininity.

Idk why but the 3rd story feels like it’s missing a few details

That mom in the sports story is toxic

Story four "I don't want my son in a toxic competitive environment I want my son in a toxic competitive environment

That last story... She's not letting him do boys stuff and only wants him to do "girl" sports. Don't get me wrong, A lot of men do ballet to develop better co-ordination for other sports, but Gymnastics and Swimming are both also competitive events, they just have fewer other boys in it. This means that the kid will have little interaction with other boys in the latter two, and potentially be bullied for participating in ballet. This may result in a child who is unable to relate to or socialize with other guys in his later years. Then let's assume that the mom does somehow manage to find a swimming or gymnastics group that has no competitive aspects. Then he loses out on that experience of competition that sports help develop in the real world. Now, if he didn't desire to do sports, that'd be another story. Not everybody wants to do football or baseball, I certainly didn't want to do much physical sports as a kid, but this kid WANTS to do sports, and whether he can articulate it or not, it's because he wants to have shared experiences with the other guys, be part of the tribe and grow with them as a team.

That mom with sports is selfish he wants to play with his friends and the dad want to bond with him

I could be wrong but isn't gymnastics and ballet pretty competitive? In ballet, don't you compete for lead roles? Maybe not so much for a guy do to their being very few males, and therefore a high demand. But in gymnastics aren't you literally competing to get the best score?

Last story: She calls to “discuss” then defines that as telling him what they’re doing and not doing. That’s not a discussion. She also admits she wants 100% control over what happens when she has their son and as close to 100% as possible control over what happens when he has their son. Dafuq is this AH thinking?

Last story. YTA.

Last story Op is totally delusional lmao.

Last story , she tried turning him to a sissy

Did the last mom ever not watch dance moms? They make tv shows centered around toxic drama, I've never heard of a show called baseball dads or soccer moms?

Story 4 has to be a troll... No one thinks nonsense like this.

With the Second Story it's completely obvious that after the original poster's sister died the mother pretty much couldn't handle life without her daughter so she divorced her husband and basically forced her daughter that's living into a marriage that she knows is not good for her. My advice go no contact with your mother for a few years just to the realize what it's like to be you and several years later tried to re-establish contact. It seems to me your mother is still going through the trauma of losing her child but you are too. But her way of handling it is way toxic and dangerous for your mental health

The anti sports mom is a terrible parent.

I never called Mom new husband's yes more then one father dad anything other than their name

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All fucking sports are competitive

Lol last story is some bs, thats how little wusses are made. Participation ribbons all around.