Story 1: AITA for telling my sister with cancer that "Bad things happen to bad people" Story 2: 4:30 AITA For Moving Out Cause My Family Keeps Playing With My Cane? Story 3: 8:36 AITA for telling my wife I would open a separate account if she didn't get our money back? Story 4: 13:47 AITA for laughing at my sisters apology?
@triciaannenewbury11223 жыл бұрын
I've only got as far as the first story, but everyone sucks in that situation. Yes he is the a******, because anyone who was truly believed would be the bigger person and be there for her. Because that would make her feel even worse as a person. Knowing that even after everything she's done he's still there for her. Cancer is genetic it has nothing to do with Karma. As for story 2 I think that if the mother would have called an ambulance and actually paid for it instead of being cheap. The father wouldn't have died so I don't see how that's the daughter's fault.
@RosiePosey51503 жыл бұрын
I have adopted siblings and they love me more then my blood siblings. They told me to kill myself and other things. I hated home and count wait to visit my dad's house so NTA
@klemenhudobreznik34213 жыл бұрын
@@triciaannenewbury1122 i disagree on first story as what he said is bad things happen to bad people which is true that includes cancer. he was victim of own sister now she has live being treated as he was. only thing that makes him asshole is forgeting taking with him own sibling other than the POS sister. no debate allowed as i am right here you are in the wrong attacking bully victim!
@HILifeBoys3 жыл бұрын
Story 1: NTA, she taught you since 8 yr to hate her. How can you support your childhood/ Older Sister bully. Don’t feel bad, your sister is a spawn of satan.
@saikatdominicgregory91573 жыл бұрын
@@triciaannenewbury1122 Story 1, even while calling them for informing them about the cancer, the elder sister did not cook food for them and she still thinks they will support her? You made me your enemy, and now you want my support. You know who are the real AHs? The parents... They did not discipline the abuser at the right time.
@Mia-dt3gl3 жыл бұрын
So let me get this straight about Story 1. Ava invited the whole family over to have their support for her cancer diagnosis-and the adoptive siblings still had to bring their own food? She _still_ spitefully did not provide anything for them? There was absolutely no change in behavior on her behalf. How dare she _demand_ support from people with whom she _still_ abuses. That is insane. OP is NTA. Ava is a MASSIVE AH, and the parents are AH’s for being enablers.
@ComaLies2253 жыл бұрын
Totally agree. Duck her she her parents feelings
@untitled-gv3qp3 жыл бұрын
I sorta wonder if they actually did anything about the bullying. All they wrote was that the parents told her to let him back in the house but did they actually punish her when they got back or come back early and make sure that she couldn't do that again. They just ignore the fact that she never cooks for the siblings when theyre over.
@johnsmith97843 жыл бұрын
Yeah I don't understand the idiots with the ESH verdicts, what OP is the same as this horrible excuse for a person because he said something spiteful while his abuser / abuse enablers were getting at him? I mean what the f, whether you're dying or not you don't deserve nice treatment from someone you abused.
@pippo171733 жыл бұрын
@@johnsmith9784 Well judging by the responses, a lot of these people lost their love ones to cancer and for that, I can sorta understand the ESH verdict they give. You can say their soft but to me, they just took offence to Op's statement of *Cancer only happens to shitty people* when I think op should of rephrase that a bit. But I do wish more people would look at it more and realize that for this here, op's not the asshole because of the circumstances here. I think people need to stop and think for just a minute on how awful this could be to them if they have a family that doesn't give a shit and a bully sibling who's only goal is to destroy op's life one by one for entertainment and hate.
@hgnnnno78533 жыл бұрын
@@johnsmith9784 right? I get it, I lost my grandma to cancer so I understand the pain, but also, good on op for telling her off.
@abdilie3 жыл бұрын
Story 2: every father is willing to die when rushing their kid to the hospital. Even if their kid lives 1 second longer than him. Tells you everything about the mother.
@dturner63323 жыл бұрын
Facts. I'm not a father yet but if I had to rush my daughter to the hospital for playing Super Girl, I would probably be laughing with her. Her father (if he was a good man) died with no regrets
@MrJpaynebb3 жыл бұрын
NTA and I am pissed that her mother blamed a 5yr old for her father's death. A 5yr old. I don't care how bad your grief is over your husband's death she was 5yrs old. OP please get some serious therapy over this guilt trip your mom has been laying on you for over a decade. Even your mom needs therapy as pissed as everyone is with her, for her own anger, guilt and grief for the death of her 1st husband. Go no contact with her for awhile as in a year or 2 at least. She's manipulative and toxic and has done a number on OP mentally for over a decade.
@jasperj.d.g.41473 жыл бұрын
I'm not a dad yet but even if I died rushing a child to the hospital I wouldn't be mad, Esp. Not at the kid.
@ryzukumagawa71433 жыл бұрын
I stoped before the end and felt sick reading that crap knew her mother was vile at that point anyways
@triplemoyagames41953 жыл бұрын
Yup. If anything it is the mother's fault. She is the one who decided to not pay for an Ambulance, putting them in that predicament.
@hubertd16003 жыл бұрын
story 1: those are some BS responses from the posters. he never said or implied this, he just said karma came for her and bad things happen to bad people. i would not be surprised if the people slamming him also talk about karma like this.
@Ni-boo3 жыл бұрын
I'm thinking those commenters don't believe in karma. The idea that 'bad things happen to bad people' is silly - a child born into an abusive household isn't a bad person.
@andiward70683 жыл бұрын
@@Ni-boooh, I'm sure they believe. Even if only subconsciously. They don't WANT to believe because they're scared karma will come for them too. They want karma to ignore them and only "smite their enemies". People have twisted karma as a concept into a tit-for-tat situation for "justice". Karma, originally, the was circumstances that occur to teach the soul how to achieve perfection based on thoughts and behaviors over multiple incarnations.
@squeezerD3 жыл бұрын
Deadly disease don't come to bad people but everyone can get this op is awfull for telling this part.
@andiward70683 жыл бұрын
@@squeezerD deadly diseases happen to ALL people. OP isn't saying only bad people get them, just that SOME of the people who DO get sick are shitty people.
@benjaminhurley64603 жыл бұрын
They said OP was TA due to a technicality. That seems so manipulative.
@TipsyStrawberry3 жыл бұрын
It breaks my heart that the second op has been brainwashed by her mother into believing that she is responsible for her father's death 💔
@ajakuk13 жыл бұрын
It shocked me too. Who does that to a child.
@strikeforce15003 жыл бұрын
That is what abuse does. I hope OP does better and don't even bother to ever speak with these sociopaths
@jaei22103 жыл бұрын
Shes been brainwashed so incredibly bad
@elainegoates97923 жыл бұрын
I know. The mom shouldn't be raising her if she's going to blame her for that.
@muhname60523 жыл бұрын
Second: Wait. Her dad died because of an accident because he had to drive her to the hospital because the mother didn't want to pay for a ambulance?
@lennaedaley86763 жыл бұрын
I know!! Clearly the mom is projecting her own guilt..
@triciaannenewbury11223 жыл бұрын
@@lennaedaley8676 exactly what I said in a previous comment. Clearly a bitter woman
@ashh49293 жыл бұрын
Right?! I had to rewind that to make sure I heard that correctly. And then to keep out right blaming her. No wonder OP has no sense of self worth. This is so disgusting and enraging. I really hope her grandparents fight for her.
@trublacking85723 жыл бұрын
@@lennaedaley8676 that piss me off
@absolut_dre3 жыл бұрын
Well, in slight defense of the mom we are severely overcharged for ambulances
@debl30633 жыл бұрын
OP's parents left a thirteen year old child in charge of the sibling she hated for three days? How was anyone surprised that went badly?
@leviathan42053 жыл бұрын
For real, on top of ops sister bullying them
@bonb2133 жыл бұрын
OP was 13 when that happened so Ava would have been around 17 at the time.
@debl30633 жыл бұрын
@@bonb213 Yep. You're right. Still a bad idea.
@malcolmholder31493 жыл бұрын
Ava invited them for lunch but did not cook for her siblings. Then wants sympathy and support from them because she has cancer. OP and siblings should have said oh so sorry, well Mom and Dad looks like you have more caring to do in your declining years, Bye Bye we are off take care. Eventually bad things do happen to bad people.
@squirrel6703 жыл бұрын
It's not true that bad things happen to bad people because life isn't fair and the good people wouldn't suffer the same fate, bad people just are less likely to get sympathy from the people the wronged and sometimes they wrong too many and they've got no one but themselves.
@untitled-gv3qp3 жыл бұрын
Sad but true. You can't wrong someone their whole life and then expect them to forgive and forget without any effort on your part just because something bad is happening to you. I think the ESH judgements aren't considering the fact that the OP didn't even say that until everyone got on their case for not being sad or crying about it.
@MrJpaynebb3 жыл бұрын
Cancer happens to people good or bad for many reasons. ESH. Ava for being a bully from day 1 when OP became part of the family especially for outing him in the school paper. The parents for never squashing this bully or trying to resolve the underlying issues. OP for thinking this is karma and leaving his other siblings stuck at her house without a ride. He definitely needs to apologize for that. Now OP not having any sympathy for her getting cancer and not wanting to support her during her health crisis? NTA. Family or not it's hard to support a person who has bullied you for nearly 20yrs like Ava has OP. Your family and especially Ava expecting OP to just forget and forgive is total crap. The woman never apologized for all the crappy things she's done to OP so why would he support her just because she's got cancer?
@squirrel6703 жыл бұрын
@@untitled-gv3qp the everyone sucks here are for the implications of what he said, some people actually think if bad things happen the person deserved it but that's not true. If he was pushed and said he didn't care at all and isn't going to support someone who bulllied him his whole life thats the truth nta. They shouldn't be mad at op for saying bad things to a bad person when bothered, but commenters are right that that's not the mindset to have. Think about it like someone bullies someone over their child and then the bully has a miscarriage, when they ask for support its not right to say people who miscarry deserve it/are unfit to be parents/etc.
@untitled-gv3qp3 жыл бұрын
@@squirrel670 He didn't say everyone with cancer is a bad person he said that karma caught up with her. He wasn't even implying that cancer is a punishment for all bad people he was saying what goes around comes around.
@blutoxic29643 жыл бұрын
What.. the hell.. story two is horrid. NTA. Blaming a kid for their parent’s death, taking their means of mobility. That woman is a disgusting person that doesn’t deserve to be called a mother
@legendaryperson52673 жыл бұрын
Trauma changes a person my friend, one of my close friend's dad died in a car accident while my friend was driving...aunt (his mom) was a cheerful woman who was always kind and helpful to everyone but after the accident...she changed a lot, lost a lot of weight, depression, bad relationship with her son (my friend). Bad things happen to people and can change them, no one is the villain here...rather everyone is a victim, my friend still suffers from nightmares and is scared of driving.
@BIGEAGLEDUDE3 жыл бұрын
In addition if you keep reading she keep saying it is her fault. I mean think about it even though it wasn't her fault she still playing at herself for the accident that resulted in her father's death. I mean this is going to take years of therapy for even hard to get anywhere near having a sense of peace
@velvetdarksoul87413 жыл бұрын
@@legendaryperson5267 yeah but there's a point where it's just abuse and she abused her daughter mentally and emotionally to make her think a freak accident was her fault
@purpledragon24423 жыл бұрын
@@legendaryperson5267 trauma changing you into an abuser just sheds light on her actions, not excuse them. She’s an awful person for letting her trauma destroy someone else.
@pansprayers3 жыл бұрын
@@legendaryperson5267 I've been through a sh*t load of trauma (including multiple people dying/being killed right in front of me, and despite my best efforts, I couldn't save them). There's no way in hell you can justify this behavior.
@SeraphsGenisis3 жыл бұрын
I hate that OP blames herself for what happened to her dad... it's horrible. It truly wasn't her fault, but she's been blamed so much by both herself AND her own mother.
@lordfury183 жыл бұрын
with the dad dying in the accident story: if it's anyones to blame it's the mom for not wanting to pay for an ambulance
@triciaannenewbury11223 жыл бұрын
Exactly, if an ambulance would have been taken then the father wouldn't have died.
@bluelan93933 жыл бұрын
But she was the kid when that happened, so it was easy for the mother to blame her and the little one accepted the fault know. I feel so bad for op, hope she gets therapy and works on her. How awful mom, hope the worst for that monster.
@ImNotaRussianBot3 жыл бұрын
The poor child. She is carrying so much guilt. Even pushing back on therapy because she doesn't want to "take resources". Jesus.
@ajakuk13 жыл бұрын
Story 2. Oh wow wow wow. I wish I could hug this young lady. It's not her fault her dad died. If there is blame then it's her mothers. Who does that to a child.
@BIGEAGLEDUDE3 жыл бұрын
So let me get this straight with the last story your sister lied about you stealing her engagement ring and kept the LIE going for a decade. That basically have the entire family disown you criticize you and Mary drive you to the point of depression. My advice to use Simple until she makes it public with the family do not under no circumstances let her back into your life and quite frankly you need to cut off the rest of the family as well. Because they went with her here say instead of asking her straight up did you drop it down the drain? Did you lose it? Or did someone else? But they just went straight to you and blamed you for it. It's time for them to learn what it's like to be you for a change
@Dustin813 жыл бұрын
Then there is that cousin that saw she still had the ring but didn't call her out on it or tell the family.
@Kevin75573 жыл бұрын
@@Dustin81 I think they did. He said the lie ended when the cousin found out.
@frozenkilt3 жыл бұрын
Right? I'd have gone full NC with the lot of them and never looked back.
@k70freeman3 жыл бұрын
I say YTA for leaving out some Important information. Why would everyone just instantly go with OP stole the ring? Why was he sleeping in his sister's bed in the first place? Op saw where she put it but did not tell her where it was. When OP said she had the "Same ring" it could have been a replacement not that she found it.
@Dustin813 жыл бұрын
@@k70freeman It's been 10+ years. Somethings gonna be forgotten. The family may have been visiting his sister and that was the only bed available away from all the noise. Op only knew where the ring was placed cause she said where she put it. OP was asleep during the time she "lost it". Odd they didn't search him for said ring or the room and just concluded with he stole it. She must be their golden child that could do no wrong.
@DrownedInExile3 жыл бұрын
Story2: Sun-sized NTA! Good grief this was rage-inducing. It's horrible that OP's egg-donor would brainwash her own child into thinking she's responsible for an accident. She's a monster. Kudos to the grandparents. I hope OP goes NC with these vile creatures, and gets therapy.
@lauralfreeberg21793 жыл бұрын
I wouldn't even call it an egg donor. Its an incubator
@princessstarpeach9161 Жыл бұрын
@Laural Freeberg I call her a baby-making machine
@boybawang19813 жыл бұрын
1st story" I woulda just been like, "😀😃😄😁😆😅😂🤣"!!!
@JariahxSynn3 жыл бұрын
Me too
@boybawang19813 жыл бұрын
@@JariahxSynn Yup!! In that chronological order!!
@pippo171733 жыл бұрын
Honestly she locked her out of her own fucking house. OP is lucky having good neighbors or else something really bad would happen.
@jessicajohnson58173 жыл бұрын
That would've been me aswell. Cracking up.
@duckeh19523 жыл бұрын
I am more surprised that OP went to see Ava. If I'd been treated that badly, I would have been nc for a looooong time.
@josephbrown96653 жыл бұрын
I taught my kids at a young age they should never touch a mlm or pyramid scam . None of them have ever fell for it . My oldest husband got into one of them and he was trying to get my daughter into it so she showed him that he was getting ripped off.
@erikrungemadsen20813 жыл бұрын
Atleast OP jumped of the stairs in a supergirl costume, I jumped of a roof with a towel round my neck .
@xTwilightWolvesx3 жыл бұрын
It’s honestly a miracle that OP is alive. First she got an injury from falling down the stairs, then she survives a horrific accident? OP’s mother should count her fucking blessings, not blame OP for the accident.
@Kevin75573 жыл бұрын
@@xTwilightWolvesx she sounds like a narcissist.
@jmrggrmj93303 жыл бұрын
I was on my superman’s pijamas, broke my nose XD
@erikrungemadsen20813 жыл бұрын
@@jmrggrmj9330 I landed on a small hillock and slid in to a filled sewage ditch, guess how happy my mom was about me stinking worse than Pepe Le Pew with bleeding roadrashes on my arms, back and legs. Earned me a hose down in the backyard, before every inch of road rash was rubbed in iodine, after that it was of to the doctor for a tetanus shot and antibiotics. Glad I am not alone in the jumping of things i should not be jumping of club. You get bonus ponts for the Superman PJ i bet it was awesome.
@ryanafriansyah74873 жыл бұрын
@@Kevin7557 she sound like one of those narcissist cheapskate afteralll good parent will not hesitate to spend a lot of money for their kids well being
@andrewbergamann79823 жыл бұрын
Everyone saying OP ITA in the 1st story, are candidates for the same fate. For being stupid and compasionate with a monster.
@pippo171733 жыл бұрын
I'm willing to bet these same people are a ok saying NTA and laugh at cheating spouses getting cancer or any other illness. Why should this be any different when she locked her out of her own fucking home. OP got lucky with decent neighbors or else it could of been a lot worst.
@benjaminhurley64603 жыл бұрын
@@pippo17173 because OP is I guy and his sister is a girl, reddit has a bias when it comes to that sort of thing.
@jordandennis67943 жыл бұрын
Reddit loves women. Women are the greatest thing in the world to Reddit
@andrewbergamann79823 жыл бұрын
@@jordandennis6794 yeah, Reddit is definitely run by S.I.M.P.s
@pippo171733 жыл бұрын
@@jordandennis6794 I haven't browse enough reddit other then watching channels covering post but from what I get on here, everyone is more ok with cheating spouses getting illness on both genders and all that. However that is just from here, I'm gonna guess it gets much more oneside if I look at the rabbit hole.
@dturner63323 жыл бұрын
Story 1: The only thing op did wrong was leave without his siblings. Bro you were their ride Edit: Story 2: Op didn't kill her father, it was an accident. If it was anyone's fault the mother should blame herself not a five year old.
@klemenhudobreznik34213 жыл бұрын
true, so esh can said for that but not anything else he did.
@JohnSmith-co7qt3 жыл бұрын
Unfortunately bad things don't happen frequently enough to bad people.Cancer is mild compared to what I wish on my clusterfu** of a family.
@hannahsolomon65583 жыл бұрын
Story 2 is a heartbreaking situation. How can a mother being to blame her daughter for an accident that was nothing to do with her, if she wants to blame anyone she needs to blame herself for not getting an ambulance for her child. This poor kid is beyond mentally destroyed by that so called mother and stepfather, the fact that they think it's okay to hide the cane on anyone is disgusting and I dread to think how the 2 younger kids will turn out been lead to believe that it is acceptable behaviour to treat people like rubbish. This poor kid needs to stay with the grandparents where she is safe from abuse and get therapy ASAP because with the belief that the treatment at home is just and fair is so concerning.
@Happymasks3 жыл бұрын
"Got to blame somebody, otherwise it's my fault. Fuck that!" This line is exactly what was going through that piece of shit's mind when it came to losing her husband.
@hannahsolomon65583 жыл бұрын
@@Happymasks I almost cried for the poor kid, the emotional and mental abuse is so severe that this poor kid is going to need major therapy because this will lead to self hate and being used and abused by others in life and thinking that it's deserved. It is disgusting and I would definitely love to have a good chat with that so called mother but I don't think I would be able to keep my hands of her.
@jimmiedmc13 жыл бұрын
Umm I'm sick to my stomach thinking about that poor girl being abused and blamed for her fathers death, no one should have to feel that
@andiward70683 жыл бұрын
The cane is MEDICAL EQUIPMENT. S.Dad needs to parent the kids and teach them not to mess with other people's stuff without permission, and MEDICAL stuff is OFF-limits.
@brianbarber5401 Жыл бұрын
I’d have suggested a strap to hold on to it, and the development of a reflex to swat anyone that grabs it.
@allintensiveporpoises26883 жыл бұрын
"And she said that I was being a brat and that if I wanted a father who cared about me I shouldnt have killed my dad" Im sorry she said *what*
@AutumnPulse3 жыл бұрын
2nd story pissed me off so much. I know the mother was manipulative and essentially made her feel that way but I was getting a everyone is an asshole because she didn't understand what the comments were trying to say. She just kept blaiming herself and it was getting me heated.
@emilybarclay88313 жыл бұрын
It’s pretty clearly faked no one is that stupid and unaware. Even abuse victims will be able to figure out that being transported to hospital as a small child doesn’t make you responsible. Obvious karma farming
@Butterism3 жыл бұрын
Oh my goodness! That second story is heartbreaking. If OP happens to find this video, it is NOT nor has it EVER been YOUR fault. Your mom is abusive and convinced you it is your fault in a fucked up attempt to keep you compliant. You DON'T ask for to much. You DO deserve a good father and you DID NOT kill your dad. I pray you get therapy and learn your self worth, because honey, you deserve so much better than what you got. I'm tearing up writing this and wish I could give you a big hug, look you in the eyes, and tell you didn't/don't deserve that. I could only imagine how hard that must have been for a 5 year old. Just how many times you had to be told that, that you so firmly believe it. Even your explanation on why you think it's your fault is heartbreaking. I'm so sorry.
@kalilsolomon15143 жыл бұрын
Story 2 : it is not her fault it is the mom's fault she didn't want to pay for an ambulance she already sounded like a bad mother before if the mom think it's okay to treat your child like that and letting other people do that there's no need for op to talk to her ever again
@abigailkolpacke33043 жыл бұрын
The 2nd story made me want to scream. I fell so bad for that poor girl.
@yggdrasil19693 жыл бұрын
By heart bleeds for OP in the second story! From everything she writes, you can tell that her evil, toxic mother has destroyed her self-worth. At least she wrote that her father drove her because her mother refused an ambulance. I hope one day she is able to rid herself of the massive, unfair guilt and feelings of being unworthy.
@saldiven20093 жыл бұрын
For the first story, I think people are reading way too much into the OP's statement.
@velvetdarksoul87413 жыл бұрын
Second story, my God the amount of brain washing
@kaptannemo16683 жыл бұрын
1st story: op did the right thing taking a stand and revealing the truth. Ava does not get support from people she has intentionally harmed. Walking away was the best thing he could do. Story 2: op needs to stay with his grandparents, he is a cripple and needs his cane. Denying him his primary means of mobility is cruel if not abusive. As for his mother, stepfather, and half siblings they have all committed verbal, mental, and emotional abuse. He has grounds to get their parental rights revoked and help his grandparents gain guardianship. Pursue legal counseling and therapy so you can stay away from those toxic people.
@werdpankuen91833 жыл бұрын
1st story: yta for not bringing your siblings home
@ShadowGladiatorX3 жыл бұрын
Probably out of anger when arguing 😑
@klemenhudobreznik34213 жыл бұрын
more esh if full context taken.
@germainesmith29403 жыл бұрын
op i dont think your an ahole but just hurt for how she treated you and your other siblings your parents should have stop her from treating you and your siblings like that so they and her cant be upset that you feel how you feel their mad that you didnt show more feelings about her but they never stoped her from treating you all so bad they are just as much at fault for how you and the others were treated . Did she think you were going to break down and cry for the person who made your life hell. They did then they where fools NTA
@JohnDoe-kt9em3 жыл бұрын
op was NTA by far. only reason he might have been a soft AH was cuz he drove away without his siblings lol. look i get the whole cancer is unbiased thing but cmon...sometimes bad people deserve to get cancer
@SilverMaychan3 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@RaizelSX3 жыл бұрын
It's kinda dumb how everyone leaped like hulk to the conclusion that op stated "bad people get cancer" Vs not understanding that what he was going with was 'all your bs finally caught up with you'
@JoyofRVing3 жыл бұрын
For the last story, it would have made more sense if OP narrated the background of the rift between him and the brother in law, as to why the sister framed him for the ring, instead of adding that story as an edit in the end. It was a significant part of the why. That couple were cheapskates.
@saikatdominicgregory91573 жыл бұрын
Follow from 17:02... You'll get your answer
@brianbarber5401 Жыл бұрын
The reason for the rift is irrelevant to the sister being a POS and expecting a pass on it.
@xavierwolf48273 жыл бұрын
Second story: The person who was the reason the dad died was the mother, she didn't want to call an ambulance. If she had called he wouldn't have gotten in the car and wouldn't have died at that time.
@bluegoka3 жыл бұрын
09:20 _“I contribute 60% and she contributes 40% to make things fair.”_ In case of a divorce will she want 40% of the house to “make things fair”?
@andiward70683 жыл бұрын
Equal doesn't always mean equitable. If she makes 20% less her paying 20% less is equitable. In a divorce there is a Judge to decide (if the partners disagree) what constitutes "fair". Whether she wants 0% or 100% it isn't up to her what she gets in the end.
@bluegoka3 жыл бұрын
@@andiward7068 the judge will decide because she definitely won’t accept the share she paid. That’s the point. If you think so then I want to be your business partner. You own 99% and I 1% but I get half.
@andiward70683 жыл бұрын
@@bluegoka if you put in the 99% while I put in 1% money and did nothing else, that would be fair, in a business. A marriage isn't a business and involves more than just money. I'd be stupid af to go into business who doesn't understand equity or non-tangible contributions, thanks anyway.
@TheHelper1513 жыл бұрын
@@andiward7068 It is a contract, marriage.
@bluegoka3 жыл бұрын
@@andiward7068 hello again, he didn’t mention anything else. He didn’t say “she pays 40% but pays all the utilities, cuts the grass, cleans the gutters...”. It would be a bit fairer if she would be left with no fun money. But she saves on the mortgage and spends on “shoes”.
@adrianjames65523 жыл бұрын
To the OP of last story: Run. Run as fast as you can. Never look back, Do not let them stay in your life. Private social media accounts, new phone number, move to the other side of the city if you can, everything.
@zoe91903 жыл бұрын
Story 2. That kid desperately needs therapy, his family have emotionally abused him for something that was not his fault. The mother didnt want to pay for an ambulance, so your father had to drive you. He got into an ACCIDENT, its noones fault. He needs to talk to his grandparents and work on his mental health.
@audreym39083 жыл бұрын
17 FEMALE
@triplemoyagames41953 жыл бұрын
Story 3: The apology needs to be as loud as the disrespect. She needs to publicly come clean to EVERYTHING. Take responsibility for everything THEN apologize
@fallinqeclipse58503 жыл бұрын
In story 2, when I heard about the kids stealing her cane, the first thing my mind went to was, 'what is there's a fire?' because if there was, she wouldn't have been able to get down the stairs without her cane. But also, her mother was messed up. But definitely NTA.
@ShaunHensley3 жыл бұрын
She probably is lying about the cancer
@melrobertson27433 жыл бұрын
Or lying on how serious the cancer is, could be mild and with one operation it's cleared up.
@shamirquinones86073 жыл бұрын
He wasn’t implying that only bad people get cancer. For the love of god.
@fyoutube94103 жыл бұрын
IKR!
@crayolaclouds26963 жыл бұрын
Story 2 broke my heart into a million pieces. How can anyone blame a 5 year old for a car accident? How can someone just say that to a kid then continue to reinforce it their whole lives? Pure evil. That woman that calls herself OP's "mother" is pure fucking evil. I hope OP is getting to a better place, she deserves happiness. I'm so glad the grandparents came to help her when she called them.
@natishabobb31563 жыл бұрын
Story 2 . Its easier to blame someone else than yourself . Aka the mom
@BIGEAGLEDUDE3 жыл бұрын
With the third story is simple either tell her to put the money back and tell your sister-in-law to stay out of our finances or be prepared to serve her with divorce papers plain and simple. In addition I wouldn't be surprised if your wife brought up any type of financial mental or emotional or potentially physical abuse accusations against you because she knows her sister have done some crazy and irresponsible things with her money but let's be honest here she knows is not going to end well. My advice to you you need to take all the money that you put into joint account and at least 60% of the money that she put in and move it to another account where you have sole control over it that way you can make sure you guys stay afloat and more with the bills and stuff. Because honestly I think your wife needs to learn the hard way what the choices of her actions will do to her and potentially her family
@Russman673 жыл бұрын
That second story, I feel horrible about how OP has been convinced that she is the reason her dad died. All the other abuses were bad enough but for her mom to hang her dad's death on her is evil. Glad she's out of there.
@ryanbales81163 жыл бұрын
First story: NTA. OP's sister treated him like dirt and made his life hell. She was never kind to him and she will have to answer for it. She never apologized either and won't even cook for him? Or provide food? Too bad he got adopted by a crappy family. And shame on the parents for allowing that bad treatment to happen for so long.
@Kevin75573 жыл бұрын
Story 2: go to social media with what they are doing. The mother is only upset because they got busted and knows word is going to get out what they were doing to that girl. Story 4: He should tell anyone who complains to him that they thought and called him a thief for a year so their judgment is shit. Glare at them when saying it. Give them the universal one step forward and I will cut you from my life like a tumor impression. Inform them to be grateful he has even taken them back and is willing to talk to them period.
@sagesixparties72173 жыл бұрын
More like Laser Guided Karma
@lifebeyondthesalary24583 жыл бұрын
Sweetheart, listen up. Your dad died because of an accident. You were 5!!!! My youngest son is 6. If I die in a crash or whatever reason, it will never be his fault. Your abusive mother & stepfather have emotionally and mentally abused you, have neglected you and bullied you into believing that an accident was your fault. Kids get hurt. They do stupid things because they don’t know any better. Kids learn by either doing or observing something crazy and the consequences of those choices. If you fell down the stairs on accident, it would NOT be your fault. Pretending & playing is part of childhood. You would have NEVER wanted your dad to die. Your mother has taken her “guilt” for not having an ambulance come get you & forcing your dad to get you the help you needed & has placed it all on the head of a 5 year old. If someone tried to do that to my baby boy, this momma would go absolutely apeshit!!! That is not only disgusting behavior of an adult to act towards you (a child) for something NO ONE could have foreseen. CPS would have /should have removed you from this toxic idiot long ago and gotten you therapy to heal your soul. Survivors guilt is a real thing, but it is not based on truth. Do you hear me? It’s based on FEELINGS!!!! Feelings are not truth. Soldiers who have lost their brothers and sisters in arms have thought the same thing you do. But it’s not their fault. Just like it’s not your fault, it’s not 5 year old you’s fault either. Horrible things happen all the time. For no rhyme or reason at all. You are not God. You are not Satan. You did not chose this. You are ABSOLUTELY NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR DADDY’S death or the accident!!! Listen, I know you think that your mom is right because she has blamed you & brainwashed you (from the age of 5!!! That’s 12 years of constantly lying to someone that they are responsible for someone else’s death. That’s completely bullshit!!!!). Your mother is a horrible person to treat you that way. She is completely EVIL!!!! You don’t blame your siblings for how they are - & they are older than you were!!! You were a baby!!!! 5 years old is a baby, hardly older than a toddler!!! It is time to forgive yourself for something that was in no way your fault. Bad things happen. Good things happen. To both good & bad people. You are not bad people. But your mother has allowed her hurt, grief, & misplaced guilt to convince you that it’s your fault that the accident happened. Stay with your grandparents. Block your mom and stepfather and their abuse from your phone, etc. your mom & stepfather have been gaslighting you. This is damaging to you. You were the innocent in all of this. & tell your mom (from me) that’s she’s a horrible abusive narcissistic person who is not worth your time or energy. Go no contact ESPECIALLY while you get help from a therapist/psychologist who can help you unpack all the damage done to your life and mental health by that horrible woman. I’m so sorry hun. Please let your grandparents help you. You are not forcing her side of the family to have issues with your mom. She did that all on her own. She didn’t let them know how she/they treated you BECAUSE SHE KNEW SHE WAS IN THE WRONG AND IT WAS ABSOLUTELY HORRIBLE BEHAVIOR AND THAT SHE WOULD FACE THE CONSEQUENCES OF HER HORRIBLE BEHAVIOR!!!! I know you think that everyone else is wrong. But consider that we have not been gaslit into thinking that bad things happen because of us. Let yourself think about that. Really, really think on that. It was NEVER YOUR FAULT. You have been lied to all your life. By someone you should have been able to trust to tell you the truth. Except they didn’t tell you the truth and had/have ill intentions for and towards you. You can think & say it’s your fault. But it doesn’t change the fact that it’s not your fault and that it has NEVER BEEN YOUR FAULT. Not even a little bit. Your mom has always told you wrong. She lied to you for 12 years. She is untrustworthy. In every way. Please get the help you need to lay this all to rest.
@deedee11943 жыл бұрын
"My siblings got mad I drove off without them" 🤣🤣
@KR912013 жыл бұрын
can't argue with that title, cancer is no free ticket for pity.
@jerriewyatt9053 жыл бұрын
Story two... OP’s father’s death wasn’t her fault.. if anyone was at fault it’s the mother’s.. she’s doesn’t need to ever go back .. she’s be made to feel she’s feel undeserving and guilty.. OP’s wife spending money to finance her sister’s pyramid scheme is wrong.. especially without his knowledge and consent.. it’s his money too.. it should have come out of her account.. The sister that didn’t confess about finding the ring and caused terrible problems for OP doesn’t deserve forgiveness..
@nimisilverbird12393 жыл бұрын
NTA. You were accused and cast out for reasons with no proof to back it up. Ppl say all you have to do is say sorry. But in my experience sometimes sorry doesnt cut it. Also funny how she seeks you out bc she wants something. And that something is not your problem
@jmrggrmj93303 жыл бұрын
That mom in the second story is the biggest AH there is, what a monstrous woman. Edit: I wrote my comment before the story was over, after hearing op’s answers to the comments I’m absolutely furious. She really believes is her fault. I reiterate that woman, her mother (if only by name) is a monster.
@shaekelley65003 жыл бұрын
I really want to hug or PFT story too. They’re in a dark place I may not have gone through what they went through but I can relate in terms of going through something that you feel is your fault or that you could’ve changed. I just hope they get better they deserve to be happy and don’t deserve to be bogged down by that guilt that they think they deserve.
@lindajacobs14873 жыл бұрын
Story 2: Hopefully, OP will some day tell Mom that if she had let you go in an ambulance, your dad would still be alive. She probably knows that and has chosen to deflect her guilt onto OP.
@BrotherBarakiel9963 жыл бұрын
Second story makes me mad. Not only the mother, but OP consistently claiming its their own fault for their father's death. I want to pick them up and shake them by thier shoulders and tell them its not thier fault, that they are innocent in this. I hope they never have to return to that home.
@crazylarryjr3 жыл бұрын
First story, I don't think the OP said cancer happens only to bad people, I think it's the irony and hypocrisy of mistreatment, then asking for support when she needs it. At least this is what i saw in that statement. I say NTA, but he could have just said "Sorry about your diagnosis, I'm leaving, anyone else want a ride?" and leave it like that
@snowbunny6683 жыл бұрын
First story... no one deserves cancer. That’s a horrible thing to say and just brings you down to her level.
@suefecteau13063 жыл бұрын
At 5 years old you have no control of your father death. Taken a cane is not right. You need hugs and love . And you needs to not feel guilty of anything your family does. Hugs sent .
@jamesstark15343 жыл бұрын
"And my siblings are mad that I left them" at least they have their priorities straight lmfao
@metamorphstorm3 жыл бұрын
I feel so bad for the disabled OP who thinks she caused her father's death and deserves to be abused the way her mom is. Constantly telling your kid that she deserves the despicable treatment she gets at the hand of your new husband because "if you wanted a proper dad you wouldn't have killed yours" really makes me angry. OP doesn't even want to ask for therapy because "she already takes so much" ... ?! Poor kid isn't even trying to say she already takes so much crap in life, she thinks she's spoiled or something! This is so horrific and I hope her grandparents get custody.
@josephtucker71813 жыл бұрын
There are people who deserve to go through it. Everyone in these stories except the wife sister and bank account story deserves it the terrible mom and stepdad in story 2 the sister her husband and the whole family who disowned story 4 op.
@charlievu56413 жыл бұрын
The fact that there are so many of these things happening is gross to think about like how do so many people do this to someone else
@aikikaname65083 жыл бұрын
OP 1s adopted sis’ behaviour in a awful bit can we spare a note for how appalling the parents were? OPs parent brought an older child into their home when she was 12 (and probably didn’t council or prepare her beforehand or get her input), did nothing to stop her behaviour or help her adjust, PERSISTED in fostering MORE children even though OPs home life was hell and daughter was not okay with the arrangement , and left 2 minor kids alone for a weekend and didn’t come back when sister locked 13yo out the house ? What the crap is wrong with them. Avas behaviour was bad but with that kind of parenting no wonder it reached that level
@eugenegm3 жыл бұрын
Story 1: Go no contact with the older sister. That woman is toxic.
@raeishimura3 жыл бұрын
Honestly, what did she even expect? She wants sympathy from people that she abused? While the way OP said it sucks, OP has every right to throw it in her face and say "you deserve punishment for the things you've done". OP was hurt by this person for his whole life and finally gets to say exactly how he feels.
@LostCause-693 жыл бұрын
It has been my experience the good ones cancer takes quickly, the horrible ones cancer makes suffer for awhile.
@brianbarber5401 Жыл бұрын
Gullible wife story: it goes beyond the fact that she essentially stole $2k and threw it away. From what OP says, this isn’t the first MLM scheme SIL has tried, and failed, to make money with, and yet wife still flushed money away on it.
@24manhoi3 жыл бұрын
Children also inherit Karma from their ancestors, not just their parents.
@bonb2133 жыл бұрын
In the first story OP is NTA. He is not declaring that cancer is karma for everyone just that it is Ava's karma, not anyone else's. He can feel that way if he wants. Having cancer or any other debilitating illness or injury does not mean someone gets automatic forgiveness for mistreating others. OP's parents seem to have allowed Ava to get away with her bad behavior towards the others and now expects them to help her through this terrible diagnosis even though the bad behavior continued because she invited them to lunch but only cooked for her parents. Op and the other siblings should give Ava what she's always wanted and let her have her parents to herself.
@xevira3 жыл бұрын
Story 1: OP didn't say only bad people get cancer... just that bad things happen to bad people, whatever that might be. So many horrible redditors who can't read properly.
@mariascreven14333 жыл бұрын
In the first story, OP is NTA!!! Why the hell would OP and his other siblings need to bring their own food and why did OP's parents condone this type of behavior? Terrible people don't get a pass simply because they are sick. The AH sister has not changed so don't blame OP for what he said and feels. Actions have consequences period.
@ava-rosekerr98113 жыл бұрын
I had to stop the video at 5 minutes 16 seconds. When the OP who was a sick child, blamed themselves for their dad's death. And stated their mother blamed them too, when it was the mother who didn't want to call an ambulance. My heart broke for poor OP. And now I just want to scream a flood of horrific swear words that'd likely get me banned at their mother. What kind of sick, twisted individual blames their child, a literal child, for the death of someone else? Did OP go on to say they were driving the car at 5 and lost control? Because unless they grabbed the steering wheel or were the driver, they were definitely not responsible for the death of anyone. It was a horrific accident. Oh my blood is boiling for that poor baby. Mother and step dad deserve to be strung up by the danglies. I sincerely hope OP gets the help they deserve but I cannot finish listening to this story right now. I'm already absolutely enraged.
@1911odisea3 жыл бұрын
The second story sounds like legit abuse and the authorities should get involved.
@itsneverover0003 жыл бұрын
Story 2: The kid is injured and her mom wouldn't call an ambulance, ok maybe it was too expensive if she is from the US, but she didn't even went with them to the hospital??? how can you see your child injured and not even be with her to calm her down while the dad drives. I'm thinking she hated her own child before the accident happended, that's why it was so easy for her to put the blame on her child
@ichigokurosaki-ij6bk3 жыл бұрын
Bad stuff happens to everbody, all the time. What makes it worse, is being a bad person.the isolation of people not wanting to deal with you is almost always that persons fault. All we can do is control ourselves and how we treat others.
@rorbot_SMF2 жыл бұрын
"We do have a cat and dog we consider to be our children" I do wish pet owners would stop saying things such as this.
@heather.c3 жыл бұрын
Bad things such as cancer also happen to good people who didn't deserve it.
@jerriewyatt9053 жыл бұрын
Ava reaps what she’s sown in regards to op not being sympathetic or supportive...
@fyoutube94103 жыл бұрын
If anyone deserves a punch in the face it's the couple in story 2. Holy f, what a mess
@catspaw30924 ай бұрын
Cancer doesn't hit just bad people OP & his siblings was finally fed up with their sister's abuse no doubt they'll be glad when she's gone & the parents too for not sticking up for them. Watch when she's taking her last breath she'll ask OP to see her one last time before she goes so she can alleviate her guilt when she isn't sorry at all. OP will likely choose not to show up & let his bully of a sister die without giving her closure out of spite.
@Eckull3 жыл бұрын
Second story really pisses me off, she's been so gaslit into the idea that she's the one at fault for her fathers death she literally can't see reason. Fucking hell, those people should be locked up for their abuse.
@triplemoyagames41953 жыл бұрын
Story 1: NTA, it was some savage ish tho. I wouldn't even have expressed sympathy, I would just say, "That's tough" and leave it at that. She can't treat her siblings horribly and expect them to treat her like family. I would have shown up out of courtesy for my parents. OP ain't wring and the parents are enablers. Yes, cancer affects everyone and bad things happen to everyone. but it doesn't mean that some people deserve it
@Jake-iw3tl3 жыл бұрын
My Aunt's in a similar situation. She mooches off my grandparents but they prolly allow it because they blame themselves for her behavior. She starves them and makes it a point never to miss feeding the dogs expensive food like chicken drumsticks without the bones. She belittles the people who work to keep my grandparents fed and who bathe them. We have a small store in front of the house and she screams around at times. She grew a cyst in her ovary and no one wants to stay with her at the hospital because they would rather she die than put up with her for about a week. I've told her that she is a horrible person and that karma is getting to her. She says it's a normal thing women her age get. I tell her that it isn't, and the fact that ppl would rather you die than put up with you is proof of it. My grandmother deserves being starved tho. She was/is a terribly abusive person who messed her kids up this badly 😆
@arielortiz56433 жыл бұрын
Though story 1 is morally gray, I would never agree with the people that answered. Never onced they mentioned how destructive is bullying for a child. They were just thinking about how it would be if someone in their family got cancer or just assumed something he never said. Those people really need to develop a little more of empathy.
@wolfengod82773 жыл бұрын
Ava never wanted random other kids in her life, her parents wanted OP to live with them she didn’t, she is undoubtedly an AH (along with her parents that clearly didn’t care about what their own daughter wanted) but why didn’t OP just cut contact with her once he was 18? Why stick around in someone’s life that clearly never wanted anything to do with you?
@brianbarber5401 Жыл бұрын
Cane story: OP’s mom is clearly blaming OP because of the guilt she feels knowing that her cheap ass is actually at fault for her husband’s death, way more than OP. She’s the one that made him drive.
@WardenSpectreCommander3 жыл бұрын
I had to go back and rewind 2nd OP. It's not your fault OP and you're nowhere near TA. Grandparents hug this baby everyday and reinforce to her it's NOT HER FAULT. I always thought I was cool and unflappable, this brought on the waterworks with her blaming herself and those assholes reinforcing that.
@craig74053 жыл бұрын
story 1: if i was OP, i think i genuinely would've burst out laughing and just said, "KARMA BITCH"
@thecursed013 жыл бұрын
she wanted sympathy and support...BUT ONLY MADE FOOD FOR THE PARENTS AND NOT THEM? she doesn't HAVe cancer, she IS cancer. next story: mom killed dad for refusing to call an ambulance. how's that for getting blamed
@weezylone3 жыл бұрын
I think the mom quite rightly blames herself for her husband's death and is taking out that self hatred on OP. The accident that killed him and maimed OP probably would not have happened if they'd called for an ambulance. Because she's cheap her husband is dead and her daughter crippled, and she cannot or will not process that.
@nimisilverbird12393 жыл бұрын
Nta. Why does ava even deserve your support? She was completely awful growing up and it doesn't sound like she matured any with age. Your parents should have gotten her therapy to deal with her clear hatred of you and your foster siblings. I'm curious what punishment did she get for locking you out for 3 days?
@CensorshipVictim2 жыл бұрын
Story 1 NTA: Ava is a massive AH, the only reason she invited her siblings is because she probably wants free caregivers (rides to appointments, cleaning/cooking service, etc all for free of course) or money or bone marrow. OP and the other siblings need to go no contact. Let mommy and daddy take care of their monster bio-daughter.
@kitsumekat3 жыл бұрын
First story, the only ahole move is because OP left his siblings behind. But, Ava was an abuser and she's getting her comeuppance. Had her parents curb her abuse, she would have support. Now, she can go through this with only her parents there to support her, like she wanted. Second story, report their ass. She's abusive and can't own up to her part in his death. Now, you can finally go NC with her and she can lose the last of her old family. Also, document everything so that she can't for you to go back. Third story, his wife should've taken it out of her separate account. This is why he should just go with his idea. This way, his wife is forced to see what this MLM is. Fourth story, she only wants him back because it doesn't look good on her. She had years to apologize. Now, she expects her brother back? For what? So that she can pin something else on him? She needs to leave him alone and realize what she did to deserve it.
@gamprhabanero53513 жыл бұрын
Story 1: NTA. Harsh, but then again, Ava's always been an MASSIVE AH to OP, and has effectively burnt any chances of genuine support from OP with her behavior, so OP doesn't owe her anything. OP gets, oh...maybe 0.1/10 on the AH scale at max (yeah, it was harsh, but Ava's terrible), Ava gets 9/10 on the AH (for being a horrible older sister), and parents get 7/10 on the AH scale (for enabling Ava's behavior). Story 2: N. T. A. OP, I've gotta say it, your Mom and Stepdad are just plain terrible, and they're being outright abusive. Good on you for getting out of there. OP gets 0/10 on the AH scale (seriously, it's not your fault for your dad dying. It's your mom's fault.), OP's mom gets 11/10 on the AH scale (yes, 11/10. Seriously. She caused her husband's death because she wouldn't pay for an Ambulance for her daughter, and now treats that same daughter horribly. Why isn't she in Jail?), and OP's Stepdad gets 10/10 on the AH scale for being a disgusting enabler of his wife. Story 3: NTA, obviously. OP has a right to protect his financial assets from a financially irresponsible partner. OP gets 0/10 on the AH scale, and Wife gets 6/10 on the AH scale (for being a financial blockhead and refusing to own up to it). Story 4: NTA. If the sister wants to prove that she's REALLY sorry for what she did, she needs to tell EVERYONE that she lied and then explain how she lied. Otherwise, any further apologies will get laughed out just like the first one. OP gets 0/10 on the AH scale (I'd laugh at her too, after all that she did, let's be honest), the Sister gets 8/10 on the AH scale (for being a lying AH who is likely doing this for herself, not for OP), and OP's parents get 5/10 on the AH scale (for blindly taking the sister's side).