Story 1: AITA for telling my sister with cancer that "Bad things happen to bad people" Story 2: 4:30 AITA For Moving Out Cause My Family Keeps Playing With My Cane? Story 3: 8:36 AITA for telling my wife I would open a separate account if she didn't get our money back? Story 4: 13:47 AITA for laughing at my sisters apology?

So let me get this straight about Story 1. Ava invited the whole family over to have their support for her cancer diagnosis-and the adoptive siblings still had to bring their own food? She _still_ spitefully did not provide anything for them? There was absolutely no change in behavior on her behalf. How dare she _demand_ support from people with whom she _still_ abuses. That is insane. OP is NTA. Ava is a MASSIVE AH, and the parents are AH’s for being enablers.

Story 2: every father is willing to die when rushing their kid to the hospital. Even if their kid lives 1 second longer than him. Tells you everything about the mother.

story 1: those are some BS responses from the posters. he never said or implied this, he just said karma came for her and bad things happen to bad people. i would not be surprised if the people slamming him also talk about karma like this.

It breaks my heart that the second op has been brainwashed by her mother into believing that she is responsible for her father's death 💔

Second: Wait. Her dad died because of an accident because he had to drive her to the hospital because the mother didn't want to pay for a ambulance?

OP's parents left a thirteen year old child in charge of the sibling she hated for three days? How was anyone surprised that went badly?

Ava invited them for lunch but did not cook for her siblings. Then wants sympathy and support from them because she has cancer. OP and siblings should have said oh so sorry, well Mom and Dad looks like you have more caring to do in your declining years, Bye Bye we are off take care. Eventually bad things do happen to bad people.

What.. the hell.. story two is horrid. NTA. Blaming a kid for their parent’s death, taking their means of mobility. That woman is a disgusting person that doesn’t deserve to be called a mother

I hate that OP blames herself for what happened to her dad... it's horrible. It truly wasn't her fault, but she's been blamed so much by both herself AND her own mother.

with the dad dying in the accident story: if it's anyones to blame it's the mom for not wanting to pay for an ambulance

The poor child. She is carrying so much guilt. Even pushing back on therapy because she doesn't want to "take resources". Jesus.

Story 2. Oh wow wow wow. I wish I could hug this young lady. It's not her fault her dad died. If there is blame then it's her mothers. Who does that to a child.

So let me get this straight with the last story your sister lied about you stealing her engagement ring and kept the LIE going for a decade. That basically have the entire family disown you criticize you and Mary drive you to the point of depression. My advice to use Simple until she makes it public with the family do not under no circumstances let her back into your life and quite frankly you need to cut off the rest of the family as well. Because they went with her here say instead of asking her straight up did you drop it down the drain? Did you lose it? Or did someone else? But they just went straight to you and blamed you for it. It's time for them to learn what it's like to be you for a change

Story2: Sun-sized NTA! Good grief this was rage-inducing. It's horrible that OP's egg-donor would brainwash her own child into thinking she's responsible for an accident. She's a monster. Kudos to the grandparents. I hope OP goes NC with these vile creatures, and gets therapy.

1st story" I woulda just been like, "😀😃😄😁😆😅😂🤣"!!!

I taught my kids at a young age they should never touch a mlm or pyramid scam . None of them have ever fell for it . My oldest husband got into one of them and he was trying to get my daughter into it so she showed him that he was getting ripped off.

Atleast OP jumped of the stairs in a supergirl costume, I jumped of a roof with a towel round my neck .

Everyone saying OP ITA in the 1st story, are candidates for the same fate. For being stupid and compasionate with a monster.

Story 1: The only thing op did wrong was leave without his siblings. Bro you were their ride Edit: Story 2: Op didn't kill her father, it was an accident. If it was anyone's fault the mother should blame herself not a five year old.

Unfortunately bad things don't happen frequently enough to bad people.Cancer is mild compared to what I wish on my clusterfu** of a family.

Story 2 is a heartbreaking situation. How can a mother being to blame her daughter for an accident that was nothing to do with her, if she wants to blame anyone she needs to blame herself for not getting an ambulance for her child. This poor kid is beyond mentally destroyed by that so called mother and stepfather, the fact that they think it's okay to hide the cane on anyone is disgusting and I dread to think how the 2 younger kids will turn out been lead to believe that it is acceptable behaviour to treat people like rubbish. This poor kid needs to stay with the grandparents where she is safe from abuse and get therapy ASAP because with the belief that the treatment at home is just and fair is so concerning.

Umm I'm sick to my stomach thinking about that poor girl being abused and blamed for her fathers death, no one should have to feel that

The cane is MEDICAL EQUIPMENT. S.Dad needs to parent the kids and teach them not to mess with other people's stuff without permission, and MEDICAL stuff is OFF-limits.

"And she said that I was being a brat and that if I wanted a father who cared about me I shouldnt have killed my dad" Im sorry she said *what*

2nd story pissed me off so much. I know the mother was manipulative and essentially made her feel that way but I was getting a everyone is an asshole because she didn't understand what the comments were trying to say. She just kept blaiming herself and it was getting me heated.

Oh my goodness! That second story is heartbreaking. If OP happens to find this video, it is NOT nor has it EVER been YOUR fault. Your mom is abusive and convinced you it is your fault in a fucked up attempt to keep you compliant. You DON'T ask for to much. You DO deserve a good father and you DID NOT kill your dad. I pray you get therapy and learn your self worth, because honey, you deserve so much better than what you got. I'm tearing up writing this and wish I could give you a big hug, look you in the eyes, and tell you didn't/don't deserve that. I could only imagine how hard that must have been for a 5 year old. Just how many times you had to be told that, that you so firmly believe it. Even your explanation on why you think it's your fault is heartbreaking. I'm so sorry.

Story 2 : it is not her fault it is the mom's fault she didn't want to pay for an ambulance she already sounded like a bad mother before if the mom think it's okay to treat your child like that and letting other people do that there's no need for op to talk to her ever again

The 2nd story made me want to scream. I fell so bad for that poor girl.

By heart bleeds for OP in the second story! From everything she writes, you can tell that her evil, toxic mother has destroyed her self-worth. At least she wrote that her father drove her because her mother refused an ambulance. I hope one day she is able to rid herself of the massive, unfair guilt and feelings of being unworthy.

For the first story, I think people are reading way too much into the OP's statement.

Second story, my God the amount of brain washing

1st story: op did the right thing taking a stand and revealing the truth. Ava does not get support from people she has intentionally harmed. Walking away was the best thing he could do. Story 2: op needs to stay with his grandparents, he is a cripple and needs his cane. Denying him his primary means of mobility is cruel if not abusive. As for his mother, stepfather, and half siblings they have all committed verbal, mental, and emotional abuse. He has grounds to get their parental rights revoked and help his grandparents gain guardianship. Pursue legal counseling and therapy so you can stay away from those toxic people.

1st story: yta for not bringing your siblings home

op i dont think your an ahole but just hurt for how she treated you and your other siblings your parents should have stop her from treating you and your siblings like that so they and her cant be upset that you feel how you feel their mad that you didnt show more feelings about her but they never stoped her from treating you all so bad they are just as much at fault for how you and the others were treated . Did she think you were going to break down and cry for the person who made your life hell. They did then they where fools NTA

op was NTA by far. only reason he might have been a soft AH was cuz he drove away without his siblings lol. look i get the whole cancer is unbiased thing but cmon...sometimes bad people deserve to get cancer

For the last story, it would have made more sense if OP narrated the background of the rift between him and the brother in law, as to why the sister framed him for the ring, instead of adding that story as an edit in the end. It was a significant part of the why. That couple were cheapskates.

Second story: The person who was the reason the dad died was the mother, she didn't want to call an ambulance. If she had called he wouldn't have gotten in the car and wouldn't have died at that time.

09:20 _“I contribute 60% and she contributes 40% to make things fair.”_ In case of a divorce will she want 40% of the house to “make things fair”?

To the OP of last story: Run. Run as fast as you can. Never look back, Do not let them stay in your life. Private social media accounts, new phone number, move to the other side of the city if you can, everything.

Story 2. That kid desperately needs therapy, his family have emotionally abused him for something that was not his fault. The mother didnt want to pay for an ambulance, so your father had to drive you. He got into an ACCIDENT, its noones fault. He needs to talk to his grandparents and work on his mental health.

Story 3: The apology needs to be as loud as the disrespect. She needs to publicly come clean to EVERYTHING. Take responsibility for everything THEN apologize

In story 2, when I heard about the kids stealing her cane, the first thing my mind went to was, 'what is there's a fire?' because if there was, she wouldn't have been able to get down the stairs without her cane. But also, her mother was messed up. But definitely NTA.

She probably is lying about the cancer

He wasn’t implying that only bad people get cancer. For the love of god.

Story 2 broke my heart into a million pieces. How can anyone blame a 5 year old for a car accident? How can someone just say that to a kid then continue to reinforce it their whole lives? Pure evil. That woman that calls herself OP's "mother" is pure fucking evil. I hope OP is getting to a better place, she deserves happiness. I'm so glad the grandparents came to help her when she called them.

Story 2 . Its easier to blame someone else than yourself . Aka the mom

With the third story is simple either tell her to put the money back and tell your sister-in-law to stay out of our finances or be prepared to serve her with divorce papers plain and simple. In addition I wouldn't be surprised if your wife brought up any type of financial mental or emotional or potentially physical abuse accusations against you because she knows her sister have done some crazy and irresponsible things with her money but let's be honest here she knows is not going to end well. My advice to you you need to take all the money that you put into joint account and at least 60% of the money that she put in and move it to another account where you have sole control over it that way you can make sure you guys stay afloat and more with the bills and stuff. Because honestly I think your wife needs to learn the hard way what the choices of her actions will do to her and potentially her family

That second story, I feel horrible about how OP has been convinced that she is the reason her dad died. All the other abuses were bad enough but for her mom to hang her dad's death on her is evil. Glad she's out of there.

First story: NTA. OP's sister treated him like dirt and made his life hell. She was never kind to him and she will have to answer for it. She never apologized either and won't even cook for him? Or provide food? Too bad he got adopted by a crappy family. And shame on the parents for allowing that bad treatment to happen for so long.

Story 2: go to social media with what they are doing. The mother is only upset because they got busted and knows word is going to get out what they were doing to that girl. Story 4: He should tell anyone who complains to him that they thought and called him a thief for a year so their judgment is shit. Glare at them when saying it. Give them the universal one step forward and I will cut you from my life like a tumor impression. Inform them to be grateful he has even taken them back and is willing to talk to them period.

More like Laser Guided Karma

Sweetheart, listen up. Your dad died because of an accident. You were 5!!!! My youngest son is 6. If I die in a crash or whatever reason, it will never be his fault. Your abusive mother & stepfather have emotionally and mentally abused you, have neglected you and bullied you into believing that an accident was your fault. Kids get hurt. They do stupid things because they don’t know any better. Kids learn by either doing or observing something crazy and the consequences of those choices. If you fell down the stairs on accident, it would NOT be your fault. Pretending & playing is part of childhood. You would have NEVER wanted your dad to die. Your mother has taken her “guilt” for not having an ambulance come get you & forcing your dad to get you the help you needed & has placed it all on the head of a 5 year old. If someone tried to do that to my baby boy, this momma would go absolutely apeshit!!! That is not only disgusting behavior of an adult to act towards you (a child) for something NO ONE could have foreseen. CPS would have /should have removed you from this toxic idiot long ago and gotten you therapy to heal your soul. Survivors guilt is a real thing, but it is not based on truth. Do you hear me? It’s based on FEELINGS!!!! Feelings are not truth. Soldiers who have lost their brothers and sisters in arms have thought the same thing you do. But it’s not their fault. Just like it’s not your fault, it’s not 5 year old you’s fault either. Horrible things happen all the time. For no rhyme or reason at all. You are not God. You are not Satan. You did not chose this. You are ABSOLUTELY NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR DADDY’S death or the accident!!! Listen, I know you think that your mom is right because she has blamed you & brainwashed you (from the age of 5!!! That’s 12 years of constantly lying to someone that they are responsible for someone else’s death. That’s completely bullshit!!!!). Your mother is a horrible person to treat you that way. She is completely EVIL!!!! You don’t blame your siblings for how they are - & they are older than you were!!! You were a baby!!!! 5 years old is a baby, hardly older than a toddler!!! It is time to forgive yourself for something that was in no way your fault. Bad things happen. Good things happen. To both good & bad people. You are not bad people. But your mother has allowed her hurt, grief, & misplaced guilt to convince you that it’s your fault that the accident happened. Stay with your grandparents. Block your mom and stepfather and their abuse from your phone, etc. your mom & stepfather have been gaslighting you. This is damaging to you. You were the innocent in all of this. & tell your mom (from me) that’s she’s a horrible abusive narcissistic person who is not worth your time or energy. Go no contact ESPECIALLY while you get help from a therapist/psychologist who can help you unpack all the damage done to your life and mental health by that horrible woman. I’m so sorry hun. Please let your grandparents help you. You are not forcing her side of the family to have issues with your mom. She did that all on her own. She didn’t let them know how she/they treated you BECAUSE SHE KNEW SHE WAS IN THE WRONG AND IT WAS ABSOLUTELY HORRIBLE BEHAVIOR AND THAT SHE WOULD FACE THE CONSEQUENCES OF HER HORRIBLE BEHAVIOR!!!! I know you think that everyone else is wrong. But consider that we have not been gaslit into thinking that bad things happen because of us. Let yourself think about that. Really, really think on that. It was NEVER YOUR FAULT. You have been lied to all your life. By someone you should have been able to trust to tell you the truth. Except they didn’t tell you the truth and had/have ill intentions for and towards you. You can think & say it’s your fault. But it doesn’t change the fact that it’s not your fault and that it has NEVER BEEN YOUR FAULT. Not even a little bit. Your mom has always told you wrong. She lied to you for 12 years. She is untrustworthy. In every way. Please get the help you need to lay this all to rest.

"My siblings got mad I drove off without them" 🤣🤣

can't argue with that title, cancer is no free ticket for pity.

Story two... OP’s father’s death wasn’t her fault.. if anyone was at fault it’s the mother’s.. she’s doesn’t need to ever go back .. she’s be made to feel she’s feel undeserving and guilty.. OP’s wife spending money to finance her sister’s pyramid scheme is wrong.. especially without his knowledge and consent.. it’s his money too.. it should have come out of her account.. The sister that didn’t confess about finding the ring and caused terrible problems for OP doesn’t deserve forgiveness..

NTA. You were accused and cast out for reasons with no proof to back it up. Ppl say all you have to do is say sorry. But in my experience sometimes sorry doesnt cut it. Also funny how she seeks you out bc she wants something. And that something is not your problem

That mom in the second story is the biggest AH there is, what a monstrous woman. Edit: I wrote my comment before the story was over, after hearing op’s answers to the comments I’m absolutely furious. She really believes is her fault. I reiterate that woman, her mother (if only by name) is a monster.

I really want to hug or PFT story too. They’re in a dark place I may not have gone through what they went through but I can relate in terms of going through something that you feel is your fault or that you could’ve changed. I just hope they get better they deserve to be happy and don’t deserve to be bogged down by that guilt that they think they deserve.

Story 2: Hopefully, OP will some day tell Mom that if she had let you go in an ambulance, your dad would still be alive. She probably knows that and has chosen to deflect her guilt onto OP.

Second story makes me mad. Not only the mother, but OP consistently claiming its their own fault for their father's death. I want to pick them up and shake them by thier shoulders and tell them its not thier fault, that they are innocent in this. I hope they never have to return to that home.

First story, I don't think the OP said cancer happens only to bad people, I think it's the irony and hypocrisy of mistreatment, then asking for support when she needs it. At least this is what i saw in that statement. I say NTA, but he could have just said "Sorry about your diagnosis, I'm leaving, anyone else want a ride?" and leave it like that

First story... no one deserves cancer. That’s a horrible thing to say and just brings you down to her level.

At 5 years old you have no control of your father death. Taken a cane is not right. You need hugs and love . And you needs to not feel guilty of anything your family does. Hugs sent .

"And my siblings are mad that I left them" at least they have their priorities straight lmfao

I feel so bad for the disabled OP who thinks she caused her father's death and deserves to be abused the way her mom is. Constantly telling your kid that she deserves the despicable treatment she gets at the hand of your new husband because "if you wanted a proper dad you wouldn't have killed yours" really makes me angry. OP doesn't even want to ask for therapy because "she already takes so much" ... ?! Poor kid isn't even trying to say she already takes so much crap in life, she thinks she's spoiled or something! This is so horrific and I hope her grandparents get custody.

There are people who deserve to go through it. Everyone in these stories except the wife sister and bank account story deserves it the terrible mom and stepdad in story 2 the sister her husband and the whole family who disowned story 4 op.

The fact that there are so many of these things happening is gross to think about like how do so many people do this to someone else

OP 1s adopted sis’ behaviour in a awful bit can we spare a note for how appalling the parents were? OPs parent brought an older child into their home when she was 12 (and probably didn’t council or prepare her beforehand or get her input), did nothing to stop her behaviour or help her adjust, PERSISTED in fostering MORE children even though OPs home life was hell and daughter was not okay with the arrangement , and left 2 minor kids alone for a weekend and didn’t come back when sister locked 13yo out the house ? What the crap is wrong with them. Avas behaviour was bad but with that kind of parenting no wonder it reached that level

Story 1: Go no contact with the older sister. That woman is toxic.

Honestly, what did she even expect? She wants sympathy from people that she abused? While the way OP said it sucks, OP has every right to throw it in her face and say "you deserve punishment for the things you've done". OP was hurt by this person for his whole life and finally gets to say exactly how he feels.

It has been my experience the good ones cancer takes quickly, the horrible ones cancer makes suffer for awhile.

Gullible wife story: it goes beyond the fact that she essentially stole $2k and threw it away. From what OP says, this isn’t the first MLM scheme SIL has tried, and failed, to make money with, and yet wife still flushed money away on it.

Children also inherit Karma from their ancestors, not just their parents.

In the first story OP is NTA. He is not declaring that cancer is karma for everyone just that it is Ava's karma, not anyone else's. He can feel that way if he wants. Having cancer or any other debilitating illness or injury does not mean someone gets automatic forgiveness for mistreating others. OP's parents seem to have allowed Ava to get away with her bad behavior towards the others and now expects them to help her through this terrible diagnosis even though the bad behavior continued because she invited them to lunch but only cooked for her parents. Op and the other siblings should give Ava what she's always wanted and let her have her parents to herself.

Story 1: OP didn't say only bad people get cancer... just that bad things happen to bad people, whatever that might be. So many horrible redditors who can't read properly.

In the first story, OP is NTA!!! Why the hell would OP and his other siblings need to bring their own food and why did OP's parents condone this type of behavior? Terrible people don't get a pass simply because they are sick. The AH sister has not changed so don't blame OP for what he said and feels. Actions have consequences period.

I had to stop the video at 5 minutes 16 seconds. When the OP who was a sick child, blamed themselves for their dad's death. And stated their mother blamed them too, when it was the mother who didn't want to call an ambulance. My heart broke for poor OP. And now I just want to scream a flood of horrific swear words that'd likely get me banned at their mother. What kind of sick, twisted individual blames their child, a literal child, for the death of someone else? Did OP go on to say they were driving the car at 5 and lost control? Because unless they grabbed the steering wheel or were the driver, they were definitely not responsible for the death of anyone. It was a horrific accident. Oh my blood is boiling for that poor baby. Mother and step dad deserve to be strung up by the danglies. I sincerely hope OP gets the help they deserve but I cannot finish listening to this story right now. I'm already absolutely enraged.

The second story sounds like legit abuse and the authorities should get involved.

Story 2: The kid is injured and her mom wouldn't call an ambulance, ok maybe it was too expensive if she is from the US, but she didn't even went with them to the hospital??? how can you see your child injured and not even be with her to calm her down while the dad drives. I'm thinking she hated her own child before the accident happended, that's why it was so easy for her to put the blame on her child

Bad stuff happens to everbody, all the time. What makes it worse, is being a bad person.the isolation of people not wanting to deal with you is almost always that persons fault. All we can do is control ourselves and how we treat others.

"We do have a cat and dog we consider to be our children" I do wish pet owners would stop saying things such as this.

Bad things such as cancer also happen to good people who didn't deserve it.

Ava reaps what she’s sown in regards to op not being sympathetic or supportive...

If anyone deserves a punch in the face it's the couple in story 2. Holy f, what a mess

Cancer doesn't hit just bad people OP & his siblings was finally fed up with their sister's abuse no doubt they'll be glad when she's gone & the parents too for not sticking up for them. Watch when she's taking her last breath she'll ask OP to see her one last time before she goes so she can alleviate her guilt when she isn't sorry at all. OP will likely choose not to show up & let his bully of a sister die without giving her closure out of spite.

Second story really pisses me off, she's been so gaslit into the idea that she's the one at fault for her fathers death she literally can't see reason. Fucking hell, those people should be locked up for their abuse.

Story 1: NTA, it was some savage ish tho. I wouldn't even have expressed sympathy, I would just say, "That's tough" and leave it at that. She can't treat her siblings horribly and expect them to treat her like family. I would have shown up out of courtesy for my parents. OP ain't wring and the parents are enablers. Yes, cancer affects everyone and bad things happen to everyone. but it doesn't mean that some people deserve it

My Aunt's in a similar situation. She mooches off my grandparents but they prolly allow it because they blame themselves for her behavior. She starves them and makes it a point never to miss feeding the dogs expensive food like chicken drumsticks without the bones. She belittles the people who work to keep my grandparents fed and who bathe them. We have a small store in front of the house and she screams around at times. She grew a cyst in her ovary and no one wants to stay with her at the hospital because they would rather she die than put up with her for about a week. I've told her that she is a horrible person and that karma is getting to her. She says it's a normal thing women her age get. I tell her that it isn't, and the fact that ppl would rather you die than put up with you is proof of it. My grandmother deserves being starved tho. She was/is a terribly abusive person who messed her kids up this badly 😆

Though story 1 is morally gray, I would never agree with the people that answered. Never onced they mentioned how destructive is bullying for a child. They were just thinking about how it would be if someone in their family got cancer or just assumed something he never said. Those people really need to develop a little more of empathy.

Ava never wanted random other kids in her life, her parents wanted OP to live with them she didn’t, she is undoubtedly an AH (along with her parents that clearly didn’t care about what their own daughter wanted) but why didn’t OP just cut contact with her once he was 18? Why stick around in someone’s life that clearly never wanted anything to do with you?

Cane story: OP’s mom is clearly blaming OP because of the guilt she feels knowing that her cheap ass is actually at fault for her husband’s death, way more than OP. She’s the one that made him drive.

I had to go back and rewind 2nd OP. It's not your fault OP and you're nowhere near TA. Grandparents hug this baby everyday and reinforce to her it's NOT HER FAULT. I always thought I was cool and unflappable, this brought on the waterworks with her blaming herself and those assholes reinforcing that.

story 1: if i was OP, i think i genuinely would've burst out laughing and just said, "KARMA BITCH"

she wanted sympathy and support...BUT ONLY MADE FOOD FOR THE PARENTS AND NOT THEM? she doesn't HAVe cancer, she IS cancer. next story: mom killed dad for refusing to call an ambulance. how's that for getting blamed

I think the mom quite rightly blames herself for her husband's death and is taking out that self hatred on OP. The accident that killed him and maimed OP probably would not have happened if they'd called for an ambulance. Because she's cheap her husband is dead and her daughter crippled, and she cannot or will not process that.

Nta. Why does ava even deserve your support? She was completely awful growing up and it doesn't sound like she matured any with age. Your parents should have gotten her therapy to deal with her clear hatred of you and your foster siblings. I'm curious what punishment did she get for locking you out for 3 days?

Story 1 NTA: Ava is a massive AH, the only reason she invited her siblings is because she probably wants free caregivers (rides to appointments, cleaning/cooking service, etc all for free of course) or money or bone marrow. OP and the other siblings need to go no contact. Let mommy and daddy take care of their monster bio-daughter.

First story, the only ahole move is because OP left his siblings behind. But, Ava was an abuser and she's getting her comeuppance. Had her parents curb her abuse, she would have support. Now, she can go through this with only her parents there to support her, like she wanted. Second story, report their ass. She's abusive and can't own up to her part in his death. Now, you can finally go NC with her and she can lose the last of her old family. Also, document everything so that she can't for you to go back. Third story, his wife should've taken it out of her separate account. This is why he should just go with his idea. This way, his wife is forced to see what this MLM is. Fourth story, she only wants him back because it doesn't look good on her. She had years to apologize. Now, she expects her brother back? For what? So that she can pin something else on him? She needs to leave him alone and realize what she did to deserve it.

Story 1: NTA. Harsh, but then again, Ava's always been an MASSIVE AH to OP, and has effectively burnt any chances of genuine support from OP with her behavior, so OP doesn't owe her anything. OP gets, oh...maybe 0.1/10 on the AH scale at max (yeah, it was harsh, but Ava's terrible), Ava gets 9/10 on the AH (for being a horrible older sister), and parents get 7/10 on the AH scale (for enabling Ava's behavior). Story 2: N. T. A. OP, I've gotta say it, your Mom and Stepdad are just plain terrible, and they're being outright abusive. Good on you for getting out of there. OP gets 0/10 on the AH scale (seriously, it's not your fault for your dad dying. It's your mom's fault.), OP's mom gets 11/10 on the AH scale (yes, 11/10. Seriously. She caused her husband's death because she wouldn't pay for an Ambulance for her daughter, and now treats that same daughter horribly. Why isn't she in Jail?), and OP's Stepdad gets 10/10 on the AH scale for being a disgusting enabler of his wife. Story 3: NTA, obviously. OP has a right to protect his financial assets from a financially irresponsible partner. OP gets 0/10 on the AH scale, and Wife gets 6/10 on the AH scale (for being a financial blockhead and refusing to own up to it). Story 4: NTA. If the sister wants to prove that she's REALLY sorry for what she did, she needs to tell EVERYONE that she lied and then explain how she lied. Otherwise, any further apologies will get laughed out just like the first one. OP gets 0/10 on the AH scale (I'd laugh at her too, after all that she did, let's be honest), the Sister gets 8/10 on the AH scale (for being a lying AH who is likely doing this for herself, not for OP), and OP's parents get 5/10 on the AH scale (for blindly taking the sister's side).