I like these videos a lot more than the podcast. Wish the podcast was monthly, and these were still weekly. I'm more interested in the questions from other trans and GNC people, than I am from learning about your life, for example.

most podcasts its a must to be somewhat current.Your content is more like a library and never gets outdated.I am thankful for your channel.

You'll definitely be missed in terms of new KZfaq content but I've enjoyed what you offer on the podcast so far. I imagine you're excited to be able to offer more candid content without worries of some of KZfaq's restrictions. I look forward to being able to engage with more of your new content while I walk my dog rather than in front of a computer!

For the first one, transitioning is not a requirement to be trans. Not everyone has the want, need, or resources to do so. Nor do you need to arrive at a definitive conclusion about your specific identity right away, as this can take time to figure out. You shouldn't compare yourself to other trans people, looking at how far they've transitioned. You should only compare yourself to yourself and see how far you've come. Trans is a widely varied spectrum, and it's not uncommon for nonbinary people to transition to some extent and then stop once they've got the changes they want. In my case, I'm the first nonbinary patient my endocrinologist has worked with, and while I'm interested in pursuing medical transition, there is no set or predetermined path. Therefore I have to figure it out as I go. It's natural for you to discover new things about your gender identity and sexual orientation as you go through the process, just like you learn new things every day.

There are things that spring to my mind when I hear the first 2 questions: ad. 1. I think I know what the OP has in mind when asking about their sexuality. I think I was like that, years before I even begun to think about transitioning: the only fantasies I used to have was the fantasies of female embodyment, never with any relational aspect. In hindsight, I find it important that the body I imagined having was nothing like the one I would like to have in effect of transition, even if I could control every facet of it. In those fantasies I was always someone other than myself, and any association of the contents of these fantasies to my actual life and experience would be an immediate turn off. By the time I started thinking bout transitioning, he only times when I would return to those fantasies were when I felt not in control of my life and especially my body - it was a manner of ascaping from my physical reality (dissociating). Taking up transition really helped me to feel in control, and the physical changes helped me to feel more connected to my physicality. The autogynephilic fantasies don't do anything for me anymore. Today it's easier for me to see the significance of what was absent in them - relational aspect and interest in sexual interaction with another person; in other words - my asexuality. This has prevailed. ad. 2. On many occasions I find it helpful to think of gender expression in terms of language, but one when the meaning is coloured by the aparatus we're expressing it with. Closeted people often have cis people and the most cis-passing trans people as their point of reference of what succesfully communicating "masculinity" or "femininity" may look like. Especially in case of feminine individuals our culture ties femininity to beauty standards. As long as a transfeminine person remains closeted, her only experience with feminine expression is as a "receiver", never as a "communicator". Feminizing in private doesn't help, because there's no communication mediated through gender expression going on there. Moreover, the person takes a position of an arbiter, judging herself against the acts of gender expression executed with cisnormative bodies; she can point to all the diferences between these acts of expression and those of her own, but she cannot - on her own - adequately judge the effectiveness of her gender expression as communication. I can see how this can lead to hyperfocusing on bodily esthetics - a more perfectly normative tool (body) would facilitate a more complete emulation of various acts of gender expression. What transfeminine people sometimes find out - to their surprise - is that this normative tool is not necessary to succesfully communicate their gender; but they can only learn it while living as their gender. I feel many trans people think of passing in solipsistic terms - as having various aspects of their physicality as indistinguishible from what they would be in a typical cisgender person as possible. I think it is more helpful to think of passing in relational terms, as active communication - what it takes to be read as one's gender by other people. (Hint: it's never narrow shoulders.)

Trans academy in vrchat is an epic resource for trans ppl

Thank you once more for your inspirational words DR Z, everything you’ve said is so spot on! I’d like to add to your answer to the trans mom question. I follow many trans groups on facebook, where you can ask questions and get support. Maybe someone like them could join one of those groups and ask for a mentor. Personally, I would be happy to mentor someone who hasn’t transitioned as much as I have. Even though it’s been less than a year since I started, I felt like I needed to fast track my transition due to my age and the late start. I wouldn’t recommend that to everyone because each person has their own pace and hurdles.

Nooooo! 😢 Gonna miss seeing your face along with your new content.

So grateful for your channel and content. Really sad the q and a are going away, but you will still post the podcasts right?

13:36 i had already been rejected/abandoned/scapegoted for myriad fictional reasons and this was long before I even knew to myself I was trans. Imagine if we added trans into the mix! So many of us have too much poison on ourplates as it is. For decades I could not afford to even entertain the idea I could be trans, there were too many other issues, including perpetual isolation, social rejection, iianbility to integrate into society due to childhood abuse, religious abuse, social abuse, no income (most of my adult life I did not legally need to pay income tax, I had no income at all!) fending off suicidal thoughts...all too overwhelming.... ironically things got 2%-5% better....haha, when. I finally admitted to myself who I was/am. Still no income. Still a burden to my spouse (BLESS HER FOR ACCEPTING ME AFTER SO LONG !!!) despite being almost universally hated (the Internet showed me that people all over the world are miseralbe, hateful motherfackers), despite having worked and worked for no money ....all these...vultures waiting on my carcass as it were... ...but hey...now I know who and what I am. Finally I am actually proud of myself. I wont let myself be used (well youtube is now using me to make money for my free labour! haha!), not too much anyway...this is my long message to everyone. Be yourself, stand proud, dont let the bastards take from you what is yours! Never surrender!

I experience the same thing , i envy women but im not attracted to them , im exclusively attracted to straight men .

Sometimes I do not feel like a a real woman or just female/feminine when there is a part of me that in. especially with a part of me that connects with being male even though it does not always fit the standard.

shiet edna from the incredibles has a youtube channel ?

I came across your past video regarding 3 benefis of orchiectomy.Can you please tell me if there is an increase risk of type 2 diabetes and increased cholestrol leve after orchiectomy .

hi i am having diffculty identifing sex as in the differences i onlt seem to be identifing different apearance and the sex seems muted

I’ve not got answer on question #2. Because this is exactly my situation and you’vementioned “consider the health”, what health? Mental health? Like going into social transition or not? Maybe social transition is not for everyone correct aporoach.

+DRZPHD *Concerning Question 1 (Time **01:47**), I estimate Asker to have body düsmorphía.* As an #ActuallyAutistic #CisMale, I track apparel and cosmetics trends, officially in anticipation of a wife; would shortlist female-specific work boots and perhaps a 13Z woolen Midi-Kilt crafted to her profile from USA KiltsⓇ (Spring City, PA, USA). Concerning Question 4 (Time 14:35), femininity coaches _can_ be difficult to locate; I don't need one.

Q1 It sounds to me that you have developed a few more additional coping methods, instead of truly exploring who you really are. Q2 As a MtF person myself, who also doesn't have the best "feminine" features, thanks for allowing male hormones doing their thing! If your worried about your shoulders, your choice of clothing could help. i.e. wearing a short sleeves, over a top that's sleeveless. Q3 my partner couldn't handle it, and she is now my EX. this unfortunately happens, but the most important thing to focus on is your happiness and well-being. don't live a lie, in order to make others happy, you need to be you - take it from someone who has been down that road. if their support and exceptance was genuine, they would be willing to support the person, not the gender. Q4 nobody knows who they are at the beginning, most people we'll established on their journey still don't. instead of trying to find the perfect person, try looking for support groups. through these you could find like-minded people, who find your presence supportive. this way its not just a one way street, I think the song "stand by me" says it best....! Q5 If you can, find a therapist, who can help you unpack your feelings. Q6 I used to crossdress, and viewed it as my guilty secret. But, this was just another coping method, to allow vent some of my inner frustration. the thing that made me realise that it isn't just a fetish, or a bit of fun, was how it made me feel when it came time to put this side of myself back in the box. as well as the day after. does it feel as if a part of you is missing? if yes then further exploration is required!

I just want to pass :( it’s so so difficult

You still look pretty cocky to me