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"we dont want to violate anybodys privacy that isnt our kid" IS INSANE

Did you know you dropped this on the same day that 8 Passengers got maximum prison sentences? 👏🏻👏🏻

The kid defending Her younger sister saying “she can’t wake herself up, I wake her up” broke my fucking heart. There was a lot of things my parents didn’t teach me that my older sister did so that I wouldn’t fail in ways that she did, later my parents took the credit for me not making mistakes the same way my sister did “see your little sister did it just fine, why couldn’t you be like her?” Because she made sure I didn’t grow up like her!!! She made sure I was ok and loved and always had someone safe and it rips me apart every day that I’m 6 years younger than her and was too little to watch out for her in the same way

Not to backseat drive a morally bankrupt family vlogging channel but couldn't Cool Mom have simply built anticipation and then done a big montage video at the 1 year mark where she dropped all the "secret" footage of the baby from a whole year, edited in a highly romanticized way, like set to an inspirational christian pop song. They're not even smart enough to be evil right

the filming rule for Thailand adoption feels a little out of place until you hear the type of people who complain about it. absolutely disgusting.

Filming your kid potty training isn't for family. There's a very specific subset of a family channel's audience being entertained by that, and it's NOT the kind of audience any parent should be pandering to.

Being autistic myself, that story about the parents rehousing their autistic adopted child once the child became "violent around their family" set off at least 5 different alarm bells in my mind even before you were finished explaining the whole story. It almost makes me wonder if the reason they wanted to adopt a special needs child in the first place was just because they wanted an easy excuse that *some* people won't question if they -inevitably- returned them.

the lollypop incident is so concerning to me not because it was being recorded but because i would nor for the life of me allow a little girl to be around a man who tells her sexual jokes and then proceeds to ask her not to tell, to"keep their little secret". Those actions, to me, are concerning in spite of the camara.

Shanspeare: "The Truman Show, do you remember that?" Me: "Yeah, really good movie." Shanspeare: "1998" Me: "That long ago? Really?" Shanspeare: "I wasn't even born yet." I feel like I just got roasted so hard that my soul is drifting away from the ashes that were once my body. 💀

They’re not sad that the children are gone. They’re sad that their punching bags are gone.

The second class citizen thing hits really close. One time, I'm talking to my little brother who is 13. But at the time, he was about... I'm gonna say 9? 10? It's been a while. We're at Walmart and at the kids section. He saw the Ryan's World merch and he grew jealous and asked me "why is he famous! Why can't that be me?" And I said bluntly. "You really don't... You don't want to be famous. Think about it this way, bud. You like playing Minecraft. You like playing with Legos and your mice (that's what he calls his marbles), right?" "Yeah." "Now imagine that all you want to do is play Minecraft or with your mice, but our parents tell us everyday that you have to be on camera. You can't say no because it's your parents. There's no "I don't want to" in Ryan's life. And it's not even for a few minutes a day, it's hours. It's a job. It's not his choice. And you can't choose what to do on that video, it's always the parent's choices on what to do." My brother then just kinda felt bad. I did too afterwards because I often think about that talk. Kids rarely can say no to their peers, kids can't vote, kids can't defend themselves a lot, heck kids rarely have consent when they don't want hugs and kisses from other family members. Often times, people treat animals or something like a fancy car better than kids!!

"it's almost like parents are pimping out their children" reminds me of a comment I saw the other day. Family Channels get pregnant for views. From what I understand most of these channels have multiple children after they become famous and there's a pretty big uptick in both views and content to be made around every pregnancy. Announcing it, the ultrasound, the morning sickness, their diets, building the baby room, going into labour, etc. etc. Adding these two concepts together (the pimping and the purposeful breeding) there's almost a level of human trafficing to it? But instead of having to steal their victims, they create them. It just adds another layer of ick for me.

I feel like children are honestly below pets sometimes. People will be straight up nasty to kids for existing.

Videoing your child’s bathroom time is deviant behavior, posting it for the world to see ought to be illegal. People who want to watch a random kid on the internet during bathroom time are weird and dangerous. I don’t take anything back, so don’t @ me.

I was a teen mom and it horrified me just how many young girls are groomed by grown men who lust after them with zero protection from their parents. My child’s father was the same age as me but definitely thought he would be able to control me via our child and when he didn’t get his way, he had another girl pregnant before our child was 6 months old. My relatives were also able to coerce me into keeping the baby with gentle lies but the second they also didn’t get their way, they would threaten to rescind their support. Now I’m thankfully an adult who was able to work through that trauma and recognize just how evil some people are when it comes to kids and who is or isn’t seen as a child. ESPECIALLY IN THE CHURCH…

When you said “children are considered second class citizens”, that really struck me. I remember being told as a kid that I have less rights than pets in many regards, and that I should stick up for myself because of that.

"i was cynical as a baby" that line speaks to me

Heteronormative family has always been a status, something to be envied, and family vlogging truly highlight this

My mom when i was a teen wanted to exploit the fact i had cancer as a kid and write a book and start a blog. I had to cry and beg her not to because those pictures and moments she'd being up are extremely personal and i wasn't ready and still not ready for strangers to know my worse moments. I was a dying, it still is a huge source of trama. Before you asked no she wasn't doing it because she wanted to feel better shes very blunt and honestly with me. And said because parents with cancer are usually alone she could take advantage of that by making them feel less alone. By selling them a book. So there were alot of reasons im objectived to this.

This is wild to me because the "drop and give me 10" as in 10 pushups was an extremely common punishment my dad gave specifically me and my younger sister that did sports. His argument was it made us stronger, my trauma and embarrassment and humiliation and subsequent mistrust of my dad says otherwise. It was just kind of shocking to see someone look at that type of punishment and say that it's not okay. It's really nice to know that sensible people find this form of punishment strange and weird.

I'm glad that after this horrifying reality check, you mentioned Janette Macurdy's book and tied this vlog children to the horrors inflicted upon child actors. A vicious cycle

It is so comical to me hearing about these "parents" talking about adopting kids, which almost sounds like hiring a new, underpaid employee, on the same day that Bridgit Mendler posted and was like oh by the way I am a mum and have been for years after I fostered and adopted this boy- didn't post his name or face or anything. The contrast is so ridiculously stark between people who just genuinely want a child and to help that child flourish vs those who want to exploit it.

these parents really don't think about how invasive and embarrassing this is for kids. imagine you start middle school and your classmates have seen you like a TV character for years, from getting potty trained to having your first period...

As an Early Childhood Educator, I’m actually in love with the way you used the term “image of the child” as it is so important to societal views on children, yet I rarely actually here it out of my field

2 HOUR SHANSPEARE??? Today is truly blessed🙏🏼

I hate how those families see disabled children as some kind of quirky KZfaq challenge and a cute accessory to other children. Or at worst they despise them for not being as monetisable. They want the praise of "being a hero" and genuinely believe that disabled people should pray to them for being a (at best) mid parents.

Everyone is talking about the “we don’t want to violate anyone’s privacy other than our own kids’” part but not the “we would have to take care of and have some kid in our house for a year and they wouldn’t even be our kid” part. They could not be more blatant and forthright about the fact that they don’t want to take care of a child, they do not think a child deserves care, and they do not want to adopt a child in order to give a child care. They just wanted to buy a child to make content with it. Can you imagine how the child would be treated in their home, when they already admit before they even get one that they don’t want to have to take care of it??

DOF’s mom crying in front of the laptop on her knees has got to be some kind of performance art, it’s so crazy

as an adoptee i feel compelled to point out that part of the thing that enables and encourages these vile people (and others as well) to do this is our cultural narrative surrounding adoption; the general public tends to think of it as "saving a child" usually from abuse or orphanhood or from an uncaring parent; people find this "hero narrative" to be very fulfilling and aspirational, but it belies the realities of of adoption-- a multibillion dollar per year industry (primarily run by religious institutions that use that money to fund anti-abortion campaigns) that relies on the exploitation of first families (have you ever heard of a rich family giving up their child for adoption? no! of course not!) who are likely to be impoverished (statistically speaking, poc and the disabled). there's this unspoken assumption that anyone would be grateful to be removed from poverty at the expense of ever knowing their origins for someone else's profit, and those who drive the market for children tend to be seen as saviours and even pioneers for human rights in some cases (participating in capitalism = human rights, according to liberal understanding, i suppose), and things get VERY vicious VERY quickly towards people who challenge this narrative. people LOVE the feel good idea of a blank slate being pulled up from poverty/abuse/abandonment and given to a well off saviour (especially if said saviour has suffered, like from infertility, that adds a tearjerking "making something beautiful out of a mistake" element, though no one ever asks the adoptee how it feels to be legally and culturally branded a mistake in the narrative of someone else's life), it's a feel good story to everyone on the outside and the emotional investment in this narrative is HEAVY because of both religious implications, financial implications, cultural expectations surrounding the nuclear family, narratives of gratefulness and deserving, the idea that if an adoptee is less than placating towards their families emotional wants surrounding them they are "ungrateful" and "a ticking time bomb" waiting to ruin either their family of origin or their adoptive family's lives... the rabbithole on this goes so, so deep, but most people only have this surface understanding of what they see in movies and have spoonfed to them by people who are not adopted and by adoptees who either are in denial, haven't thought about or don't know about these things, or feel comfortable speaking over adoptees who do. everybody is quick to praise adoptive parents, but no one is quick to ask "why don't adoptees have legal access to their medical records especially when disabled people are more likely to have their children removed ~for some reason~", "why are original birth certificates sealed and completely inaccessible to the person they are about in some states", "why do some international adoptees not get US citizenship and what happens to the ones that have been deported to countries that no longer claim them", "why do black children cost less than white children", "why are you not legally entitled to the information that you are adopted", "why is marriage between a child who was adopted out and their immediate birth family legal", "why is it that if a child is adopted out under the agreement that the adoption will be open that the adopting family can renege on this agreement at their discretion", "why are original families not given the financial support to keep their children when poverty is statistically THE !NUMBER ONE! deciding factor in giving up a child for adoption, but adoptive families are given all sorts of tax incentives and can even crowdfund without anyone batting an eye and everyone will complain on their behalf that LITERAL LIVING HUMAN BEINGS are 'too expensive'". and that's just dipping a toe into the legal aspects of this nightmare, not even going in on the emotional results-- why are adoptees suicide rates so high? why is "he's adopted" a funny joke to so many people? what are the effects of growing up with no genetic mirroring? i could go on but. people only understand adoption as a "wholesome" method of family building-- it does not even occur to them that it is a life-changing legal procedure that the person it affects most cannot consent to. anyway loved the video as always, sorry for rambling in the comments. ✌

The downfall of family vlogging channels- it’s about damn time.

The adamant "he wanted this" in reference to a CHILD is genuinely disgusting.

I was SAVED by being born when I was because if my mom was just a little bit younger and been born in a more tech generation she would have 10000% been a mommy blogger. I remember how much she used to divulge my life to friends, family, coworkers, anyone- that I would refer to her talking to people as "broadcasting". My hobbies, my fears, my joys, my shameful moments, my health, my grades, everyone we knew was told everything about me all the time. It was so dehumanizing. For years I had nightmares about being powerless, immobile, unable to yell/be heard, etc. Needless to say we don't speak anymore and have no relationship and it all started with exactly that- sharenting

the two women associated with "8-passengers" who were arrested last year were sentenced today, 4 years minimum-60 years max.

I’m not gonna lie, I have zero desire to give my child a digital footprint. If a moment is so important that I want people to see it, I’ll just text it to them, and if I don’t have their number then they’re probably not close enough to know what my child is up to. It’s scary to me how people just post their kid’s schools or their neighborhood they live in because if someone wants to kidnap or keep tabs on your child, now they now all of that information. Edit: I will add that if they choose to have social media someday when they are older, I’ll support it. I’m just gonna make sure we have the proper talks about safety and all that beforehand.

literally yesterday "Sapphire" was sentenced to up to 30 years for child abuse

You're the first creator I've seen to give the tumblr girl a fake name. I really respect the effort to give her a little privacy with her content from childhood. Yeah just wanted to say that. Word to you ✨️

Calling Nikki’s husband ‘random husband’ has me DEEEEAAAADDDD

god i used to watch “carrie”‘s mom vlogs all the time and didn’t know she became a mom at such a young age. i just turned 18 and can’t imagine such a shift in my life like that. it’s sad seeing no one protected her.

As a mother, this is all unconscionable and horrifying. As a legal and mental health professional, I’ve unfortunately seen all this and worse first hand.

im 23 now, but i was abused all throughout my childhood. the only ways i ever learned that my abuse wasnt normal was through friends saying so or by seeing their families interact. once i knew it was bad, every day was torturous because i knew i had to be with them for 18 years. being put in foster care wasnt an option for me, because it was even scarier than staying with my family and knowing what abuse id deal with. i also only had a few memories of good, gentle, caring interactions with adults, so abuse was all i knew. i cant imagine dealing with all of this and having it filmed, ready to be viewed whenever. i couldnt imagine logging in to youtube to watch some video and getting reccomended a video of a deeply traumatic moment. i hope these kids get the support, legal or otherwise, they need sooner than later. i wish we could take every abusive parent and make them relive their childrens memories through their kids eyes, make them feel how helpless their kids felt, make them see how scary they were to their kids.

1:38:24 "Hopefully nobody gives her food" imagine hoping your kid STARVES.

Another Hollywood child comparable to situations like these is Brooke Shields. Watching her documentary and seeing how her mother exploited her and ESPECIALLY how grown adults were commenting on her body and "promiscuity" reminds me a lot the kind of people who are making these videos as well as their audiences.

The quote from "Pippy" about feeling like she was in a "snow globe" her whole life is funny to me because I'm literally reading a book about a post-apocalyptic world where there's exactly one haven on earth. It's named Snowglobe, and the catch to living there is that you become an "actor" in a tv show that's broadcasted out to the rest of the world (or just to Korea; this is a book in translation; it's titled Snowglobe by Soyoung Park, translated by Joungmin Lee Comfort). It's very much a YA dystopia book, but I think Pippy's quote speaks to a universality of how non-prison panopticonic life is perceived by those in it.

“Tulip” is so sweet I wish she would be with a family that cherishes her

thst first girl's story is frightening as hell because if the allegations are true, he almost definitely was behaving like that in the house too

UPDATE: This was powerful. Truly powerful. You have done a service by researching, analyzing, scripting, & documenting this disturbing trend. I'm grateful you made it, and also grateful that you were thoughtful enough to include a CW so people like me could wait until they were ready to watch. ORIGINAL: Hahaha nope. Not ready for this topic right now. This is going into "Watch Later" for a better mental health day. Truly, genuinely, *thank you* for your content warning. I have an anxiety disorder, so CWs genuinely help me avoid panic attacks.

This is another one of those essays where I wanna give the creator a purple heart because I can barely take a couple seconds of some of the family channels (esp the trench ones.) Like the part about a baby being promiscuous?? My body physically crumpled, I'm going to pass away post haste

We really need coogan laws for monetized social media. If a channel regularly features children (like 30% of the video length or more) then any monetization should be split so at least 50% of the monetization is deposited directly into a trust for that child. We need to make it annoying and hard to monetize the presence of children.

I didn't even know anything about the channels until I heard that they had millions of subscribers. And somebody was getting their kids taken away for alleged abuse allegations! Just wild!

This is frightening. Why won't social media ban these accounts? Or do we need a federal law to protect kids?

The thing about not bringing your 5 years old's lunch to school is absolutely insane to me as my mom was still preparing my lunch for me until high school ToT

Calling the early 2010's "a long time ago" makes me feel really old lol. As a 38-year-old it feels like literally yesterday to me

Something worth mentioning, Alyson Stoner ("the kid from the Missy Elliot video") has a series on their channel about child stardom and is working with legislation to pass protective laws for influencers! Thank you for bringing attention to this

the segment about Digital Kidnapping sent shivers down my spine. it reminded me of an incident when i was in junior year tw for pedophilia i was checking the tumblr app between classes. someone i was following rbed a photo post, commenting that the orignal poster was a pedophile and asking us to help them mass report and flag the blog said photo was a picture of a baby girl that the baby was between 10 months to a year old, she was standing in a yard wearing bermuda shorts and a blouse. the photo was clearly taken from her parents facebook. but the man who posted it on tumblr wrote *paragraphs* about what he wanted to do to this baby. and the thoughts not only occured to him, but were so strong in his mind that he wrote fucking prose about it and posted it all online to be frank, even though i absorbed this whole incident in maybe 30 seconds in 2017, i think about it all the fucking time. the dim memory of that baby's face flashes in my mind whenever my niece's and baby cousins pop up on facebook. even though im a long way from having kids myself, it's made me seriously reconsider ever posting photos of my kids online, even to share with family. so the very notion that parents like that gymnastics family intentionally expose their kids to those kinds of sick bastards just for some extra cash just...i cannot fathom it. i don't care how hurting for cash someone might be, i don't care "well it's not like they're being touched" or whatever justification there is, i cannot fathom it

We have to remember there are still EXTREMELY problematic KZfaqrs who are family channels. Colleen Ballinger and her family come to mind. They're exploitative and all have evidence of shadiness.

I'm old (63), and I started using the Internet in 1998. I spent most of my online time then in chat rooms, especially on Yahoo. I remember when the chat rooms were shut down because parents, law enforcement, school officials, etc. were concerned over children coming across predators online. Nowadays family vloggers let everyone and anyone into their minor children's lives. I've seen demographic info on some of these channels, where the vast majority of the subscribers are grown men.

My mom was like Sapphire in a few ways. I can't speak on the personal mental circus act that is Sapphire's reasoning for her actions, but in my mom's case, she loved the attention of being a “good, attentive, no-nonsense" mother that she portrayed provided her. Little did anyone else know, it was an act. And when I say act, I mean she would encourage me to swear, get into fights both in and out of school, lie, steal, the whole grocery list of bad behaviors for angsty troubled kids. She'd tell me that all of that was ok, even reinforce most of it by showing me how it's done.... Then she'd punish me for doing any of it the instant she had an audience to impress with her supposed parenting skills. She set me up as her prop, just so people would look at her as a shining example of what a “good" parent looks like. It wasn't recorded with a camera or anything like that in my situation, but my life, for at least 13 years, was largely scripted to write me as a problem child and paint my mom as some brave, strong single mother doing what it takes to rein me in. She's in prison for capitol murder now (completely unrelated, and yet.... Not unexpected, considering that most of her existence has been about manipulation and control, and she lost control of several key people in her life, chief among them, me). Anyways, all this to say, if even a part of Sapphire's motivation was supposed to be praise on how “amazing" she is as a parent, I can definitely relate with her kids.

These poor babies. Neglectful parents are the most selfish vile people in the world. Bringing a life into this world for your own desires and profit should result in the highest level of shaming and criticism. We need legislation against family vlogging as well as laws against AI without consent.

Seeing the older daughter in that spade family clip immediately start acting again after Austin yelled at his wife was jarring. I wonder if these kids have a hard time figuring out what is real and what isn't. I know I would and as someone with depersonalization disorder that would make my mental state worse.

This is the most current societally acceptable version of child labor. As someone who was forced to work for my family starting at age 9, I can almost tell you exactly what these kids are going through. The parents are just stupid enough to post it. I experienced more isolation during my forced labor, but I'm still scared of cameras as my parents would record moments in which I was happy and then show me it to mock me. The shame it inspires in just being yourself... Its paralyzing....

Family vlogging was the wild west of KZfaq on a good day. Truly different internets

*Thank you for shedding some light on this disturbing genre, mother. I shall listen with great interest.*

I left TikTok a while ago but something that did start to bother me was how many parents would upload mountains of content of their children under the guise of educating others on how to use the gentle parenting style. They would constantly record their children throughout the day in order to find opportunities to show their parenting skills and how they deal with common childish things like kids spilling things, breaking stuff, having tantrums, fights with siblings, etc. and the comments would praise on their way of handling the situation but after some thought, you realize it's either one of two things, or both: either their kids are under almost 24/7 surveillance (with the phone on plain view, meaning they are aware of the constant recording) in order to find these types of moments, or all of them are orchestrated with the excuse of it being "for educational purposes for other parents". Some of them would even create merch about their children under a specific gimmick (there was one particularly awful example of a baby whose house and clothes were gothic). It's super exploitative, but doesn't appear to be as exploittive as other examples because the parents are teaching others, so it's alright even if their children aren't old enough to consent.

I can only imagine how traumatized those kids might feel knowing everyone is watching, but hardly anyone cares.

"I'm asking for the bare minimum" ain't that a mood

I just KNEW rock bottom was gonna be DOF. I remember watching the exposure and coverage by Philip DeFranco at the time. Phil is so passionate about child abuse cases after his experiences growing up, and the emotion he had while covering this has stuck with me all these years

Thing 1 and Thing 2 are horrifying, disgusting monsters. Those kids deserve better. The similarity to your own family makes me feel you and your siblings deserved better too.

This issue has been on my mind a lot lately, particularly spurred on by Caroline Easom’s satirical Sandwich Family skits, so a 2 hour deep dive was exactly what I needed today!

“i was cynical as a baby” never have i heard a more relatable sentence

@56:54 "Housed with them" instead of "living with them". Love your word choice! Are these exploited kids "living"? Maybe not living life to the fullest if they are used as the family's cash cow...

The couple that didn’t adopt a child because they couldn’t make it into content has always stuck with me. Just horrifying, terrible humans

The "stuffing family" situation will ALWAYS boil my blood, it's fucking horrendous

I remember being pregnant with my oldest when Philip Defranco broke the story about DOF and I absolutely lost my mind. It made me so sad. I remember holding my belly and crying because I couldn’t imagine being that cruel to a child that I am supposed to love and protect.

Thank you for putting a trigger on the final section. I am starting to realise I likely suffer some trauma from childhood and whenever that "daddy" of 5 person comes on. It scares me

"You're the mother and she is the child. This is not a relationship where you trust her. That's not your job as a mother" I literally had my step mother, married to my dad, tell me to my face, as a high schooler "I'm not your friend". Seeing that on screen, gods, it's so similar. Thank fuck my dad & step mom weren't online like these parents, cuz I would bet our fights would've been on here for everyone to see. They'd wip out the home camcorder sometimes, & now it's great that I have those memories & can see them, but thank fuck they stayed on those VHS tapes. Thank you so much for this work & I'm so sorry the things that happened to you, too. Much solidarity there 🌸

1:22:04 - You hit the nail right on the head. I work as a technician that fixes electronics like ipads and stuff. When you disable an ipad, the only way to restore it is to erase it completely. If I had a dollar for every time a parent told me, "he's a kid, he doesn't need that info" or "what privacy, I'm their parent" when I ask if they have a backup, I would never need to work again.

"for a low price, i will tell you her social security number too" this channel has me fuking crying im really excited for this series

tulips story makes me want to cry until i vomit

Nothing was ever posted about me on the internet (thank fucking god!) but my dad fancied himself a photographer when i grew up and used his family as practise models day after day, hour after hour, almost 24/7. Again, nothing was put on the internet, but just the knowledge that someone is constantly watching and documenting you, especially in your home, where you are supposed to be able to be unsightly and unpresentable in peace... I spent so much time locked up in my room or intentionally sabotaging pictures, which took constant vigilance... Its exhausting, it stresses you out, i cant imagine how much worse it must be for actual truman babies... My advise to parents is: do not put anything about your kids on the internet but also do not overdo it with the pics and videos, spent quality time with your family without the barrier of a camera.

the way you talked about the "spade" family channel starting out as a normal couple vlog and then encroaching more and more on the kid's life brings to mind another truman show comparison, although this one is a deep cut: in supplemental material for the movie (i thiiiiink the behind the scenes book that included the screenplay?), the creative team stated that the in-universe truman show was originally just a yule-log style video of baby Truman in his crib, occasionally accompanied by his mother playing with baby or his father coming home from work and bemoaning to the wife that his employer might be downsizing the company. None of the rest of Seahaven existed yet. It was only after the show became a massive hit that they were able to build an entire fake town to film Truman's every move. I know this is technically happening in the opposite direction (the world expanding around Truman vs the camera tightening in on Space Baby) but it has similar Vibes of something that started tame-ish, found success, and the wildly spiraled out of control. (Sorry for the infodump this movie is a special interest of mine)

Shan was born after 1998?! Just another reminder that I'm old AF and every content creator that I love is just a baby

The lead up reminded me so much of what happened to Damien Leonhardt (who at the time still went by Jessi Slaughter). I remember the videos, the cruel jokes so vividly back in 2009. No one even stopped to think about the fact that they were victimised when they were only 10 or 11 at the time by BOTD singer Dhavi Vanity.

I remember the DOF stuff going down. I have SEEN the video of "Billy" being thrown into a bookcase. It isn't alleged, freaking monsters.

The way ‘dad spade’ makes suggestive jokes about his daughter and to her face, I can say from firsthand experience that even if kids don’t understand what these jokes mean, they can understand by the way adults treat it that it’s inappropriate and it does make them self conscious. My former step dad used to joke about how “he’ll have to start beating boys off with a bat to keep them away from me” (among other suggestive remarks). It doesn’t matter if I understood the concept of sexual attraction, I could tell he was implying something inappropriate and it always upset me. When you tell your daughter “Why are you dressed like that?” Even if you think they wouldn’t understand, it DOES make them conscious of their body. Also, you’re sexualizing your daughters simply because they’re assigned female. That’s not appropriate no matter what their age is.

my jaw is already on the floor from the intro.. gonna spend the next two hours picking it up over and over again as I marvel at your talent and ingenuity

I remember seeing the clip of Thing 2 that you couldn't find. It was via some "youtube drama" channel explaining what happened right after the Do5 channel was taken down. He called it an "accident" like he didn't just shove a child hard enough to fly through the entire room. Awful, awful person.

tbh I find it strange when couples really want to adopt from outside the country. like we have so many babies in the US that are in need of a home.

I am a parent, and I agree, sometimes nonparents will have ideas about parenting which are unrealistic BUT abuse and neglect is clear regardless of your experience with parenthood

I'm upset at how many of these channels I could recognize through context clues, though I am not a consumer of Family Vlog content. These kids will never escape their stories

Carrie's story is so sickening and sad. Unfortunately what she's gone through isn't unique.

Is it weird that I wouldn't even post a photo of my cat online for strangers to view, let alone a kid? lmao

An informational diagram about both ocean geography AND family vloggers?? ABSOLUTELY. YES. Please Ms. Frizzle this for us!!!!!

This really does make me so grateful that my parents did not have access to the technology to do this to me and my siblings. That intersection of surveillance and abuse that you mention is just so godawful. It was bad enough to have photos of embarrassing experiences taken and shared when they were physical objects without the internet.

Omg I've been going down KZfaq shorts rabbit hole and came across a family vlogger mom making content solely based on her autistic son ... It gave me bad vibes and you just confirmed it

The last two cases were the only ones I knew about coming in, but I was almost certain they'd both come up. I remember the DOF channel when the original was still up and. Jesus, it was awful. Just rancid. I cannot stress enough that, while all of the kids were possible targets for the "pranks" that fueled the channel, a LOT of it was focused on one particularly vulnerable kid in that family, and it was just so evident that he was being actively traumatized. I hope he's okay. I hope all of these kids are okay.

why do parents turn off the comments and think the issue is solved? The creeps that comment are the bold ones, the ones that aren't commenting or CANT comment are just as sick and dangerous.

Big ups for relying on the stock footage instead of digging up things best left unseen and/or as forgotten as possible. And to you and the other channels that, if they do show the footage, make sure to blur out or put a black bar over the children.

matcha latte and a shanspeare video oh we're so back

A few examples of egg doners “pranks” - pretending to be punishing a sibling and demand they come over and lay their head next to where she sat (insinuating a time out), then she rips the fullest foulest fart ON 👏THEIR👏 FACE and burst out laughing signaling all of us (multiple other siblings) to join in the laughter - she used to suck on a piece of popcorn and when we walked in the room would say “honey here I saved this for you, the BUTTERIEST piece!” - another time, she convinced our exchange student (who’s number I didn’t have) to write this on a note and put it on my car when they saw me parked at a store “hey pretty lady, I saw you walking and I really want to talk to you. Here’s my number xxx-xxxx” at the time I was dealing with major SA, and SH… That barely scratches the surface.