I would have told them that sis already stole parents' retirement fund so there is no reason for OP to give money. Also tell "friends" that they are free to give her money/co-sign lease if they are worried. And then block.

It depends what the friends know. If they do not know about the past and are only getting one side of the story. I would tell them then and see where they stand.

@@f.t.cnation9999 I would tell them the whole truth and then tell them to lose my number.

It's understandably why friends would think that. The sister told them her twisted version of events, and the OP never corrected them. If the OP would just contact them and say, "My sister drained my parents entire savings account, and has ignored my every attempt to stay connected over the past few years," a lot of those friends would probably change their tune and support the OP.

Just never co-sign in general

Co sign for a grifter? Nah.

The truth a in a single sentence.

Because their self-righteous pricks who "want to help" but they "don't want to put themselves at risk!" (I do believe her FRIENDS know the sister is a risk! But their "thinking of the kids!" Hence the shaming her with her "Single life style!" Hell I'm guessing their in relationships or have families from how they talk to OP as otherwise that one friend who called her selfish for her single life style and "jealous" is a hypocrite if their single too! But I don't think anyone who is that would shame someone for it! So likely those "FRIENDS" that one specifically are married and have families! Since it's those types who shame Single people and accuse them of "being jealous" that's why they won't help "those with families out!" Despite the fact they can do with what they earned as they please! It's just them PROJECTING their own anger at how swell things are for the Single Person who has no "Responsibilities" like they do and well, bitter people are bitter and have to tell themselves you the single person are secretly jealous of them "doing what's expected and having a family" so they can push off their own pathetic jealousy that you didn't do the same and appear happy! I'm sure if she did try to help her sister and got screwed they'll use their own families and "well you should have known better" to get out of helping her when she most defiantly would have helped them in the past, or very likely did!). Never tolerate selfish people like this! Shaming language like this without ever hearing her side of things just shows how selfish they are! Hell it's akin to some stories where the person complains that the victim should just give in because they'll "look bad" if the victim doesn't give them what they want since they "promised others they'd get it!"...…fuck those people, don't make promises on things that aren't yours! Even if you think you can get them! That's now all on YOU! (A lesson my mom, aunts and uncles taught me! Hell even my DAD who can be a dick at times taught me to NEVER do this! Frankly if he never crosses lines like this, then assholes have no excuse! I love my dad, but I know he's not the greatest of persons! And he is always my indication of "There exist WORSER people" as all of those types without fail do things that even my dad would never do or cross on his WORSE days! To give you a clue, my dad lies ALOT, he can be deceptive, and he's a serial Cheater who can never devote himself to a relationship! Frankly I'm like a GOOD counterpart as I know I'm not someone worth getting into a relationship with beyond "Friends" hence I'm a forever bachelor/virgin! And that's largely cause I watched my dad from the times I visited him growing up destroy good relationships with women because he was scared of commitment! It's why he and my mother split when I was 1 years old when she TRIED to make it work! I only bring up the Serial Cheating as he didn't visibly do it till I was 18! And with a GF I thought was good for him when I met and knew her since 14! Frankly I was happy she dumped his ass before ever finding out and married a doctor elsewhere! She was better off, especially with the cheating! What makes him good is he never abused me, and while crummy, did take his job as a father seriously when I was around! The only redeemable thing my mother is willing to say nice things about him is he doesn't screw family, nor did me rotten as most deadbeats would have, though he could and SHOULD have done better!). The funny part is I did have "Friends" like these's assholes and never realized how bad the toxicity was till I was separated from them by fate in my 20's! Then the freedom was so grand, I NEVER tolerated that shitshow again! I will NEVER put that poison collar back on my neck again and have cut off anyone who attempted to try this because the one good thing about me is! I remember the Red Flags I previously chose to ignore in bad people in my teens! So I can see them no matter how hard many people TRY to hide them! Once I see them, I go into caution mode, and well, if I keep seeing them, I'm fucking GONE like a Ghost as I realize "I don't have to put up with this shit!

Story1: The self-righteous types! Best to tell them to fuck off, even if they were lied to by the sister, they should have at least gotten her side of things! But I'm guessing the sister made sure to put her kids in the center of it that they felt it was "for the kids" since OP is single and childless! Not caring at all they're asking her to risk herself like that! (And what GOOD friends they'll be if OP ends up in a situation because of their encouragement if she did as they strong armed her into doing! The one that called her SELFISH obviously will call her SELFISH for letting herself get scammed as well! These's are not friends! Dump em! As a good Comedian once said, "Better to be alone, then to be with people who make you feel alone!" they aren't acting as friends in any form, so they don't get to dictate or judge ANYONE! I wish theses types would "mind their own business!" they almost never do so, but I'm guessing as I said before, it's because assholes like the Sister utilize "pity tactics" like using their kids to get morons to take her side without thinking!) Me I had such "friends" in my teens, but in my 20's once I was cut off from them, I realized they were NEVER my friends, and since enjoying my 20's and now 30's without such parasites, I'm not so keen on tolerating them or even WANTING them back in my life (if any I DO connect with turn out to be so! I have no problem "cutting them out!" I won't do it on sight, but I will keep them at arms length and cut em out the moment it's clear they "were never my friends!" I will never let them or anyone "pity/shame me" into doing something I don't want to do! They do it!

Some people are idiots with no clue how the real world works.

@@mbyerly9680 especially now peoppe need money renting out is a great way for cash

I was in a similat situation when I purchased my first vehicle from a dealership. Friend came with me to make sure things went smoothly and offer advise/second opinion. When it came to the credit check, I didn't have great credit, which would have raised my car loan. Keep in mind, I could have paid cash but wanted the loan to help build my credit. Well, my friend said fuck it and co-signed without much prompting. He knew I had the money and the situation anyway. In the end, my loan payments helped raised his credit score and mine. That was like 2 years ago. Still consider him a good friend and regularly contact him despite living on opposite ends of the country now. Still own the car too (paid off). I think you made the right decision in your scenario. A home is a long term investment with a large loan attached. I wouldn't ask anyone who isn't going to live there to co-sign that.

Well it's just natural to give a heads up when you move to avoid this situation.

@@bobydigital2450 Not when the person you're giving notice to, is a complete psycho. Why should OP give notice? So she can endlessly harass him, and maybe even try to sabotage his move-out? OP was smart not to tip his hand.

Calm down there, Toretto.

Oh yeah, a lot of people don't understand that people need to make a living. It'd sure be nice to just have things paid for, but everyone who has to work full time gets a whole lot less judgy afte they've put in an extra 10 hours on top of the regular 40.

This, I do not understand their thought process, seriously. I personally do not flip but I travel into areas that have sustained major damage from storms or the like. Last year for 10 weeks I averaged over 100 hours per week helping get areas back up and running. The rest of the time it was closer to 70-80 hrs per week. The people affected are extremely grateful but back home I'm accused of taking advantage of people. I DO NOT over charge and I am paid through the insurance. My money is made from the crazy hours worked. I understand that alot of low lifes pray on people during these times and I do my best to stop them and report them. I have around 75k in equipment and wait for months to get paid. But somehow I'm the asshole for helping put community's back together, go figure.

@@randysmith9636 try and explain how much it costs to operate your equipment. Let alone move it from site to site. Don't even get into the strain it puts on your family that will be totally lost on them.

I didn't even realise this was a thing and still don't understand why it is. Most people don't want to buy a house that needs a load of work to be 'right' - and for those that do, there are plenty of shit-tips up for grabs. Who is supposed to be harmed by this?

yep ive talked to contractors that have hired teams for good pay working with specific big flippers in the area. Do not get me wrong I was pissed at the flippers when i was house hunting because they were buying up houses within my price range, but that just resulted in me working to get ahead of them.

Because they don't have both sides of story. Nor maturity to listen to same.

Actually with the second story there was an update. Turns out their dad had told the sister that OP will be working with her and made it seem like OP had told him that she would. Then when OP said no her sister thought that she was suddenly backing down after getting her hopes up. It was more so the dad trying to strong arm OP with working with her sister because OP was already successful. Both of them are now pissed off at their dad for causing the entire unneeded drama.

Until i saw that she admited she is in her stepsons life since he was born i said nta, it's good that she want's to make sure her daughter is ok but then she is listing that her in law not giving a sh.. about her or daughter and no one in hubbys family is good to them and again i read the part since he was born she is in his life could it be the reason for not liking op that she had an affaire with hubby ruining his first marriage. Everyone is hanging on to the lifeinsurance thing and listening op rant how her and child is not welcome in the family that they don't see maybe she was a misstress and that's why they don't like her

Sameee

It isn't. Reddit is just dumb.

@@F40PH-2CAT okay so nothing new here^^

It has this unrealistic stigma that the flippers are "depriving" others of the opportunity to buy the cheaper house or stealing houses from the previous owners in the case of soon to be foreclosures. My parents did that a lot when I was growing up, (my dad was military so we moved every couple years) they would buy foreclosures or soon to be foreclosed homes we'd live in the house while we fixed them(some of them needed lots of experienced work) then when my dad got restationed we'd sell the now fixed property.

@@silverfox1492 ah, sure SOME people would renovate a house themself, but i think most would not do that themself

Don't do business with an amateur should be rule one in Real Estate. I would never touch a first year over a veteran.

@@JaneSt.Valentine Jesus, I know! I just said it sounds funny.

@@JaneSt.Valentine your comment doesn't answer my question though. "That's the point" or "it's an advice forum doesn't explain why it's funny to me!

@@JaneSt.Valentine I didn't ask why they started with "not the ahole" did I!!

@@JaneSt.Valentine you’re wrong here dude.

@@mickeyesuom6463 (re-reads comment in confusion) Oh, sorry. I hadn't realised it was all one sentence... My bad. OTL

That is already included in the video. Maybe you didn't see it.

Maybe try watching the full video before making comments like that... This channel is pretty good most of the time, I have found that the stories posted here tend to be the same ones I end up reading if I check the new posts on reddit the night before.

Unless the step-son's mother has life insurance that also names OP's daughter then that is not fair.

In laws not liking her maybe because she was in stepson life when he was born maybe there is a chance op was a mistress and ended her husbands first marriage, she admited it but then start ranting how they not like her and her child. good that se wants to provide for her child but she is blaming every member in her husbands family for not accepting her maybe they have a good reason like destroying a marriage and then accting like the victim

Why??? Her step son has his own mother. She’s present in his life.