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@jillconyers2710
@jillconyers2710 3 күн бұрын
Your so right Gaye!unfortunately as a mum ,I've done or have tried my best ! But it's never enough!when you've been hurt so much ,there's a time you say enough is enough! As much as you want to it's hard to go back.❤
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 3 күн бұрын
Hey Jill, we want more than anything to have that wonderful relationship with our child but we were able to eventually figure out, it was impossible to achieve. Hard decision to come to but we did the right thing Jill and even though we will feel we want to try again, we know in our hearts that it is not possible. Stay strong hon, 🩷🩷🩷
@elvafae9902
@elvafae9902 4 күн бұрын
I’m so sorry for the relationship trouble you’re having with your daughter…I went through this two years ago and yes she wouldn’t allow me to see my granddaughter either and I practically raised her til she was five…I have trouble understanding why your daughter distances her love from you…you’re such a calming loving person…I respected my daughters distancing…gave her space to sort things out and about 6 months later she contacted me and appologized…this was after years of strife with her…she still goes back to her old ways on occasion…depression I guess then I give her space again. Mothers and daughters…big sighs
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 3 күн бұрын
Hello Elva, sounds like your relationship has been difficult 😞 I hope you can find a way to continue having a relationship and be able to know when to take that step back. It’s makes it very hard when you have grandchildren who can be greatly affected and truly this is unfair to them in the end. Mostly l have distanced myself from my daughter, many years of troubles and suffering the effects of her bad choices. I am now trying to find some way to enjoy what life l have without the chaotic life I had before. You are a wonderful woman and your daughter is lucky to have you. 🙏🩷🩷🩷
@narcabusesurvivor
@narcabusesurvivor 4 күн бұрын
I remember watching your first few videos and then I lost your channel along the way. I am elated to have found you again today and to see you managing so well 🙏✝️👑
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 4 күн бұрын
Thank you, I am doing better, ups and downs but l know it’s how it’s going to be. Hope all is well with you. 🩷🩷🩷
@narcabusesurvivor
@narcabusesurvivor 4 күн бұрын
@@AVanADogAndMyself yes, thank you ... by the grace of our Lord I am free 🙏✝️👑
@sonysgirl6301
@sonysgirl6301 4 күн бұрын
I'm so glad you found happiness and peace again ❤❤
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 4 күн бұрын
Thank you 🙏 lm getting there. 🩷🩷🩷
@storminight
@storminight 5 күн бұрын
All we can do is what we think is best. No one can expect more. You’re not drag lagging! You’re taking time to smell the roses! And you deserve that, you really do. ❤ What a beautiful walk you shared with us. Thank you.
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 5 күн бұрын
That is true, we do what we do at the time, realizing we got it wrong eventually, better than never knowing. Thank you, glad you enjoyed the walk with me. 🙏🩷🩷🩷
@joanponton3316
@joanponton3316 5 күн бұрын
Hi Gaye! You remain such an inspiration. You are helping me in so many ways. Thanks for the show of strength and resilience. ❤❤
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 5 күн бұрын
I’m so glad l can help Joan. I guess l am just being me and sharing my thoughts with you. 🙏🩷🩷🩷
@betha3558
@betha3558 5 күн бұрын
I'm glad you're on the right track. I had to let go of some family members as well. For my own well-being. 🎉❤ We have to take care of ourself.
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 5 күн бұрын
As much as we wish it wasn’t something we would have to do, you’re right about taking care of ourselves. 🙏🩷🩷🩷
@elvafae9902
@elvafae9902 5 күн бұрын
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 5 күн бұрын
🙏🩷🩷
@esteeb42
@esteeb42 5 күн бұрын
Big Hugs Gaye..you're right sometimes things are too broken to be fixed. Be proud of the person you are and show us what letting go looks like.🤗💐
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 5 күн бұрын
Hugs to you Estee, I will continue to do so and share with you. 🙏🩷🩷
@leekorkmann3704
@leekorkmann3704 5 күн бұрын
Sending hugs. ❤
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 5 күн бұрын
Thank you Lee, 🙏🩷🩷
@maura6375
@maura6375 5 күн бұрын
Peaceful Beautiful Thank you 💕 Blessings to you..
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 5 күн бұрын
Thank you Maura. 🙏🩷🩷
@trynsurviven2440
@trynsurviven2440 5 күн бұрын
It was great to see you again and thank you for the walk. The beach looked like a great spot to just sit and meditate for a while. Please take care of yourself and we’ll see you next time.
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 5 күн бұрын
Your welcome, it’s a really lovely place to be though getting to cold here now to get out there. Hope you’re doing well my friend and a pleasure to hear from you always. 🙏🩷🩷
@ruthwinnifred329
@ruthwinnifred329 5 күн бұрын
Thanks for the lovely walk!
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 5 күн бұрын
Your very welcome 🙏 🩷🩷
@Jane-lx1nr
@Jane-lx1nr 7 күн бұрын
Hello. My brother and sister n their kids didn't see my mum/me for years. Sister a *nurse* got wind mum not too good and reappeared 2 weeks before parents died! She actually went on holiday and both had died on her return. ! I've not seen her or brother for 23yrs. Last i knew she emigrated to Perth, I garden and ponder why but I'm ok. I know my mum bothered about the grandkids but not those two. I think we are here to learn to let go, especially those that are family but toxic. I wish i could join you in spring. But for now we'll see how our seeds grow from here 💐
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 7 күн бұрын
Hello Jane, I think we will never know the why, l ponder while gardening as well. Reappearing was more for her and nothing to do with your parents, another selfish act. We will learn or be open to learning till the day we die and lm just starting to learn the letting go and understanding how there are things we cannot change. Toxic people, especially families was not words to describe them for me, now I understand the definition of those words and wonder how or why they would want to be known for being this. I am so glad that I can distance myself from them and yes lm doing okay and learning to live with the Why. Would be lovely to have you join us but I understand it is difficult for some people. May your garden grow beautifully for you. 🙏🩷🩷🩷
@trynsurviven2440
@trynsurviven2440 10 күн бұрын
A livestream would be a great opportunity for us to get together and chat.
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 10 күн бұрын
I would love to do one. Hopefully soon l can, love to have a chat. 🩷🩷
@Molkena27
@Molkena27 12 күн бұрын
Hi Gaye… set your boundaries… and don’t tolerate abuse from ANYONE, EVER !!! Love yourself enough !!! Family isn’t always blood too! Find your tribe and manifest a beautiful life. We deserve it ! Garden looks lovely 🥰😘😘
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 11 күн бұрын
I will and cannot let anyone hurt me again. I know l wouldn’t survive it. My tribe is my family and we all deserve to have this, if nothing else doing my videos has given me a chance to find others who are in need of a good friend and some support through difficult times or past. Thank you, slowly it’s coming together but been feeling unwell this past week but still managing to get a little bit done. 🙏🩷🩷🩷
@Molkena27
@Molkena27 11 күн бұрын
@@AVanADogAndMyselfI emailed you lovely 💜💜 go at your own pace. If you don’t feel well then you should nurture yourself x
@denisemgraham8689
@denisemgraham8689 12 күн бұрын
Hello new friend. I just love your willingness to be vulnerable, open and honest in your feelings. It’s very brave of you and I’m sure there are tens of thousands of parents that must set boundaries and walk away. It’s something moms are shamed about but it’s still necessary at times. Your gift in sharing will help many and it’s ok to not know if it will change. On a lighter note I love the garden. Gardens bring such joy and peace.
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 11 күн бұрын
👋Denise, thank you, your comment has helped me and I appreciate your support. Hardest thing l ever did and harder still to stand firm. I do feel guilty but know it’s right at the same time. I will always love my daughter. I do hope others understand it’s okay to walk away. Glad you like the garden 🪴 and thank you for your kindness and understanding. 🙏🩷🩷🩷
@user-pb5vp8gf4z
@user-pb5vp8gf4z 12 күн бұрын
Boundaries... implementing Boundaries, very new to me but its saved my life. Setting boundaries I can move some what forward with family member that are abusive and still have them in my life if they are willing to give me that security. I have to guard my heart from them because they are able too hurt me so deeply that I can't care for myself and I won't allow that anymore. Do what you can handle, put yourself 1st. You got this.
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 11 күн бұрын
Boundaries are important. I will put myself first and you always remember to do that as well. We all have a breaking point and so important to protect yourself from being pushed there hon. You keep safe Much love 🩷🩷🩷🩷
@user-pb5vp8gf4z
@user-pb5vp8gf4z 12 күн бұрын
LOOKS LIKE A BEAUTIFUL DAY FOR YARD WORK, YOU GO GIRL. 🌞🌱💛 And I need that green kneeling get up/down stand.
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 12 күн бұрын
👋 it was a beautiful day thankfully, there has been a lot of rain here lately. You can get a kneeling pad here in Australia at Bunnings, guess it’s Home Depot would have them in the states. 🩷🩷🩷
@snakenook
@snakenook 12 күн бұрын
Hello Gaye! Your hair is beautiful! You look great! It’s ok to live life in chapters. And when you finish with one, you move on to next chapter. Horticulture does the heart good ❤ looking forward to seeing your garden as you work on it! 👍🏼
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 12 күн бұрын
Thank you Tanya, chapters, be great if l could have not been there for some but overall there are so many l loved. I enjoy doing the garden though l seem to have dirty fingernails constantly, even if l wear gloves. 😂 Been a bit wet lately here but not wishing my life away, come on Springtime. Thanks for watching Tanya 🙏🩷🩷🩷
@ykook7000
@ykook7000 12 күн бұрын
Why on earth would people tell you to mend fences with your abusive daughter....Nope No way....even if grandchildren are involved ...you have trauma from her. ☘️Ironically l've always wanted to try the van life and the freedom to move around when l want to.... so that's one day what l want to do...🚐
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 12 күн бұрын
👋 l have no problem in agreeing with you ykook, I know l would set myself up for more abuse and I won’t let that ever happen again to me. Van life is a great life especially if it is a choice one has made, rather then the forced decision but I will never complain about it for the freedom it does give me. If anyone ever has the opportunity to do it, l would say go for it. Simpler in someways but has its cons as well, as does most things in life. Thank you for watching, appreciate you 🙏🩷🩷🩷
@betha3558
@betha3558 12 күн бұрын
❤🎉
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 12 күн бұрын
🙏🩷🩷🩷
@jillconyers2710
@jillconyers2710 12 күн бұрын
I wish I new ,but as you no when you've been through trauma,it does take a lot out of you . I'm loveing what your doing to your garden! ❤
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 12 күн бұрын
Hi Jill, you were awake early this morning hon. It does take a lot out of you, so exhausting living with it. Thank you, slowly getting there, though came down with a flu, so that slowed me down but feeling better slowly and I have managed to get a bit more done. Much love 🩷🩷🩷
@jillconyers2710
@jillconyers2710 12 күн бұрын
Hi❤
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 12 күн бұрын
👋🩷🩷
@esteeb42
@esteeb42 12 күн бұрын
Sometimes there's too much water under the bridge and you have to wipe your feet and stay away for your own mental health, and that's ok. I appreciate your encouragement about not feeling too old to do certain things. I am 61 and almost 2 years ago I became widowed after 40 Years of marriage. With the 2 yr mark approaching of my husband's death, my friend who is also a widow said that two years was her year of realization. It's so true, it's the realization that your life is never going to be the same. I'm figuring out how to move forward alone, scarey. I have a good therapist and we are working through grieving right now. Your little place is beautiful and seems very peaceful.💐
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 12 күн бұрын
Hello Esther, way too much water for me and that bridge is gone for me, l couldn’t cope with being hurt again. 40 years, l admire you, not many get that far these days and I can only imagine the loss you have felt and the loneliness. Your friend is someone who understands you and glad you have each other. That’s the start to going forward Esther, it will be not the same, just the next part of your journey, scary but you are still young. Find your new happiness. Grief will come and go but you always have the memories that will stay with you forever. Much love to you 🩷🩷🩷
@maura6375
@maura6375 12 күн бұрын
Everything ⛲️🐦‍🔥🌿 is looking so lovely.. Happy to be here💕
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 12 күн бұрын
Thank you and appreciate you being here. 🙏🩷🩷🩷
@betha3558
@betha3558 13 күн бұрын
I love what you've done with the yard. What a calming area. I'm so happy that you're finding peace. Love, peace and happiness.
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 12 күн бұрын
Thank you so very much 🙏🩷🩷🩷
@user-ky7pt8pp9i
@user-ky7pt8pp9i 13 күн бұрын
I truly wish I had a friend like you have. I also wish that I wasn’t so much in my thoughts. My Mam died 14 months ago and I miss her so much. We all have our grief to deal with. I really hope that your move will help you to heal. I wish you all the love and luck in the world From 🇬🇧
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 12 күн бұрын
I’m so sorry for your loss and the grief you are feeling. She will always be there in your heart. I’m very grateful for my friends and l pray that you will find one yourself. I am always here and lm sending my love to you. 🩷🩷🩷🩷
@user-ky7pt8pp9i
@user-ky7pt8pp9i 12 күн бұрын
Thank you. You truly are a wonderful lady x
@jillconyers2710
@jillconyers2710 13 күн бұрын
Hi it was great catching up with you ,❤
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 12 күн бұрын
Ditto Jill, it was wonderful 🩷🩷🩷
@katebettesworth2638
@katebettesworth2638 14 күн бұрын
Bloody hell Sister! You are amazing and so strong! And look at you now! Free, independent and your own boss of life. Yoo hoo! ✊️✊️✊️💚💚💚
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 13 күн бұрын
I certainly am free Kate, life just gets better with every passing day 🙏🩷🩷🩷
@katebettesworth2638
@katebettesworth2638 13 күн бұрын
Fantastic! Big love to you and your animals. 💚💚💚🐾🐾
@TanyaSnakewhisperer2563
@TanyaSnakewhisperer2563 15 күн бұрын
I'm always here when you need to talk. Wish we lived closer! Opposite sides of the world!
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 15 күн бұрын
Be wonderful Tanya, and thank you 🙏 You have been a great friend even though we live opposite sides of the world. 🩷🩷
@TanyaSnakewhisperer2563
@TanyaSnakewhisperer2563 17 күн бұрын
You weren't stupid. You trusted. We're supposed to trust. It's not on you. It's on them, and it's very shameful for what they each did to you and your animals. We blame ourselves for decisions that don't work out, but we can't see into the future. I know we've talked about this in messenger. You are strong and God is with you. There is a better future for you.
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 16 күн бұрын
I sure felt stupid to be honest at the time but l understand it better now Tanya. I’m getting better now and life is all good. I have great faith that God will be there helping me. Thank you Tanya you have been a great support to me during this difficult time. 🙏🩷🩷🩷
@TanyaSnakewhisperer2563
@TanyaSnakewhisperer2563 17 күн бұрын
This is Tanya. We've been chatting for months, and I just now got your channel! I'll definitely go back and catch up.
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 17 күн бұрын
Hey Tanya thanks for checking out my new channel. I would not forget who you are. Snake whisperer you are and I know you love them. Glad l got to know you over the years, a great friend you have been to me. 🙏🩷🩷🩷
@jessicacampbell8231
@jessicacampbell8231 18 күн бұрын
Lovely video! I love the advice you gave, it took me a very long time ( in my younger years, I am 47 ) to realize I couldn’t let these my past traumas steal the joy out of my life. Triggers come and go, as does the intensity of them. Never stop participating in life because of fear, because there is so much joy to be found. That’s my mantra these days. ♥️ on another note, I find it so interesting that it’s so cold where you live (and I get the science and Earth’s rotation 😂) I am in the U.S. and it’s so dang hot, we are in our Summer months. Sending you love and kind thoughts 💗
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 17 күн бұрын
Sorry for the late response, I have been busy all day in the garden, though l have a flu that has slowed me down for the past few days. It is really cold here, probably around 12c during the day and getting to 0 overnight, no wonder l have a flu lol 😂 I can’t wait for summer here again. I’m used to warmer weather coming from Queensland, being at the south end of Australia it is cooler here and stays cold for longer and summers are short. Triggers do come and go thankfully, like you, I don’t let them stop me from doing the things I enjoy. You have a good mantra 🕉️, we all need to have one. Stay cool over there Jessica and I will stay as warm as possible. 🙏🩷🩷🩷
@jessicacampbell8231
@jessicacampbell8231 17 күн бұрын
@@AVanADogAndMyselfI hope you feel better soon, and stay warm, and yes I will do my best to stay cool. Thank you for responding to comments, it’s having a pen pal, which is so much fun💗
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 17 күн бұрын
@@jessicacampbell8231definitely staying warm and thank you, feeling better today. Best part about KZfaq is definitely getting to know others and true, it is like being pen pals and lm happy to be one. Much love ❤️ 🩷🩷🩷
@trynsurviven2440
@trynsurviven2440 19 күн бұрын
There are things in our past that we simply cannot get rid of no matter how much we wish we could. The future is just a fantasy of how we hope our lives will be. All we really have is the now and that is what we should live to its fullest. I wish you all the best on your journey and please take care of yourself.
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 18 күн бұрын
So very true my friend, we need to always remember that and enjoy what we have today, life is too short to be living with past pain. 🙏🩷🩷🩷
@storminight
@storminight 19 күн бұрын
Thank you for your wisdom. I feel the kindness pouring from you. Thank you so much for sharing your life with us. ❤
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 19 күн бұрын
You’re very welcome, I will always do that and hope to encourage others to do this as well. Thank you for watching and sharing your thoughts. 🙏🩷🩷🩷
@ykook7000
@ykook7000 19 күн бұрын
I love the silence ....l grew up in a family that always had a tv or radio on...but now l enjoy the peace and quiet of silence! Glad to see you've got a po box ...hope you get some lovely mail 💌 soon
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 19 күн бұрын
👋hello, hope you are well. Can get rather noisy in a family home at the best of times. 🙏🤗🩷🩷
@sonysgirl6301
@sonysgirl6301 19 күн бұрын
Thank you for the tips on dealing with the triggers. I wish all the happiness ❤❤
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 19 күн бұрын
Your very welcome 🙏 🩷🩷
@ElliotPlays
@ElliotPlays 19 күн бұрын
Thank you for sharing this story Gaye. It's often difficult to see anything clear when trauma takes over but it was wonderful you had that support system around you even at the time it didn't feel like it was helping. I wish you, your friends and family all the best in your healing journeys. 😊
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 19 күн бұрын
Thank you Elliot, your a wonderful friend to me 🙏🩷🩷🩷
@ElliotPlays
@ElliotPlays 19 күн бұрын
I hope you are doing well Gaye and thanks for sharing your triggers and how you have learned to manage them. I'm sorry about the trauma you have been through but I admire you for coming out the other end with coping mechanisms and still living and making the best of where you are now. 😊The lights and fire pit make your space look so cosy and relaxing at night. 😊
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 19 күн бұрын
Doing much better Elliot and I’m glad you’re here offering your support. I hope to be back doing the same for you as well soon. 🙏🩷🩷🩷
@MourirSarin
@MourirSarin 19 күн бұрын
We adore you and pray for you always! 🫶🏾💕
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 19 күн бұрын
Thank you 🙏 🩷🩷
@sonysgirl6301
@sonysgirl6301 20 күн бұрын
It is true, you don't know what people are going through. I little kindness goes a long way❤❤
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 20 күн бұрын
It certainly does and it is a wonderful thing to be towards others as we know how important it is to us. 🙏🩷🩷🩷
@sonysgirl6301
@sonysgirl6301 21 күн бұрын
Your videos help me, and I hope I help you❤❤
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 21 күн бұрын
Thank you and you help me more than I can ever say. 🙏🩷🩷🩷
@shelandavicary307
@shelandavicary307 22 күн бұрын
I understand you so much, I can feel your pain. Thank you for being so brave and sharing your story ❤
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 22 күн бұрын
You’re very welcome and talking about it is truly helping me to heal. 🙏🩷🩷🩷
@Gigithehippie
@Gigithehippie 22 күн бұрын
same 💜
@Blondiee22
@Blondiee22 22 күн бұрын
Griffin knows when you are emotional…I have a saying from a book called Walking on eggshells….I did not cause this. …I cannot fix it..and literally move on…
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 22 күн бұрын
Thank you, he certainly does and lm so lucky to have him. Walking on eggshells certainly resonates with me and l will keep moving on. 🙏🩷🩷🩷
@Molkena27
@Molkena27 22 күн бұрын
No need to apologise for the dogs.. it is what it is … x
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 22 күн бұрын
Thank you for understanding 🙏🩷🩷🩷
@Molkena27
@Molkena27 22 күн бұрын
Wish I could jump through my iPad and give you a massive hug… you need to forgive yourself sweetie for all the mistakes you ‘think’ you made… you are on a journey and we all make the choices that are right for us in that moment.. I’ve found the best way is to just love and accept yourself no matter what. Be your own bestie, your own soulmate… so glad you are going to renovate your van.. hope you share the journey ! Much love, Annalise 😘😘
@AVanADogAndMyself
@AVanADogAndMyself 22 күн бұрын
I feel the hug 🤗 thank you Annalise. Sure have made my share of mistakes, going forward I hope not to make too many more though. I certainly take your advice and am doing that for myself. Certainly will share the renovations with you as they happen, just waiting for the guy to get some advice on it and the best way to do things. Much love 🩷🩷🩷🩷