Biggest f*ck boy red flags...spot one a mile away and don't be one

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Ай бұрын

0.00 Intro
0.10 What's a f*ckboy? Here's the definition.
0.33 Stop being a f*ckboy and stop dating them
0.44 Why are we attracted f*ckboys
1.05 Avoiding f*ckboys
1.30 Subscribe to my channel :)
1.36 Types of red flags
1.59 Stop being attracted to toxicity
2.33 Inconsistency is a red flag
3.45 Lack of follow through is a red flag
4.43 Weird and creepy (both) vibes are a red flag
4.50 My lack of follow through story (cont.)
5.22 Red flag recap
5.26 Disingenuous charmers can be a red flag
6.45 How to tell if you're a f*ckboy
7.15 Our f*ckboy days are over
7.41 Conclusion
These are my biggest red flags when it comes to identifying toxic men, toxic people, and toxic relationships. Staying sober is hard but allowing toxic people into your life makes it even more difficult. Don't make the mistakes I did and avoid toxic people, toxic relationships, and toxic guys by doing these strategies I've started to do in my own life.
/ @annabarram
About me
Hey, I'm Anna. I live in Portland, Oregon, work in branding/marketing, have a cool dog named Karl, and got sober in October of 2023 after almost getting taken out by my drug addiction. I was in rehab for 2 months when I got clean and have been sober ever since. Thank you so much for checking out my channel. Follow along if you want for updates on my life after getting sober.
Instagram: annatothebarram
Email: anna@lelo.agency

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@stevieray7203 29 күн бұрын

The chase…it manipulates the brain chemicals when we “win” a “prize”, but in reality you want someone who CHOOSES you, not makes you wonder. Also as an older woman looking back, value a nice guy, consistent and even a bit “boring” and DO NOT sleep with them until they are committed. PERIOD.

@annabarram 27 күн бұрын

I love this perspective so so much!!! Thank you for sharing that thought, total game change to think of it as someone who "chooses you" and knowing that they have chosen to be with you whole heartedly. I think I"m starting to appreciate the consistent and "boring" type of person more and more as I get older, in the best sense possible. Thanks so much again, much love :)

@TheWeekendYogurt Ай бұрын

The coughs :) respect that you can admit that you’ve been drawn to these types even though they’re not good for you

@annabarram Ай бұрын

😂coughing on coffee. Thank you :) :) working on not being drawn to toxic people but it's a hard pattern to break.

@RecoveryRaw 9 күн бұрын

❤I LOVE KARL❤

@annabarram 8 күн бұрын

Awwwwwwwww he loves you too

@Disappointingyourdemons 6 күн бұрын

Soooo, karma blessed me with 3 daughters. I worked very hard when raising them (theyre all basically grown now, my youngest is 17) to avoid shitty men. I was teenage boy once. I know what were like. I wish i couldbhave shownbthem this video years andbyears ago. Good stuff as always anna.

@annabarram 5 күн бұрын

Ohhhhhhh 3 daughters 😂you were most certainly blessed hahaha it's almost impossible to avoid shitty men or just people in general. Some of us have to learn the hard way, unfortunately. Your daughters are lucky to have you as their dad!

@Disappointingyourdemons 5 күн бұрын

@@annabarram I did the best I could with what I knew how. I love them more than life itself and provided for them as best I could. While I'm not winning any dad of the year awards anytime soon, nobody can ever say I was a deadbeat dad.

@Disappointingyourdemons 5 күн бұрын

@annabarram on a side note. I did email you yesterday. Not sure if you got it or not.

@9to5poker53 Ай бұрын

I thought I was a nice guy until I did my sex inventory lol. I manipulated chicks and didn't always clarify that I only wanted casual relationships. It was through doing the steps that I realized I was a fuck boy. Life is so much more peaceful not feeling like I am using someone. I have a conscious and that shit would take me out every time

@annabarram Ай бұрын

HAHAHA I just finished my first draft of step four tonight! How timely. And damn, I really respect your self-awareness and ability to admit that you were a f*ckboy. It's so refreshing to hear. I too have had f*ckboy days so I get the other side of it too. Thanks for sharing your experience and connecting, I love it. :)

@9to5poker53 Ай бұрын

@@annabarram Hey I mean we're human. We all do it on some kind of level. Getting older (37) also makes it a lot less appealing. It takes too much effort lol. I imagine it would be much harder for me in my 20's. I need to get back to the program tho. Been a rough few years. Your channel has been helping remind me of how helpful the program really is tho, so thank you for that. I have a love/hate with the program but am trying to get motivated/inspired to go back and your growth/sharing the message is helping ppl like me.. Oh yeah, don't date in the program unless you have some serious time. Guaranteed nightmare lol. Seriously tho, it fucks with your program and if a breakup happens you stop wanting to go to mtngs. Don't shit where you sleep basically. Sounds easy but it's not because it's so convenient lol

@annabarram 29 күн бұрын

@@9to5poker53 I'll be 37 in October, so I feeeeeeelyouuuuuu lol. Like it's not cute to be a f*ckboy at this age. Or a drug addict, for that matter. Not that it's ever cute to be addicted to drugs and/or alcohol. I'm so so happy that my channel and weird little videos are helpful to you and encouraging. That's so encouraging to hear and makes me so so so happy! I also have a love/hate relationship with the program. Like I hate that it helps me kinda. IDK. I'm always here to support you and be a sober sounding board for anything and everything!!! LOL "guaranteed nightmare" is so true. I would know, unfortunately. Hope you're having a good start to the week!!