It was, off course, terrible decision by her BUT, he should have said precisely what he can and can not forgive. In that situation I think I would have said it to my husband so he knows that he is going to be left alone. I would not cheat in return, at that point its just an excuse,not a reason.

Maybe she learns a lesson. Don't cheat on the next guy. I can't imagine ever just forgetting my SOs infidelity. Many people "work through it" because of limited other options, children, money, change in lifestyle or are so mentally malleable they brainwash themselves into thinking they are ok with it. Or just eat that sh!t sandwich every day and pretend it's a delicacy. Trust and intimacy can never really be the same. If someone has shown you what they are willing and capable of doing to you....believe them.

@The Beast they sve signed the agreement already. He just wants to eat his cake and have it too. He is cheating because he is just as bad as she is, even worse,because he is lying to both women.

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@@Ms777Lena No. She wiped her ass with the vows. They meant nothing for her. She cannot be upset he now thinks the same of them. Her marriage was over as soon as she cheated. He stayed for the kids. He will leave as soon as those are gone.

Yeah, I wouldn't be able to forgive that shit. Soulmate my ass.

The second she decided to cheat was the second he was no longer her soulmate. He was not enough for her and will never be enough for her.

I think she decided he was her soulmate only after the affairs. Guilt and fear of abandonment are the real cause. Classic low quality person move.

Add in the part she is willing to use emotional blackmail with her suicide talk. Her relationship is so unhealthy despite the cheating. Having no life outside of your relationship is not remotely healthy. People need to stop thinking this crap is romantic.

@Zodariou s I disagree. He is incredibly brave and selfless because he stayed for the kid. He cares for his children well being, to make sure their childhood is as stable as possible so that they will grow up with as minimum damage as possible. The moment they go to college is the perfect time for him to leave. Children are priority, I wished my parents would have stayed together for me so that I don't have to grow up missing the other all the time. This man is a good father who puts them first. Good for him for finding a new woman. The perfect revenge.

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right? its nutz how she had to wait till after he proved himself countless times to consider him a soulmate and thats after two long term affairs. this dude was a backup plan to her till she figured she couldnt do better.

Yep typical women defending another women

Lol nice

@@lazarusadamopoulos5084 I dont read that as her defending the woman. I think she's saying that she put him in a prison, a miserable existence by cheating on him, and that she should move on as a favor to him, so he can be free, seeing as he wants that anyway.

@@lazarusadamopoulos5084 . Your reading comprehension needs some work. She was not defending the first OP. Just the opposite.

"It was a mistake I swear! He fell and his dick ended up in me" 🙄🤦🤷🏻‍♀️ best lie ever

@@01wonderful yeah, too bad I didn't learn the first time. .

Ikr its hilarious lol

got a hit by her own medicine

@@01wonderful the fact that family court will believe it and give custody to her because he did not forgive her

well she said soulmate not genital mate if that makes sense

@@quarkshark9388 I see what you did there 😏 👏 😉 😜 😀 🤣

If she dislikes somebody it's the same as Vlad the Impaler

Maybe she meant "Sole Mate," considering she used him like a doormat for 20 years.

@@misterb3577 yup. But, who is to say he didn't cheat first? I mean, there's no proof of that, and he was crushed, but since there is a chance then she (OP) is instantly the victim. I hope the men saw how the female commented, since many XX feel that way.

@pissedpookie i agree the husband's only mistake was taking it too sexting and telling the other girl he was going to marry her after the kids left ( which to be fair if she was helping the husband through his emotions thats probably not a lie) he should've gone to therapy and other close friends to last it out until the kids no.longer needed him. I will give him credit for not escalating it to physical cheating which shows he has a much wider moral compass than his wife

@pissedpookie well in the story she states that it only got as far as sexting for those 3 years. Just going off of the info provided

@Green Monster Can wow, not subtle at all. It is true that for many humans s-x is just an act and they can do it with anybody, but there are many humans who view s-x as an intimate act you don't do with just anyone. Same with relationships, there are people who don't see being with one person as their thing and there are people who don't see being with multiple persons as their thing.

@Green Monster Can replying to this so I can read it later and have a laugh. It's a good thing you don't date often, keep up the good work!

@Green Monster Can If that's your boundary and you don't care at all, that's fine. However, you'll find that most people care about this very thing. Sure, not everything in a relationship is about Sex. But it is about balance, vulnerability and respect. If you find a partner with the same values as you about this matter, then yes you're not doing anything wrong. But like I said, the majority of the population sees intimate acts as something very special, something that is reserved for their partner and partner only. If we shared these acts with everybody they would lose their value. Plus, there is a lot of vulnerability and trust that comes with sex and other intimate acts. And there is a reason why the psychology world sees cheating as a traumatic experience. When you cheat, you lose your partner's trust and they no longer feel special to you. Being in a romantic relationship with someone means you have a special bond. That special bond gives you the opportunity to be open and explore your romantic and sexual sides. Sexuality is intricate and special to people. It means a lot people. Don't question that part. It is human psychology at play. It's not something new. Infidelity has been an issue for people for a very long time. I think you better do some research if you want a "scientific" answer, from a psychologist's perspective.

And now... KARMA!

And now he is cheating🤔 he is as bad as her

@@kennethsjvold9212 He never got over it and bottle it inside. What she and he did is wrong but I understand where his pain is. Leave the marriage

@@MrSdragon197 - He should have left instead of letting himself become a terrible and bitter person. He can’t be trusted either.

@@teacheschem I agree he should leave from the first affair but that's in hind sight.

Who's to say she only cheated twice? Who's to say the kids are even his?

Whatever helps you feel better about having no morals or principles in your actions.

@@furyberserk Play with the bull and don’t be surprised when you get caught by the horns. She broke the marriage 14 years prior, he just stuck it out for the kids. If the legal system wasn’t set up to ruin men and cause maximum damage to the children she would have been kicked to the curb right then.

One word my friend. Simp

@@wolfengod8277 so much this

Her :Wait that's illegal you werent supposed to calculate that

Women today think they are teenage years end when they are 45.

Pregnant @ 19 ?

​@@jman360co In that case, the absolute earliest she could have gotten pregnant would've been 19years+3months. This means she still enjoyed 75/84 months of teenagehood (~90%)... At an *absolute* minimum, easily more. So, her saying "I missed my teen years" is nonesense.

It's such a stupid excuse. Such a shitty reason. "I haven't had my wild college phase." THE FUCK DO YOU NEED THAT FOR? Is being a hoe a fundamental part of life? Those people need therapy.

@Hyun Kim if they do best believe I ain't signing no paper or I'm learning about blood types 🚶

@Hyun Kim what state is this for I can never go there

@Hyun Kim And Florida. Definitely Florida.

@Hyun Kim thanks I will never go there

@Hyun Kim only until u got a lawyer and forced a DNA test right? Cuz if what u say is true women would just pick the richest guy around and put him on birth certificate

300 iq

"I'm gonna do what's called a pro gamer move"

I don't see this as a loss. He spent lots of time with his kids as a loving father and grew strong bonds. 50-90% chance once he divorces, kids (grown up) will feel resentment towards their mom + distance themselves. Nevermind post wall... She'll be trapped in her *OWN PRISON*

A Prison of Despair l😈

If not a Gigachad then definitely a terachad.

you're all morons. he was cheating from the start and never loved her. thats pretty obvious.

@@MsMoonDragoon if you're talking about story 1 i'm pretty op stated that he's been cheating for the last 3 years of their 20 year marriage, soooooo........

@@MsMoonDragoon He cheated because she had two long term affairs behind his back before he even cheated on her

@@MsMoonDragoon called others morons when your reading comprehension and the ability to grasp what's what is low. SMH

Yah, but only TWO, YEARLONG + affairs?

me too. she deserved it

Im only at story #1 and i totally agree, but now im curious to know if this comment can relate the other 2 stories

I find it impossible to feel for her.

I do feel for her but more for her husband. He has done more to hold up those vows than she has and his affair is a result of her having multiple long term affairs. She created the mess and needs to take responsibility for it. Whether they stay together or not they both need some intense counseling because they each have a set of luggage to unpack and sort through with a therapist.

I don't find it hard to feel bad for her! I find it impossible!

true. no coming back

It's fucked.

Brilliant move to.. Making sure the kids are older to avoid child support and redrafted their agreement to avoid being screwed at divorce court when it comes to assets. Now he is bidding his time but he is not being a jerk about it. Did he say he had forgiven her or did he just say we need to move on. There is a fundamental difference.. To the commenter who attacked the man, go fuck yourself

Unless she kills him and then herself.

@@alexandandrew4195 well damn that went from 0 to a 100 real quick

First story husband is at BOSS Level 100.

Exactly! Whenever I feel like I might be missing out, I have enough introspection to remember how I desperately wanted a committed relationship, how desperately I wanted a family. I'm not going to be dumb enough to ruin what I dreamed of only to miss it and want it again.

As a man who found my partner at the age of 21, I too have wondered about "what if" on occasion. But it always comes back to this: I found what I wanted with her, and then some. 28 years together (22 married) and counting. Now, looking back and comparing with some of my friends/acquaintances, some of whom took that other path, I can say that we (people in general) meet someone who really "clicks" and is well matched with us maybe once every 10 years, if we're lucky. That's if we're clean. If we get a permanent STD, children, any permanent life-altering event - that rate can only get worse, not better. Life, unfortunately, isn't like a video game where you can "save game" at a certain point and go back to it if things don't go well - we have to live with the choices we make, and choose our future accordingly. If you're in a loving relationship, treasure what you have, and work to keep it. Whether it's the body's lust that may make it seem like the "grass is greener on the other side" (it's a fleeting mirage), or some "connection" with someone**, is blowing up what you currently have worth a "what if"?. Let it pass. Having the confidence to let it pass requires knowing what you have - take inventory of that, know where you stand, and you'll be fine. **Maybe it's a past life lover/"soulmate" for all you know, if you believe such things - doesn't matter, _this_ life is what matters; they'll be there next life, you're NOT "missing out." Bottom line: some choices in life are permanent. If you leave your current partner, you can never come back to what you had with them. Choose wisely.

@@TechnoMageB5 Wise words! And congrats on so many years together with your wonderful wife! That's so awesome! I totally agree. My boyfriend and I met when I was 20 and he 19 and we just knew. It took at bit of time for my dense head to catch on that what I felt for him was romantic because it was so beyond anything I had ever experienced. It wasn't the usual butterflies and pink clouds. It was as if my soul clicked into place and when I met him I felt like time didn't exist. No before, no after, just this intense feeling of "okay, this guy is made from the same atoms you are and you've been floating in space for millennia to be reconnected, bro. Don't fuck it up" And like you said, when you look at other people your age who took different paths it feels so strange. I was once talking to a bunch of 30 year olds (we were all the same age) and the discussion went on relationships. I started joking about the 7 year crisis and how silly it is and blah di blah and they all just look at me and go: what you've had a relationship that lasted 7 years??? Me: uhm... we've actually been together for like 10 years hehe. How long have you guys' relationships lasted? Not one of them had been in a relationship longer than 4 years. That was so trippy to me. Most of my friends are in long term relationships. All of them found their ONE when they were in their teens or early twenties so I had just gotten used to people being in longterm relationships. It really made me appreciate so much more that I had the privilege to grow into adulthood with my boyfriend and share all the ups and downs in life with him, because imagine reaching the age of 30 and still being single?! Not judging. Things can happen that prevent you from finding your one but oh my god. There's so much inner peace and comfort and bliss you miss out on and I could just see it in all those people's faces that wished they were me. Seriously, unless the relationship is unhealthy, I implore anyone to stick with it, even on the boring days where passion is minimal because you're both tired from work or something like that. The best part of a long term relationship is how you get to fall in love with the same person over and over again and you know you won't be disappointed or have unrealistic expectations because you already know their good, bad and ugly sides and you have accepted it all and still love them.

Well put!

She also sounds like a stay at home mom during the whole marriage, meaning she brings nothing to the table, while the guy even helps in her chores. She knows when he leaves, she won’t be able to even support herself

As a person who was abused by my parents as a child and adult, I always remind myself that I'll forgive and forget... ...when I visit their casket at the wake, probably within the next 10 or 15 years, give or take. It'll be *super easy* to move on and forget about them then.

Not even trying hard.

How about 200 years?

I sure as fuck do. If they do enough damage, are not remorseful, never believe they did anything wrong, etc... It sucks that I'm not the person I was before, I really miss that person and was happier. But, a partner cheats on you and it can destroy your fing world. It did mine. I'm still not over it 30 years later.

@@misterb3577 God Speed. Spit on their death bed while at it. And make sure their last moments all filled with memories of all the pain you went though because of them.

👏🏽🙌🏽

I hope you keep those values because you'll make your husband happy to know he has a keeper

Lol she doesnt understand that she is the false soulmate.

So true. People don't just hook up on accident for months and months while lying daily to their "soulmate" it disgusts me that it is "a mistake" like bitch a mistake is not something you actively choose to do for prolonged periods of time

@@twocheezitz9182 I would disagree with you there considering there’s been people in history and current day who get addicted to substances weather it be drugs alcohol sex or even the addiction of eating there’s some people who lack the power to say no to there own desires and you don’t need to trust me to know that as some people can get addicted to some pretty weird things there’s even a tv show which documents the weirdest addicts and desires they can find some ranging from eating dirt to many other things with all that said long term mistakes do happen but only by the weak willed.

People suck

You dont think, just go emotional

Well, some women want to have it all - decent guy at home and chasing butterflies at the side.

Sadly, a lot of decent guys are usually picked up by these types of women for the comfort and stability they bring to the home...and because they tend to give their wives the benefit of the doubt because of their genuine love for her. Same goes for decent women and cheating men. Put a decent man and a decent woman (or decent people of the same sex) together, and you have a lifetime marriage, put them with a less-than-decent person and you have the perfect recipe for cheating.

It's basically "Opportunity makes a thief" except with cheating. If someone prone to it thinks they can get away with it, there's a good chance they'll actually do it. Not sure what the solution is, but way back when cheaters were put in the stocks outside church on Sundays. Maybe people should be more active in social media floggings for cheaters?

Same

But you dont say you fogave someone andstay with them only for being pety and doing them the same thing they did to you. That husband is a piece of shit because he could have just left her and solve his problem of living with a woman he hates.

@@MissPumpkin91 I think in the beginning he tried but after a decade of the pain he finally broke and is staying for the children and just doesn't care anymore. In fact her confronting him might be the best thing for him so he can finally divorce or at the very least stop sneaking around.

Nah I think he did the smart thing here. If he had gotten a divorce he would have lost half of every fucking thing he owns AND his kids. With this arrangement he got to raise his kids like a normal dad, keep everything he owns because he convinced her to sign the contract AFTER she cheated,, and gets to make her understand a fraction of the pain he felt. Normally I wouldn't condone this because kids suffer from living in a home with parents who hate each other but apparently he was so convincing this chick HERSELF believed he loved her. Frankly I think he handled this masterfully and she kinda just got what she deserved. Objectively what he did was wrong but honestly I feel like this was the best possible outcome for him and the eggs he broke to get it are justified because the worse thing he did to her was what she had already done to him.

@@digitalkarma4691 he played the best game financially but from his perspective he fucked his own mental health.

Alsi could have not had children young.

And it's *REALLY GONNA SUCK* if this hubby's destined to live until is 80s or even 90s (most of which's in good health) with a pretty, younger wife, while her own kids will distance themselves *AFTER FINDING OUT WHAT SHE DID* ..... damn... karma's gonna get real 😈

How you know nobody cheated though?

I mean, if they "reconciled" then it is technically cheating, but she did totally deserve what she got

Hell no.. It is still cheating. He should've left her if he couldn't get over it. I in no way feel sorry for the woman she made her own bed, however 2 wrongs don't make a right, you still have to have some dignity. He has only taught his kids to stay with someone even if they're unhappy.

@@TheIndigoLion Might wanna hop off that high horse buddy.it became a one way relationship the moment she cheated,therefore it is not cheating if he sees another woman.

@@echoxeros5233 No its 100% cheating. I'm not on any high horse, I'm not, never have been, and never will be a cheater. If someone cheats on me I'm not going to forgive them, I'm just going to leave. Just like the wife should have done, he should leave if he has a problem. When he chose to stay with her, he chose to stay in a committed relationship with her. If you think getting back at the person is the mature thing to do rather than leave, you shouldn't be in a relationship.

@@TheIndigoLion he stayed to be a father not to be her husband.

Maybe... or unlike her who's just a depressed, entitled worn-out shell, he _actually_ felt bad for any human going thru this?

*right

@@thegigglygal5265 ops. I was in heat of the moment. fixed it

@@adampower9757 Its funny that we do that, even though a conversation through text gives you infinite time to respond to the other person. However we tend to treat it like a verbal conversation and ignore spelling and grammatical error's when we get 'heated'. Maybe its just our natural reflex to put to words what we are feeling/thinking as fast as possible?

Not really. He should have jsut left

@@ghostdragon5735 tbh the husband was smart he knew there was the chance of losing custody and half his inheritance if he chose divorce so he is waiting... patiently for the kids to grow up and leave and then divorce her ass

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like a lot of narcissists, when facing the future of no longer having their victim in the proximity, in true parasite fashion, she offs herself she needs a host to feed on and if none are available in her circle, she only considers termination

Nobody makes someone cheat. He chose to forgive her and stay and then chose to cheat making him just as shitty as she used to be. He should have left and not lied about forgiving her.

@@thatwitchychick2717 yeah and he would have lost the Kids thats most likely not even his, most of his valuables and forced to pay child support. The game is rigged so he played the game and won, good for him.

@@thatwitchychick2717 But people make each other worse all the time. Some intentionally. He could have left giving the children a worse life or give them a good one in spite of his own. And hey! He did what society demands of the 'supposed' father.

@@thatwitchychick2717 he stayed for the kids not her. Divorces can be especially hard on children. She cheated on him twice, and despite that, he helped to support her throughout her life instead of leaving like he clearly wanted to. He should have come clean about his intentions, but honestly she can't blame him for not being interested in a relationship with her. That's what happens when you cheat on your partner, the relationship is permanently warped. And no matter what he did, he will never be as bad as her. She cheated first, and she cheated twice, end of story.

@@dufftheduff7335 still a lame excuse for lying and cheating lol.

Yeah, honestly, the dude was smart. Knowing how much the courts screw over men in cases of divorce and children, playing it cool for years, while having his own affair on the side allowed him to not get screwed over by that terrible woman any more than she already had.

@@Zyart Exactly I'm not going to believe her guilt and wanting to commit suicide. It sounds like manipulation

@@halleyangel1706 Yeah, it's pretty standard manipulation. I've had an ex threaten to kill herself if I left her after she cheated. But, just like our relationship, she couldn't commit to that, either.

@@Zyart That just shoes how weak and manipulative she really was

Agreed. It was especially brilliant on his part to make her sign a division of assets agreement in the event of a divorce immediately following her cheating. That way, he can be with his children for their growing years, and, decades later, when it's time to divorce he'll have that agreement to make sure she can't take him to the cleaners in the separation.

“We”?

@@LinneAzalea thought 'we' were on the same page. My bad.

@@jthreefingers8445 No but I’m just confused. Are you talking about “we” as in the comment section? Or do you refer to yourself as royalty? Or do you know the person in the story? Or are you talking about your own personal experience unrelated to this story?

@@LinneAzalea ... ... I like the royal we. Sounds classy...

Well at least he avoided child support

He stayed for the kids... mwybe he enjoyed being a father... they shouldn't be judged cause their moms a useless post-wall 304

1st story: I think not. It maybe tears of joy or tears because of hospital bills cost

I think your wrong. Once you cheat, you broke the marriage. Will try our best but the person WE married died. He's putting the world on his shoulders, and also a wife who cheated, twice. Yes, wrong. But, the marriage was already broken. (If you've been cheated on by your 'soulmate' you'd understand)

If I hadn't already dealt with it, I would have felt like I got slapped in the face reading your summary for story 2. Still I've never heard it described as Idolatry, but damn is that not the perfect descriptor for the behavior. Fulfillment is a very difficult thing to achieve and its made even more so by being raised on disney fantasies of finding a woman to fill that void inside your chest. Its a tough pill to swallow for kids who were raised in the cities sitting in front of their TV's most nights. I envy the home school kids who's parents knew better now that I'm older.

Or maybe he is depressed because he has no friends or family, you donkey.

@@EduardoFlores-bt4fo I don't know that we disagree, Eddy Flowers, but you kinda missed that

@@15thobserver Excellent comment

Lol yup because it’s always them who get cheated on.

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Wow, did you eventually end up leaving your cheating BF/Husband? I guess you did if you "stayed 3 years." How did you finally leave him? Just curious. I was in a similar spot years ago. I'm still not over the betrayal. I get mildly angry when I think about it. Just curious about your story.

@@meirsolomon5626 it will be 10 yrs since I left him. We were together for 10 yrs (7yrs in bliss 3 yrs of hell), i was so bitter that we were not even speaking towards the end. He started drinking excessively and when I asked him to quit or move out. He moved out. I have been single for 10 yrs now. I was celibate for a bit. I now no longer have a desire to date or marry. I now enjoy my life peacefully.

Exactly, never take back a cheater

@@Lizarddqueen79 I was celebrate for about four or five years after I was cheated on. But we were only together for 4.5 years. But, I'm still messed up over it.

@@meirsolomon5626 yea I’m heartless now.

And it wasn't just chess. It was 4d chess.

"Smart men dont get married"

You should be

The fuck is wrong with you guys? Marriage is a beautiful thing.

Marriage is what you make of it. It’s not for everyone though 🤷🏼‍♀️

@@alexandandrew4195 Ha. Ha Ha. BAHAHAHA....

Yes

it was a series of unapologetic, cold, calculated movements with three intentions: 1. keep from being found out 2. betray you 3. humiliate and use you as a back up

Wtf kind of incel ass comment is this? "Like every wife games her husband" ok bro..

Ok incel

Sorry gals. A wife or girlfriend lies at least twice in each sentence she speaks.

@@danielevans5864 bro if they're shaming you, that means you're on the right path

@@SM-tf4vs I know. That's why I stick to the issue and not their adolescent ad hominem attacks about subjects they know nothing about. They are like watching children.

Theres nothing decent about it. He lied to her about what their relationship was. Idc what was done. If he wanted to be a good person he would have left. He obviously doesnt give a shit about what doing that to their mother will do to the kids. He's a big a sack of shit as she is.

@@thatwitchychick2717 And that is precisely the type of man she deserves to be with, someone who's just as bad as she is.

@@thatwitchychick2717 bruh he is a big piece of sht because he did not wanted to pay child support noice logic there

yep, she stopped once (maybe, idk, who cares after all) but won't be able to stop every time and he won't be next to her all time to stop her.

So true but also so sad.