Stay sober, stay single...it's gonna be great

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Ай бұрын

I'm taking the year off of dating. I'm serious, no dating for a whole year. It's time to break my toxic relationship patterns and re-learn the healthy way to date. I watched Alex Cooper interview Kate Hudson on Call Her Daddy about "A Year Without Men" and it affirmed my decision to quit dating.
#dating #datingadvice #earlysobriety #single #staysingle ‪@callherdaddy‬ ‪@CallHerDaddyPodcastClips‬ #singlelife #singleandhappy
/ @annabarram
About me
Hey, I'm Anna. I live in Portland, Oregon, work in branding/marketing, have a cool dog named Karl, and got sober in October of 2023 after almost getting taken out by my drug addiction. I was in rehab for 2 months when I got clean and have been sober ever since. Thank you so much for checking out my channel. Follow along if you want for updates on my life after getting sober.
Instagram: annatothebarram
Email: anna@lelo.agency

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@katrinaa980 Ай бұрын

I did this after a toxic relationship because I wanted my brain back. I felt like all my thoughts had surrounded him for a the last couple years and I had lost myself. 12/10 would recommend.

@annabarram Ай бұрын

Totallyyyyyy. I have felt that exact same way in so many past relationships, especially toxic ones. It's really no way to live. I don't know how else to get my brain back like you said, beyond doing work on myself now and staying single. Do you feel like you approach relationships in a healthier way now?

@RICHARDOCONNOR-s2j 22 күн бұрын

I spent my 1st year getting sober watching Kevin O'hara and Kensington Ave Philadelphia. One motivates you to keep fighting. The other reminds you where you could end up if you give up.

@annabarram 22 күн бұрын

Totally true about staying motivated to keep fighting and the reality of where you could end up. Good reminders to not go back.

@ZackaryHayward Ай бұрын

As long as you have a good support circle it's fine, just DON'T GET/FEEL lonely....that's when your sobriety is really at risk. Good job btw! I really enjoy hearing about your journey.

@annabarram Ай бұрын

Thank you 💛💛💛 means a lot that you tune into my videos. It's scary to share this stuff and encouraging to get positive feedback/that it helps or is encouraging for people. And I really appreciate the affirmation about being ok if I have a support circle. Really needed to hear that today as I'm facing some big life decisions that will shift things a lot. Very comforting, so thank you :)

@aronaeleven5574 Ай бұрын

I have a long history of relapses due to being in bad environments. I am about to reach six months of abstinence, which will be the longest period I've ever gone without using. Staying alone and communicating with sober people in group therapy and one-on-one sessions has taught me the importance of listening and respecting others' values and boundaries. This has helped me change my negative social behaviour.

@annabarram Ай бұрын

Congrats on almost hitting 6 months! That's such a big deal. 6 months was the longest I had ever gone without using before I got totally sober this past fall. Lemme know if you need support post-6 months. Here for you! I have found that surrounding myself with sober people who are on a good positive/spiritual path (whatever spiritual means to that person) has helped immensely. It's so easy to get sucked into the bullsh*t so doing anything I can to avoid that stuff seems to help. Much love :)

@dovebby Ай бұрын

this video is excellent ! amazing message and the delivery is everything, you're articulating things that a lot of people don't consider.

@annabarram Ай бұрын

Oh thank you!!! I'm so happy to hear that, you have no idea. I hope that some shred of what I'm saying is helping at least one person. I really appreciate you taking the time to leave an encouraging comment. Much much love :)

@ginadomenique Ай бұрын

Heck yeah, I love your energy in this video! So much power and positivity! Do you have a link for that Cleveland jersey by any chance? I don't have any connection to Cleveland, I just think it looks comfy

@annabarram Ай бұрын

Thanks, Gina!! Appreciate that so so so much. You have no idea :) It's honestly kind of like an oversized pajama shirt (maybe not as comfortable as pajamas) that I can get away with wearing as like an actual outfit. I'm feeling lazy 95% of the time when it comes to dressing up so it's a great option for me, lol. www.amazon.com/dp/B09MQXZNZ8?psc=1&ref=ppx_pop_dt_b_product_details

@ShadesOClarity Ай бұрын

I heard this in the rooms of A.A. the whole time I was attending regularly - especially the nine months I had/lost and then met someone who used to be the girlfriend of a guy I knew. We had never met so I didn't know her name. I knew her brother after when first started talking. I thought she had more sobriety than me, which I found out shortly later. She had worked in corporate finance and had ties to NASA like my father so we hit it off. Then we damn near knocked each other's heads off. And then eventually called it off. She was really pretty but horribly codependent and untrustworthy. I am down with being alone and emotionally independent. I think that was the main reason. She couldn't deal with that I didn't want to be around her 24/7.

@annabarram Ай бұрын

Why are relationships so so so hard?!?!? I'm too scared to try to date anyone at this point. Especially since I'm trying to stay sober at the same time. What a horrible story. I'm so sorry!!!!

@ShadesOClarity Ай бұрын

@@annabarram I don't know. I don't really like relationships anyway. They are too much work for too little return - at least in that case.

@annabarram Ай бұрын

@@ShadesOClarity I think relationships that are worth the effort are rare. Hope you're doing ok, thinking of you my friend.

@ShadesOClarity Ай бұрын

@@annabarram Thanks. That last horrid relationship I was in was not born out of honesty, sobriety or anything else. Funny thing is, we traveled well together and went all over the place. We just didn't have enough in common. One of my big things is the person better have good taste in music and a sense of humor. She struggled with both. I don't like riding around in a car with no music playing with a person going on ad nauseum about themselves. I really couldn't care at all about looks - except for somebody obese. Not knocking them as people, they are just not for me.

@annabarram Ай бұрын

@@ShadesOClarity haha, I definitely understand the whole music thing! And it's so hard to build trust with a partner, let alone a friend or non-romantic relationship. Sorry to hear it was so awful and that honesty was lacking in the last relationship you had. It's so tough out there.

@hunterirc Ай бұрын

Love your clips! If I may, I have a curiosity regarding your editing and screen, inspired by Casey Neistat or Tony Gilroy ? Great work.

@annabarram Ай бұрын

Thanks! Yeah definitely heavily inspired by Casey Neistat. Followed his work for years. So that is a compliment that they resemble even a shred of anything he has done. Never heard of Tony Gilroy though...I'll look him up. Do you create videos?

@hunterirc Ай бұрын

@@annabarram I don't create videos, but I think I have a good eye for spotting talent and hard work. I like your story telling and editing, it's short, quick to deliver and punchy. Great work, keep going. I name is H and I am a subscriber.

@annabarram Ай бұрын

@@hunterirc Hi, H! Nice to meet you :) thank you so much for the words of encouragement. Needed to hear this today. It goes a long way. Putting such vulnerable stuff out there is scary and can be discouraging sometimes. And thank you so much for subscribing and supporting me. Appreciate it more than you know. Much love :)

@ZacharyRobinson-hj2hx Ай бұрын

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@TheWeekendYogurt Ай бұрын

When you’re evolving as a person sometimes you gotto find yourself before you find someone else.

@annabarram Ай бұрын

100% agree. I think this is more often than not always true? Like it's tough to be in a relationship with ANYONE if you don't know who you are or if you don't know yourself very well. Thoughts?

@TheWeekendYogurt Ай бұрын

I agree 100%. I’ve taken breaks periodically and they’ve always been very important for me.

@ZacharyRobinson-hj2hx Ай бұрын

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@ZacharyRobinson-hj2hx Ай бұрын

@The 2:50 WeekendYogurt