Most black men are not looking to have a family and a faithful relationship. They are more worried about being the MAN to their friends. They get called hen pecked or simps for being a strong loyal partner in a relationship.

" If you can't take a women on a date, than you don't need to be dating" 😂😂😂 Love it!💯

You promote black love, black relationships, black unity. Protecting us as women at all cost. Vice versa for black women. We appreciate your message. It is really refreshing.

Your message is not easy for BM. No other race of men is complaining about being responsible men who provide, protect, and nurture their women and the children they create.

I have asked men I have dated about that where I propose a scenario of "if your daughter was not your daughter, would you want her dating and being involved with you?" There was so much deflection so that was a red flag for me.

It ain't just modern men. I've seen clips from the 70s where they were complaining and blaming black women the same way they are now. Nothing ever changes.

Don’t dim your light ☀️ just because it hurts the eyes of others. They better put some shades on. Keep standing up for what’s right🙏🏾

Mannnn I don't think most of these BM can handle this kind of masculinity. They want to be courted, taken care of and praised as kAngZ for doing the bare min or nothing at all, as the community around them suffers and declines. Collectively, they're too far gone imo.

Been married for 8 years and alot of what you say about men is exactly what was different about my husband. He doesn't understand the struggles his friends have in their so called marriages because they don't have any respect or admiration for their wives.... alot of it starts with a man not feeling intimidated or demeaned because his wife is able to do for herself. He has always encouraged me and been proud of my accomplishments, just like how I do for him. Doesn't matter who makes more, who stays home or whatever.... sometimes I make more, sometimes he does. Both of us stayed home at different times with the kids based on who had more financial power. We think as a team, a unit, with one goal in mind. He's never ever had to ask me for submission 😒 I respecthim and know he makes sound decisions...I know if I disagree I'll tell him and he'll take it into consideration. We need more respect and admiration and appreciation between us.

A lot of bm don't understand that when he comes through and provide and produce, a good woman gonna support him and back him up. 💯 percent. They can't come to the table with nothing but want something to eat. You don't work, you don't eat.

Good information. For some people, seeing a black women succeed on their own and not be needy rubs them the wrong way. A man that is confident in himself, like you welcomes a capable wife, appreciates her. As a black women, Im pretty sure Black women are the strongest people on the planet. We can take what comes our way and when we fall down, or get knocked down, we get up. Thank you for showing your appreciation for us.

Also, McDonalds, Chic Fil A, etc isn’t a date for a grown woman. That’s where my teenage son took his dates. If all you can afford is fast food, you’re not ready to date.

Shumake, I'm a man just like you bruh..I know you love yo bruhs just like i do, but a shame that your and my mindset are not the norm. Keep up, brother Shumake!!! The bros hear you..just hard for many of us to realize our faults and truly make a strong move with our people. Hurts me, just like i can tell it hurts you, that we are drastically losing our beautiful black family, woman, children and culture to be envied!!! Im hurt too, bruh!!!

I feel secure when I have a plan. I guess most women are that way. We love a man with a plan.

I literally had to argue with a guy on why he should provide for his pregnant WIFE and let her stay home during and after her pregnancy and not pay 50% of the bills During this time. I KID YOU NOT!

Being submissive is deeper than what they think it means….most ppl aren’t submissive anymore due to false intentions of others. You have to protect your heart at all cost…Whether it be your woman, man, friends, or family. If someone doesn’t like how your treating them, they shouldn’t put up with you just because they want you to!! People aren’t designed to be used!!! We are vessels, we are helpmates, and created not to be abused!!

My co workers think I’m married. 1 of these grown boys asked me, “can you buy me something to eat?” Now I’m not buying NONE of my co workers shit… okay. So i said to him, “My husband hasn’t given me my allowance yet.” He said, “Why is your husband giving you an allowance when you make good money.” 🤣😂😭 I told him, “Cuz that’s what grown men do!” This fool also told me, “I bought my wife a heated foot massager and told her not to ever ask me for a foot massage.” I told him, “I hope your wife gifts you a fake Vjay-Jay and tells you never to ask her for sex ever again.”

Great information brah. As a Black man I see what's wrong with the community. I also understand I come from a place of privilege. I grew up with a strong father, grandfather and Uncle. I come from strong Blackman stock. That being said unfortunately, I've been divorced twice and have been through it man. But like you said I had to look at myself, and found out I have been choosing wrong. I was the classic man that looked for the woman to 'save'. My mindset was if I safe her she would love me absolutely. I had to fix myself, and seek out who I really need to be my partner. I say all this because as I man I had to look at myself and my flaws and do better. I know now I'm ready to find my Queen to be.

Thank you for your videos. I am close to 60 years old and the men my age are not any better than the young ones. Personally, I am just enjoying my life single… no drama, headaches or baby daddies (some men in their 50’s with a 5 year old child 😬). Your messages need to be heard by other men. What is so crazy to me it that these “relationship gurus” are so focus on women (that is where the money is at) and not their own brothers (who are in denial) in a positive way. I am glad you are in this space helping our men, positively. Thank you!

This brotha is PREACHIN. I've said this plenty of times and I get fried. But I stick to my guns. MEN HAVE TO BE MEN FOR WOMEN TO BE WOMEN.

Your story about strategizing with your wife made me happy. I think so many black women want a man they can plan and strategize with. I know I did. But it usually devolves into a power struggle because of resentment and ego. Humility means you recognize your own need for improvements and you work on them. Not resent your partner for being ahead of you in certain areas.

I agree with you wholeheartedly Shumake. The man is the head and the buck stops with the man.

They don’t love women ….

My father does this all the time. I experienced a lot of child abuse as a result. This is a huge red flag

I am continually amazed by how intelligent and wise you are at your age. You sound like someone that has lived this life before and came back to educate black men. I am a black nurse and that is a hard job especially for black women. I remember when I was getting my BSN I really wanted a black husband to try to build a life with and I wasn't able to find one that could understand and appreciate what I was trying to accomplish for myself and my community; At a certain point I just gave up and married a white man cause lets be real they believe in marriage and family. I am so happy for you and your wife, and I am so grateful that you still have the energy and the graciousness to care about your community to try to educate black men. They may listen to another man, because we know they would never listen a black woman.

Your words and messages are like medicine. You don’t want to take it, it doesn’t always taste good going down, but it’s needed. Keep doing what you’re doing.

These types of messages are hated by those who want to excuse their life style. This is why so many ppl were ecstatic when one content creator did not follow his own message that he was promoting. Totally ignoring that the message he put out there was and is still true. I remember a story about an ass (old world term for donkey) saved a speaker from danger. The speaker didn't want to listen to the ass until the last moment. Listening saved his life.

AWESOME MESSAGE! If a man can’t pay for a date or expect 50/50 he should not be dating. A man cannot expect submission if he is NOT a provider. You have to be patient and prove yourself to me if not no chance. You have to PROVE you WILL improve my life or no go.

These are great talks. Keep doing them. The wise men will listen. It's said, the empty barrels makes the loudest noise. The guys out there with nothing to show as men, in terms of character, integrity, values and personal growth and achievements are the most vocal. 'high value' men have no time to fight against women. They do their fighting on the stock market, cooperate finance etc. On their jobs ( wherever/whatever field) against other men. Why? They're leaders and builders.

THIS IS MY OPINION! In my honest opinion men are external women are more internal. I feel we’re more emotional but, better equip to deal with our emotions. Which I feel were more like to look internally what needs to be resolved and fix. Opposed to men I feel like they are more wired to look for external solutions or not seeing themselves as a problem at first.

She sees your integrity...she sees your passion, she sees your strength....she sees herself in you....There are no women who feels and sees this about her man wouldn't follow his lead. She has her fortress to bloom her purpose right beside the space she has for your kingdom.😊

OMG.... thank you soooooo much for breaking this down for the people. Men and women have to take accountability for their actions or lack there of. Women need to stop accepting subpar behavior from these so called men and men need to just take accountability for their selfish actions/behaviors.

My husband and I are on the verge of a divorce, I learnt so much from your videos on how I can improve myself and understand my husband’s ways. I empathise with men because I’ve witnessed his struggle in which very much resonates with your story. Peace and high vibrations.

Finally, the truth spoken of the friction between men and women.

Most of us are raised in single parent homes without great role models of strong black men. The men in the Baby Boomer generation dropped the ball and they don’t even exhibit the behavior in most churches. So that leaves young boys to look at entertainers or cult leaders on KZfaq like KS and the Whineosphere

If everyone took responsibility for themselves...men, women, children..Have Mercy! It really is as simple as you are putting it. Too much scapegoating in the world and in the community.

Your message is resonating with your tribe. Your vibe attracts your tribe. Although the ones not listening are the ones that need to listen, it can't get through until they're ready. Please keep doing you and don't get discouraged because we need you!

People (men or women) don't like to do hard work. Especially when the work is about emotional growth and intelligence. There is seemingly no ROI and it's not a measure of success in this capitalist system. So a lot men, typically, see emotional growth as unecessary, not worthwhile, or as an exclusive feminine/infantile trait. Lots of work to do, I am just realizing that by the time they wake up and want to invest in helping to do the work, the good women will be gone/unavailable 🤷🤷🤷...

Brother you better talk about!!! We need this truth. 💯

The title says it all! Thanks for this much needed video.

Good video. While watching I became on edge hearing police sirens while Shumake spoke. Especially when they passed…OMG I’m not even driving 🤦🏽‍♀️ I’m glad you kept your cool & all is okay. I’m so conditioned 🙇🏽‍♀️

I love your content. You are very balanced and give a good dose or reality rather than falsehoods. Thank you for your time

He literally said everything I've been thinking! 💪🏾

As a strong single woman i must agree. I do what i have to in orfer to live the way i want. Me and my guys didnt se eye to eye so i moved on and leveled up. For me and mines. An yes i see how it is hurting the black male population

Right on, Brotha!!!!!! Everything you’ve said!!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

I really enjoyed this video. This helps men to know what to work on, and for women what to look for. Without being negative on either side. Thank you! ♥️

Shumake. I been with you for a while now. So much growth genuine care and maturity on your chanel. Thank you Shumake. Keep telling the truth and bringing light to these issues. Beyond important.

I respect this man so much. He gets it

Your message is needed, women and men need to listen awareness is important along with actions..keep up the good word and the straight forward word...I am glad you have found your wife you both are an inspiration..!!

Love this video. Keep it coming. Love you my brother.

If uplifting people and teaching is your passion then you have a bright future. I wish you the best of luck with your dreams and we thank you for being a positive light!

Who you were before is your testimony that flowed into the things that you've done in your life and continuing to do that reflect who you are now and who you are becoming. Same reflection on the outside however the process and purpose you are aligning yourself with keep showing itself to be more profound, productive and true to who you are on the inside. You are doing the work, which we all have to do. The mirror that is reflective of your inner self is going to empower those who are like minded and offend those who are not. You and your family are a blessing. Thank you, appreciate you king 👍🙏😌💐👏👑💖

Oh I love your ways makes me want to cry. I wish many men see the way you think. It's not bragging, it's real talk about any relationship people are in. Thank you for that.

I haven't watched your channel in a long while. Glad to know that you got married! Congratulations! You talk better sense than Kevin Samuels. He uses Black women for target practice. Keep speaking the truth in love.

Congratulations on your new home you and your wife is about to build.Thank you for all of your motatvation that you share with us.Keep on making theses inspiring videos .Be Blessed You And Your Family.😊❤️

Awesome video full of gems!!!!

These are facts for all human beings if you want something better, you have to put in work. You don’t get to the finish line by looking like a winner you have to be one. That’s just life, anything worth having requires positive energy and work. Me and my husband was in the same position but I trusted that my husband would not let us down because I knew his spirit he stood in his shit, and took on the load he made me feel safe and secure and still do.

You're doing the Lord's work 🙌

God is proud of you!!!! Believe that!!! You're an amazing man!!!! You don't blame the women for everything, you also blame the men. Both sides need work. You're a fair man!!!!

I really appreciate the work you're doing and I'm hopeful more men find this content.

Thank you for telling truth. I applaud you sir👏🏿

Sending positive vibes for your clothing line. Have ever considered learning how to sew? It will definitely come in handy

Besides pastors such as Paul Washer and John Mac Arthur, this man is one of the realest on You Tube. A solid, easy-going straight-to-the-point all out stand-up man. I love it when he said, " I want my wife at home" , AAAAAmmmEEEEEnnn (Amen multiplied). His wife is actually willing to understand that and and submit to that, no feminism or rebellion She thinks with him, not against him. They think as one. This brother deserves a woman like her. This story is lovely for real. This man would definitely be a great pastor. Much Grace, Peace, Love, Mercy and Respect to you my brother,🙏🙏🙏👍👍👍💯💯💯

Your one in a million sir.

You had me at the 2:08 mark. That's where it starts for all of us.

Right, Proper Decision making is a big deal.

"When the leader is weak, the team is losing. When the leader is strong, so is the team." - my motto nowadays We men are expected to be the leaders of our homes and our communities. Sure, a woman is capable of doing some things like a man, BUT we men are expected to be the providers and protectors. When that dynamic has been removed, the homes and the communities are off balance and vulnerable. We must stand firm as men, reject the spineless expectations being laid before us by the bitter boys of certain spaces online and in life, and rise up to be leaders again. If we never saw this growing up, learn to become the leader that's needed. There are plenty of strong, positive role models and mentors out there to learn from. I'll say this, being a man of God, read the Bible. There's examples of men being men in the Word. Look to Jesus and His examples! Men, WE HAVE TO COME BACK TO OUR POSITION! WE...HAVE...TO!

Good message 👏🏾 👍🏾

Love you !!

Peace everyone 🕊️

Preach!

Thank you for your channel.

Good message.🙏🙏🙏❤️

Message is only for those who have ears to hear.💯

They didn't have fathers to teach them how to lead and the value of hard work... even my brothers are like this although our dad was there. But our dad never interacted with any of us despite living in the same house. Meanwhile I am excelling because I motivated myself.

Please keep making your videos.

i dont understand how these bm see others groups if men of other races for the most part being the head as men but it clearly is deflective like they dont no they are men too its ur role

🌟🌟Can you please do a video about why/how certain men choose their friends/homeboys over their ladies (maybe because of validation etc)?? Just had this happen to me 😩😐 Thank you so much!!!🙏🏽🙏🏽

Believe me , I go through the exact same thing. I tell both sexes nothing but facts and let’s just say hit dogs holler. I usually let them holler for two minutes , then I grab my coat and go where what I have to say is receptive as a life coach , social activist and nutritionist 🤷🏽‍♀️👋🏽🏆

You have a great wife, brother. Keep on bragging on her!

What I want to know is when are you publishing your book?

Good talk……btw there’s nothing wrong with bragging on yo wife

If you don’t mind, I would like to react to a few of your videos. 💯

❤️

Where are the rest of these men at

⚫ people please come together and stop fighting and disrespecting one another...2022 Goals

Wisdom cries in the streets

You are NOT saying anything that doesn't provide truth. BM and BW both have had different challenges in life and both are in control of how they respond to those challenges. Sometimes self reflection is the BEST teacher; however, unfortunately, some ignore what is TRUE about themselves. I think it is phenomenal that you talk about your wife and you give her recognition for her hard work and how it helps you level up. When you support and encourage your partner, she works harder and you gain even more respect from her. I know that BW could toot their own horn, and they shouldn't have to, but they are NOT getting the recognition they so RICHLY deserved. For those BM who are disparaging or trying to LUMP all BW the same, need to take a good, long look at where BW have come from (slaves, nannies, maids and LEVELED UP to entrepreneurs, managers, leaders, CEO, Lawyers and mover and shakers). Many have paved the way for others. It seems easier for some BM to be disparaging than to give credit where credit is due. We all know there are GOLD Digging MEN and WOMEN, but you can't generalize all for the actions of a FEW. It has NEVER, EVER been easy for BW or BM, so why are some trying to make it harder for both? When you talk poorly about others, you simply draw negative attention to yourself. BM/BW have to DO better!

Modern men that project about modern women. Make it make sense🤷‍♂️🤦

these guys became 2 feminine to hear u

Question. Why didn't you start a clothing line when you were single?

I want to thank the Most High God for surrounding me with the men in my life. None of them perfect, But excellent in character and strength I want to Thank those men, for showing me what REAL MEN looks like. Because, they're imitators destroying their names. The fake women are causing damage to us too. But, they're easier to spot. Thank you for this video ☺ Oh, the men: My Husband, Step-dad, Granddad, Btothers, Uncles, And our Son's and Grandsons, just in case

In my circle I've def seen men who want a family and don't have a problem with providing. Their problem with women is usually most women are trying to keep up with the things they see on TV and social media. And that's cool we deserve nice things but the patience part of loving someone isn't there. Also they believe in their friends more than they do their partners, still want to do things they did in their singleness without anyone saying something about it, and tear them down if they don't agree with something they say or they don't get what they want when they want it. My question I guess would be if marriage, a covenant between 2 people by God, is the goal in dating at what point do you start having faith in that person and the situation that God put you in? Because just as easy as someone could lie on you, or your job fire you when you know you've been putting in work to better yourself and your relationship is she solid if she leaves? Vice-versa. The real reason men don't want to go on dates because it's like okay you're driving the boat i have no issue providing for and serving you on but you can not do anything to better it, crash it into a iceberg, and/or jump ship at anytime with no actual repercussions on your end and it's actually incentivised with cs and alimony, unless it's a rare case like this young man, and the media for you to do so while we drown in the aftermath. Women usually date up and lead in divorce filings and it could be because we're "toxic" in their eyes. We're required to have faith from the jump. Which we should but again vice-versa.

This Chanel is Strictly for Black women and Black man in 🇺🇸 . Me as an East African male in Europe can’t relate but I understand your situation. What I don’t understand is that you women in USA are watching so much bullshit on Social media that you forget the undermining off black male. Respect your man or you both will lose is the FIRST rule.

Not to compare, but this brother and Kevin Samuels both have great points. If you know how to intertwine them both and have the wisdom to understand what knowledge to use in which situation and with what woman or what type of woman is worth the pain and effort and which ones are not, then common-sense and discernment will guide you from there. Patients is a virtue. Every strong man must be able to take a little pain, but know your limits, be aware of your signs (good or bad) , and take heed to your warnings. I notice that most comments on these videos are from women, and most of Kevins are men. We both (male and female) can learn something from both, ( this man and Kevin Samuels). I am a man and I love these videos. This cat is sharp in his wisdom when it comes to manhood and dealing with women. I am never too prideful to seek more wisdom. Once you stop learning, you stop growing and just like many of these modern-day women need stop hating men for being men, well..... vice-versa!!!

You'll never go broke telling black women what they want to hear. Black men have been called to account for dysfunctional behavior since before the Million Man March.