Story 1: AITA for not giving my mom part of my inheritance? Story 2: 3:56 AITA for refusing to provide more than my obligation threshold to my parents? Story 3: 8:31 AITA for not returning a family heirloom? Story 4: 11:51 AITA for potentially damaging my brothers relationship with his sons over college tuition?

Listening to these stories about families pressuring inheritors makes me want to update my own final wishes. I might include a clause to protect my beneficiaries, stating they cannot gift any part of their inheritance to certain individuals. Have you ever thought about how you would structure your final wishes to protect your loved ones from similar pressures or disputes?

I love how the op just casually mentioned that they are 17 and engaged and literally no one in the comments even brought that up. I hope she protects herself against her boyfriend just in case he starts to feel entitled to her money and if they do get married, she gets that prenup.

Story 1. Tell the other family members that they can let a toxic junky move in with them if they are so concerned about the mother.

Baby, don't let her in, you will not be able to get her out! Live Your life!

Get house insurance,cameras and a order of protection against her. I can see her accidentally slip and sue you.

With the third story you're not in the wrong I get the feeling that your mother-in-law only feels comfortable with passing it down to the firstborn girls in the family not the first born child and the fact that your late wife may God Rest her soul gave it to your son who is her first born and your first born it makes perfect sense. My advice to you is simple tell your mother-in-law that your wife her daughter gave the ring to your son her son before she passed away and that's how it's going to stay if you constantly bring it up more and more then maybe you shouldn't see your grandson for a while and I will go no contact until you drop it. Problem solved plain and simple. If she can't handle that then maybe she doesn't see you as family to begin with or your son neither

I freaking have been addicted to these

Yeah my uncle helped me get a job and the rest of my family had a fit but I was the only person who went to his house and even spoke with him. He knew who cared for him and who did not. Christmas he gave cash to all of the kids. I was never allowed to open my cards in front of the other kids. His wife always had my card and she would give it to me and tell me not to open it in front of the other kids. They spoiled me but I took care of their yard and babysitting with my cousins their kids. I was like their big brother and we are still like brothers 45 years later.

Hearing theses stories about family pressuring people who inherit-makes me want to revise my own final wishes. To protect those who inherit with a clause stating they are not allowed to gift any of their inheritance to certain people. Especially those who I would purposely want exclude from receiving large sums-because they make poor choices and everything they touch turns to 💩. Every family has a few...

With the last story, if I was op I would beg the brother to let me pay the kids tuition by saying “you supported me when I came out, one of the biggest and most terrifying choices I’ve even had to make in my life. Let me pay you back by supporting your kids so that there’s one less thing for you and your wife to worry about. I won’t give them so much that they can go party, but so that school and books are paid for. Please. It’s my one way to repay you for always being my brother.”. I don’t know if it would work, but at least that way it’s not a charity case but repaying his brother for something that can’t be easily converted into money.

Doesn’t seem like they consider the son family.

Woah first story- engaged at 17? Ok lmao- 💀

It seems to me that your mom wants the house to make yourself feel good and have a sense of stability and security. When in reality she never gave you that in your own childhood let alone physically mentally and emotionally abused you. My advice tell your mom to either cease and desist her demands be grateful for getting only 3% and not nothing at all and use that 3% to take care of your siblings and better herself or call the police and file a criminal restraining order and potentially call CPS to make sure they are out of your Mother's Hands. In addition I will also tell your family members who want your mom to come back into your life that either you stop doing that or I will cut you off as well. It's better for you to protect yourself than it is to an able somebody else who's been talking to you your entire life. Other than that you're not in the wrong

Do not let your mom get in the dog house she is toxic, any family saying you should?, GHOST THEM, MAKE grandma proud and have a great life 😇🙏❤

There needs to be a Parenting Division of CPS to teach people the skills and tools to be good parents without risk of losing the kids.

Dad in the story sending "money home" sounds like my dad, he spent years sending large amounts of money without bothering to run any of the businesses/projects properly and hold ppl accountable so most of the money was stolen and used by greedy family members. I eventually went into working in finance and remember at 16 when I was learning the basics trying to point out why his approach wasn't working and he pretty much just said "that's just not how business works in...." so I gave up. My dad passed now a while back and I told my older half siblings at the time (from him not my mom) that they're welcome to them all. I'm not pouring more money down the drain and I honesty don't want to try to get them run properly, because I don't work by the "its family its ok" attitude, I want to know where every penny is going as that's the level of detail I go into with my day job and I'm not my Dad Also was an ego thing to as his other family managed to make things work he didn't, and also my mum was the one raising 4 of us here whilst he was dreaming of over there. OP not TA, her and the brother should only send the money directly to the mom of he's still sending it abroad to "look good" to his rich friends

Soon as she let’s her mother move in her house she will destroy her life with her druggie friends. Her mother made sure that she left something to op’s mother so she could not make a claim on the house or insurance settlement.

OP1...NTA ..Don't give her anything..she failed and Granny did her job. Enjoy your life without them.

NTA but stay engaged for a few years. Don’t get married for now cause if it doesn’t work out you might end up losing house as marital property

1st story, I hope they get a prenuptial agreement before getting married. But totally NTA. Her mom shouldn't be allowed to move in. She needs to grow up

story 3: NTA i'm a strong proponent of heirlooms staying in the family so if OP hadn't had a kid with her and kept the ring after she died he would 100% be TA but the ring ain't his it's his son's, the son is still part of the family, the ring is still within the family. the MIL is just sexist against men

1st story: You might consider selling the house and moving far away going NC with family especially mom. The problem is they know where you live and have your contact info so the flying monkeys can harass you day and night. But if you sell and move that lessens your contact and with a new home their sense of entitlement [i.e. the old homestead] is gone.

The other family members don’t have a say in this.. grandmother didn’t want OP’s mother to want the house etc.. she probably knew the mother would abuse drugs or whatever and op wouldn’t have anything ..also don’t be a ATM to anyone wanting money..

Stick to your guns and don't even allow her to visit. You owe her nothing.

Horrible mom stole OP's childhood, and now she wants to steal her future? Heck no!

Grandma passed left me 50 percent of her money etc.. You have received some good advice, take it..

Story 1 NTA. Get a prenup and do not let an abusive toxic drug user into your home it will stop being your home

Why is it,that parents who are little more than sperm or egg donors think that their offspring are obligated to support them?.Parents are the ones who have the obligation.If they choose to have children, they are obligated to support and raise their children until the children are equipped and capable of supporting themselves.If they did'nt put into the raising of their children everything they should,then they have no right to expect anything back.

#1: NTA. The mom and her flying monkeys can pound sand. Cut contact with the lot of them. Take care of the house and spend the money wisely.

Don't give your mother nothing!!!

It's not ancestral land if you are not living on it. Go home, sell it or shut up.

Set up security cameras at your inherited house

1st story: not just NTA but wise not to let that person move in your house, she is just the biological donor and grandma is the real mother! She left the house to him(her?) for a good reason, doing anything else would be disrespectful towards her. Did she left 3% to OP's bio donor so she may not attack her will?

I know I’m going to sound like an asshole, but honestly on the last story, he knows his brother is jealous about the money thing. The kids went crying to rich uncle basically knowing they would probably get a handout but better yet, they’re getting their entire tuition paid off. Is it nice having school paid off completely and starting life debt free? Yes. It doesn’t mean you have to butt in on your their family difficulties. Now you’ve made a strain between you and your brother, your brother will feel even less because brother paid for my children’s things, plus it wouldn’t surprise me if the nephews will keep looking at you as a cash cow. They need to learn the hardship of life. That includes debt.

Your son has it and your wife gave it to him . Don't allow them to take it.be careful because they will guilt your son into giving them the ring. Keep son away from mother-in-law

Story 1. Keep your mom away from your life for good. And DO NOT DO ROOMMATES. Even with rental agreements or leases it is not nearly worth the amount of trouble to try and get them our of your home. Rental properties sure, but NOT your home.

Story three, Just because the last 5 generations, the first born was a female, does not mean the tradition is changed, UNLESS IT'S STATED THAT WAY. I think they may have tried and failed, and this was the last try to reset the tradition

Story 1. You definitely aren’t the asshole. And I just feel sorry for your siblings that have to live with her

Story 3 So because the wife died her son isn't consider family? because they say its a family heirloom yet they don't consider that he is family with their bloodline, the only thing i can think of is because the sister of the wife is the golden child thats why they don't care about what OPs wife decision.

Story 1 - OP NTA - You are NOT responsible for your mother and her children. She made her choices in life and has to live with them. Your grandma knew this and that's why she made sure that you had enough to give you a start in life. As for you being 17 (almost 18) and engaged... well honey at your age, everything seems like a fairy tale and the"we lived happily ever after" kind of mindset. When the time comes for you to get married, which I hope it is way AFTER you finish college in the future, I suggest that you get a PRENUP and DO NOT put your significant other's name on the Deed of the house. That is YOUR home left to you by your grandma and if God forbid you relationship with your SO doesn't work out you will lose nothing. Be smart with what you have and think with your HEAD instead of your HEART before making any financial decisions. Don't fall for the "if you really love me" followed by the "you don't trust me" BS. IF your boyfriend really loves you he will have no problem signing the prenup.

I wish my parents could’ve given me $10,000 for school….

1. I would sell the house and flee from the toxicity. I knew where it was going listening to the father / sons story. 2 Very selfish father. 3. The ring is now the son's. The ring is with the family. I would put that ring in a safe. 4. The brother is money jealous but the other brother should have gone to him and approach the situation as suggested by the commenter.

Story 1: BRA. The other family members are trying to get you to take her on so they don't have to.

That last one is a good way for the parents to lose their kids. The kids are going to resent all the times the parents said no.

Story 1. I think she should’ve considered the siblings. If the siblings are being mistreated the same way she was mistreated it’ll probably be better that she has them move in. But age of the siblings is also a factor. So 🤷🏽‍♀️

Imagine how much they'd resent their dad if they get told "sorry, your dad prefers you be in debt and not have all expenses paid because his ego is hurt that he can't afford it doesn't want to be embarrassed!"???

1st story cut all ties to hell with everyone says

1st story: NTA. Your grandma is more of a mom than that woman that poop you out. You know by fact that she is a deadbeat drug addict, don't let her near. Cut that "mom" out of your life. Tell your family that THEY can take her in, if they are so nice. 2nd story: NTA. Your father seem to not understand that not all businesses just don't work out of the blue. You guys got both lucky and work your butts off. Send that man to therapy, because he sounds he still have a trauma with his childhood. 3rd story: NTA. The wife already give it to the kid, and still following the tradition. Just in case, don't leave MIL alone with the kid. 4th story: NAH. I can see the brother's POV, he feels awful, jealous and prideful. OP just want to help the kids. Honestly, I hope the brother wake the heck up, and does look at the benefits. That or OP pay for it anyway, lmao. The kids don't deserve to loose a great start because daddy's pride. As soon as they are 18 and start college. Go for it.

O.P I dont blame you ,your father wanted to show off in his home land and thus you guys had the bare minimum so this is what he gets hes mad you won't blow money on him .that's not your issue at all.i would tell him if he keeps out right telling lies on you and your bro you'll cut him off 4 real period

First story, bit of advice. Keep the house and you money in your own name. You are too young to have someone take what you have inherited, be it your mom or some man. Be very careful.

Story 2: NTA I find it hilarious that the father’s investments failed and he has nothing to show for it. Not even relationships with his kids. And did op and brother ever even see the “land”

Create an account for each boy, available when they reach 25.

Story 1: a. Big NTA Walk away from that toxicity.

I'm sorry I loled at the she will let me move into my own house with her.

This girl mom treat her like crap and her mom want the house 🏠 so the mom can take over

Story 1 What part of Grandma left it to me is Mommy Dearest not comprehending? You grandmother wanted you to have it or she would have specified otherwise and since your grandma raised you I suspect she did exactly as she intended she left it all to you or most of it Mommy must be so upset at only getting 3% Yikes NTA

Ask your brother if you had son's would he do the same? Tell him, yes, he would bc your brothers, they are nephews. What goes around comes around so sure he will get his turn ;))

Tell mommy to stick it where the sun donr shine. Tell all the family wanting you to let mommy move in that you’ll pack her up and she’ll be there with them in less than a week. Also tell the you expect her to her the master Bedroom when she arrives….. then till them all to FO

With the last story nobody's in the wrong but it seems to me that your brother is one of those people who doesn't want to be seen as a charity case and the fact that you said almost at the end of the story that every time you wanted to take your nephew's out to eat or on a small trip to Disney your brother and sister-in-law flat out told you know it tells you that I think so much of that Pride goes into their ego that if someone even attempts to help them out it almost damages their self determination on whether or not they can take care of themselves or not. This may be the situation where you might want to talk to him privately about everything that you wanted to do for your nephew's but because of his pride you couldn't do and now that they're getting ready to become adults you can do it whether your brother likes it or not. So you might want to prepare yourself for your brother to either go no contact with you or to pretty much say you can help but not completely control...... in addition I was also recommend that your brother go speak to a therapist because clearly this is going to damage his relationship with his sons if he goes too far

Story 2: sounds like a common story from my country of origin

With the Second Story it's obvious that your father was more invested in growing his own personal wealth instead of investing in both you and your brother's education and Future period and now that it's coming back to bite him in the ass he and your mother pretty much had to downsize and scale back on their lifestyle and expect you and your brother to basically continue their lifestyle even though they didn't invest in your upbringing to begin with. My advice don't give them a sent a message for medical emergencies only and it seems to me that they are comfortable but in their mind comfortability is not enough for them if they ask for more then you need to go no contact with them for a while and tell your brother to do the same

Not the A hole inheritance is not a right and it sounds like your granny was more a mother to you then she ever was though if i were you id look at chaining the locks and putting security cams in as you may end up with a squatter on your hands.

so... no ones gonna talk about the heavily skimmed over revenge story. Fricking selling ancestral land for bullet money. BRUH

You dont owe anything 2 your parents

The last story is pretty sad, you'd expect parents to sacrifice themselves for their kids, but these would much rather be prideful than have their kids happy, which is pretty messed up, I feel like the kids should try to talk to the uncle behind their parents back and then just lie when the uncle takes them to disneyworld or other places, kids would be happy, parents would have their pride and the uncle would be happy that he's a good uncle

Story 1, don't give ya mama shit but 17 and engaged?!?!?!!!!!! Girl, stop it. I guarantee that will end in divorce. You are NOT the same at 28 as you are at 18. Good lord, you do not need to marry the very first guy you get with. You don't even kno who you are. You have much bigger problems than giving ya mama some money.

I need an update for the first story man

AITA for disliking the video?

Gather is probably Jesus for the future success of his children being set yo college by the uncle. Ego of the dad is very huge. Ugh!!! It's not being making those kids spoiled.

10:30 MIL is an AH for demanding the ring OP is an AH for ALLOWING a small boy to wear a costly treasured heirloom round his neck as if it is a $ 5 ring from a pawnshop! Take it back, keep it in the safe/ the bank and tell him it belongs to him but he will get it when he comes of age

Jfc! Let the kids go to college without worrying about the cost. The kids aren't going to think less of Dad because of it, but will be POd if he makes them go into debt when they don't have to.

Story 4... If OP died now and left his inheritance to a stranger over his brother's stubbornness, I can guarantee that brother would be fighting for his share of it... He seems to be more concerned about his pride than his family comfort...

Story 1 - NTA. Tell the junkie mom to go fly a kite. Enjoy your house and your fiancee. Cut the toxic out. Story 2 - NTA. What's that one song called... "You Get What You Give?" Treat kids like crap, don't expect to get more. Story 3 - NTA. Your wife gave HIM the ring. Tell them to take it up to her... oh, wait. They can't. Story 4 - NTA. They asked you. I'd love to have an uncle like you. Your brother was stupid to not have more saved up. He is the AH. Massive AH.

8th comment, this videos are keeping me sane. 😎😎😎

Some boring woke Twitter stories.

Sorry but brother is TOTALLY the AH. Instead of being happy for his brother he decided to be a jealous prick, and to top it off he'd drag his kids down with him all for his bruised ego... OP had better keep his promise to them...and help them get out on their own.

The last story NTA the brother is putting his ego and pride over his sons futures, he’s a massive a-hole. I don’t care what anybody else on reddit thinks.

With the Second Story it's obvious that your father was more invested in growing his own personal wealth instead of investing in both you and your brother's education and Future period and now that it's coming back to bite him in the ass he and your mother pretty much had to downsize and scale back on their lifestyle and expect you and your brother to basically continue their lifestyle even though they didn't invest in your upbringing to begin with. My advice don't give them a sent a message for medical emergencies only and it seems to me that they are comfortable but in their mind comfortability is not enough for them if they ask for more then you need to go no contact with them for a while and tell your brother to do the same